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Re: Frustrated!

  • SassyFlatsSassyFlats member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:2fd9ca96-0662-4a91-ac98-0f8960094ca5">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Frustrated! : I get it.  I'm just nosey.  Who knows, I COULD be your internet-stalking family member.... (Cue twilight zone music)
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]


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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:955047b5-eaf3-4d5c-9247-a4892e0479c7">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Frustrated! : Mine calls down unicorns from the heavens to fight evil on my behalf. And if I shine it at a 42 degree angle under a full moon, leprachauns appear and do all my chores! I LOVE MY ENGAGEMENT RING! Now, I just need to figure out the trick to calling Captain Planet.
    Posted by SassyFlats[/QUOTE]

    Oh.Em.Gee!!  REALLY!?!?  Now, I HAVE to have one!!  ::scampers off to hound BF until he's on the verge of breaking up with me but then realizes that he desperately WANTS to buy me a ring that I DESERVE!::
  • edited December 2011
    I can handle my relationships everyone- my relationship with my man is GREAT but we are going to do counseling before the wedding to give us a good foundation, something we'd always planned on. My dad is ok with us going ahead and getting married, but I do have to go stay with my aunt until the wedding. I'm not as stupid as all of you think. 
  • SassyFlatsSassyFlats member
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    edited December 2011
    I never said you were stupid. Hard-headed, maybe. Not clearly responding and then expecting us to know what was going on, yes.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:69903b56-a782-4aa2-8545-23a6cce92fe0">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Frustrated! : Yes.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    And what  would that be? I am not trying to be snarky, I just really don't understand.


    "I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:05c1d4f9-9f81-401e-b254-329e35db42a2">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Frustrated! : And what  would that be? I am not trying to be snarky, I just really don't understand.
    Posted by sweetvidalia[/QUOTE]

    Schiano was implying more than just the place of residence.  It's about needing some time in your life to be independent, financially, socially, and emotionally, to learn who you really are and how to be an adult.  I don't think you necessarily have to live completely alone for a while, but I think you can seriously stifle your development to go straight from a situation where you're living with and dependent upon your parents to one where you're living with and dependent upon your husband.
  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    <div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">In Response to <a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:62d60f4d-59cf-463f-a333-d6a08d00e239">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You guys like brutal honesty?  Well, then okay.  I think people who are brutally honest with no regard for tact lack class.  I think they're bullies.  There are ways to get the same point across more effectively and<strong> without ridiculing or belittling someone else,</strong> simply by using tact - that is the educated, mature, and classy way to express disagreement.  When I see someone being unnecessarily cruel, I think they're a pretty small person and I lose respect for them. Overall, I think this thread was very well handled - people got frustrated, but really tried to express their opinions, ask probing questions to understand the situation, and convince the OP to open her mind to other viewpoints of the situation (who unfortunately had her head in the sand).  Being 'blunt' (or really, cruel and mocking) would not have gotten the point across any better, but might have been better "entertainment value" for those who like schadenfreude. 
    </div><span style="line-height:normal;" class="Apple-style-span">Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]</span><div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:62e7030f-8f22-464b-96ba-84566ca275af">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You can sign a 6 month lease.  You can sign a month-to-month lease.  I really don't see the problem.  It's not a waste to do exactly what you're saying you want to do - move out of your parents house.  If that's the reason you're in such a rush and not willing to let your guy go at his own pace, then just MOVE OUT. This is what I see: a<strong> little girl </strong>who loves her boyfriend who really wants to live with him.  That<strong> little girl</strong> has been talking marriage since it seems the very first days of this relationship, and while her boyfriend probably sees a future with her, he seems to be throwing up roadblocks to slow things down until he's ready (namely, saying he isn't ready to get married until he can buy you a ring).  The same l<strong>ittle girl</strong> wants to not live with her parents anymore (and really, what 18+ year old wants to still live with their parents?) and sees getting married as this mecca of domestic bliss, where she'll get to live with her boyfriend and be together, happily ever after.  So she's planned a wedding with her Mom in her <strong>little head,</strong> and is now mad that her boyfriend isn't playing along with her timeline.  Did I miss anything?  Oh yeah, the whole bit with bugging Dad, who the little girl clearly has a distant relationship with, to approve of her wedding from the very first days of dating this guy.  There is NO REASON to rush to get married.
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  • SassyFlatsSassyFlats member
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    edited December 2011
    OH, I was like... pig in a box?




    I get it now. lol
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:92196a76-6c73-4897-a8c6-d559cc93d3e9">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]OH, I was like... pig in a box? I get it now. lol
    Posted by SassyFlats[/QUOTE]

    <div>It took me a minute too...</div>

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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, hey, I have no problem saying it straight out:

    Cate is being a total hypocrite.

    Cate, you LITERALLY belittled the OP yourself.

    Practice what you preach.





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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    Goldfish memory.

    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    That took me awhile too. It also took me a freaking long time to post this because of Firefox issues.
  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 Washington, DC member
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    edited December 2011
    I still don't get it :(
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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    It's a crate. With a hippo in it. A crate of hippo. Or a hippo-crate.

    Geez.

    :P
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 Washington, DC member
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    edited December 2011
    *facepalm*

    I'm a moron.
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    We R slow, dessert. Dun't ya kno that?
  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:d15d535b-091e-4348-a0bb-42b5bdf27d7b">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]We R slow, dessert. Dun't ya kno that?
    Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I love all you bitches anyway. Slow, quick, mean, nice. It's okay for us all to have different opinions and different ways to express them. It's okay to disagree.</div><div>
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  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:a2665b66-dc6f-4b1e-8d91-885f2210ecdd">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh desert, you give me the warm fuzzies!
    Posted by sunbird627[/QUOTE]

    and the giggles.  much <3
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_frustrated-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:45689460-4b9f-4f14-bf1a-5123b9c4da3dPost:8e75b63c-ac74-40d5-a8c3-615b2af26cdf">Re: Frustrated!</a>:
    [QUOTE]*facepalm* I'm a moron.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    Omg me too! I even had BF look at it cause I couldn't tell what it was!

    Hahahahahahah. *It's been a long day*
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