At a wedding?!?!?! Holy crap that is crazy!!!!!!!!!!
Now I know what to do with my old bra's once they wear out...oh wait, would 38G's be too easy...never mind then, I will just go for broke and then toss them into the scraps bin like a normal person.
At a wedding?!?!?! Holy crap that is crazy!!!!!!!!!!
Now I know what to do with my old bra's once they wear out...oh wait, would 38G's be too easy...never mind then, I will just go for broke and then toss them into the scraps bin like a normal person.
I think they would be appropriate for cornhole.
"And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me..."
is the clothespin used to pick up the individual chips?
I really have no idea! I didn't notice that until just now! I didn't take a photo of the pot luck, but there were literally 11 different types of pasta salads because no one coordinated it. 11!
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you
marry a Muppet Overlord.
I really have no idea! I didn't notice that until just now! I didn't take a photo of the pot luck, but there were literally 11 different types of pasta salads because no one coordinated it. 11!
A friend's daughter had a potluck reception a couple years back and I saw her coordinating the food. This consisted of her tagging people and telling them what to bring. I was glad to not be invited because I don't feel like it's my job to feed your guests.
I really have no idea! I didn't notice that until just now! I didn't take a photo of the pot luck, but there were literally 11 different types of pasta salads because no one coordinated it. 11!
A friend's daughter had a potluck reception a couple years back and I saw her coordinating the food. This consisted of her tagging people and telling them what to bring. I was glad to not be invited because I don't feel like it's my job to feed your guests.
I'm not sure if the related threads from a few years ago are still on it, but the other Potluck wedding I was involved at that Aurianna referenced, was what I refer to as the "Tacktacular Wedding Extravaganza". Among so many, many, other terrible things, the bride was doing something similar. We were friends of the groom, she interrupted a conversation between a friend and I (whom she had not met in person yet) and asked the friend what she was bringing to her wedding. She had to ask my friend her name so that she could write it down.
Mmmn...no It must've gotten deleted. I could have story time to recap the details someday though. Do you still do Tacky Thursday?
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you
marry a Muppet Overlord.
My mom thought it would be a "great" idea if my wedding was a potluck. She probably mentioned it for about a month before finally getting the message that that wasn't happening.
Good point. The BYOB wedding I went to this weekend was also a potluck wedding. No one was really managing the food and it was in the 90s that day. As a guest, I actively considered that I had no idea how the food was transported and maintained through the day. It was impossible to have enough fridge space to accommodate it all and there was an awful lot of spoilable items. I only ate things that were freshly cooked or unable to make me sick.
I have never been invited to a pot luck wedding. For the longest time I never even knew they existed. And you've gone to at least two now? How'd you "luck out" with that?
Same here! I see it mentioned on these boards and confuses the hell out of me. Is your dish supposed to feed all the guests? I love cooking, and I love a good pot luck dinner, but for a wedding reception? No.
Good point. The BYOB wedding I went to this weekend was also a potluck wedding. No one was really managing the food and it was in the 90s that day. As a guest, I actively considered that I had no idea how the food was transported and maintained through the day. It was impossible to have enough fridge space to accommodate it all and there was an awful lot of spoilable items. I only ate things that were freshly cooked or unable to make me sick.
I have never been invited to a pot luck wedding. For the longest time I never even knew they existed. And you've gone to at least two now? How'd you "luck out" with that?
Same here! I see it mentioned on these boards and confuses the hell out of me. Is your dish supposed to feed all the guests? I love cooking, and I love a good pot luck dinner, but for a wedding reception? No.
I've never been invited to a potluck wedding either. I wouldn't attend if I had.
DH is a chef by profession, if he is going to be cooking for a large group of people, he wants to be paid. In addition to that, if he is going to be taking a rare night off, the last thing he wants to do is cook. Might as well just work and get paid.
You do not have to cook for all the guests, but it's expected you cook a large batch of something so it can be shared.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
My ten year class reunion is coming up in a couple of weeks. It's going to be a pot luck. I pointed out to the organizer how this might not be the best idea, particularly seeing as how the majority of the class no longer lives in the small town we grew up in. She got super huffy and passive-aggressively asked me if I wanted to plan the whole thing. Bitch, that is literally my job. Called her bluff and she deleted the post.
It's going to be such a disaster and honestly I'm kind of looking forward to it.
Good point. The BYOB wedding I went to this weekend was also a potluck wedding. No one was really managing the food and it was in the 90s that day. As a guest, I actively considered that I had no idea how the food was transported and maintained through the day. It was impossible to have enough fridge space to accommodate it all and there was an awful lot of spoilable items. I only ate things that were freshly cooked or unable to make me sick.
I have never been invited to a pot luck wedding. For the longest time I never even knew they existed. And you've gone to at least two now? How'd you "luck out" with that?
Same here! I see it mentioned on these boards and confuses the hell out of me. Is your dish supposed to feed all the guests? I love cooking, and I love a good pot luck dinner, but for a wedding reception? No.
I've never been to a pot luck wedding either, but based on non-wedding potlucks I think it's safe to say you wouldn't be expected to cook for all the guests. Generally each person brings enough for a small portion for maybe a dozen people, each person eats a little bit of maybe half a dozen things, and there is plenty of variety and plenty of stuff left over. (If it is planned well, anyway.)
Before we got engaged, when we talked about our possible distant future if we ever decide to do it wedding, we always said we'd do something super-casual, really chill laid back.....and invite everyone to just bring some food. I'm sure we thought we were being really untraditional and cool about it all, but needless to say the second we actually decided to get married we didn't even consider it for a second. God, I'm stressing enough that my guests will enjoy my professionally catered food! I'd orobably have to be sedated if I was worrying about the old church potluck botulism!
Good point. The BYOB wedding I went to this weekend was also a potluck wedding. No one was really managing the food and it was in the 90s that day. As a guest, I actively considered that I had no idea how the food was transported and maintained through the day. It was impossible to have enough fridge space to accommodate it all and there was an awful lot of spoilable items. I only ate things that were freshly cooked or unable to make me sick.
I have never been invited to a pot luck wedding. For the longest time I never even knew they existed. And you've gone to at least two now? How'd you "luck out" with that?
@MuppetOverlord, oh no, you MUST be confused. We are talking WEDDINGS on this post. Not frat parties with their "bra pong" and "tub 'o generic cheese balls".
Seriously, though, a potluck is bad enough. But 11 pasta salads and a sad chip table for "appetizers" is woefully bad, even for any party. Ooohhh...but TWO kinds of tortilla chips. Regular and dip style. Fancy.
Every time I see a potluck post, I'm always surprised at how gross people think they are or how everyone will get sick from it.
I completely agree that a potluck for a wedding reception is against etiquette and should not be done, and I will side eye if someone does that.
However, for other things, they're fine. I go to potlucks all the time. I've been to four (a funeral, a baby shower [yea, that's probably against etiquette too but I let it go], a farewell party for a family at our church, and a Fourth of July barbecue) in the last month alone! I never got sick and I've never heard of anyone getting sick. There has always been a good variety of food. Several meat dishes, pasta dishes, salads, deserts, etc.
Every time I see a potluck post, I'm always surprised at how gross people think they are or how everyone will get sick from it.
I completely agree that a potluck for a wedding reception is against etiquette and should not be done, and I will side eye if someone does that.
However, for other things, they're fine. I go to potlucks all the time. I've been to four (a funeral, a baby shower [yea, that's probably against etiquette too but I let it go], a farewell party for a family at our church, and a Fourth of July barbecue) in the last month alone! I never got sick and I've never heard of anyone getting sick. There has always been a good variety of food. Several meat dishes, pasta dishes, salads, deserts, etc.
Thanks for this! I love potlucks...though not for events, like weddings, that should be properly hosted...and always second guess myself when I read about how many people don't like them.
Definitely understand the food safety concerns people have, but I've never had a problem and assume the vast majority of food is fine and safe. And, even if there is a mis-step in the food handling, it's very unlikely to make me sick anyway.
I completely agree with the last two posters. I have been to hundreds of potlucks in my life and never once have I gotten sick from any of them. I think they are great! It's fun to come up with something to cook for people and fun to see what others think up. I would never, ever, ever dream of having a potluck for a WEDDING, but they can be a fun addition to a work party or a very casual social event.
There are definite social groups that potlucks are more common than others.
For example, potlucks are common for family holidays or neighborhood parties in my social group. Although they are VERY well coordinated. Someone cooks the turkey. Another one does the potatoes, etc.
Other than that, potlucks are not really done. When a host invites you to their place they host all the food. We all take turns hosting, so it's not like one person is always stuck cooking.
I work in the hospitality industry. Work provides shift meals, so no potlucks. I can see how people in office settings have them. It's just not something done in my industry. It's fairly well known potlucks are popular in the religious social world.
It should be noted DH is a professional chef and most of our friends are in the industry too. So my experiences will be different than others.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
I'm not saying potlucks are bad, just that I won't eat your food unless I've seen your kitchen. We used to do a potluck for Christmas until my boss finally noticed that one of the guys only showered once a week and that got him questioning the cleanliness of everything else.
I think, generally speaking, when you attend a potluck event (bbq, casual gathering, etc.) that the expectation is that you will be eating soon after arrival so food safety isn't as big an issue. When talking about a wedding there's more time for food to sit around, potentially not being held at proper hot/cold temps.
I love potlucks, my brew club does one for every meeting/event we have, but I don't think it's an appropriate way to feed people for a wedding.
I think, generally speaking, when you attend a potluck event (bbq, casual gathering, etc.) that the expectation is that you will be eating soon after arrival so food safety isn't as big an issue. When talking about a wedding there's more time for food to sit around, potentially not being held at proper hot/cold temps.
I love potlucks, my brew club does one for every meeting/event we have, but I don't think it's an appropriate way to feed people for a wedding.
In general the bolded is true, but the food does sit out for a while after it's served so that guests can serve themselves as they see fit. There's also the issue of potential cross-contamination.
That said, I love potlucks too - just not at weddings.
I went to a friend's house once and she decided to make brownies. I had eaten her brownies at work before and thought nothing of it. However, when she pulled plates out of the cabinet, roaches scattered and I had to wash roach poop off my plate. It is for that reason that I no longer eat food from people's home, if I've not personally seen their kitchen.
That's horrific. Are you still friends? Did she apologize for the roaches or did she ignore them?
I'm not against potlucks when it is appropriate to the event. I've been to lots, frequently used to have them at my previous workplace (both lunch and breakfast). That said, I've been to good ones (where food is coordinated, the attendants are interested enough to bring something worthy of part of a meal) and bad ones (where "everyone" brings the same snacks/dessert items only).
I'm not against potlucks when it is appropriate to the event. I've been to lots, frequently used to have them at my previous workplace (both lunch and breakfast). That said, I've been to good ones (where food is coordinated, the attendants are interested enough to bring something worthy of part of a meal) and bad ones (where "everyone" brings the same snacks/dessert items only).
I'm not denying this has happened to you, it just seems so odd to me because I've never experienced this.
I've been to both coordinated and non-coordinated. At the ones I've experienced, only really small potlucks, (2-5 families/couples) are coordinated. I've also been at huge ones, easily 150-200 people which are always non-coordinated. There has always been the same variety of dishes at both and more than enough food.
I love potlucks, mainly because I like baking and cooking and trying out new dishes. I didn't love my cousin's potluck wedding and I'm firmly against potlucks for events that are supposed to be hosted. Among the many issues with that wedding was that there was not enough food and it ran out, and the food that was there was a weird mishmash of items that did not go together at all and no mains at all. It was really not a pleasant dining experience, made even more inconvenient by the fact that we were driving from 5+ hours away and were not familiar with the wedding. Since the wedding was at noon (though the ceremony didn't actually begin until 1:45) we came up the night before and stayed the night after. The responsibility of safely providing food for the wedding ended up being a giant pain in the ass.
@drillsergeantcat that is absolutely HORRIFYING!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't think I could ever eat at a potluck event again!!!!
As a bonus...all the food I cook comes with free cat hair, because I have cats, and cats shed, and it gets EVERYWHERE...doesn't matter that I clean my food prep area before I start, sweep my kitchen daily, brush my cats daily, and just generally keep a clean house. I feel like its just in the air all the time!
@drillsergeantcat I am incredibly picky about what I eat from people's homes for essentially those reasons and similar experiences. I see people lick spoons and stick them back in the batter too. If I don't know the kitchen it came from, I often avoid it. If I go to an event where I don't know a lot of the people well, I might eat a light meal beforehand and I always bring something I know I can enjoy.
@cowgirl8238 I have dogs and the hair def gets everywhere, no matter how clean you are. I make cakes as a hobby, they look moderately professional. I continually get asked to make wedding cakes or cakes for parties for $ and i always refuse to because despite the fact that I clean, wash my hands constantly, change my clothes if i went near a dog or sat on a couch... It's possible a hair could end up in the cake and I don't want to responsible for that. I'm immune to hair personally, but horrified to see it end up in something intended for others. I inspect so much.
I'm fussy about kitchen sanitation to begin with (thank you mom for drilling that into my head) but I wonder if my friends might sometimes think that I'm obsessed with washing my hands because when I'm serving food to other people I take great care with sanitation. Grab a wine bottle to pour someone a drink? Wash my hands before I go back to cooking or serving food. Touch the cat, wash my hands. Stop to hug someone hello, wash my hands. Grab the cool thing from the bedroom to show friend, wash my hands. Anything involving raw chicken, washing hands constantly.
I'm less particular when it's only me and BF (except raw chicken, I never touch anything after handling raw chicken, again thank you mom). But, if I'm serving food to other people, I act like I have a health inspector standing in my kitchen.
Re: Cash Bar/BYOB
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
At a wedding?!?!?! Holy crap that is crazy!!!!!!!!!!
Now I know what to do with my old bra's once they wear out...oh wait, would 38G's be too easy...never mind then, I will just go for broke and then toss them into the scraps bin like a normal person.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
Mmmn...no It must've gotten deleted. I could have story time to recap the details someday though. Do you still do Tacky Thursday?
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
DH is a chef by profession, if he is going to be cooking for a large group of people, he wants to be paid. In addition to that, if he is going to be taking a rare night off, the last thing he wants to do is cook. Might as well just work and get paid.
You do not have to cook for all the guests, but it's expected you cook a large batch of something so it can be shared.
It's going to be such a disaster and honestly I'm kind of looking forward to it.
@MuppetOverlord, oh no, you MUST be confused. We are talking WEDDINGS on this post. Not frat parties with their "bra pong" and "tub 'o generic cheese balls".
Seriously, though, a potluck is bad enough. But 11 pasta salads and a sad chip table for "appetizers" is woefully bad, even for any party. Ooohhh...but TWO kinds of tortilla chips. Regular and dip style. Fancy.
I completely agree that a potluck for a wedding reception is against etiquette and should not be done, and I will side eye if someone does that.
However, for other things, they're fine. I go to potlucks all the time. I've been to four (a funeral, a baby shower [yea, that's probably against etiquette too but I let it go], a farewell party for a family at our church, and a Fourth of July barbecue) in the last month alone! I never got sick and I've never heard of anyone getting sick. There has always been a good variety of food. Several meat dishes, pasta dishes, salads, deserts, etc.
Thanks for this! I love potlucks...though not for events, like weddings, that should be properly hosted...and always second guess myself when I read about how many people don't like them.
Definitely understand the food safety concerns people have, but I've never had a problem and assume the vast majority of food is fine and safe. And, even if there is a mis-step in the food handling, it's very unlikely to make me sick anyway.
For example, potlucks are common for family holidays or neighborhood parties in my social group. Although they are VERY well coordinated. Someone cooks the turkey. Another one does the potatoes, etc.
Other than that, potlucks are not really done. When a host invites you to their place they host all the food. We all take turns hosting, so it's not like one person is always stuck cooking.
I work in the hospitality industry. Work provides shift meals, so no potlucks. I can see how people in office settings have them. It's just not something done in my industry. It's fairly well known potlucks are popular in the religious social world.
It should be noted DH is a professional chef and most of our friends are in the industry too. So my experiences will be different than others.
I love potlucks, my brew club does one for every meeting/event we have, but I don't think it's an appropriate way to feed people for a wedding.
That said, I love potlucks too - just not at weddings.
I've been to both coordinated and non-coordinated. At the ones I've experienced, only really small potlucks, (2-5 families/couples) are coordinated. I've also been at huge ones, easily 150-200 people which are always non-coordinated. There has always been the same variety of dishes at both and more than enough food.
I'm less particular when it's only me and BF (except raw chicken, I never touch anything after handling raw chicken, again thank you mom). But, if I'm serving food to other people, I act like I have a health inspector standing in my kitchen.
I've never made anyone sick.
Or caused an allergic reaction.
Knocks wood.