As a guest, would you care if you received a wedding day text (not a group text) from bride/groom?

Knottie0021480

The text would provide last minute details like: address to wedding/reception, "don't park in front of the church", your table #, @wedding / #wedding (social media stuff), etc...

mikenberger

I wouldnt care as long as I wasn't a part of a group text and everybody was responding. Those make me incredibly hostile. Like more than normal.

But I know my grandparents would NOT approve. Mainly because each text costs them like $.25.

luckysnorkel

I wouldn't mind a text or two, but that's contingent on the assumption that the text(s) wouldn't be the only source of important details like what you listed above.  Not everybody is tech-savvy; my dad doesn't know how to read or send texts for instance.  So if he had no other way to find out what table he was sitting at, he'd never get the info.

Knottie0021480

ya, i feel like we would do this only for the tech-savy people (how we make that determination is a completely different issue lol).

luckysnorkel. we would still have to have the table numbers listed out somewhere or put on the invitation or something.

hmmm

mrscomposer

I'm with scribe.  Wouldn't the address be on the invite?  Wouldn't there be a sign or possibly cones so people wouldn't park in front of the church (I'm not banking on common sense, here)?  Wouldn't hashtags and twitter handles be written down somewhere else (why not the guestbook table as you walk in to the reception)?  Wouldn't you have a seating chart or escort cards at the reception?

Basically - if you have to text me with all this information the day of your wedding, I will assume you are unorganized and have forgotten to put it anywhere else.

Liatris2010

1. Do you really want to be sending 100 texts the morning of your wedding with a bunch of silly reminders?
2. Why do you think the majority of people will need these reminders?

Knottie0021480

scribe95    haha right? i need new friends.

this comes up because i have spoken with a lot of my friends that are already married, and some of them had problems with people (mostly their younger friends) forgetting the invitations to their weddings, going to the wrong place, etc.

i feel like some people need their hand held; most people do not though. 

Liatris2010.

it would be cool to text out the social media information, but if we have a nice board set up that works just as well. good stuff guys, thanks

luckysnorkel

Knottie0021480 said:

ya, i feel like we would do this only for the tech-savy people (how we make that determination is a completely different issue lol).

luckysnorkel. we would still have to have the table numbers listed out somewhere or put on the invitation or something.

hmmm

It wouldn't make sense to plan out tables when you send out invitations because at that point you don't reliably know who is and isn't coming.  If everyone at table 7 declines except for Great Aunt Gladys, then she's all by herself.  Not to mention the fact that most people aren't going to remember a table number that was told to them 8 weeks in advance.  

AddieCake

People can find out their table assignments when they get to the reception. I would not want a text from you because I am an adult and capable of being responsible for bringing the address info with me. If I fail to do that, then that's my problem, not yours.

Knottie0021480

luckysnorkel

wrigleyville

I checked "no", not because it's rude, but because it would annoy me. I'm an adult. I don't need to be micro-managed.

Most adults can handle this and don't need to be babied.

southernbelle0915

I wouldn't be pissed but just...why? Any information I should know should have been given via the invitation so there shouldn't be anything more to know. Weddings aren't rocket science and adults should be able to get themselves to places on time.

misshart00

As I said in your post over on CC, this seems very micro-manage-y.

indianaalum

Lots of thoughts.

1) Why am I only finding out where the reception is the DAY of the wedding. That, in itself, would bug the crap out of me. Unless I am invited to George Clooney's wedding, I better know AHEAD Of time where the reception/ceremony is at

2)What bride/groom has time on their wedding day to send out individual texts telling their guest anything, let alone table numbers (which can be done soooo much easier ahead of time)

3)Not all guests check texts, so it would suck if I missed important info if I didn't check my text

4)why? Why on earth would a bride/groom need to text "table numbers" to guests anyhow...seems odd and weird.

5) If the bride does do this, she should expect to then get caught in endless "good luck today" and other tedious texts all day long.

I am sure there is more, but that is what comes to mind. Unless it is some emergency last minute "oh shit, I need to tell them this because my venue just burned down and need a new venue today" type of business, al wedding stuff surrounding planning of guest comfort should be done WAYYY ahead of time so guests know exactly what to expect

misshart00

Also, there would need to be a way to opt in/out. My mom still has a pay as you go phone that costs $.30 a text sending or receiving. She would be pissed if she kept getting texts about stuff she already knows.

allispain

I would find this super micro-managey. I mean really, you think I need to be told again the day of where to go? Also, I second PP who said that they would think you were really unorganized if you were doing this day of - it would seem like you didn't have time/care enough to actually put out table number info, etc. for your guests.

huskypuppy14

I don't know why you put this on two separate boards. You are going to get the same answers.

I hate group texts. If I know everyone in the group it's fine (like my mom and my sisters or my 2 best friends). But I don't want to be on a 100+ group text, because people respond to the group instead of doing it individually. I guess this is one of my pet peeves. 

Jen4948

Depends on the message. If there's an emergency or some other circumstances that are forcing a last-minute change in plans that were previously announced in the invitations, then I'll be grateful. If the text is to announce something that should have been announced in the invitations, a last-minute change due to a personal whim of the couple, or something that guests can figure out on their own, then yeah, that's annoying, especially if it's part of a group text where everyone's personal information is made available to everyone else.

jacques27

Knottie0021480 said:

scribe95    haha right? i need new friends.

this comes up because i have spoken with a lot of my friends that are already married, and some of them had problems with people (mostly their younger friends) forgetting the invitations to their weddings, going to the wrong place, etc.

i feel like some people need their hand held; most people do not though. 

Liatris2010.

it would be cool to text out the social media information, but if we have a nice board set up that works just as well. good stuff guys, thanks

The solution to that little conundrum is to be friends with smarter, more responsible people then...not enable and micro-manage your existing irresponsible friends and family.  If they forget the invite or can't find it...that's on them.  Lesson learned hopefully.  Maybe the next person's wedding they'll take five minutes to mapquest themselves directions or put the invite in a place where they'll remember to bring it.  It's not that hard.

Knottie0021480

Jen4948 great point!  

landa10315

I would be offended, honestly. I'm an adult and I am capable of collecting necessary information that was already provided to me, and applying it the day of the wedding. And if I weren't capable of this, then that's on me. Not on you to micromanage.

Maggie0829

Does your venue require guests to bring their invites?  If not, then what does it matter if someone brings it or not?

Unless your friends are complete and utter morons then they certainly don't need a reminder text.  If they are complete and utter morons who cannot seem to function without someone holding their hands, then this would be a great moment for them to grow the hell up and learn how to do things on their own.  If they can't figure out how to find their way to the church or they can't read a damn sign to find their name and table number then really they have no hope in this world at all.

tammym1001

I received a text from a groom on his wedding day because they apparently found out at the last minute that if you put their venue's address in GPS it takes you to the wrong place so they had to send out directions to everyone. I was glad to get the directions, but I just thought "man that sucks that they had to text all their guests on their wedding day". Who wants to spend time doing that? I don't really see the point in this. If your friends are irresponsible that is their problem.

Liatris2010

I've forgotten my inviation before. I've also managed to figure ot the location and get myself to the wedding on time without harassing the bride or groom. I'm sure if anyone forgets the address the day of they will manage to get it from someone else, or the wedding website.

MandyMost

If you know you have a group of particularly absent-minded procrastinating friends that are likely to wake up the day of the wedding and be unable to find the invite and have no idea what time your wedding is or the address, this is exactly why wedding websites were invented. Make sure you have a very simple website address and clear information (I'd put the time and address on the front page of the website). 

If you really have no faith in the ability of these friends to even remember that you have a website, I think it would be acceptable to send a group email or facebook message or something of the sort (but not a text, honestly) about a week ahead of time saying "I can't wait to see you all next Saturday! I'm so excited to get married and celebrate with everyone. If you have any questions about the time or need directions, just check our website, www.myweddingwebsite.com." However, I'd only do this for that particular group of friends...not all your friends and relatives.

A text that day is just so overboard with the miro-managing, and you really won't have the time or energy for it on your wedding day. And seriously, if people miss your wedding because they are that irresposible, that's on them. It's not your problem. 

KatWAG

I got a mass text from a groom once. There had been a huge gap and he texted everyone to tell us that they had decided last minute to open the bar early. That I appreciated.

danamw

Why would I mind?

 I would assume there was some important info the couple didn't find out about until the night before, and they wanted to impart it.

People are really running out of things to get offended about.

JCbride2015

I wouldn't be offended, but I would be a little confused about why you felt the need to remind me of things I already know.  And I'd probably respond back with "Thanks!  Good luck!" etc. as would everyone else.... so your phone would be blowing up all during your wedding day.

Maggie0829

danamw said:

Why would I mind?

 I would assume there was some important info the couple didn't find out about until the night before, and they wanted to impart it.

People are really running out of things to get offended about.

Yes, if I got a text saying the address was wrong or like PP said, if you put the address in your GPS and it took you somewhere else, then I would be fine with getting a text.

But if I were to get a text saying the same damn thing that was listed in your invite and on your wedding website I would be annoyed at the fact that you felt the need to remind me.  I am not dumb.  I know how to read and get to places all on my own.  I don't need a fucking reminder that your wedding is in a few hours and where it is located.

Fran1985

Why don't you just send the info in an email to that group of friends a week or so before? (The address and venue info, not the table numbers, that should be at the venue) That way if they forget, they can search through their emails on their phones and find it. If we are talking about the younger tech savy ones, they all have emails on their phone. I would find a text on the day really odd, honestly. It would kind of make me think "doesnt she have anything better to do? Like, prepare for the big day?" I dunno, it would make me feel kind of bad that she was texting me the morning of her wedding. Like it was my fault almost.

badbnagdway

I don't think texting everyone will be a good use of your time on the day of your wedding. I am the person who is guilty of forgetting where I put the invite and looking up the information on the couple's wedding website on the way to the venue, but I would find it odd if the b or g told me where to go, as if they thought I was too flaky to figure it out. 

For the more tech savvy, make sure your wedding website has key info like the addresses and times. We are using Appy Couple for our website. It allows guests to access the website online or download the free app. I figure that should head off some day-of confusion. 

I don't see why guests would need to know their table number before the reception, and I think that part especially would be incredibly cumbersome to send to people day-of.