is it rude to not serve meat?

jenna8984 · June 2014

MagicInk said:

NYCBruin said:

mrshutzler said:

Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.

Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan. Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.

Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.

Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??

jdluvr06 · June 2014

jenna8984 said:

MagicInk said:

NYCBruin said:

mrshutzler said:

Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.

Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan. Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.

Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.

Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??

I don't want to think about it. It would probably ruin Oreos for me and then life would be a lot less awesome.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

it makes me glad I don't like Oreos

hanckypanky · June 2014

Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.

VulgarGirl · June 2014

jenna8984 said:

MagicInk said:

NYCBruin said:

mrshutzler said:

Not serving meat is one thing; Making everyone eat vegan is another. I can handle having some foods without meat or a cheese/tomato pasta dish. If the cheese is fake tofu cheese, though? Not so much. Give people a variety of choices. You can even have a vegan option or two. Don't make everyone forgo eggs and milk or honey or cheese just because you choose to. Sorry, but I don't agree that everyone will be fine with all-vegan options. I would have had a mutiny on my hands if I had done that to my guests.

Do you really ONLY eat food with meat, cheese, eggs, milk and honey in them??

Offering only vegan choices isn't "forcing" someone to eat vegan. Non-vegans eat "vegan" foods all the time.

Oreos are vegan. I'm just saying. Oreos. Vegan food ain't that bad if Oreos make the list. And now I want Oreos.

Is nobody else here wondering WTF is in the cream of an Oreo if it's not some type of dairy product?? Just straight up manufactured high fructose corn syrup or what??

Via ask.com: The Oreo cookie filling is made of 5 ingredients. These five ingredients consist of powdered sugar, granulated sugar, vanilla extract, vegetable shortening and water.

cupcait927 · June 2014

I would be perfectly happy with a vegan menu. Like other PPs have said, if I knew that you and your FI were vegan, I wouldn't expect to see meat. I love me some steak and mashed potatoes with sour cream but I'm not going to be unhappy going one night without any meat or dairy. You'll never please everyone, that's a fact. Someone, somewhere will be unhappy. As long as you're doing your absolute best (and it sounds like you are!), then be happy with your decision.

JellyBean52513 · June 2014

I'm a devout meat-eater and I love eggs and cheese of all kinds. I would not find it rude for you to serve vegan food at your wedding. It's similar to being invited to a friend's house for dinner and refusing to eat because you don't like what they made. THAT'S rude, in my opinion.

I understand dietary restrictions. I understand religious restrictions. Hell, I even understand when food intake is due to preferences and not actual, legitimate restrictions. To each their own. I would not expect my vegan friends to break from who they are just because they know I, my SO, and a majority of their guests love a good steak or roast beef. If, at the time of my wedding, Chris Brown had the absolute hottest dance song out that everyone I invited loved, IDGAF and you wouldn't hear it from at wedding because I'm an advocate for domestic violence victims/survivors and you will not enjoy his music at my event. End of discussion, decline if you believe you will have an awful time.

When I first moved into my new apartment, I made spaghetti and meatballs for my SO, his best friend, and his best friend's GF who helped me move in. Like any Italian, the meatballs naturally had to finish cooking in the sauce. The GF is vegetarian, so I set aside some sauce for her (after making sure she was ok with all ingredients in my sauce) before I put the meatballs in for myself and the guys. It was important to me that I respected her beliefs, and I didn't mind the minor inconvenience. Likewise, I would not mind the minor inconvenience of forgoing meat for a night if it meant respecting the beliefs of others. FWIW, nobody believes in meat, but some people DO strongly believe in not consuming the flesh/by-product of living creatures and while I am aaaaabsolutely not one of those people, I wouldn't be disrespectful to the bride and groom who were that invited me to their wedding.

biggrouch · June 2014

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/08/fashion/08vegan.html

In this article, a vegetarian guy with a vegetarian wedding caught his friend leaving his wedding and bringing back a chicken parmesan in a paper bag, and thought it was funny. The friend, on the other hand, is still angry about it. Years later. Who sounds like the better person?

Lesson to everyone: Don't be an entitled meat-eater who gets angry about the free food you were served by your friends in keeping with their beliefs. Be the vegetarian who hosts your friends for dinner and is able to laugh at entitled meat-eaters, because they are ridiculous. Like, 99% of the people who think that vegan meals equate to shoving your beliefs down someone's throat would be extremely embarrassed to say the same thing about being invited to attend a wedding of a different faith than their own, and most wedding ceremonies include much more explicit statements of belief than a mere plateful of food ever could be. So, why is vegetarianism/veganism different? Is it because simply by living as if eating other animals is wrong, vegans seem to be voicing a criticism of meat-eaters? Because people can't change their ethical stances on things just so that others don't feel bad about themselves.

ETA: If a vegan who hates chickpeas goes to a wedding and the vegan option is a healthy chickpea dish, can the vegan criticize the hosts for that? Nope. Similarly, you can't complain about a vegan wedding just because you are allergic to two types of vegan protein and dislike the other two.

LDay2014 · June 2014

yay!!! You're going to FEED me an appropriate amount of food for the time of day? AWESOME!

And to top it off, Its likely something I haven't tried so I get to try something new? Cool!!!!

I just don't want to see a 'steak - $15' option on your menu.

Other than that...cool by me.

Oh, and if someone is that upset about serving vegan food...at a vegan wedding...come on. It's like going to a Tamil wedding and expecting Chinese food.

pinkshorts27 · June 2014

I am a meat and potatoes girl. I am infamous for my picky eating, but I would completely understand a vegan wedding. I wouldn't think it was rude, as long as their were multiple options and at least one of the options wasn't too odd (pizza is delish, though I don't know how it is without cheese?). I generally think that as long as the host serves food that the typical person will be able to eat, they aren't being rude if they choose to exclude certain food groups.

For example: If you only served extremely hot/spicy food, that would probably be rude (in a standard American wedding) because it is pretty well-known that not everyone could eat extremely hot/spicy food. But if you decided you weren't going to serve potatoes because you didn't like the look of them, that isn't rude. There are plenty of other options for food! I view veganism as the same.

Ladycottington19 · June 2014

It's not rude at all. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of the two that are getting married. You and your SO are vegan, your food should be vegan. You should let your guests know what their entree choices are in the invitation so they have a heads up and you might want to have extra choices (extra finger foods at cocktail hour and maybe extra sides as people who are used to eating meat tend need a bit more to eat) Your guests will probably be surprised at how tasty vegan food can be!

pinkshorts27 · June 2014

Ladycottington19 said:

It's not rude at all. A wedding is supposed to be a celebration of the two that are getting married. You and your SO are vegan, your food should be vegan. You should let your guests know what their entree choices are in the invitation so they have a heads up and you might want to have extra choices (extra finger foods at cocktail hour and maybe extra sides as people who are used to eating meat tend need a bit more to eat) Your guests will probably be surprised at how tasty vegan food can be!

Technically the ceremony is them coming together and the reception is a thank-you for guests who atteneded the ceremony.

PrettyGirlLost · June 2014

hanckypanky said:
Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.

I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.

hanckypanky · June 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

hanckypanky said:
Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.
I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.

I wasn't asking you to?

Why do people act like the mere act of choosing a lifestyle for yourself is the same as saying everyone else should do it too?

downtondiva · June 2014

I say this as a meat eater: if you and your FI are vegans and are not comfortable serving meat or other animal products, I think that is perfectly okay. You shouldn't feel forced to serve something you have a moral objection to at your own wedding.

Simply Fated · June 2014

Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of?
I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website. http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

Mediterranean-style Entrees:

Spicy ratatouille served over rice
Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic

American-style Entrees:

Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
Mushroom ragout with pasta
Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
Stuffed butternut squash
Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables

Asian-style Entrees:

Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
Chickpea curry
Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach

PrettyGirlLost · June 2014

hanckypanky said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

hanckypanky said:
Oreo cream is basically sugar, vanilla and veg shortening lol

And vegan pizza is crust, sauce and toppings. Like someone else said, instead of being lazy and letting the cheese give the flavor, vegan pizza is balanced with herbs and spices and oils. Soooooo good.
I love eggs and cheese way too much to ever be vegan, sorry not sorry!

If as a couple you are vegan due to moral/ethical beliefs on animal cruelty, as a guest I can respect and support your decision. Im sure the food will be delicious even though I have never had a vegan meal.

I wasn't asking you to?

Why do people act like the mere act of choosing a lifestyle for yourself is the same as saying everyone else should do it too?

I never said you did, I was just responding to the comment about a cheese less pizza in a general sense.

Simply Fated · June 2014

Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera.
I have a question... is rice really an entree option?

Viczaesar · June 2014

Simply Fated said:

Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera. I have a question... is rice really an entree option?

I don't see anything there that looks good to me either. And I don't consider rice with slivered almonds and peas to be an entree.

PrettyGirlLost · June 2014

Viczaesar said:

Simply Fated said:

Yeahhh there is not one thing on there my bf would eat except maybe the pasta primavera.
I have a question... is rice really an entree option?

I don't see anything there that looks good to me either. And I don't consider rice with slivered almonds and peas to be an entree.

I don't consider that particular rice dish an entrée either, that's more of a side dish.

But I think OP is doing a food truck anyways.

saacjw · June 2014

adk19 said:

just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website. http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

Mediterranean-style Entrees:
Spicy ratatouille served over rice
Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic
American-style Entrees:
Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
Mushroom ragout with pasta
Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
Stuffed butternut squash
Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables
Asian-style Entrees:
Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
Chickpea curry
Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach

I want everything on this list except the mushroom things. Dude. That lasagna looks tasty and I love ratatouille. Did this list come with recipes?

happywiggle · June 2014

pinkshorts27 said:

I am a meat and potatoes girl. I am infamous for my picky eating, but I would completely understand a vegan wedding. I wouldn't think it was rude, as long as their were multiple options and at least one of the options wasn't too odd (pizza is delish, though I don't know how it is without cheese?). I generally think that as long as the host serves food that the typical person will be able to eat, they aren't being rude if they choose to exclude certain food groups.

For example: If you only served extremely hot/spicy food, that would probably be rude (in a standard American wedding) because it is pretty well-known that not everyone could eat extremely hot/spicy food. But if you decided you weren't going to serve potatoes because you didn't like the look of them, that isn't rude. There are plenty of other options for food! I view veganism as the same.

I actually eat my pizza without cheese (dairy issues). I prefer it taste-wise over those with cheese because I can taste all the seasonings in the sauce, all the toppings, the dough more than I could with a mouth full of cheese. That's just me, though.

hellohkb · June 2014

I eat meat but wouldn't expect a vegan to serve meat. Vegan food is delicious, and I would be excited to try something new at your wedding.

hanckypanky · June 2014

Simply Fated said:

Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of? I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.

vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!

hanckypanky · June 2014

adk19 said:

just googled vegan wedding food and came up with this website. http://www.vegan-nutritionista.com/vegan-wedding-menu.html Tons of ideas, I just copied the Entrees, but they have salads and apps and soups, etc.

Entree Ideas for Vegan Weddings

Mediterranean-style Entrees:
Spicy ratatouille served over rice
Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
Pasta primavera with seasonal vegetables with sauteed onions or marinara sauce
Mushroom phyllo roulade with smoked-paprika creme
Tofu-squash ravioli in a cashew cream sauce
Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs, artichoke hearts, kalamata olives, and toasted pine-nut stuffing
Roasted vegetable lasagna with vegan ricotta, broccoli rabe with white beans, sundried tomatoes, chili, and garlic
American-style Entrees:
Rice with slivered almonds and snap peas
Southern fried mock chicken with BBQ sauce
Seitan meatloaf with mushroom gravy
Lemon-rosemary mock chicken
Mushroom ragout with pasta
Refried black beans and tomato rice with guacamole
Sweet plantains and corn tortillas with pico de gallo
Stuffed butternut squash
Peppers stuffed with rice and vegetables
Asian-style Entrees:
Seitan and veggie skewers with plum sauce
Vegetable Thai curry with steamed quinoa
Angel hair pasta with vegetables in a ginger soy sauce
Vegetable Samosas and Pakoras
Chickpea curry
Spiced spinach and potatoes with mango chutney
Pistachio-crusted tofu over horseradish potatoes and wilted spinach

all that sounds pretty great

PrettyGirlLost · June 2014

hanckypanky said:

Simply Fated said:

Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of? I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.

vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!

How do you do sushi w/o any fish. . . just california roll type sushi rolls?

Simply Fated · June 2014

hanckypanky said:

Simply Fated said:

Out of curiosity, what are these multiple choices you speak of?
I love trying new food and "vegan" doesn't sound daunting to me. I like hummus and mushrooms and all that. But my bf doesn't like most of the examples pps have mentioned in this thread. I think it comes down to what the choices are, regardless if they're vegan or meatacular.

vegan burgers, sushi, tacos, salads, hummus platter, and hot subs!

Tacos with what? What's in the hot subs?
I already know my know my bf wouldn't like the other options.
Sushi is one of my favorite things on the planet... but what would be the protein in them?

hanckypanky · June 2014

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No, california rolls have imitation crab, which contains fish. vegan sushi has seitan, tempura or tofu in place of fish meat

hanckypanky · June 2014

oops, my kiddo was smacking on the keyboard. i thought i fixed it but guess not

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