Hello! This may come across as being very rude or unappreciative, but bear with me. I am trying not to complain to family and wanted to get some honest feedback to appropriately digest what is going on- and to get over it because its really distracting me from enjoying wedding planning and our engagement.
I have seven bridesmaids, including my younger sister as a MOH (she is still in college and has no experience with weddings so I have taken over most of her "duties" but let her do as much as she wants with planning). My dad insisted that we pay for their dresses right off the bat. My aunt picked out matching jewelry for everyone and we purchased their jewelry together (the dresses are plain and we thought mis-matched jewelry would be distracting). We are also paying for hair/makeup, but the girls are on their own for their shoes.
No one really took the lead as far as planning my bachelorette party goes, so I planned an entire weekend getaway (in the bridesmaids' current town for their convenience)- paid for everything as well (we did go out for drinks and dinner one night and then for brunch). No one offered to pay for any of my drinks or meals or offered to "pitch" for the house or any of the food/alcohol I purchased. Two girls brought gifts and I thought that was nice.
I also had a couples shower in the city I live in (also the hometown of 4/7 bridesmaids and the other are from cities nearby- no one came (except my MOH/sister, obviously).
I hate to seem greedy or to seem like I am paying for their things to be able to rub it in their faces, but I never received any sort of thank you or apology for not helping or anything along those lines. Am I being a bridezilla? If this is crazy on their parts, what do you recommend to "get over it"? I just feel like this is a super special time in my life and its a little underwhelming.