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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    edited December 2011
    Nope. Not on a boat. That's not a "get the eff out" kinad attitude. Freaking A. I'm going to post it on your facebook now because you peaced out so Idk if you saw it.  :P
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  • elberr8819elberr8819 member
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    edited December 2011
    My husband and I did the same thing, and we decided to keep out decision amongst close family members and friends. Although this hasn't worked out to well, especially with social networking sights like facebook, are secret is out. It isn't like we decided to lie to people, why would we want such a happy thing to be like that? No, it was a matter of keeping our "big ceremony" really special. We are terrified that if more people find out, they won't come to the big one that we have already tossed alot of money into. It's an upward battle, and all I can say is... It's your wedding, do it how you want to! Who cares what other people think, you are in love.. that is all that matters Laughing
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  • elberr8819elberr8819 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you... thank you... why is everyone being so damn mean about this?
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:89ddacfc-49a4-4992-8ef5-ff38d4c33ba0">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]My husband and I did the same thing, and we decided to keep out decision amongst close family members and friends. Although this hasn't worked out to well, especially with social networking sights like facebook, are secret is out. It isn't like we decided to lie to people, why would we want such a happy thing to be like that? No, it was a matter of keeping our "big ceremony" really special. We are terrified that if more people find out, they won't come to the big one that we have already tossed alot of money into. It's an upward battle, and all I can say is... It's your wedding, do it how you want to! Who cares what other people think, you are in love.. that is all that matters
    Posted by elberr8819[/QUOTE]

    <div>So, you're terrified that people will repay your dishonesty by not coming to your vow renewal? Huh. I would go to a VR all day long. If I found out someone I thought was my friend was a liar, well, yeah, I'd probably miss their "wedding".</div>
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  • lpwhitlpwhit
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    edited December 2011
    We are seriously thinking about going to the JOP about 6 months before our actual wedding to get all of the legalities out of the way and so that I can get on tricare because I have a lot of health issues and we dont want to have to worry about rushing around changing everything when we get back from our honeymoon. Plus I would be able to change my name on my passport so we could have the same last name on our honeymoon. We would only tell our parents and some close friends (because they would notice that I could get on base myself lol). We would still use our actual wedding date instead of the JOP for pretty much everything but Air Force stuff.

    Dont let anyone make you feel bad for getting married beforehand. Its a personal decision and I know a lot of military couples who went to JOP before their actual wedding just to make things easier. Everyone has different situations. 
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:6ac323c8-f154-4335-8009-1c6d8c5437f0">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>We are seriously thinking about going to the JOP about 6 months before our actual wedding to get all of the legalities out of the way and so that I can get on tricare because I have a lot of health issues and we dont want to have to worry about rushing around changing everything when we get back from our honeymoon. Plus I would be able to change my name on my passport so we could have the same last name on our honeymoon. </strong>We would only tell our parents and some close friends (because they would notice that I could get on base myself lol). We would still use our actual wedding date instead of the JOP for pretty much everything but Air Force stuff. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for getting married beforehand. Its a personal decision and I know a lot of military couples who went to JOP before their actual wedding just to make things easier. Everyone has different situations. 
    Posted by lpwhit[/QUOTE]

    <div>Obviously you're going to do what you want, but those excuse are both lame.  It took us one stop and a total of about an hour and a half to get my enrolled into DEERS and Tricare, and get my dependent ID.  I don't know why you would feel the need to "rush around changing everything."  </div><div>
    </div><div>Also, if I find out that someone I was close to lied to me about being married simply because she wanted to have the same name as her H when they went on their honeymoon, I would be ridiculously hurt and mad.  Besides, the only thing that your name would matter for is your airline ticket.  </div><div>
    </div><div>But, I mean, as long as you have your priorities straight...</div>
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:6ac323c8-f154-4335-8009-1c6d8c5437f0">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]We are seriously thinking about going to the JOP about 6 months before our actual wedding to get all of the legalities out of the way and so that I can get on tricare because I have a lot of health issues and we dont want to have to worry about rushing around changing everything when we get back from our honeymoon. Plus I would be able to change my name on my passport so we could have the same last name on our honeymoon. We would only tell our parents and some close friends (because they would notice that I could get on base myself lol). We would still use our actual wedding date instead of the JOP for pretty much everything but Air Force stuff. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for getting married beforehand. Its a personal decision and I know a lot of military couples who went to JOP before their actual wedding just to make things easier. Everyone has different situations. 
    Posted by lpwhit[/QUOTE]

    If you are going to get married before your "wedding day" then just say that. Don't use the excuse of paper work etc. It took me and H a day to get our marriage license and LESS THAN AN HOUR to enroll in DEERS.

    Also, millions and millions of people each year figure out how to go on their honeymoon with their "old name".

    If you want to lie to your guests, don't blame it on things that are excuses.

    Like Stan said, I would go to a vow renewal all day.. excuses are the things that would piss me off and keep me away.

    Good luck with that.
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:6ac323c8-f154-4335-8009-1c6d8c5437f0">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]We are seriously thinking about going to the JOP about 6 months before our actual wedding to get all of the legalities out of the way and so that I can get on tricare because I have a lot of health issues and we dont want to have to worry about rushing around changing everything when we get back from our honeymoon. <strong>Plus I would be able to change my name on my passport so we could have the same last name on our honeymoon.</strong> We would only tell our parents and some close friends (because they would notice that I could get on base myself lol). We would still use our actual wedding date instead of the JOP for pretty much everything but Air Force stuff. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for getting married beforehand. Its a personal decision and I know a lot of military couples who went to JOP before their actual wedding just to make things easier. Everyone has different situations. 
    Posted by lpwhit[/QUOTE]
    Sorry. You know there are people who *gasp* NEVER change their name and NEVER have the same last name as their husbands, right? And they're still married and in love. 
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wish this thread would die. Honestly. People are getting ridiculous.

    It took me 10 minutes to get my marriage license so I could change my name.
    It took  me 15 minutes at Social Security to request a new card.
    It took me 15 minutes at DMV to get a new license and change over my title/registration on my car.
    It took about 1 1/2 hrs at IPAC and DEERS to get me in the system.


    So that is 2 hrs and 10 minutes it took me to do all that. That it is a ridiculous reason to get married. And really? So you can have the same last name to go on your honeymoon. apparently having same name />being honest to friends and family. Way to go.
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  • tsavillatsavilla
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    edited December 2011
    I wish this thread would die too. Maybe it's because I'm kind of new to The Knot, but I just don't see what all the fuss is about. Are there really that strong of opinions on what SOMEONE ELSE does for their wedding/vow renewal/ whatever you want to call it? To each his own. 

    Let's not forget that this is her decision, and no one else's. All she asked for was advice on telling her guests, not "Please tell me all the reasons why you're better than me because I got officially married before having the ceremony for it." And while I'm on the subject, some consider the word "wedding" as meaning the ceremony devoted to the actual celebration of their marriage, shared with family and friends. If she hasn't had one of these yet, then by God, she can call it her wedding if she wants to.

    Why all the hostility?? It's just silly.

    If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:26ae1ec4-b4a2-4819-8820-bec82f64711c">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    <div>AKA: ENABLE BAD DECISIONS!</div>
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  • tsavillatsavilla
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    edited December 2011

    So what? It's her decision.

    People come to these things looking for CONSTRUCTIVE feedback/criticism. If someone thinks she's making a bad decision, that's ok. But there are ways to go about telling someone that without being so hostile HaHa. That's all I'm saying.

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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:a83bfe4b-c41b-4d1f-9d74-424a02635500">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]So what? It's her decision. People come to these things looking for CONSTRUCTIVE feedback/criticism. If someone thinks she's making a bad decision, that's ok. But there are ways to go about telling someone that without being so hostile HaHa. That's all I'm saying.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks mom.  </div>
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:26ae1ec4-b4a2-4819-8820-bec82f64711c">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wish this thread would die too. Maybe it's because I'm kind of new to The Knot, but I just don't see what all the fuss is about. Are there really that strong of opinions on what SOMEONE ELSE does for their wedding/vow renewal/ whatever you want to call it? To each his own.  Let's not forget that this is her decision, and no one else's. All she asked for was advice on telling her guests, not "Please tell me all the reasons why you're better than me because I got officially married before having the ceremony for it." And while I'm on the subject, some consider the word "wedding" as meaning the ceremony devoted to the actual celebration of their marriage, shared with family and friends. If she hasn't had one of these yet, then by God, she can call it her wedding if she wants to. Why all the hostility?? It's just silly. If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    I, for one (and I'm going to say the others), did not give a hostile response. Here is the deal. We are all military. We all have stress and struggles with being in the military or our H/FI being in the military. However, we all found a way to not lie to our guests. Some also found a way to JOP and then have avow renewal. My H had a terrible time trying to get off to get our marriage license but that didn't make me want to secretly get married last year when he had a week of leave. No, it made me figure out a way to make it work... And it worked. Excuses in general and in everyday life don't fly with me. You want to get married and then have a huge party later? Be my guest. But please don't give some excuse about paper work. Own the decision because excuses are just excuses.
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hike I think I love you. To the other poster we must clearly have different ideas of what hostile means. No one was mean. Everyone offered up different pieces of advice and suggested to not lie to family and friends. If someone posts asking for advice I'm not going to be quiet just because I disagree with them. That's the whole point of this message board. No one is going to condone lying to family and friends on this board. Like hike said, I don't care what someone does as long as they are honest to family and friends, but don't give me excuses about why you (general you) HAD to get married ASAP and lie to everyone. Its all total BS.
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  • tsavillatsavilla
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:bfc0e0d9-d725-455e-8fe6-5c281227ec11">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : Thanks mom.  
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    You're right . . .  no hostility there at all.
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  • melbelle24melbelle24 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:8abce8bc-0dfd-45ad-b664-390d0c0fddf3">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : You're right . . .  no hostility there at all.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    I read that more as sarcasm than hostility.
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:8abce8bc-0dfd-45ad-b664-390d0c0fddf3">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : You're right . . .  no hostility there at all.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    <div>Funny how you're only example of "hostility" came after you called us hostile.  Sylvia Browne, is that you?</div>
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  • calindicalindi member
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    Sarcasm =/= Hostility

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  • boatnerfaceboatnerface member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:26ae1ec4-b4a2-4819-8820-bec82f64711c">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wish this thread would die too. Maybe it's because I'm kind of new to The Knot, but I just don't see what all the fuss is about. Are there really that strong of opinions on what SOMEONE ELSE does for their wedding/vow renewal/ whatever you want to call it? To each his own.  Let's not forget that this is her decision, and no one else's. All she asked for was advice on telling her guests, not "Please tell me all the reasons why you're better than me because I got officially married before having the ceremony for it." And while I'm on the subject, some consider the word "wedding" as meaning the ceremony devoted to the actual celebration of their marriage, shared with family and friends. If she hasn't had one of these yet, then by God, she can call it her wedding if she wants to. Why all the hostility?? It's just silly. If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all.
    Posted by tsavilla[/QUOTE]

    love this :) this board isn't worth your time though. No one listens and they all insist you're horrible and incosiderate for *gasp!* lying!!! (when you aren't lying, just redefining what a wedding is) oy.
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:41541c8a-d0b5-4807-b3a7-7d7004627d9c">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : love this :) this board isn't worth your time though. No one listens and they all insist you're horrible and incosiderate for *gasp!* lying!!! (when you aren't lying, just redefining what a wedding is) oy.
    Posted by boatnerface[/QUOTE]

    <div>LOL. You sound like President Clinton. I didn't lie. Is just meant something different to me.</div><div>
    </div><div>You *are* lying if people think they're seeing you get married and you're already married. Just be honest. 99% of people will be happy to go to a VR. I would be.</div>
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  • manderz103manderz103 member
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    edited December 2011
    My husband and I did the same thing and we have a wedding date set for a time when he can take leave so we can have the wedding with our family and friends in our hometown. Don't listen to the negativity from anyone, if thats what you want to do and you know you have friends and family that support you then thats all that matters :)
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  • boatnerfaceboatnerface member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:74b0b8b6-a78d-4240-9519-dbfdd1c704ba">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : LOL. You sound like President Clinton. I didn't lie. Is just meant something different to me. You *are* lying if people think they're seeing you get married and you're already married. Just be honest. 99% of people will be happy to go to a VR. I would be.
    Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]

    All I'm trying to say is to many people there is both a legal and religious/family/emotional component to getting married, and a JOP situation only covers the legal end. Thus the 2nd ceremony covers the part of a wedding that's about your emotional community. It's more than just a VR because this component hasn't taken place yet, it's not like it's a do-over.
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:23162fd2-3515-4bee-9a95-d1f6422f0a95">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Married before the BIG wedding : All I'm trying to say is to many people there is both a legal and religious/family/emotional component to getting married, and a JOP situation only covers the legal end. Thus the 2nd ceremony covers the part of a wedding that's about your emotional community. It's more than just a VR because this component hasn't taken place yet, it's not like it's a do-over.
    Posted by boatnerface[/QUOTE]

    <div>You say vows at a JOP. So it is, in fact, a renewal of vows. Look, I don't care if you want to have a VR on every monthaversary. My qualm is when people lie. If anyone thinks they're watching you get both legally and religiously married, you're lying, at least by omission, and that's unacceptable.</div><div>
    </div><div>I think getting married before another wedding is silly, because I think they're generally for misguided reasons (like BAH, joint assignment, health care, etc.), or the actual VR is just for show, and that's an awful lot of $ for a nice show. But again, I don't care what other people do, until they start touting dishonesty as something people in the military should take part in.</div>
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Boat-I think you're misunderstanding what Stan is saying and what we are all saying. If you want to call it a religious ceremony, go right ahead. It still isn't a wedding. I know for the catholic church it is called a convalidation and it is generally done with little fanfare and does not look like a "wedding" (i.e. big white dress, lots of people and attendants etc).

    But the main concern that everyone is trying to say is that we don't care what you do as long as you don't lie to family and friends about being married. I don't care what you do and what kind of ceremony you have (general you), but don't tell me that you needed the "religious" ceremony  to make your marriage valid and in order to do that you had to lie to people. That does not fit into my idea of any kind of religion or spirituality and I call BS on that.
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:3a07eb99-1a5d-46de-8f25-1b41d773509e">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]Boat-I think you're misunderstanding what Stan is saying and what we are all saying. If you want to call it a religious ceremony, go right ahead. It still isn't a wedding. I know for the catholic church it is called a convalidation and it is generally done with little fanfare and does not look like a "wedding" (i.e. big white dress, lots of people and attendants etc). But the main concern that everyone is trying to say is that we don't care what you do as long as you don't lie to family and friends about being married. <strong>I don't care what you do and what kind of ceremony you have (general you), but don't tell me that you needed the "religious" ceremony  to make your marriage valid and in order to do that you had to lie to people. That does not fit into my idea of any kind of religion or spirituality and I call BS on that.</strong>
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    This is one of the many reasons that I love you GG!
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  • leahmeleah12leahmeleah12 member
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    edited December 2011
    Whatever your reasons are, they are yours and you do not have to share them with anyone. My FI and I are in the exact same position. We will be getting married next month and having the actual wedding in August of 2012. Our close friends and family understand and support us, but there are also others who don't. We are choosing to not tell anyone else about it. I think it is our personal decision and it is what is best for us. Do not let anyone get you and your now HUSBAND down, this is an amazing time for you guys! Enjoy it and enjoy each other!! 
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:470bf38d-97e5-4b91-97e2-bdf393483f4f">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]Whatever your reasons are, they are yours and you do not have to share them with anyone. My FI and I are in the exact same position. We will be getting married next month and having the actual wedding in August of 2012. Our close friends and family understand and support us, but there are also others who don't. We are choosing to not tell anyone else about it. I think it is our personal decision and it is what is best for us. Do not let anyone get you and your now HUSBAND down, this is an amazing time for you guys! Enjoy it and enjoy each other!! 
    Posted by leahmeleah12[/QUOTE]


    Eh gads, why won't this thing die?!

    If he's your HUSBAND, will you be calling him that, or your FI until August 2012?  Because every time you call him your FI, you'll be lying.  LYING.

    I can't imagine getting married and keeping it a secret.  I'd want to shout it from the rooftops.  This is all just ridiculous circular logic that basically says, "If I want to do it, then it must be okay."  Just because it's easier doesn't make it right, and I agree 100% with Stan - I don't like people making it seem like it is acceptable to be deceitful simply because it makes things easier in the short run with the military.

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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    edited December 2011
    Has anyone every heard the song, "This is the song that never ends. It goes on and on my friends. Some people started singining it not knowing what it was and they'll continue singing it forever just because this is the song that never ends...."

    My 5th graders sing it.

    I feel like i should take out the word song and insert thread.

    Ugh!
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Lambchop reference! Love! Hike marry me and let's have five vowel renewals!
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