good grief

Cookie Pusher

wrigleyville said:

We didn't register for any gifts, and every single guest gave us cash. We didn't have to drop hints or tell them to give us money because people aren't stupid, and they aren't vending machines. Our wedding was a celebration of our marriage, not a fundraiser. We spent what we could afford and not a penny more. We did not expect our guests to subsidize our wedding out of some bullshit entitlement.

Us too! Well, cash, checks, and gift cards. Our guests must have all been psychic or something!

novella1186

luckysnorkel said:

I just can't get over the 'etiquette = stuffy' assumption.  That attitude really grinds my gears.  I've been to some stuffy-ass luxury weddings with terrible etiquette blunders (gaps, ceremony starting EXTREMELY late, not inviting SOs, etc).  And I've been to just as many laid-back, budget weddings that were 100% etiquette perfect.

Yeah sorry but I have tattoos, cuss like a sailor, drink vodka like a Russian, and eat with my hands. Stuffy? Nope. No fucking way. Do I follow etiquette to a T? You bet your fucking ass.

novella1186

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

esstee33

novella1186 said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

**SITB** 

Orrrrr we could just not get creepy. 

novella1186

esstee33 said:

novella1186 said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

**SITB** 

Orrrrr we could just not get creepy.



SIB
Seriously just kidding! I have more important things to do. Like flick dust off the table

ETA: right after I posted that, I realized how stupid it is to say "seriously just kidding." Lol. Vodka.

APDSS22

I found the poem.  What an unfortunate use of the word "homely".

SachaBee

ohannabelle said:

SachaBee said:

God fuckng damnit, she used the poem. 

Also, is there something wrong with the website? Seems like it...

SIB 

 Ohmygod. Why did I look? That.....poem. It's......so........much.......vomit. Just so painfully stoopid.

Please, lurkers- shitty poetry isn't cute. 

It isn't charming. 

It doesn't disguise bad manners. If even one of your friends or family is even half educated, or likes poetry even a wee little tiny bit, reading crap like that will make them want to stab themselves in the eye with a dull pencil. 

Torturing a bunch of words into crappy rhymes does not make a poem. If you blew a wad of snot on a torn Kleenex, it would be a better poem.

For heavens sake, unless your name is Pablo effing Neruda or ee cummings, don't assume you can write a poem. If your name is Pablo Neruda, or ee cummings, you are dead, and past having to read shit like that.

Please. No more crappy poetry. It insults the intelligence of your guests. 

_____________SITGDB________________ 

Can I love your post six zillion times? 

PrettyGirlLost

novella1186 said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!


Considering the incident that happened not too long ago, I'd be careful about joking like that.

And a word of caution to the rest of you, don't snark too openly about the OP'S personal info, even if she has totally left herself wide open. All it takes is one crazy fuck on here to start posting harassing shit on her wedding website, and shameful history repeats itself here.

holyguacamole79

Good point, PGL. I was just trying to caution her.

slothiegal

PrettyGirlLost said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

Considering the incident that happened not too long ago, I'd be careful about joking like that. And a word of caution to the rest of you, don't snark too openly about the OP'S personal info, even if she has totally left herself wide open. All it takes is one crazy fuck on here to start posting harassing shit on her wedding website, and shameful history repeats itself here.

Yeah....keep it snarky, not stalky.

photokitty

slothiegal said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

novella1186 said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

Considering the incident that happened not too long ago, I'd be careful about joking like that.

And a word of caution to the rest of you, don't snark too openly about the OP'S personal info, even if she has totally left herself wide open. All it takes is one crazy fuck on here to start posting harassing shit on her wedding website, and shameful history repeats itself here.

Yeah....keep it snarky, not stalky.

QFT ~ we don't want any glittering britches or witches, getting ban hammered over something or one so so trifle.

lovesclimbing

crackktheskyy said:

southernbelle0915 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Um, you should consider changing your user name. With such a uniquely spelled name, it would be very easy to google you. PM knotporscha if you want to do this.

Also, did you just start using the Interwebz? Because usually it's a bad idea to run into a community like a bull in a china shop, post some thing that's against etiquette *ON AN ETIQUETTE BOARD*, and then proceed to start a butthurt thread telling people *who took the time to respond to your other thread* that they don't have lives. 

In what world would you think that's a good idea? Did you even think? I think not.

I tried to warn her about that and she gave me attitude about it. 

I found her website in about 5 seconds. Its really not a good idea with all the personal information out there. Seriously OP, consider changing it.

Yeah, me too.

This sort of thing always reminds me of my younger (very naive) cousin who, on FACEBOOK, posted a photo of his credit card with his finger over half of the numbers. The following week, he posted another photo of his credit card with his finger over the other half of the numbers so if you looked at both photos, you could see the number in it's entirety.

I messaged him privately with his full CC number and expiration date, and told him that if it was that easy for me to steal his CC, it would be much easier for someone really desperate.

Then again, he was posting his CC to show the promotional card he received from the pyramid scheme he joined....so you can probably interpret from there where his head was at.

Viczaesar

@tiphenieB, homely =/= for the home.  You using that poem makes you look illiterate as well as rude.

AddieCake

tiphenieB said:

I feel like people on these forums have nothing better to do than bash on other brides and how they chose to carry out their weddings. Im pretty sure the people bashing were once sensitive and concerned brides at one point! I thought we were here to support each other. Not tear each other down!

Welcome to TK. I don't like you. There. Now you can feel validated by this ridiculous thread you started.

novella1186

PrettyGirlLost said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

Considering the incident that happened not too long ago, I'd be careful about joking like that. And a word of caution to the rest of you, don't snark too openly about the OP'S personal info, even if she has totally left herself wide open. All it takes is one crazy fuck on here to start posting harassing shit on her wedding website, and shameful history repeats itself here.

Oops I was not aware of an incident. It really was just a stupid joke. Sorry, TK!

thisismynickname2

Re: privacy issues. I'm just catching up on this thread and it appears she took down her site (or changed the URL). Good. The lack of privacy on TK freaks me out. My MIL found the wedding website I'd created before I'd even shown it to my man! It took me some time to figure out not just how to lock down the site, but my TK profile too. Wish they made the profile privacy tools more obvious.

HaileyDancingbear

STILL waiting for that explanation about how posting on a forum about how anyone posting on the forum has no life, then READING THROUGH AND COMMENTING to say that anyone reading through it and commenting has no life, makes any sense whatsoever.  

And an explanation about how that somehow makes you the victim and not at all rude would also be great.  

I'm actually very interested to see the huge pile of non-logic and backwards thinking that would be used to even try to explain this. 

novella1186

thisismynickname said:

Re: privacy issues. I'm just catching up on this thread and it appears she took down her site (or changed the URL). Good. The lack of privacy on TK freaks me out. My MIL found the wedding website I'd created before I'd even shown it to my man! It took me some time to figure out not just how to lock down the site, but my TK profile too. Wish they made the profile privacy tools more obvious.

What do you have to do to make your wedding site private? When I first started mine, before I had really put anything on it, I saw that 4 people had "Signed the guestbook" or something like that. It totally creeped me out

anjemon

novella1186 said:

thisismynickname said:

Re: privacy issues. I'm just catching up on this thread and it appears she took down her site (or changed the URL). Good. The lack of privacy on TK freaks me out. My MIL found the wedding website I'd created before I'd even shown it to my man! It took me some time to figure out not just how to lock down the site, but my TK profile too. Wish they made the profile privacy tools more obvious.

What do you have to do to make your wedding site private? When I first started mine, before I had really put anything on it, I saw that 4 people had "Signed the guestbook" or something like that. It totally creeped me out

Oh yes, I was just wondering that myself. My FI is really worried about his online presence so I only want to make a site if I can make it mostly private. I'd really like to make one because I find them very useful, but I know he'll be worried about things if I can't hide some information.

thisismynickname2

anjemon said:

novella1186 said:

thisismynickname said:

Re: privacy issues. I'm just catching up on this thread and it appears she took down her site (or changed the URL). Good. The lack of privacy on TK freaks me out. My MIL found the wedding website I'd created before I'd even shown it to my man! It took me some time to figure out not just how to lock down the site, but my TK profile too. Wish they made the profile privacy tools more obvious.

What do you have to do to make your wedding site private? When I first started mine, before I had really put anything on it, I saw that 4 people had "Signed the guestbook" or something like that. It totally creeped me out

Oh yes, I was just wondering that myself. My FI is really worried about his online presence so I only want to make a site if I can make it mostly private. I'd really like to make one because I find them very useful, but I know he'll be worried about things if I can't hide some information.

First, you have to play around with your profile- the one that you created to sign up for the site. Hidden in there are your privacy settings. I chose to put our first names and middle names rather than our first names and last names for extra safety.

Then, when you do your website, you'll see a fairly prominent password option. If anyone still manages to find your home page, they shouldn't get past the password.

I put our password with the web address on the STDs, and then the website and password in a small insert with the invitation.  

I'm sorry I can't be more detailed as I'm multitasking at work, but... it can be done! 

PrettyGirlLost

novella1186 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

sarahbear31 said:

Yeahhhh, @tiphenieB‌ ... Your phone number is on your Honeyfund, too. Not too wise.

OMG let's prank call her!

Considering the incident that happened not too long ago, I'd be careful about joking like that. And a word of caution to the rest of you, don't snark too openly about the OP'S personal info, even if she has totally left herself wide open. All it takes is one crazy fuck on here to start posting harassing shit on her wedding website, and shameful history repeats itself here.

Oops I was not aware of an incident. It really was just a stupid joke. Sorry, TK!

Yeah it's ok- I know you were joking and that Sarah was trying to help the OP.

But it was a really effed up thing that happened, so I just wanted to remind everyone to be careful.

anjemon

@thisismynickname Thanks! I'll look into that. I can probably figure it out now that I know the options are there.