I think part of what makes me bitter about my job right now is they had been planning to lay me off I could have gone on EI and I had all sorts of plans for how I was going to spend my time and find a new career. Then they offered me this new stuff and seem so pumped about what I'm doing but its so easy I feel insulted and I hate coming in now. I'm bitter that my "out" was taken away from me.
I guess my main confession is that I don't find anything you guys said above flamable because I feel a lot of the same things....
I will admit that sometimes I get really upset with some friends who I don't think respect the value of hard earned money. H and I work our asses off to have the things we do have. It's not handed to us. Further, I get SO angry at some people who have judged us for how we choose to spend our time and money. I am beyond tired of being told how I should act, think or spend. (sorta vague but it has to be unfortunately.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:775757ec-af33-4d3d-aaf8-da710f4601c4">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : I judge them too. WTH? No, college is not for everyone (myself included) but neither is being a SAHM so just do what's right for you and don't worry about everyone else. And I really judge the "manly" chore thing... Last I checked a <strong>penis isn't required equipment for mowing a lawn</strong> or taking out the trash. Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]
You obviously havent seen the new "penis start" mowers.
KD I think it's amazing that you are taking extra special time to be with your grandkids. I love my grandparents on my dad's side but even though we grew up only miles from them they never made an attempt to be close with us just because my grandma and my mom didn't really get along. It would hurt my sisters and I that our cousins who all lived several hours away always got to do things with my grandparents while they basically just ignored us. It really hurt my mom, too, because she spent the first few years of her life living with her grandparents and she always talks about how that time is still so special to her to this day.
It's gotten better the past few years, but we are mostly all grown up now. I feel like it's almost too little too late.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:9f5656e2-1317-4411-b56e-2cf6e91a27b6">Re:flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]Sometimes I'm ashamed of what I do. I love teaching but especially since I don't have a full time job right now I'm getting down on myself. It's just frustrating when I'm out with FI and we're talking to someone new and they'll say ''so are you an engineer too?''. And then when I tell them that I'm a substitute teacher you can just see the judgement in their face. <strong>I'm a very intelligent person and I'm positive if I wanted to be a doctor or a lawyer or something like that I could have been successful. But I love kids teaching so here I am. Just frustrating.</strong> Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]
<div>I am a new teacher too and I took a job my university supervisor considers 'beneath me' because I'll be working with preschoolers. Um, hello lady, it's a job. In my field. Of course I want a full time teaching job but I am happy to have a job I like!</div><div> </div><div>Also, I totally hear you on the bolded part. I know I could have done almost any major I wanted. I love kids so I went into teaching. My sister (yeah, yeah) is going pre-med. Sometimes I wish I had done so as well but I want to do something I am truly passionate about. But I will admit the thought does cross my mind that I could do something much more lucrative financially! However, seeing those lightbulb moments or having kids thank you for being there for them is so worth it.</div>
I kind of want my SIL to marry someone rich and/or famous so I can go to a wedding of that caliber, even though I know I'll feel way out of place. I'm sometimes jealous of all the travel she gets to do, and all the people she meets. But, I'm never jealous of her lifestyle when we're having a meal, I like to eat too much to do what she does. (SIL is a model)
I need treatment for Adult ADD, but I'm having trouble finding a doctor. I recently got a promotion and my inability to focus is showing more and more in my work, in a bad way. Last time I went they told me I was depressed and put me on the same meds as my severely bipolar friend. I am not bipolar, or depressed. I am anxious because i feel like I can't be successful at my job because of my inability to focus. The anxiety is a side effect, not the root of the issue. So, I am seriously tempted to try to get some meds from a friend to see if they work before I go to the trouble to make an appointment and take time off work and go through all the evaluation. Yeah, its illegal, but whatever. I need it to work.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:6ec32fba-2706-47e3-88c4-ef5b8d995569">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]Ibarr, I'm a jealous, unpleasant a-hole a great deal of the time, too. Come sit by me and we'll judge people together. Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:17fb7d3a-d5bd-42b4-be50-6778b21ffd34">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : You obviously havent seen the new "penis start" mowers. Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:41232148-fe28-484e-b014-1fa0b26fdacc">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]Oh and I can cut grass like a motherfcuker. When we do get into the house, I call yard duty. Sarah, puffs taste way better off the floor. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
<div>Me too! I'd rather be outside than scrubbing something inside. At least with the grass I can see immediate progress and know when I'm finished. Housework is a never ending battle and I never feel like I accomplish anything. </div>
I admit that I get a severe pang every time one of my FB friends posts that she is pregnant. It's not that I am not thrileld for them (especially the ladies here) but I am so frustrated that we are not there yet. H is dying to start a family, as am I, but we are trying to be responsible and wait until I have been working longer. I have started to resent law school because it's holding us back. And further, every time I have to spend money on something this year, I've started to feel upset because that is money we could save. I shouldn't feel this way- but I do. I am an ass.
I confess that I'm unmotivated at work because I feel like my job is beneath me. You need a HS degree to do this, not a college degree. I know it's just a starting point, but I hate that all I do is admin work. I feel like there's so much I could be doing with my company, and I want to move up yesterday, even though I've only been here 3 months.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:8425677d-4709-4dda-af24-0509fbd603bb">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]Oh, and acaponi-the teaching field is in desperate need of intelligent teachers! I have seen way too many teacher candidates with poor spelling, etc. Posted by SereJane[/QUOTE]
Good grief, yes. I seriously judge when teachers have missspellings or mis-used words, even in their facebook posts. If you can't get the your/you're thing...you shouldn't be shaping young minds.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:8425677d-4709-4dda-af24-0509fbd603bb">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]Oh, and acaponi-the teaching field is in desperate need of intelligent teachers! I have seen way too many teacher candidates with poor spelling, etc. Posted by SereJane[/QUOTE] This x100000<div> </div><div>We have M Ed candidates who can't speak English (literally), and others whose writing skills are so horrible, I have to have someone else read their emails so I can see what they mean. And none of them pay attention to their finances. Somedays it makes me contemplate homeschooling. </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:c887ecdd-e1eb-4d49-abba-9e8b97fa5184">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]My psychology teacher in high school couldn't even spell psychology. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:4315e85e-97bc-4e36-8581-3cbbee4b4bd9">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]I<strong> guess I have another flamable confession... I admit that I get a severe pang every time one of my FB friends posts that she is pregnant</strong>. It's not that I am not thrileld for them (especially the ladies here) but I am so frustrated that we are not there yet. H is dying to start a family, as am I, but we are trying to be responsible and wait until I have been working longer. I have started to resent law school because it's holding us back. And further, every time I have to spend money on something this year, I've started to feel upset because that is money we could save. I shouldn't feel this way- but I do. I am an ass. Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]
A girl I graduated with last year announced a pregnancy recently. It seriously stung. Yes, she's married and they're all settled and bought a house and whatnot, but I really want babies.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:2b631982-6e93-4603-b382-35e58957431d">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]KD I think it's amazing that you are taking extra special time to be with your grandkids. I love my grandparents on my dad's side but even though we grew up only miles from them they never made an attempt to be close with us just because my grandma and my mom didn't really get along. It would hurt my sisters and I that our cousins who all lived several hours away always got to do things with my grandparents while they basically just ignored us. It really hurt my mom, too, because she spent the first few years of her life living with her grandparents and she always talks about how that time is still so special to her to this day. It's gotten better the past few years, but we are mostly all grown up now. I feel like it's almost too little too late. Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Thats the issue AATB, none of her Gparents live close at all. When his dad comes to visit he acts like it's a vacation getaway, and doesnt really interact with her. His Mom wont even respond to pictures on E-mail. Her mom lives in Ohio like us and sleeps all day and stays up all night (supposedly to keep on her H schedule, my H said thats bs she's always done that now she has an excuse). On mothers day she wouldnt even Skype because she had to sleep and the rest of the week she's supposedly working out. My theory, she's not doing anything to lose weight and doesnt want my DIL to see she's lying.
It's all F'd up, thats why we try and Skype at least every 2 weeks.
Ok, I have a confession. I am the worlds worst vegetarian. I am going to go out and buy some cowboy boots this weekend to wear for my b-party. Leather cowboy boots. I should just give up the whole vegetarian thing already because I am being such a hypocrite. Can't eat meat but I'll wear your hide on my feet....and that purse on my arm is leather too.
I agree with a lot of what you ladies are saying too-especially towards sisters/friends. I love my life too, but it is hard to not feel jealousy over other people having better things, bigger homes, nice vacations.
Oh and SarahP, I also need some help with that. I was seeing a therapist about the ADD and had to quit, plus she wasn't necessarily helping. I have DEFINITELY talked to a friend about using his prescription, but haven't went through with it. It's so frustrating to be so distracted all the time.
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I wish I wanted babies. It's weird... I want babies, I just don't want them now. We want to buy a home next year and then the next thing on the list is babies. I'm 28 so I feel like I should want to get the ball rolling. I dunno. Maybe I wish I had more time.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_flameable-confessions-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:26321f3f-d22a-46ef-8b96-6bef35a956cfPost:5de01f8b-6d96-40f7-bab9-4562f81fd24a">Re: flameable confessions?</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : Thats the issue AATB, none of her Gparents live close at all. When his dad comes to visit he acts like it's a vacation getaway, and doesnt really interact with her. His Mom wont even respond to pictures on E-mail. Her mom lives in Ohio like us and sleeps all day and stays up all night (supposedly to keep on her H schedule, my H said thats bs she's always done that now she has an excuse). On mothers day she wouldnt even Skype because she had to sleep and the rest of the week she's supposedly working out. My theory, she's not doing anything to lose weight and doesnt want my DIL to see she's lying. It's all F'd up, thats why we try and Skype at least every 2 weeks. Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
My sisters and I are much closer to my grandparents who live in California than the ones who lived 20 minutes away.
When I think about actual child birth, I become kind of happy that I can't have kids. The thought of that scares me to death. And all I can think about when I see the tickers are watermelons coming from my vag.
I am having a hard time supporting H's job right now. It's a strictly commission sales job and it is so stressful not knowing how much he will be making. It's been so hard to budget and save and we are barely getting by right now. Plus he has to pay for all of his travel costs and stays away from home two nights a week for business. There is a lot of potential for growth in the company but I feel like it's just holding us back right now and the cost/benefit ratio is not there for me. I also feel like it's negatively impacting his health. He hardly gets to the gym anymore because he is so busy.
I want to support him in it and do the best I can but I feel like this job is holding us back from our goals like a house and a family more than it is moving us toward them.
Re: flameable confessions?
Sarah, puffs taste way better off the floor.
I will admit that sometimes I get really upset with some friends who I don't think respect the value of hard earned money. H and I work our asses off to have the things we do have. It's not handed to us. Further, I get SO angry at some people who have judged us for how we choose to spend our time and money. I am beyond tired of being told how I should act, think or spend. (sorta vague but it has to be unfortunately.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : I judge them too. WTH? No, college is not for everyone (myself included) but neither is being a SAHM so just do what's right for you and don't worry about everyone else. And I really judge the "manly" chore thing... Last I checked a <strong>penis isn't required equipment for mowing a lawn</strong> or taking out the trash.
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]
You obviously havent seen the new "penis start" mowers.
It's gotten better the past few years, but we are mostly all grown up now. I feel like it's almost too little too late.
[QUOTE]Sometimes I'm ashamed of what I do. I love teaching but especially since I don't have a full time job right now I'm getting down on myself. It's just frustrating when I'm out with FI and we're talking to someone new and they'll say ''so are you an engineer too?''. And then when I tell them that I'm a substitute teacher you can just see the judgement in their face. <strong>I'm a very intelligent person and I'm positive if I wanted to be a doctor or a lawyer or something like that I could have been successful. But I love kids teaching so here I am. Just frustrating.</strong>
Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]
<div>I am a new teacher too and I took a job my university supervisor considers 'beneath me' because I'll be working with preschoolers. Um, hello lady, it's a job. In my field. Of course I want a full time teaching job but I am happy to have a job I like!</div><div>
</div><div>Also, I totally hear you on the bolded part. I know I could have done almost any major I wanted. I love kids so I went into teaching. My sister (yeah, yeah) is going pre-med. Sometimes I wish I had done so as well but I want to do something I am truly passionate about. But I will admit the thought does cross my mind that I could do something much more lucrative financially! However, seeing those lightbulb moments or having kids thank you for being there for them is so worth it.</div>
[QUOTE]Ibarr, I'm a jealous, unpleasant a-hole a great deal of the time, too. Come sit by me and we'll judge people together.
Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]
<div>Sweet! ::high fives::</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : You obviously havent seen the new "penis start" mowers.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
Now I know what to get H for his birthday!
[QUOTE]Oh and I can cut grass like a motherfcuker. When we do get into the house, I call yard duty. Sarah, puffs taste way better off the floor.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
<div>Me too! I'd rather be outside than scrubbing something inside. At least with the grass I can see immediate progress and know when I'm finished. Housework is a never ending battle and I never feel like I accomplish anything. </div>
I admit that I get a severe pang every time one of my FB friends posts that she is pregnant. It's not that I am not thrileld for them (especially the ladies here) but I am so frustrated that we are not there yet. H is dying to start a family, as am I, but we are trying to be responsible and wait until I have been working longer. I have started to resent law school because it's holding us back. And further, every time I have to spend money on something this year, I've started to feel upset because that is money we could save. I shouldn't feel this way- but I do. I am an ass.
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I confess that I'm unmotivated at work because I feel like my job is beneath me. You need a HS degree to do this, not a college degree. I know it's just a starting point, but I hate that all I do is admin work. I feel like there's so much I could be doing with my company, and I want to move up yesterday, even though I've only been here 3 months.
[QUOTE]Oh, and acaponi-the teaching field is in desperate need of intelligent teachers! I have seen way too many teacher candidates with poor spelling, etc.
Posted by SereJane[/QUOTE]
Good grief, yes. I seriously judge when teachers have missspellings or mis-used words, even in their facebook posts. If you can't get the your/you're thing...you shouldn't be shaping young minds.
[QUOTE]Oh, and acaponi-the teaching field is in desperate need of intelligent teachers! I have seen way too many teacher candidates with poor spelling, etc.
Posted by SereJane[/QUOTE]
This x100000<div>
</div><div>We have M Ed candidates who can't speak English (literally), and others whose writing skills are so horrible, I have to have someone else read their emails so I can see what they mean. And none of them pay attention to their finances. Somedays it makes me contemplate homeschooling. </div>
[QUOTE]My psychology teacher in high school couldn't even spell psychology.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
<div>Exactly.</div><div>
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[QUOTE]I<strong> guess I have another flamable confession... I admit that I get a severe pang every time one of my FB friends posts that she is pregnant</strong>. It's not that I am not thrileld for them (especially the ladies here) but I am so frustrated that we are not there yet. H is dying to start a family, as am I, but we are trying to be responsible and wait until I have been working longer. I have started to resent law school because it's holding us back. And further, every time I have to spend money on something this year, I've started to feel upset because that is money we could save. I shouldn't feel this way- but I do. I am an ass.
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]
A girl I graduated with last year announced a pregnancy recently. It seriously stung. Yes, she's married and they're all settled and bought a house and whatnot, but I really want babies.
[QUOTE]KD I think it's amazing that you are taking extra special time to be with your grandkids. I love my grandparents on my dad's side but even though we grew up only miles from them they never made an attempt to be close with us just because my grandma and my mom didn't really get along. It would hurt my sisters and I that our cousins who all lived several hours away always got to do things with my grandparents while they basically just ignored us. It really hurt my mom, too, because she spent the first few years of her life living with her grandparents and she always talks about how that time is still so special to her to this day. It's gotten better the past few years, but we are mostly all grown up now. I feel like it's almost too little too late.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Thats the issue AATB, none of her Gparents live close at all. When his dad comes to visit he acts like it's a vacation getaway, and doesnt really interact with her. His Mom wont even respond to pictures on E-mail. Her mom lives in Ohio like us and sleeps all day and stays up all night (supposedly to keep on her H schedule, my H said thats bs she's always done that now she has an excuse). On mothers day she wouldnt even Skype because she had to sleep and the rest of the week she's supposedly working out.
My theory, she's not doing anything to lose weight and doesnt want my DIL to see she's lying.
It's all F'd up, thats why we try and Skype at least every 2 weeks.
Oh and SarahP, I also need some help with that. I was seeing a therapist about the ADD and had to quit, plus she wasn't necessarily helping. I have DEFINITELY talked to a friend about using his prescription, but haven't went through with it. It's so frustrating to be so distracted all the time.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : Thats the issue AATB, none of her Gparents live close at all. When his dad comes to visit he acts like it's a vacation getaway, and doesnt really interact with her. His Mom wont even respond to pictures on E-mail. Her mom lives in Ohio like us and sleeps all day and stays up all night (supposedly to keep on her H schedule, my H said thats bs she's always done that now she has an excuse). On mothers day she wouldnt even Skype because she had to sleep and the rest of the week she's supposedly working out. My theory, she's not doing anything to lose weight and doesnt want my DIL to see she's lying. It's all F'd up, thats why we try and Skype at least every 2 weeks.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]
My sisters and I are much closer to my grandparents who live in California than the ones who lived 20 minutes away.
You guys are awesome :)
When I think about actual child birth, I become kind of happy that I can't have kids. The thought of that scares me to death. And all I can think about when I see the tickers are watermelons coming from my vag.