So I was at a wedding about a week ago and the bride did something that was cute but rather unorthodox and I wanted to know what everyone thinks! Instead of gathering all the single women to catch the thrown bouquet, it was presented to the couple who had been married the longest as a recognition of their relationship's longevity. While I thought this was very sweet, I have to wonder if this takes away from one of the few interactive things at a wedding that many female guests look forward to.
Thoughts?
Re: A New Way of "Throwing" the Bouquet?
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
I think your female guests will bless your name if you do the anniversary bouquet idea instead.
And FWIW: It's not "new" idea at all. And it's a very nice idea, IMO, to celebrate longevity in marriage on a day about.....marriage.
I agree with the first post, the point about if parents are divorced, etc. Our DJ asked us about an anniversary dance, and I said no to it b/c both our parents are divorced, his both remarried, my dad engaged and my mom is single and kinda depressed about it...I would feel bad, like it would bring attention to the fact.
But anyway, lol, we are doing a bouquet toss. However, there will be like 3 single people there, so what we're doing is calling ALL girls out to catch it. Whoever catches it will win a cute basket of chocolates I made up (includes Godiva choc. liquor yum!). All guys will be called out for the garter toss, and whoever catches it will win a bottle of Jack Daniel's. I thought it would turn it into something fun with a lot of participation.
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We already know out of all of our guests, my FI's grandparents have been together the longest- so we already know they will get it.
Still not sure what to do with the garter.. i kinda don't want to wear it at all!
I know I never did and managed to head to the restroom or escape that spectacle in some way at every wedding I attended as a single woman. I didn't care that people knew I was single, I just didn't want to reach for, jump for, scramble after a bouquet and look stupid.
I'm going to do a clutch toss. At least that way it can be used after the wedding.
[QUOTE]I love the idea of the toss to all women, but how can u word it?<strong> And is it weird to have 2 married people for the garter on the leg part</strong>
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<div>Ummmmmmm...just don't do that part. It's awkward and gross even if the people are single.</div>
[QUOTE]<strong>Honestly, I don't know of any single female that looks forward to this - how many women do you know that want to advertise that they are single and scramble for a bouquet, especially while dressed up?</strong> I know I never did and managed to head to the restroom or escape that spectacle in some way at every wedding I attended as a single woman. I didn't care that people knew I was single, I just didn't want to reach for, jump for, scramble after a bouquet and look stupid.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]
Seriously? Almost every wedding I've been to, the bouquet toss turns into a knock-down drag-out bitchslap-fest between psychotic women who are desperate to be married because they've based their entire self-worth on having a man in their life. It's pathetic.
I guess it depends on what you feel like doing personally. I will stick with the bouquet toss for my single lady friends, but do what you want and no one should complain!
Well Im 21. and i have some friends that are single. so i think im just going to do it cause my FI parents and grand parents are divorced so it will be kind of akward..lol
I think i want the DJ to say all the single ladies come to the dance floor and al the ones that want to renew their bows come to the dance floor.. idk something like that will invite more ppl.