Married before the BIG wedding

LetsHikeToday

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:4b09ed4a-6304-4184-bce7-601be66b1cc0">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Lambchop reference! Love! Hike marry me and let's have five vowel renewals!
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

Yes!!!!

ablackburn6

If I were you(and I'm in your same position) I wouldn't give a damn what the girls on this board have to say.  My fiance is getting deployed in March 2012, if we don't get married before he leaves and something happens to him while he is over seas I have no more rights to his information than the chick he dated in high school.  We will be making our marriage legal but having a full ceremoney and reception in December of 2012 when he gets back.  We won't be telling anyone because we don't want to make a big deal of that, all we are doing is signing the paperwork and I'm picking up his insurance. We are still looking at our wedding as the date in Oct, we aren't looking to get two gifts or manipulate any of our loved ones.  But we don't want people to think we left them out of something that was more legal than anything.  Ultimately it is your choice, if you don't go into it with malicious intentions then you are fine.  If guests find out and ask explain your situation, I would imagine the people who truly love and support you guys will be understanding.

ggirl2001

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_married-before-big-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:4de95d91-2fd1-4282-945b-cf0f675d029bPost:e6c41fab-df22-49dd-b4a1-85ab947bfb82">Re: Married before the BIG wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]If I were you(and I'm in your same position) I wouldn't give a damn what the girls on this board have to say.  My fiance is getting deployed in 2012, if we don't get married before he leaves and something happens to him while he is over seas I have no more rights to his information than the chick he dated in high school.  We will be making our marriage legal but having a full ceremoney and reception in of 2012 when he gets back.  We won't be telling anyone because we don't want to make a big deal of that, all we are doing is signing the paperwork and I'm picking up his insurance. We are still looking at our wedding as the date in Oct, we aren't looking to get two gifts or manipulate any of our loved ones.  But we don't want people to think we left them out of something that was more legal than anything.  Ultimately it is your choice, if you don't go into it with malicious intentions then you are fine.  If guests find out and ask explain your situation, I would imagine the people who truly love and support you guys will be understanding.
Posted by ablackburn6[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry guys I beetlejuiced this. To this poster, he can give you power of attorney and you have all the rights. You don't need to be married for that. ***my phone let me edit***

calindi

Oh geez, they're coming out of the woodwork!

1)  Notice the dates of posts.  This one is old, like two months old.  Typically, we tend to create a new thread if it's been more than a few days to a few weeks since the last post.

2)  Being married doesn't entitle you to any more information than having a Power of Attorney (both financial and medical) and you can actually have far MORE powers with one of those than simply being married. 

3)  You go ahead and start your married life by lying to family and friends.  See how that works out for you.  Personally, I want my married life to start with all of my closest family & friends around us, wishing us well.  If that weren't possible,  I'd want at least our immediate families there to celebrate with us, and then have a bigger party later with everyone else, but I'd never deceive people just because it's not how I dreamed it as a kid.  We all know real life isn't the same as our fantasies, and we have to address those challenges as mature, rational adults.  Doing something in secret and then playing dress up later isn't mature or rational.

ggirl2001

Also take the deployment months out of your post. Hike I'm on my phone could you edit what I quoted?

LetsHikeToday

For some reason, I can't edit.

SamiJoeB

Man... Effing Beetlejuice!!