Good Morning Knotties,
My FI and I have been planning our wedding for a little over 1.5 years now, everything is finalized as we are getting married in less than 28 days. My problem is this, my sister asked me why I am not inviting my mother to the wedding. My reasoning: My mother and father divorced when I was 3 years old, from what I remember she made a couple of attempts the year following to see me, and then when MIA until I was 17, when she decided to reach out and see me. This lasted one visit, and then I didn't hear anything again until I was 22, I tried to build a relationship with her, but every time I would make the 2 hour trip to drive to her, she would always end up just putting my father down. After about 4 times of this I had enough. We stayed in contact for maybe less then a year via social media, and she hasn't tried to reach out to me except for the end of last year, sending me a shaming message because her sister (who I met once, and have no connection with) passed away and "I didn't consider her feelings and reach out to her." I feel as though she is a stranger to me, and not very comfortable inviting her to the wedding. The part that hurts me the most, is I have an older sister that is both my parents daughter. After much debate, I wanted to invite her and her husband and two kids to our wedding, but then decided not too because I doubt she would come if I didn't invite my mother. (She has lived with my mother since my parents divorced.) I am reaching out now, for advice to see if I am justified in my actions, or if I should reconsider.
Thank you in advance.