**Updated** NWR: I think I may have been drugged.

Chipmunk415

@rwhite0123- as it stands, none of us can act on these comments as a) we don't know who the perpetrator is/was, and b) we don't know where pumpkin lives. We're good. Plus, if the gov't folks read the whole thread, as reasonable individuals they should be pissed off too and cheering our ideas of retribution, even if legal demands require this individual be turned over to the criminal justice system.

@pumpkin, re: the 12+ hours, rohypnol's(I didn't see if you mentioned a positive test for a specific drug, so I'm making an example) effects appear 15 to 20 minutes after administration, last 4 to 6 hours, and residual effects can pop up for 12+ hours. This is direct from the FDA, which placed the drug on Schedule IV. If the host tries contacting you again claiming the effects would have lasted longer, use this tidbit to help tell him to shove it up his ass. Sideways.

pumpkinsandturkeys

Thanks, ladies Yes, he did say, "if you had been drugged, you'd have been knocked out right away and it would have lasted 12+ hours. But you walked out of here just fine and seemed normal" (bullshit). He definitely knows something he's not saying. Either he had a hand in this, or he knows who did.

Also, I tried to go to work today... that didn't work. I got up, managed to brush my teeth, and then looked in the mirror and said, "nope." I feel guilty for not going because I had really wanted to and intended to, and I feel like there shouldn't be anything holding me back right now. If anything, all of the anger I feel just makes me want my normal life back even sooner. I had to text my boss and tell her that I need today to take care of a few things and that I'll definitely be in tomorrow. Ugh.

(edited for spelling)

Cookie Pusher

One day at a time, pumpkin. You have to do what feels right for you each day, and no one can tell you how long it will take until you're ready to go back to work.

chibiyui

Yeah, don't feel bad about not being able to go to work today.

pinkshorts27

Keeping you in my thoughts today and wishing you the best.

RebeccaB88

artbyallie said:

So, this guy as much as said, "I thought the drugs would knock you out for 12+ hours," yes? Guilty, guilty, guilty. You did say this was over text message, right? Copy that shit and get it to the police.

OmG, this totally. It makes me think you've found your perp. Please take this to the crisis center and make that report.  Anonymous is fine. This predator has to be stopped before he does it to someone else. 

HaileyDancingbear

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

Thanks, ladies Yes, he did say, "if you had been drugged, you'd have been knocked out right away and it would have lasted 12+ hours. But you walked out of here just fine and seemed normal" (bullshit). He definitely knows something he's not saying. Either he had a hand in this, or he knows who did. Also, I tried to go to work today... that didn't work. I got up, managed to brush my teeth, and then looked in the mirror and said, "nope." I feel guilty for not going because I had really wanted to and intended to, and I feel like there shouldn't be anything holding me back right now. If anything, all of the anger I feel just makes me want my normal life back even sooner. I had to text my boss and tell her that I need today to take care of a few things and that I'll definitely be in tomorrow. Ugh. (edited for spelling)

Take your time.  If you don't feel up to work, that's totally ok.  Don't rush yourself as far as emotional healing goes.  Let yourself feel what you need to feel so you can move past it.  

PrettyGirlLost

rwhite0123 said:

Not to take light of the situation but reading through all the responses regarding our angry mob and what we want to do to these people, I wonder how many times this thread has been tagged by the people in the government that watch for this kinda stuff hahahahaha- idea popped up when I was talking to my husband about this last night and I ended up dreaming an official came to visit all of us for the things being said lol Anyways, still thinking and praying for you and your FI pumpkin! I agree with the pp about going through with a police report though. At least there will always be a trail connected to him if something every happened in the future.

Probably zero times.

You need to have certain key phrases in order for the NSA to pull you out of all the random forum and FB scans and look you over.

PrettyGirlLost

Hope you are feeling a bit better today!

photokitty

You might feel better if you filed a police report. You never know, they might have other files on this guy or his associates. They might be able to investigate. It might help you feel in control of something, when it feels like everything is out of your hands you can take some of the control back by going to the police about it.

Hang in there Pumpkin and be strong! xoxo

PennyBlossom2311

Don't worry about rushing back to work. Take as much time as you need and don't feel guilty for doing so. Hang in there. You are a strong woman and I even though I do not know you, I am proud of you. When you're ready, file the police report. You'll know when you're ready to do it. When I was younger I went through something similar though no drugs were involved. I kept it a secret and never told a soul until I was in my mid twenties. When the attacker attacked someone else, I finally came forward and eventually faced this man in court. I was terrified and my world turned upside down. My little brother actually told me something that I want to pass on to you. It helped me and you need to hear it as well. He said "Bravery is Beautiful And You Are The Most Beautiful Person I Know"......Not sure where he heard it or if he came up with it on his own but it got me through..Believe me, you will get through this and will come out a stronger woman. We are all here for you. In the meantime, I'll be recruiting for your mob. FI is in and we're armed and ready. You've got an army behind you and we will be here to support you in any way we can. 

Kauris

So the whole 12+ hour line makes me think he has done this before. So please don't hesitate to file a report, it may be the first step you need to make in healing.

pumpkinsandturkeys

Sooo, I made it in to work today!

It's a little weird being back, but it feels good not to just be sitting at home. I'm a little distracted and still more than a little upset and angry, but I'm glad I chose to come in. The good thing is that it's Friday and I can ease back into things, instead of being overloaded.

Small steps?

chibiyui

Small steps are good.

Best of luck to you today! If you need us we're here!

FiancB

Glad you made it in today hon. A Friday sounds like a damn good time to come in and do a little at at a time. 

firebabe6519

Good for you pumpkin! I hope you have a good day at work today! :-)

hikebikebemerry

That's awesome!!!  One day at a time, one task at a time

climbingsingle

Hope your day is going well! 

pumpkinsandturkeys

Thanks, everyone!

It's been busier than I'd like for a Friday, but not unbearable. It's definitely weird being back, and there are a few people I'm not ready to see (who were at the party), but aside from that, it's going well so far. I'm a little distracted, but that's to be expected.

pinkcow13

Well it sounds like you are feeling better, and things are not terrible at work, so that is good. And it's Friday, in a few hours you're outta there!

vt&dt

Good for you for going back in to work.

I think the best path is some balance in between giving yourself the time and space to heal, but also setting small goals and achieving them on a path back to normal.

Going in today is a great step.  Celebrate that accomplishment!

WildMagelet

Edit:  Wrong thread?

OP, I'm glad you were able to get back to work and TGIF  babysteps all the way!

JennyColada

Just wanted to drop by and give more support as I've been checking in on this topic.

MobKaz

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

Sooo, I made it in to work today!

It's a little weird being back, but it feels good not to just be sitting at home. I'm a little distracted and still more than a little upset and angry, but I'm glad I chose to come in. The good thing is that it's Friday and I can ease back into things, instead of being overloaded.

Small steps?

I have stayed in the background because this entire thread puts me into full throttle mama mode, and that can be very scarey.

You have been very courageous and forthright in your experience.  There is no need to measure your steps.  The important variable is that each step you take, whether it be large or small, moves you forward.  The discussion you had with your FI may have been shocking and even hurtful.  The fact that you were both able to discuss it openly speaks volumes to your love, respect, honesty, and trust between each other.  

Chipmunk415

*starts smiling and jumping for pumpkin*

I'm so glad you took this step and got through the day! Hooray for pumpkin!!! If they still had them, I'd demand you send me your address so I could have the cheesecake of your choice from Cheesecake Factory delivered to your door- after a first full day back, you deserve it! Calories do not count! I forbid it! 

I know from prior experience that there will continue to be days where you get to work and can't do it. That's ok sweetie. There is nothing wrong with that. Just know every girl here is praying for/thinking about/sending good vibes to you.

Please keep us updated on what's going on, and any way we can support you. And the next time you choose to visit the FL panhandle, let me know- I'm taking you out for dinner!