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is it rude to not serve meat?

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Re: is it rude to not serve meat?

  • jenna8984jenna8984 clam bakes & patriots member
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    MagicInk said:
    NYCBruin said:
    Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.
    Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

    Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan.  Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.
    Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.
    Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??

                                                                     

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  • jenna8984 said:
    MagicInk said:
    NYCBruin said:
    Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.
    Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

    Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan.  Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.
    Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.
    Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??

    I don't want to think about it. It would probably ruin Oreos for me and then life would be a lot less awesome.
    jules3964KeptInStitchesrajahmdtcnoble
  • it makes me glad I don't like Oreos
    ohannabelle
  • Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

    And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.
    jules3964
  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl Desert Oasis member
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    jenna8984 said:
    MagicInk said:
    NYCBruin said:
    Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.
    Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

    Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan.  Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.
    Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.
    Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??
    Via ask.com: The Oreo cookie filling is made of 5 ingredients. These five ingredients consist of powdered sugar, granulated sugar, vanilla extract, vegetable shortening and water.
    jenna8984tcnoble
  • cupcait927cupcait927 Western NY wine country member
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    I would be perfectly happy with a vegan menu. Like other PPs have said, if I knew that you and your FI were vegan, I wouldn't expect to see meat. I love me some steak and mashed potatoes with sour cream but I'm not going to be unhappy going one night without any meat or dairy. You'll never please everyone, that's a fact. Someone, somewhere will be unhappy. As long as you're doing your absolute best (and it sounds like you are!), then be happy with your decision. 
    hanckypanky
  • yay!!! You're going to FEED me an appropriate amount of food for the time of day? AWESOME!
    And to top it off, Its likely something I haven't tried so I get to try something new?  Cool!!!!

    I just don't want to see a 'steak - $15' option on your menu.  
    Other than that...cool by me.

    Oh, and if someone is that upset about serving vegan food...at a vegan wedding...come on.  It's like going to a Tamil wedding and expecting Chinese food.
    hanckypankyjules3964cupcait927
  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 Oregon member
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    I am a meat and potatoes girl. I am infamous for my picky eating, but I would completely understand a vegan wedding. I wouldn't think it was rude, as long as their were multiple options and at least one of the options wasn't too odd (pizza is delish, though I don't know how it is without cheese?). I generally think that as long as the host serves food that the typical person will be able to eat, they aren't being rude if they choose to exclude certain food groups. 

    For example: If you only served extremely hot/spicy food, that would probably be rude (in a standard American wedding) because it is pretty well-known that not everyone could eat extremely hot/spicy food. But if you decided you weren't going to serve potatoes because you didn't like the look of them, that isn't rude. There are plenty of other options for food! I view veganism as the same. 
  • It's not rude at all. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of the two that are getting married. You and your SO are vegan, your food should be vegan. You should let your guests know what their entree choices are in the invitation so they have a heads up and you might want to have extra choices (extra finger foods at cocktail hour and maybe extra sides as people who are used to eating meat tend need a bit more to eat) Your guests will probably be surprised at how tasty vegan food can be! 
  • pinkshorts27pinkshorts27 Oregon member
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    It's not rude at all. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of the two that are getting married. You and your SO are vegan, your food should be vegan. You should let your guests know what their entree choices are in the invitation so they have a heads up and you might want to have extra choices (extra finger foods at cocktail hour and maybe extra sides as people who are used to eating meat tend need a bit more to eat) Your guests will probably be surprised at how tasty vegan food can be! 
    Technically the ceremony is them coming together and the reception is a thank-you for guests who atteneded the ceremony.
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

    And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.

    I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

    If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.


    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


  • Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

    And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.

    I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

    If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.

    I wasn't asking you to?

    Why do people act like the mere act of choosing a lifestyle for yourself is the same as saying everyone else should do it too?
    hellohkbjules3964Sars06
  • I say this as a meat eater: if you and your FI are vegans and are not comfortable serving meat or other animal products, I think that is perfectly okay. You shouldn't feel forced to serve something you have a moral objection to at your own wedding. 
  • Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of?
    I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.
  • just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website.  http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html  Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

    Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

    Mediterranean-style Entrees:

    • Spicy ratatouille served over rice
    • Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
    • Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
    • Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
    • Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
    • Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
    • Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic

    American-style Entrees:

    • Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
    • Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
    • Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
    • Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
    • Mushroom ragout with pasta
    • Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
    • Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
    • Stuffed butternut squash
    • Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables

    Asian-style Entrees:

    • Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
    • Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
    • Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
    • Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
    • Chickpea curry
    • Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
    • Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach

    hanckypankyjules3964
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

    And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.

    I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

    If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.

    I wasn't asking you to?

    Why do people act like the mere act of choosing a lifestyle for yourself is the same as saying everyone else should do it too?
    I never said you did, I was just responding to the comment about a cheese less pizza in a general sense.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


  • Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera.
    I have a question... is rice really an entree option?
    ashleyep
  • ViczaesarViczaesar Central Coast, CA member
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    Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera. I have a question... is rice really an entree option?
    I don't see anything there that looks good to me either.  And I don't consider rice with slivered almonds and peas to be an entree.
    ashleyep
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    Viczaesar said:



    Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera.
    I have a question... is rice really an entree option?

    I don't see anything there that looks good to me either.  And I don't consider rice with slivered almonds and peas to be an entree.


    I don't consider that particular rice dish an entrée either, that's more of a side dish.

    But I think OP is doing a food truck anyways.

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."


    ashleyep
  • saacjwsaacjw member
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    adk19 said:
    just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website.  http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html  Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

    Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

    Mediterranean-style Entrees:

    • Spicy ratatouille served over rice
    • Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
    • Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
    • Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
    • Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
    • Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
    • Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic

    American-style Entrees:

    • Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
    • Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
    • Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
    • Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
    • Mushroom ragout with pasta
    • Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
    • Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
    • Stuffed butternut squash
    • Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables

    Asian-style Entrees:

    • Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
    • Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
    • Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
    • Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
    • Chickpea curry
    • Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
    • Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach


    I want everything on this list except the mushroom things. Dude. That lasagna looks tasty and I love ratatouille. Did this list come with recipes?
  • I am a meat and potatoes girl. I am infamous for my picky eating, but I would completely understand a vegan wedding. I wouldn't think it was rude, as long as their were multiple options and at least one of the options wasn't too odd (pizza is delish, though I don't know how it is without cheese?). I generally think that as long as the host serves food that the typical person will be able to eat, they aren't being rude if they choose to exclude certain food groups. 

    For example: If you only served extremely hot/spicy food, that would probably be rude (in a standard American wedding) because it is pretty well-known that not everyone could eat extremely hot/spicy food. But if you decided you weren't going to serve potatoes because you didn't like the look of them, that isn't rude. There are plenty of other options for food! I view veganism as the same. 
    I actually eat my pizza without cheese (dairy issues). I prefer it taste-wise over those with cheese because I can taste all the seasonings in the sauce, all the toppings, the dough more than I could with a mouth full of cheese. That's just me, though.
  • I eat meat but wouldn't expect a vegan to serve meat. Vegan food is delicious, and I would be excited to try something new at your wedding.


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  • Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of? I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.
    vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!
  • adk19 said:
    just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website.  http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html  Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

    Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

    Mediterranean-style Entrees:

    • Spicy ratatouille served over rice
    • Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
    • Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
    • Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
    • Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
    • Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
    • Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic

    American-style Entrees:

    • Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
    • Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
    • Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
    • Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
    • Mushroom ragout with pasta
    • Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
    • Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
    • Stuffed butternut squash
    • Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables

    Asian-style Entrees:

    • Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
    • Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
    • Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
    • Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
    • Chickpea curry
    • Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
    • Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach

    all that sounds pretty great
  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of? I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.
    vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!
    How do you do sushi w/o any fish. . . just california roll type sushi rolls?

    "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."




  • Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of?
    I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.

    vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!

    Tacos with what? What's in the hot subs?
    I already know my know my bf wouldn't like the other options.
    Sushi is one of my favorite things on the planet... but what would be the protein in them?
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    No, california rolls have imitation crab, which contains fish. vegan sushi has seitan, tempura or tofu in place of fish meat :)
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