My husband and I have a dilemma and I'd like some outside perspective. Good friends of ours are getting married in June. They sent save the dates a while ago but have not yet sent invitations. Even though we haven't sent a formal RSVP yet, we have told them we will (both) be there. Well my husband is going to be in a wedding in July. This past weekend the groom, my husband's friend, *told* his groomsmen that the bachelor party was the same weekend in June that we have that other wedding.
So now my husband is in a really tough spot. I feel like a verbal commitment is in fact a commitment and that he should plan to attend the wedding and meet up with the guys for the bachelor party on Sunday - the bachelor party is Friday thru Monday. My husband is afraid that his friends will see it differently and that he's a bad friend if he misses the bachelor party. I also think it's ridiculous if the groom expects all the guys to attend no qustions asked when they weren't given the chance to give input on the date. I'm also biased in that I definitely want him to join me for the wedding, but bias aside I also think that's the commitment we've made and he should stick to. But I'm hoping for some outside perspective. Is there a "right" thing to do in this case?!