Breaking the no kids news...Even when clearly stated.

Re: Breaking the no kids news...Even when clearly stated.

• SP29 member

  

  July 2016 edited July 2016

  FYI- One should never state who is NOT invited. Thus, not appropriate to state anywhere (such as on the invitation), "Adults only".
  
  As for your issue, you call the people who RSVP'd with children and say, "Hi John. Sorry for the confusion, but the invitation is only for you and Sally. We hope you can still attend".
  
  Call these people directly and clarify. There is no more clear than that.
  

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• levioosa member

  

  July 2016

  Knottie1438778097 said:

  My fiance and I clearly stated on the invites that we were having an adult reception. But we keep getting rsvps with kids included in the count. Our guest list and budget is already maxed out with no kids and I'm way past my boiling point. I could really use some advice on how to make the point more clear? Any help is appreciated!

  Stating "adults only" on an invitation is rude.  However, you simply call the guest and say, "Hi Jane, this is Sally.  I believe there has been some confusion.  The invitation was for you and Dan only.  We hope you'll still be able to make it!"  

  
  

  If they give you any push back, simply tell them you'll be sorry to miss them that day and that unfortunately you cannot accommodate anyone else at the wedding.  

  
  

  
  

  

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• cowgirl8238 member

  

  July 2016

  PP's have this covered.  Including "adults only" on an invite is considered rude, but that ship has sailed so nothing you can do now.  Just call the people up and tell them that "I'm sorry if I was unclear, but the invitation was only for you and SO.  We hope you can still make it to the wedding."  From there they will either confirm that just they are attending or they will decline.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2016

  I find it weird that it keeps happening, especially since it's stated on the invite.  Is someone spreading the word that kids ARE allowed?  Or are they just taking the piss out of you?
  
  PPs have everything else covered. 

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• sparklepants41 member

  

  July 2016

  Spoonsey said:

  I find it weird that it keeps happening, especially since it's stated on the invite.  Is someone spreading the word that kids ARE allowed?  Or are they just taking the piss out of you?
  
  PPs have everything else covered. 

  Completely agree. OP, did you address the invitations to just "Mr. and Mrs. Engelbert Humperdinck"? Or did you address the invitations to The Humperdinck Family? This might account for the confusion.
  
  Also echoing PPs that it was extremely rude of you to put adults only on the invitation, but that ship has sailed. Hopefully this will be a lesson to lurkers.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2016

  I don't think it's rude to say adult only reception on your invitations. It's YOUR wedding, not theirs. I had 2 people bring their kids and it pissed me off to no end. Thankfully, I had room for them but the fact remained I did not want kids. I don't have children and I will not entertain them. You need to put your foot down, if they don't show up forget them. Not everything revolves around their kids. 

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• flantastic member

  

  July 2016 edited July 2016

  MrsPeacock2016 said:

  I don't think it's rude to say adult only reception on your invitations. It's YOUR wedding, not theirs. I had 2 people bring their kids and it pissed me off to no end. Thankfully, I had room for them but the fact remained I did not want kids. I don't have children and I will not entertain them. You need to put your foot down, if they don't show up forget them. Not everything revolves around their kids. 

  Wrong as usual. It's not rude to have a reception where you don't invite kids... what is rude is making a preemptive mention of who's not invited. It's essentially a paper way of saying "You know, you're not welcome" when someone hadn't even asked. They'd be like, "Great, thanks for mentioning it, asshole." You just address it to who is invited, i.e. Mr. & Mrs. William Clark. If that's what you did, then sure, the people who brought their kids uninvited were definitely the rude ones, but I doubt that would have been solved by a line on your invites.
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  July 2016

  MrsPeacock2016 said:

  I don't think it's rude to say adult only reception on your invitations. It's YOUR wedding, not theirs. I had 2 people bring their kids and it pissed me off to no end. Thankfully, I had room for them but the fact remained I did not want kids. I don't have children and I will not entertain them. You need to put your foot down, if they don't show up forget them. Not everything revolves around their kids. 

  You don't make mention of people who are not invited. Let's say you're only inviting family. You wouldn't put "family only" on an invitation, would you? NO, you wouldn't. Why? Because it isn't necessary to make notations about who isn't invited. The invitees are made known via their names being on the envelope. No need to point out that you didn't name anyone else on the envelope. 

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• Jen4948 member

  

  July 2016

  MrsPeacock2016 said:

  I don't think it's rude to say adult only reception on your invitations. It's YOUR wedding, not theirs. I had 2 people bring their kids and it pissed me off to no end. Thankfully, I had room for them but the fact remained I did not want kids. I don't have children and I will not entertain them. You need to put your foot down, if they don't show up forget them. Not everything revolves around their kids. 

  It's never polite to indicate on an invitation who isn't invited -- regardless of whether they're kids or anyone else.

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