My fiance' and I are planning on a destination wedding at Moon Palace in Cancun. I've been reading posts about other brides getting married before going to their destination wedding for insurance or legal reasons. Can someone please explain to me the benefits of doing it this way?
Thanks!
Erin
Re: Getting married before destination wedding?
Feb 7, 2014
We are doing a civil ceremony here a week before so 1) we don't have to take our birth certificates to Jamaica 2) our family that can not attend the Jamaica wedding can be present (groom father, few others
My guests will not know that it is a retie the knot. There will be no mention of it. We did our own vows.
@saric83 - I made sure to check into the required days. To have the civil ceremony, we are required to be in Mexico 3 business days prior to the wedding. They will count your arrival day as one of the three as long as you are there before noon. Looks like me and the fiance' will be flying out early in the morning!
But like said before it is the couples decision and all guests should be accepting for what the couple has decided.
I'm sorry, but if you knowingly decide to have a DW, then you made the choice to abide by their laws and regulations. I had to do a ton of paperwork before my wedding and waited almost 4 months to get my marriage cert from Australia to change my name, but I knew that going into it and made the decision to abide by that when I chose to marry there. I realize that some people have DWs in locations where their family is located but the marriage is not legally recognized in the US, so you have to have a civil ceremony as well. However, it appears that some people just don't want to be bothered with the whole DW process and just want a PPD on the beach because it looks nice in the pictures. It's not fair to the guests that are NOT made aware of this setup ahead of time, as they most likely paid a lot of money to see the couple actually get married. If the guests knew ahead of time, and still went, then that was their decision and they made it knowing the full circumstances.
Im not having a PPD but when I eventually get back to Africa, my FI and I will get a traditional blessing of our marriage.
Can't wait to say 'I do' on April 14, 2014 - Planning Bio
If you are opposed to the practice of separating the solemnization of the marriage from the wedding, than [sic] just don't do it and don't attend the weddings of those who do. It really is that simple. There is no acceptable reason to exhibit a lack of compassion and shame others for decisions that differ from yours.
You at least tried to actually follow the legal requirements. I'm questioning those who know the legal requirements going into it but can't be bothered to actually follow through with them because it's too much work. IMHO, it seems selfish to be married somewhere but not want to do what the country requires you to do just because the person doesn't like the requirements or doesn't think its worth their time to go through the process. It just screams that the only reason someone chose the destination is because it looks pretty and it would be fun to sip cocktails on a beach with their friends. You can do that at home, but maybe your cocktails aren't with your toes in the sand. It just looks like the destination's laws don't matter that person, and I just want my pretty pictures and want my guests to be impressed!!! I know not every DW falls into this category, but at the higher level, it just sounds selfish. Again all my personal opinion and everyone is entitled to one. Of course, if there is family in that destination or cultural significance, the destination obviously is important and the couple obviously won't come off as being so selfish.However, it all boils down the original point- not telling your guests it's not the actual wedding!!! Fine, you don't want to head to Mexico two days earlier to get blood taken, so you have a civil ceremony before you leave. I don't agree with it. But, to do that and then not have your guests in the loop with your plans? That is REALLY rude IMHO.
Plus, it's going to take half a day to head down to the court house, fill out some paperwork, and have the civil union. So, it's saving maybe a day and a half? I think it's good to arrive early into a destination prior to a wedding just because of all of the things that can happen (flights, wedding coordination) and to also be rested before the actual event.
edit- spelling
I am aware of the requirements. I considered destinations all over the world when planning my wedding. I actually eliminated some from my list because of the requirements. I was looking at one place that required me to be in country for 3 weeks- it didn't fit my circumstances so I didn't get married there! That's all I'm asking- WHY choose to have a wedding some place where you don't want to follow the laws in order to have your marriage legal? One pp said she was having a ceremony in Africa because of cultural significance. She answered the question and her reasoning made sense. Again, I get it if it's a cultural thing or if all of your family lives there and it's important to be married where your family lives, but otherwise, it just seems selfish by making guests take vacation time and spend a thousand dollars plus because the bride and groom wanted nice beach pictures for a ceremony that is not even the actual marriage.