Okay, I need some advice beautiful brides-to-be!
Trying to be a
laid-back but knows what the wants kind of bride, the whole process has
been fairly easy and great with amazing vendors! My dad passed away last
December, and our wedding is this year on NYE. Not only have I been
balancing being a smiling bride, but also dealing with the emotional
loss - and trying to be there for my mom across the country who is all over the place emotionally.
So the dilemma: For my wedding shower, my future mother-in-law got a dress that was a light
taupe with a cream overlay. Not quite white, but light enough in
pictures that it was cause for an eye-roll however, water off a camel's
back and it was a beautiful wedding shower!
To try and steer things in
the right direction for our CLASSY, FORMAL WINTER GATSBY wedding, with colors of
midnight blue and champagne, we opted for making sure my very sweet
future mother-in-law got the idea that she should wear a dark formal
dress. We sent color ideas. We said blue was probably best. She just
sent this picture below. On the website, first color listed is cream.
I'd go ahead and call this a cream/blush hombre. Now, I rolled my eyes
again and brushed it off because she is who she is - however, my mother,
the main source of funding for our beautiful occasion, just went NUTS.
Haven't heard her scream on the phone quite like that since I was in
college. She said she refuses to let her be in photos, will kindly ask
them to participate as any other guest and not be part of the
processional, and that she consulted the wedding planner who thinks the
color is entirely too light for a winter wedding where it will be dark
and the dress color will be lightened with flash photography. I agree
with the color of the dress with an additional not age-appropriate, but
again, you can't change people who are really dense. (I'm in marketing.
Sometimes, you just can't. And it's not worth the effort.)
I've read blogs and all the community answers where most say, 'leave it
be', 'the future mother in law can wear whatever she wants', but this
is more so a matter of my mom is on a war path, and I honestly don't
know what the answer is since clearly it's not, 'Whatever. Life is too
short!
HELP.
The dress:
https://poshmark.com/listing/Adrianna-Papell-Collection-Blush-Beaded-Gown-570444f58f0fc4bf820044a6?utm_source=gdm&gdm_bottom=false&campaign_id=664279885&utm_campaign=664279885&gclid=CjwKEAjw-Oy_BRDg4Iqok57a4kcSJADsuDK10qGpdTEu0SQnwM0IHYr2vykGxx_9Sj0MQAoz1J31OxoC5pzw_wcB