Dealbreakers

ginnybinny17

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

novella1186

ginnybinny17 said:

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

Don't forget this one:

-Doesn't mind occasionally eating a dog hair because it got mixed in with the casserole/mashed potatoes/whatever. Yeah it's gross. It happens. I don't die. 

ginnybinny17

novella1186 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

Don't forget this one:

-Doesn't mind occasionally eating a dog hair because it got mixed in with the casserole/mashed potatoes/whatever. Yeah it's gross. It happens. I don't die. 

Yes yes!  Similarly:

• Doesn't mind a healthy dose of dog hair in their morning coffee

The first time SO slept over at my apartment when we first started dating he was horrified.  Now he's just gamely resigned to eating and drinking certain quantities of dog hair.  It just happens.  There's no preventing it.  Not even with the greatest vacuum God ever invented.

ShesSoCold

novella1186 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

Don't forget this one:

-Doesn't mind occasionally eating a dog hair because it got mixed in with the casserole/mashed potatoes/whatever. Yeah it's gross. It happens. I don't die. 

Hahaha I agree. Except that was me once. The thought of pulling clean laundry out of the dryer and having dog hair on it totally yucked me out. Now I'm 100% over it. I love this bitch and wouldn't trade her for a shmillion dollars.

Also add my hair to that list. 

vikinganna87

DH is shorter than me and it doesn't bother me at all, especially since he's not a skinny guy.  I can "hide" stuff on top of the fridge.

Dealbreakers: small appetite, doesn't drink alcohol, says stuff like "boo yah."  

  

ohannabelle

vikinganna87 said:

DH is shorter than me and it doesn't bother me at all, especially since he's not a skinny guy.  I can "hide" stuff on top of the fridge.

Dealbreakers: small appetite, doesn't drink alcohol, says stuff like "boo yah."  

  

Hell, yes, to the top of the fridge being invisible!

Seriously, girls, I'm shocked to see "short men" listed as a deal breaker on lists next to bigots and drug users and really bad things.  

What the hell. Do you seriously mean that if your fiancés and husbands were magically transformed into men shorter than you, it would all be over? Deal broken? No longer worthy of your love? All the other good qualities that made you love them would have been meaningless?

I have a very long list of deal breakers. Height isn't one of them. 

plainjane0415

ginnybinny17 said:

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

I love this!

ashley8918

novella1186 said:

ginnybinny17 said:

- Doesn't like dogs

- Doesn't like dog hair on their clothing

- Doesn't like dog hair on the floor

- Doesn't like accidentally inhaling dog hair sometimes

- Doesn't like my dogs

Don't forget this one:

-Doesn't mind occasionally eating a dog hair because it got mixed in with the casserole/mashed potatoes/whatever. Yeah it's gross. It happens. I don't die. 

Sadly, we can never date now.

bethsmiles

ohannabelle said:

vikinganna87 said:

DH is shorter than me and it doesn't bother me at all, especially since he's not a skinny guy.  I can "hide" stuff on top of the fridge.

Dealbreakers: small appetite, doesn't drink alcohol, says stuff like "boo yah."  

  

Hell, yes, to the top of the fridge being invisible!

Seriously, girls, I'm shocked to see "short men" listed as a deal breaker on lists next to bigots and drug users and really bad things.  

What the hell. Do you seriously mean that if your fiancés and husbands were magically transformed into men shorter than you, it would all be over? Deal broken? No longer worthy of your love? All the other good qualities that made you love them would have been meaningless?

I have a very long list of deal breakers. Height isn't one of them. 

Being physically attracted to my partner is important to me. I've never found myself attracted to someone shorter than me (which to be fair is not a lot of people because I'm short). If SO was shorter than me I doubt we would have ever formed a relationship beyond friendship. And people don't magically shrink overnight so I'm not too worried about it.

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mrsk616

to all the truck ones. they are gas hogs and you know what they say about guys with big trucks. ok anyways FI drives a crz (hybrid) not by choice. what he wanted i told him i would never move in with him if he got it because the car payment was more than our house payment. he did buy a suv for a winter car but thats about it. he builds cars so he has many other many cars.

VulgarGirl

pinkrevenge said:

ohannabelle said:

vikinganna87 said:

DH is shorter than me and it doesn't bother me at all, especially since he's not a skinny guy.  I can "hide" stuff on top of the fridge.

Dealbreakers: small appetite, doesn't drink alcohol, says stuff like "boo yah."  

  

Hell, yes, to the top of the fridge being invisible!

Seriously, girls, I'm shocked to see "short men" listed as a deal breaker on lists next to bigots and drug users and really bad things.  

What the hell. Do you seriously mean that if your fiancés and husbands were magically transformed into men shorter than you, it would all be over? Deal broken? No longer worthy of your love? All the other good qualities that made you love them would have been meaningless?

I have a very long list of deal breakers. Height isn't one of them. 

Please. I put "drives a yellow car on purpose" as one of mine.

See, this is why I went goofy with mine. Wise up, the rest of you.

Also, If a guy's peen curved to the left that would be okay, but if it curves to the right IT'S OVER.

If there is a penis I'm out.

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amelisha

I've got some dumb ones and some serious ones. I gave up on anyone who:

• is in a band
• doesn't like animals
• is a picky eater
• likes his car way too much
• can't keep his mess controlled (I don't need a clean freak, but anyone who just ruins what I clean can GTFO)
• is homophobic, xenophobic, misogynistic, or otherwise bigoted 
• is addicted (physically or psychologically) to pretty much anything (no smokers, no alcoholics, no one who can't put the damn playstation controller down for ten seconds)
• doesn't have a career plan
• doesn't like my parents
• has bad teeth

WinstonsGirl

Oh, I forgot one.  I won't date famous people/sports stars.  I wouldn't trust those hockey boys to not sleep with everyone they could on away games.  Or at home.  

@ohannabelle for me, I've never been attracted to short guys.  I'm 5'6", so not many will be shorter than me.  I couldn't date some one I'm not attracted to, so it's always been my one physical requirement.  I know it's not important compared to how he treats me, etc., and that there are a lot of amazing short guys out there, but I never would have considered DH if he was shorter, no.  Yup, it's shallow and maybe not totally right, but it fits in with my idea of beauty I guess.  As it it, he's really only 2-3" taller than me, but those 2" made all of the difference.  

drunkenwitch

Republican
Hates animals
Rude to the waitstaff
Starts a sentence with "I'm not "blank" BUT"
Can't match my banter
Always a victim
Has kids

ETA
Mansplaining
Gaslighting

madamerwin

pinkrevenge said:

Oooh, here's a dealbreaker. Someone who says "May I play Devil's Advocate?"

You may, but not within the same 1 mile radius as me.

I hate people who say that.

jdluvr06

I don't have many really. I wouldn't date anyone who

-doesn't like animals especially cats. I will always have a cat.

- is clingy. 

- doesn't hsvev a job. 

Hmm... If  I wouldn't have found h I would advise myself to raise my standards.... Also a lot of you wouldn't date me. I'm short and I smoke. Oh well... 

doeydo

Personal deal breaker list for me is if the person:

Is religious

Is homophobic

Has kids

Wants kids

Is not a feminist

Is sexist

Is racist

Votes for the Conservative Party

Is just plain mean

Is untrustworthy/a liar

Does drugs 

Dislikes animals in general

Dislikes cats

Dislikes movies

Is not looking for a monogamous and long term relationship

Wants to receive but not give (sexually and otherwise)

Does not have a job/no motivation for having a job

ETA

Against abortion

Wears fur

Has bad teeth

Very poor hygiene 

FiancB

The learned helplessness one is super good. My ex was a perfect example of someone with an external locus of control. He had no motivation and everything just sort of happened to him. Getting married? Something that would eventually just magically happen, not something that he'd actually have to decide to do. Getting mentally healthy? Not his responsibility. Finding a decent job? Something that happens, not something you try to do. Ughhh.

To add to the religious/not religious debate, I agree it's super important that we're on the same page. I'm an atheist, so I want to be with someone that is also an atheist. On the other hand, I don't want to be around someone that is an asshole about being an atheist- I may agree with them to an extent, but I don't like people that feel they're intellectually superior because of it and won't let you forget it. Likewise, if my kids did want to learn about and participate in religion, I wouldn't be thrilled but I would take them to church myself. 

H and I are on the same page with all of those things so it's a lot more than a screw religion kind of thing.

ohannabelle

drunkenwitch said:

Republican
Hates animals
Rude to the waitstaff
Starts a sentence with "I'm not "blank" BUT"
Can't match my banter
Always a victim
Has kids

ETA
Mansplaining
Gaslighting

That is a really good one. In my experience, someone who's always a victim and has lots of tragic poor me stories is someone that loves blaming other people for their own shitty choices. 

drunkenwitch

ohannabelle said:

drunkenwitch said:

Republican
Hates animals
Rude to the waitstaff
Starts a sentence with "I'm not "blank" BUT"
Can't match my banter
Always a victim
Has kids

ETA
Mansplaining
Gaslighting

That is a really good one. In my experience, someone who's always a victim and has lots of tragic poor me stories is someone that loves blaming other people for their own shitty choices. 

I have no patience for people who will not own their mistakes and have excuses for everything. We all fuck up, comes with being human, just admit it anD fix it. I have found that being a constant victim and never admitting you're wrong tend to go hand in hand.

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redoryx

katiekessler123 said:

My husband is an atheist and I'm Catholic.  We respect each other's opinions and it's truly never been an issue between us.

This is my BFF and her husband. He said that if raising kids Catholic was what it took to marry her, he was fine with that and they went through all the pre-Cana stuff and the priest knew and was totally okay with it. All he honestly cared about was whether either one was divorced. 

FiancB

Ooh I thought of another one. 

I learned the hard way that if they're a bad kisser, they are going to be even worse in bed.  Do not pass go. 

princessgracekelly

I'm also a little disappointed at the lack of love for short guys.

If you don't want him, I'll gladly take him off your hands.

(That being said, some short guys have a Napoleonic complex, and that's a deal breaker. Then again, 5'6" dudes don't rest their elbows on my 5'2" head. Just sayin'.) 

I'll take everyone else's deal breakers (seriously, how do misogynists and people who are dicks to servers breed?) and raise you:

--Incessant whining

--Condescension/mansplaining

--Anti-science/non-readers/people who don't think critically. I've found that the Venn diagram between the three is practically a circle.

--Poor grammar. I'm an editor, for crying out loud. If English is not your first language or you're mostly good with grammar but make a few slip-ups, that's okay. But if you've been through high school and your Facebook statuses and tweets read like mid-2000's text messages, sit your ass down.

--Someone who thinks Disney is childish. It is, but that doesn't stop me from doing "Circle of Life" with the cat on a weekly basis.

flbride2015

buttercup1958 said:

My deal breakers are:

All the serious things people have said. 

Now my not so serious ones:

Regiloius ( I'm an atheist so it won't work)

Believes Fox News a credible news source<------ This. So many times this. I've considered severing friendships over their Fox News viewing.

Can't be stupid/ doesn't like learning 

Isn't a feminist

Guys who have longer hair than me 

Doesn't have ANY hobbies 

Is anti-vaccine and believes science isn't real

If the person is a bro

Isn't funny, like at all

Doesn't want to travel 

And finally if you have the urge to argue about EVERYTHING

ETA: I forgot one!

[Deleted User]

I don't have many super serious ones, but many that you put also apply to me.

Mine are:

 is racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic (you get the idea)

is against abortion rights

hits me, even once

won't defend me if i'm not there when something is said

and for not as important things:

has hair shorter than shoulder length

expects gifts for holidays and anniversaries and won't try to gift me if they have the money (I've experienced those that only like receiving gifts) 

lacqueredlover

Hmmmm.  

Irresponsible with money/in debt.

Mean spirited.

Drug addict.

Not good in bed/not giving in bed/not sexually compatible.

Hates dogs.

Not socially liberal.

wandajune6

It's taken me a while to figure them out but here goes:

1. Socially conservative
2. Dependent on their parents- close is fine, needy is not
3. Crappy in bed
4. Incapable of fixing/maintaining basic things--- I thinking being handy with car/home things is sexy as fuck but I really can't handle guys who have no skills- they need to be able to do basic things like paint a wall or check their oil. I've dated lots of clueless guys.
5. Lack of career ambition. I can handle lack of education or money if they have goals that they're clearly working towards.
6. An intolerance for red hair all over the place (I shed)