Tradition vs. Realistic????
Ok. This is a question for the OBX brides past, present(MS_Teach and any others???), and future.
Kel(KSJ10032782) and myself like we do on a normal workday are emailing each other back and forth about things and of course wedding tidbits and things of that nature. Normal day. :-) So I bring up houses and "her getting dressed on her wedding day". Which made me think of this. As some of the OBX brides know this is my 2nd go around in walking down the aisle, er sand, er 1st time down the sand, dammit! You guys know what I mean! My first "train wreck" of a marriage was a traditional wedding/reception in every sense of the word. 180 guests. Small church out in the middle of nowhere. Then a country club reception. Just goes to show you that no matter how much money the brides' family has, don't mean "poop" if you aren't in love! Another story for another time.....back on point. So, night before we have rehearsal. Then rehearsal dinner in a different room of the country club where we had our reception the next night. My brother takes me back to the apartment I shared with my ex, and she goes to her mom and dad's to spend the night. Next day, my brother(who was spending the night with me and was my BM), takes me to church, I get dressed, etc. The limo picks up my ex, who dresses at her mom and dad's, and brings her to church, etc. Herein lies the "tradition vs. realistic" question. Since we are getting married in the OBX, and housing is the issue, what have all you brides done in regards to letting your future hubby see you before you walk down that sandy aisle? Kel says to me, "I have never gone more than 24 hours without talking to you". LOL. Basically did the brides stay seperately the night before the wedding and not see future hubby until that "unforgettable moment", or are the "traditions" that i've come to know thrown out the window because it's a destination wedding and logistically it's just too "different" to go that route? Sorry for being so long winded ladies!
Re: Tradition vs. Realistic????
OR, if that isn't all so important, then don't stick with it! I will tell you that my plan is to rent a house with my FI for the week, then the night before and the night of the wedding, book an inn just for FI and I. We will stay together the night before, he will leave in the morning, play golf, go fishing, manscape, drink, whatever boys do on the day of and I will use the room to get ready.
To take it another step, I was my sister's MOH and they took pics before the ceremony to save the cocktail hour to enjoy with friends/fam as oppose to using it for pics. That is way untraditional, but they were so happy they did it.
I think it should be all up to what you both envision, if you want to stay traditional, try and find a place for someone- if not, I think it is perfectly OK to stay together.
Let us know the outcome!
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We had debated him staying the night with his parents' the night before or him sleeping in a different room and/or getting up and leaving first thing in the morning while I was still asleep. In the end, we just wanted to be together and enjoy a peaceful morning together before all the festivities.
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My DH stayed with me at our rental the night before. His mom is a traditionalist and suggested he stay at her house the night before. We talked about it but we rented an amazing house and it didn't feel "right" to us to send him up the street. We slept in the same bed also. The morning of the wedding we had breakfast together and got some stuff ready. The plan was for him and all the guys to go up to his moms to get ready when the girls started getting ready. He didn't really want to do that though so last minute I told them that as long as he stayed all the way down in the basement then the guys could get ready down there. It worked out fine. A few of the guys like my brother and a friend popped up from time to time to check on us or get something he forgot upstairs. I think they just wanted to be nosy, hehe. It worked out fine though and he didn't see me until I walked down the aisle. Very non-traditional overall though. You guys should do what feels right to both of you. Who cares about tradition!
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Now wether this is what actually happens, we will see
This week I've been considering this same thing! We are renting a house that we will check into the day before the wedding. But my FILs are renting a house too. So, we are going to stay together the night before the wedding, then he will leave in the morning and get ready at his parents while the girls and I get ready at our rental home.
I think you should go with realistic vs. traditional, but that's just me.
If we didn't live here, or if we get married up in Corollo or on Hatteras, we'll probably get 2 rooms for the night before. I don't want to see him the morning of. I want the anticipation, however that may make me more nervous!
He tried to get me to show him the dress last week and the text went something like this: "nice try, but no go Mister! You have to wait until 9/16 for this. Seeing you see me for the first time is a moment I will always hold close to my heart"
His response: "I fuucking love you!!!!"
I thought I was going to die of laughter....and still laughing
[QUOTE]We have rented a house for just the 2 of us for the week of the wedding, families will each have their own homes as well. We wanted to do a "mini-moon" since we aren't taking our official HM until Jan/Feb of next year, so this way we can have a little bit of "us" time. I will stay in our house with the BM's the night before and he will stay with some of our friends that will have a house down there too. He tried to get me to show him the dress last week and the text went something like this: "nice try, but no go Mister! You have to wait until 9/16 for this. Seeing you see me for the first time is a moment I will always hold close to my heart" His response: "I fuucking love you!!!!" I thought I was going to die of laughter....and still laughing :) So needless to say, we will spend the night apart until the big day :)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
OMG OBX!!!! I love his response!!!! That's a classic. I want us to be apart, but trying to figure out how it's going to happen. Let's not put the cart before the horse here though. We don't even have a date yet! All this is gonna come together "fast" I think when we are in the OBX for our yearly vaca, Labor Day week, Sept 4th-11th. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cool.gif" border="0" alt="Cool" title="Cool" />
[QUOTE]We have rented a house for just the 2 of us for the week of the wedding, families will each have their own homes as well. We wanted to do a "mini-moon" since we aren't taking our official HM until Jan/Feb of next year, so this way we can have a little bit of "us" time. I will stay in our house with the BM's the night before and he will stay with some of our friends that will have a house down there too. He tried to get me to show him the dress last week and the text went something like this: "nice try, but no go Mister! You have to wait until 9/16 for this. Seeing you see me for the first time is a moment I will always hold close to my heart"<strong> His response: "I fuucking love you!!!!"</strong> I thought I was going to die of laughter....and still laughing :) So needless to say, we will spend the night apart until the big day :)
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
CLASSIC!!
We are checking into our house on the 11th....we should wave at each other in traffic, lol
OBX,i'll see you on the bridge! I'll try to wave, but might have a pissy scowl on my face as either A) the result of vacation being over,
the fact that we couldn't get our date/venue that we wanted C) my FMIL who drives incredibly slow is driving me crazy D) our dog is slobbering all over me or last but not least or E) all of the freekin' above! 
[QUOTE]He will have a scowl, that's his normal look in the car on the trip.
Posted by ksj10032782[/QUOTE]
That's only because the two women i'm in the car with feel the need to turn a 7-8 hour trip from Mechanicsburg, PA to Duck, NC into a 12 hour "let's stop every 30 minutes for a bathroom break" marathon. Need I say more? <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tradition vs. Realistic???? : That's only because the two women i'm in the car with feel the need to turn a 7-8 hour trip from Mechanicsburg, PA to Duck, NC into a 12 hour "let's stop every 30 minutes for a bathroom break" marathon. Need I say more?
Posted by Phillyboy06[/QUOTE]
Hilarious!! We are anything but traditional. We have two kids so we'll be spending the night together in a house my parents have rented for two weeks and we will wake up together. We'll probably have a family breakfast and then off to get ready for me! We'll have two separate houses across the street from one another so it will make it easier to get ready separately :) I don't want him to see me "all dolled up" until I walk down the aisle.