I had to go to class, so I missed most of the fun. Booo!
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around?Not really. LOL. Some don't annoy me as much. I think that others believe that I didn't like them, when really I just disagreed. It's the internet, so I don't put much into disliking posters. This doesn't mean that some don't rub me the wrong way or that I 'like' them. You have to actually do something to me for me to dislike you.
Then again, I do have a special button:
Any posters you are glad to see gone? Yep!
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)? Posters who think they are super speshul and have super duper speshul circumstances.
Posters who cannot bother to do basic proofreading or use the spellcheck button at the bottom annoy the piss out of me. (My most annoying side effect from this pregnancy has been my lapse in correct typing. Ugh.)
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far?
DH and I have always said that we got married because we loved the relationship we had and we wanted to have that forever. We didn't plan on much changing, and the main components of our relationship haven't. (We've told several friends to not expect the person to change because you get married. Their annoying traits are STILL going to be there after the rings. They aren't magically going to start doing something differently.)
I think the most unexpected thing in our marriage is how easy it has been. So many people say that the 1st year is sooo hard, and for us, it just wasn't. During that year, we moved 500 miles, bought a house and had a baby. We expect there to be tough times to come. It is inevitable, but I know without a doubt that we can get through the sh!t.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY? First, I met Ocean and RickyLee. RickyLee, Oceana's mom and I consipired for me to surprise Oceana during her shower/bachelorette weekend. I even slept at her house. CREEPER!
Then, I met Anna and Hetshup during Oceana's wedding weekend. It was mind blowing.
Finally, I met Kat when I went East for my little bro's graduation.
I have plans to meet other OGs in the future.
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
The core of our relationship has not changed. The awesome part is being a 'family.' DH and I are each others primary family now, and we viewed ourselves as such before we had Mr. Man.
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? I encourage PIP to answer this question.
AW WARNING!!!!!
Seeing my DH at the end of the aisle. His expression made me cry happy tears.
My cathedral length veil
Seeing the kids play lawn games
My 2nd dress! So twirly
Our cheeky cake topper
The whole feel of the reception space
Most memorable part - DH passing out during our ceremony. Yes, you read that correctly. He passed out. (We were already 'married' and kneeling when he got dizzy.) (post-passing out)
When I came to TK, BF and I were in a LDR. I was commuting. I moved to his town, we lived there for about a year, then his job changed and we moved. We are moving AGAIN this week - and buying a house! (FTR, I don't recommend buying a house unless getting married is in the one or two year plan AND you have sufficient legal agreements in case things go to heck...)
There are/were a few posters I don't like - usually ones who ask for opinions but only want opinions that validate their own. Those people can suck it.
I've met Rickylee, Oceana and Ana. AWESOME!
Pirate wedding, murder mystery wedding were probably some of the best threads.
I don't post anywhere else. I keep in touch with OG in other ways, but sometimes I get b*tchy on TK so I've avoided it lately.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:0ba4c51a-ef16-4780-b22f-9d2468f2081e">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE]TK ate the rest of my post! Short version: When I came to TK, BF and I were in a LDR. I was commuting. I moved to his town, we lived there for about a year, then his job changed and we moved. We are moving AGAIN this week - and buying a house! (FTR, I don't recommend buying a house unless getting married is in the one or two year plan AND you have sufficient legal agreements in case things go to heck...) There are/were a few posters I don't like - usually ones who ask for opinions but only want opinions that validate their own. Those people can suck it. <strong>I've met Rickylee, Oceana and Ana. AWESOME! </strong>Pirate wedding, murder mystery wedding were probably some of the best threads. I don't post anywhere else. I keep in touch with OG in other ways, but sometimes I get b*tchy on TK so I've avoided it lately. Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
MARGARITAS NOM NOM NOM :)
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:f4161cfb-ff19-488e-9c6d-9ff15fff6ff4">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE]Also, where's Jeana and Kat? Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
*WAVES*
Hi!! I heard there was an OG reunion on here!
I check NEY very rarely these days... every once in a while!! Most of the ladies I used to talk to regularly I'm FB friends with (PM me if I am not!) and I stalk NEY every once in a while to check up on those I'm not. However, most girls are newbies these days and I've lost interest a little bit.
I still miss how much fun we used to have on NEY! Such a good time! I will try to go thru and answer some questions.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:50382ba0-0d4d-406c-b752-d36b0085cecc">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask OGs questions : *WAVES* Hi!! I heard there was an OG reunion on here! I check NEY very rarely these days... every once in a while!! Most of the ladies I used to talk to regularly I'm FB friends with (PM me if I am not!) and I stalk NEY every once in a while to check up on those I'm not. However, most girls are newbies these days and I've lost interest a little bit. I still miss how much fun we used to have on NEY! Such a good time! I will try to go thru and answer some questions. Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
I giggle every time I see your siggie pic <3
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
What was your relationship status when you started posting? What is it now (any babies?!)?
I joined NEY a few months before we got engaged. Now we are marrried and are DIY renovating our first house that we bought!
What is the most memorable thread you've seen on TK?
Oh man. Is it "ice rink bride" or "I act growner than I am bride"? Who knows.
To me the best memories were the silly fun things like QOTW or Fake Registries for people. Also, fake wedding planning for Button and Narwhal were always a good time.
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY?
My most BSC moment was wanting to put a deposit on our reception place before we were engaged because there had been a cancellation and I knew it would get snatched up. But my DH was NOT wanting to talk about anything wedding related bc we were on the verge of getting engaged. I had a crazy 10 minutes.
Oddly enough, he had already talked to my parents about proposing, so in their own bsc moment they put a deposit down to reserve the date without telling us. They gave us the option after we got engaged. And we took it! (Does this still make me a little bsc? IDK.)
How did you suppress your BSC?
Talking to people and befriending girls on NEY was the BEST solution for battling bsc.
What's the best advice someone gave you back when you were NEY that you can pass on to us now?
Enjoy the anticipation of the proposal. This will never happen again. (I think that was Jeana wisdom.)
Now that you're no longer a regular poster on NEY, where do you post most frequently and why did you leave NEY?
I posted pretty much only on NEY. I started posting on the Christian board too, but that board started right before I got married and knotting less.
I left because the group dynamic had shifted. There were a lot of new posters and it wasn't the same place anymore. It was getting drama-filled. I don't do drama.
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around?
Umm, not really. In general I liked most people. If there was someone I didn't like, that usually didn't change.
Any posters you are glad to see gone?
Of course! It's hard when posters change the dynamic of the baord for everyone. Especially when a lot of us are friends. There is a right board for everyone. NEY just might not be the right board for some people.
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)?
People convinced they are ready to get engaged when maybe they shouldn't be.
People concerned about size and stones of their diamond. Do whatever you want ladies! It's your ring!
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far?
No one can prepare you for the day-in, day-out effort that needs to take place. It's not a bad thing, but it takes emotional effort to give someone the best part of yourself everyday when you're tired or hungry and just want to sleep.
Also, I just wanted to say that as the former "saving-sex-for-marriage" person of the board, it was totally worth it. For us. To the others who are doing the same (and I know there are a few!) just take heart and stay true to your heart if it's what you want. Know that even though it's difficult it is rewarding.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY? I have been lucky enough to meet Paige, Button, NotQuiteBlushing and Mutley. (!!!) Yay!! I have hopes to meet more of my friends in the future. Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed? We love being married. A lot changed for us since we didn't live together before we were married. In some ways nothing has changed at all. In other ways we're so much more unified and have a deeper sense of teamwork and love since we've been married.
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? I encourage PIP to answer this question.
Oh man! Too many to choose! I suppose you should check out my bio for pics.
The ceremony was a highlight! We tried to make it very personal to us and our families.
We loved our first dance! We just had so much fun!
And we also did a last dance while our getaway car was being pulled up. It was a nice way to end the whole day together.
Also, I had so much fun with my BMs getting ready in the morning. We all did our makeup together and the hair-girl came to the house. We just had coffee and played music and had fun. It was a fantastic and relaxing morning.
And, not to totally AW here or anything, I have a blog now. I am sure I will continue to pop in NEY every once in a while, but you can find me at http://withywindle.wordpress.com/
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:9c9a0873-e56f-4684-a596-694a59478269">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask OGs questions : I giggle every time I see your siggie pic <3 Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
*BEAR HUGS!!!!!!!!*
Oh yeah, and I miss saying "there goes the sobe" and people knowing what I'm talking about. ;)
You may have seen my name in the meeting knotties but here I am.
What was your relationship status when you started posting? What is it now (any babies?!)? I started posting when Oceana told me to get on here, I believe I was already engaged. Now we've been married 1.5 years and our only baby is of the furry variety
What is the most memorable thread you've seen on TK? Ice rink suprise christmas wedding girl. Was a troll but was hilarious. Also any post of Jeana's where she went (fake) BSC
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY? No I didn't. I also wasnt flamed because Oceana vouched about how cool I was LOL
What's the best advice someone gave you back when you were NEY that you can pass on to us now? Enjoy your relationship and don't rush it. Time will take its course when both you and he are ready. Pressure only puts stress on the relationship causing it to crack. Relax!
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around? I put everyone in the like category and then I tend to grow to dislike them due to their own behavior.
Any posters you are glad to see gone? There are a number that I'm glad because the drama llamas dont take away from those who have real questions and real problems, but I still hope they are happy whereever they are.
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)? Anything you roll your eyes at even though many, or most people seem to like to talk about it? Brand name diamond settings + size of said diamond. The size or brand does not indicate how much your FI loves you.
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far? Weddings bring out the worst in people, especially families. And many times these happy events are used as firepower in some stupid on going battle. Do whatever you and your FI want and dont let those others around you push thier negativity. There was nothing unexpected for us with marriage. We had lived together before for a year and half.
Where do you post now, or do you just not post at all? I very occassionally still post here, but mostly lurk and see what you ladies are up to. Most often I'm on Facebook and google +
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY? I knew Oceana first, then met Ana, Mutley, Hetshup, Button, and Paint And I've google+ chatted with Jeana, Sapphire, Paige, and Acro
I cant wait for the OG GTG in 2012!
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed? Not much has changed but is way more awesome. And I'm looking forward to the next stages of our life
. What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? The "I'm on a Boat" sing along, the Hora where I was almost decapitated by a chandelier, Oceana doing shots with my family. Every momement was memerable though
What was your relationship status when you started posting? What is it now (any babies?!)?
I was NEY, but with DH.
No babbies. Yet.
What is the most memorable thread you've seen on TK?
Oh, the ice rink wedding... and the Olive Garden thread. And, if I may say so, my engougemint chikkin thread was pretty amazing. Some people apparently even thought I was serious. I go a little wacky when I lose my mind. lol
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY?
Yep. I started posting a LONG time ago, and got flamed because I wanted to plan my wedding and he hadn't proposed. I told the original snarky girls that they were meaner than a video game forum, and they made fun of me even more. So I didn't post for a year or something. When I came back, the OG was just starting out. Also, I thought DH would actually propose somewhat soon. I was wrong. It was like another year or more. Good thing I stopped pre-planning.
How did you suppress your BSC?
I learned to enjoy being with him. I moved across the country to finally be WITH DH, and I learned (with support from my girls here), that I was wasting precious time by stressing over a proposal and wedding.
What's the best advice someone gave you back when you were NEY that you can pass on to us now?
Number your RSVPs and pick your battles carefully. And, no matter what, be gracious. It will get you a long, long way in wedding planning and in life.
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around?
I give pretty much everyone the benefit of the doubt at first.
Any posters you are glad to see gone?
Yes.
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far?
Being married didn't change much in our relationship, and I'm thrilled. He still plays video games, I still freak out and babble like a lunatic. And so on. Like Mutley, we've had a relatively easy first year of marriage, and I wonder if that has something to do with being honest and having realistic expectations for each other.
Where do you post now, or do you just not post at all?
I don't post on forums. I keep in touch with the people I want to keep in touch with. I got burned shortly before my wedding by posting things on forums that maybe I should have known better about posting. I tried not to let that affect my posting habits, but it did. Forums just aren't the same for me anymore. I'm a little paranoid about what I say in any sort of public way online. So, I just don't say anything.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY?
Acro, Sunbird, Jeter, and Hetshup. Am I forgetting anyone? And, in case you didn't notice, we all have plans to get together this winter. I hope I can make it.
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
The difference is small, and very subtle. I'm his "wife" and he's my "husband" and the way other people treat us as a couple has changed. That changes a little bit of the whole package. We've both matured in the 7 years since we met, too. That's to be expected. And maturity also changes things. But, overall, we're still the same two people in love. I couldn't ask for a better partner and friend than my husband. And that part has ALWAYS been there.
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)?
I was able to let go of all the stress and unpleasantness going on in my life at the time, and just dance with my husband. We were surrounded by family and friends from all over the country, and I didn't have a care in the world. If you know me at all, you know I obsess over things. Especially unpleasant things. And I think that being able to just BE in the moment and be HAPPY in that moment was a lesson I learned on my wedding day and have carried with me every day since. After all, I married a wonderful, amazing, loving, caring, sweet man. What do I have to be unhappy about?
I realize I never posted a GBCK, but that's because I think they're silly. Everyone comes back eventually. I didn't know if I was leaving for good or not. I didn't know how I'd feel about posting on forums again, or if I could really offer advice and support to other women if I felt like I couldn't be honest about my own experiences. I apologize for not being around. I don't think I will be around in any regular way ever again. But my time posting and reading things here kept me relatively sane through my wedding planning (and I now know I was never meant to plan a wedding- ugh!). I made some wonderful, life-long friends, too. It's just that opening myself up to a group of people when anyone in the world can read what I've written... that's just more open than I ever want to be again. Being that honest to (essentially) the world just gives others too much power to hurt me.
I don't generally give many people that kind of power. Too many are careless with other people's feelings. So, I really do wish you all the very best. And I won't say goodbye, since I'm sure I'll pop back in now and then.
AAAH! Jeana! I've been waiting for the day for you to come back!
I spent hours giggling over your posts when I first found the knot (I had a terrible job- and when I was bored, I started reading the posts from 2 years ago).
Thanks for the many many laughs!!
I'm glad to know life is treating you well!
ETA: And I'm sorry to hear that you got burned at some point (I must have missed the post). I'm glad you found good friends out of the group- I too hope to find some life long friends here at NEY. I guess I'm in the new generation of the NEY. We don't seem to have too much drama anymore- and it doesn't appear that people get hurt often. I'm happy here. Thanks for establishing a good culture at NEY.
Take care of yourself! And I hope you can get to the OG NEY G2G!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:fa3ed418-ead4-4c9f-81ae-aff1be74c389">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE]I have a blog now. I am sure I will continue to pop in NEY every once in a while, but you can find me at <a href="http://withywindle.wordpress.com/" rel='nofollow'>http://withywindle.wordpress.com/</a> Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
<div>LOVE your blog. I think I might have to make the cinnamon peach ice cream ASAP. </div><div> </div><div>And it sucks that you got burned, Jeana. Sounds like someone behaved like an @ss! </div>
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ask-ogs-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:b0289460-6443-4032-b862-974a03fb3306Post:41323572-11af-4bdc-a4cf-2a130715bce4">Re: Ask OGs questions</a>: [QUOTE] Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY? No I didn't. I also wasnt flamed because Oceana vouched about how cool I was LOL [/QUOTE]
You make it sound like you were joining the Mafia. LOL
[QUOTE]I knew Oceana first, then met Ana, Mutley, Hetshup, Button, and Paint And I've google+ chatted with Jeana, Sapphire, Paige, and Acro I cant wait for the OG GTG in 2012! [/QUOTE]
Um, you forgot to mention I'm your sisterwife. I'm horribly, horribly offended. :(
[QUOTE] What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? The "I'm on a Boat" sing along, the Hora where I was almost decapitated by a chandelier, Oceana doing shots with my family. Every momement was memerable though :) Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]
OH MY GOD, the "I'm On a Boat" singalong...it was just as epic as it sounds, believe me. And you were almost taken out by a chandelier. I remember leaning over to DH and going, "should we, you know, stand behind her somewhere? You know, just in case they crack her head against the ceiling and she falls into a coma?!?"
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
[QUOTE] <span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span"><strong style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">Also, who have you met IRL from NEY? </strong></span><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span"> I have been lucky enough to meet Paige, Button, NotQuiteBlushing and Mutley. (!!!) Yay!! I have hopes to meet more of my friends in the future. Posted by KatAnne [/QUOTE]
And yes, ladies, Kat is just as cute and bubbly in person! <3 </span></span><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span"> </span></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span"> </span></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span"> </span></span></div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;background-color:#ffffff;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:#ffffff;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;font-family:Arial;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" class="Apple-style-span">AND ZOMG I CANT'T WAIT for the OG GTG 2012!!</span></span></div>
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Re: Ask OGs questions
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around? Not really. LOL. Some don't annoy me as much. I think that others believe that I didn't like them, when really I just disagreed. It's the internet, so I don't put much into disliking posters. This doesn't mean that some don't rub me the wrong way or that I 'like' them. You have to actually do something to me for me to dislike you.
Then again, I do have a special button:
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)?
Posters who think they are super speshul and have super duper speshul circumstances.
Posters who cannot bother to do basic proofreading or use the spellcheck button at the bottom annoy the piss out of me. (My most annoying side effect from this pregnancy has been my lapse in correct typing. Ugh.)
DH and I have always said that we got married because we loved the relationship we had and we wanted to have that forever. We didn't plan on much changing, and the main components of our relationship haven't. (We've told several friends to not expect the person to change because you get married. Their annoying traits are STILL going to be there after the rings. They aren't magically going to start doing something differently.)
I think the most unexpected thing in our marriage is how easy it has been. So many people say that the 1st year is sooo hard, and for us, it just wasn't. During that year, we moved 500 miles, bought a house and had a baby. We expect there to be tough times to come. It is inevitable, but I know without a doubt that we can get through the sh!t.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY?
First, I met Ocean and RickyLee. RickyLee, Oceana's mom and I consipired for me to surprise Oceana during her shower/bachelorette weekend. I even slept at her house. CREEPER!
Then, I met Anna and Hetshup during Oceana's wedding weekend. It was mind blowing.
Finally, I met Kat when I went East for my little bro's graduation.
I have plans to meet other OGs in the future.
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? I encourage PIP to answer this question.
AW WARNING!!!!!
Seeing my DH at the end of the aisle. His expression made me cry happy tears.
My cathedral length veil
Seeing the kids play lawn games
My 2nd dress! So twirly
The whole feel of the reception space
Most memorable part - DH passing out during our ceremony. Yes, you read that correctly. He passed out. (We were already 'married' and kneeling when he got dizzy.)
(post-passing out)
Still here and still fabulous!
When I came to TK, BF and I were in a LDR. I was commuting. I moved to his town, we lived there for about a year, then his job changed and we moved. We are moving AGAIN this week - and buying a house! (FTR, I don't recommend buying a house unless getting married is in the one or two year plan AND you have sufficient legal agreements in case things go to heck...)
There are/were a few posters I don't like - usually ones who ask for opinions but only want opinions that validate their own. Those people can suck it.
I've met Rickylee, Oceana and Ana. AWESOME!
Pirate wedding, murder mystery wedding were probably some of the best threads.
I don't post anywhere else. I keep in touch with OG in other ways, but sometimes I get b*tchy on TK so I've avoided it lately.
[QUOTE]TK ate the rest of my post! Short version: When I came to TK, BF and I were in a LDR. I was commuting. I moved to his town, we lived there for about a year, then his job changed and we moved. We are moving AGAIN this week - and buying a house! (FTR, I don't recommend buying a house unless getting married is in the one or two year plan AND you have sufficient legal agreements in case things go to heck...) There are/were a few posters I don't like - usually ones who ask for opinions but only want opinions that validate their own. Those people can suck it. <strong>I've met Rickylee, Oceana and Ana. AWESOME! </strong>Pirate wedding, murder mystery wedding were probably some of the best threads. I don't post anywhere else. I keep in touch with OG in other ways, but sometimes I get b*tchy on TK so I've avoided it lately.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
MARGARITAS NOM NOM NOM :)
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
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[QUOTE]Also, where's Jeana and Kat?
Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]
*WAVES*
Hi!! I heard there was an OG reunion on here!
I check NEY very rarely these days... every once in a while!! Most of the ladies I used to talk to regularly I'm FB friends with (PM me if I am not!) and I stalk NEY every once in a while to check up on those I'm not. However, most girls are newbies these days and I've lost interest a little bit.
I still miss how much fun we used to have on NEY! Such a good time! I will try to go thru and answer some questions.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask OGs questions : *WAVES* Hi!! I heard there was an OG reunion on here! I check NEY very rarely these days... every once in a while!! Most of the ladies I used to talk to regularly I'm FB friends with (PM me if I am not!) and I stalk NEY every once in a while to check up on those I'm not. However, most girls are newbies these days and I've lost interest a little bit. I still miss how much fun we used to have on NEY! Such a good time! I will try to go thru and answer some questions.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
I giggle every time I see your siggie pic <3
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
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I joined NEY a few months before we got engaged. Now we are marrried and are DIY renovating our first house that we bought!
Oh man. Is it "ice rink bride" or "I act growner than I am bride"? Who knows.
To me the best memories were the silly fun things like QOTW or Fake Registries for people. Also, fake wedding planning for Button and Narwhal were always a good time.
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY?
My most BSC moment was wanting to put a deposit on our reception place before we were engaged because there had been a cancellation and I knew it would get snatched up. But my DH was NOT wanting to talk about anything wedding related bc we were on the verge of getting engaged. I had a crazy 10 minutes.
Oddly enough, he had already talked to my parents about proposing, so in their own bsc moment they put a deposit down to reserve the date without telling us. They gave us the option after we got engaged. And we took it! (Does this still make me a little bsc? IDK.)
Talking to people and befriending girls on NEY was the BEST solution for battling bsc.
Enjoy the anticipation of the proposal. This will never happen again. (I think that was Jeana wisdom.)
Now that you're no longer a regular poster on NEY, where do you post most frequently and why did you leave NEY?
I posted pretty much only on NEY. I started posting on the Christian board too, but that board started right before I got married and knotting less.
I left because the group dynamic had shifted. There were a lot of new posters and it wasn't the same place anymore. It was getting drama-filled. I don't do drama.
Umm, not really. In general I liked most people. If there was someone I didn't like, that usually didn't change.
Of course! It's hard when posters change the dynamic of the baord for everyone. Especially when a lot of us are friends. There is a right board for everyone. NEY just might not be the right board for some people.
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)?
People convinced they are ready to get engaged when maybe they shouldn't be.
People concerned about size and stones of their diamond. Do whatever you want ladies! It's your ring!
No one can prepare you for the day-in, day-out effort that needs to take place. It's not a bad thing, but it takes emotional effort to give someone the best part of yourself everyday when you're tired or hungry and just want to sleep.
Also, I just wanted to say that as the former "saving-sex-for-marriage" person of the board, it was totally worth it. For us. To the others who are doing the same (and I know there are a few!) just take heart and stay true to your heart if it's what you want. Know that even though it's difficult it is rewarding.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY?
I have been lucky enough to meet Paige, Button, NotQuiteBlushing and Mutley. (!!!) Yay!! I have hopes to meet more of my friends in the future.
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
We love being married. A lot changed for us since we didn't live together before we were married. In some ways nothing has changed at all. In other ways we're so much more unified and have a deeper sense of teamwork and love since we've been married.
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? I encourage PIP to answer this question.
Oh man! Too many to choose! I suppose you should check out my bio for pics.
The ceremony was a highlight! We tried to make it very personal to us and our families.
Photo booth was a blast!
We loved our first dance! We just had so much fun!
And we also did a last dance while our getaway car was being pulled up. It was a nice way to end the whole day together.
Also, I had so much fun with my BMs getting ready in the morning. We all did our makeup together and the hair-girl came to the house. We just had coffee and played music and had fun. It was a fantastic and relaxing morning.
And, not to totally AW here or anything, I have a blog now. I am sure I will continue to pop in NEY every once in a while, but you can find me at http://withywindle.wordpress.com/
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask OGs questions : I giggle every time I see your siggie pic <3
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
*BEAR HUGS!!!!!!!!*
Oh yeah, and I miss saying "there goes the sobe" and people knowing what I'm talking about. ;)
You may have seen my name in the meeting knotties but here I am.
What was your relationship status when you started posting? What is it now (any babies?!)?
I started posting when Oceana told me to get on here, I believe I was already engaged. Now we've been married 1.5 years and our only baby is of the furry variety
What is the most memorable thread you've seen on TK?
Ice rink suprise christmas wedding girl. Was a troll but was hilarious. Also any post of Jeana's where she went (fake) BSC
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY?
No I didn't. I also wasnt flamed because Oceana vouched about how cool I was LOL
What's the best advice someone gave you back when you were NEY that you can pass on to us now?
Enjoy your relationship and don't rush it. Time will take its course when both you and he are ready. Pressure only puts stress on the relationship causing it to crack. Relax!
Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around?
I put everyone in the like category and then I tend to grow to dislike them due to their own behavior.
Any posters you are glad to see gone?
There are a number that I'm glad because the drama llamas dont take away from those who have real questions and real problems, but I still hope they are happy whereever they are.
What's the most annoying topic you see brought up on a regular basis (for example, settings, budget, diamond v. non, diamond size, non-obvious BSC stuff)? Anything you roll your eyes at even though many, or most people seem to like to talk about it?
Brand name diamond settings + size of said diamond. The size or brand does not indicate how much your FI loves you.
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far?
Weddings bring out the worst in people, especially families. And many times these happy events are used as firepower in some stupid on going battle. Do whatever you and your FI want and dont let those others around you push thier negativity. There was nothing unexpected for us with marriage. We had lived together before for a year and half.
Where do you post now, or do you just not post at all?
I very occassionally still post here, but mostly lurk and see what you ladies are up to. Most often I'm on Facebook and google +
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY?
I knew Oceana first, then met Ana, Mutley, Hetshup, Button, and Paint
And I've google+ chatted with Jeana, Sapphire, Paige, and Acro
I cant wait for the OG GTG in 2012!
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
Not much has changed but is way more awesome. And I'm looking forward to the next stages of our life
. What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)?
The "I'm on a Boat" sing along, the Hora where I was almost decapitated by a chandelier, Oceana doing shots with my family. Every momement was memerable though
I was NEY, but with DH.
No babbies. Yet.
What is the most memorable thread you've seen on TK?
Oh, the ice rink wedding... and the Olive Garden thread. And, if I may say so, my engougemint chikkin thread was pretty amazing. Some people apparently even thought I was serious. I go a little wacky when I lose my mind. lol
Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY?
Yep. I started posting a LONG time ago, and got flamed because I wanted to plan my wedding and he hadn't proposed. I told the original snarky girls that they were meaner than a video game forum, and they made fun of me even more. So I didn't post for a year or something. When I came back, the OG was just starting out. Also, I thought DH would actually propose somewhat soon. I was wrong. It was like another year or more. Good thing I stopped pre-planning.
How did you suppress your BSC?
I learned to enjoy being with him. I moved across the country to finally be WITH DH, and I learned (with support from my girls here), that I was wasting precious time by stressing over a proposal and wedding.
What's the best advice someone gave you back when you were NEY that you can pass on to us now?
Number your RSVPs and pick your battles carefully. And, no matter what, be gracious. It will get you a long, long way in wedding planning and in life.Were there any posters you didn't like, but grew fond of over the months/years you've been around?
I give pretty much everyone the benefit of the doubt at first.
Any posters you are glad to see gone?
Yes.
If you're married, what's the one thing no one can prepare you for until you get married? Or what's the most unexpected thing about marriage you've found so far?
Being married didn't change much in our relationship, and I'm thrilled. He still plays video games, I still freak out and babble like a lunatic. And so on. Like Mutley, we've had a relatively easy first year of marriage, and I wonder if that has something to do with being honest and having realistic expectations for each other.Where do you post now, or do you just not post at all?
I don't post on forums. I keep in touch with the people I want to keep in touch with. I got burned shortly before my wedding by posting things on forums that maybe I should have known better about posting. I tried not to let that affect my posting habits, but it did. Forums just aren't the same for me anymore. I'm a little paranoid about what I say in any sort of public way online. So, I just don't say anything.
Also, who have you met IRL from NEY?
Acro, Sunbird, Jeter, and Hetshup. Am I forgetting anyone? And, in case you didn't notice, we all have plans to get together this winter. I hope I can make it.
Is being murried way more awesome than dating/being engaged? Or has not much changed?
The difference is small, and very subtle. I'm his "wife" and he's my "husband" and the way other people treat us as a couple has changed. That changes a little bit of the whole package. We've both matured in the 7 years since we met, too. That's to be expected. And maturity also changes things. But, overall, we're still the same two people in love. I couldn't ask for a better partner and friend than my husband. And that part has ALWAYS been there.
What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)?
I was able to let go of all the stress and unpleasantness going on in my life at the time, and just dance with my husband. We were surrounded by family and friends from all over the country, and I didn't have a care in the world. If you know me at all, you know I obsess over things. Especially unpleasant things. And I think that being able to just BE in the moment and be HAPPY in that moment was a lesson I learned on my wedding day and have carried with me every day since. After all, I married a wonderful, amazing, loving, caring, sweet man. What do I have to be unhappy about?
I realize I never posted a GBCK, but that's because I think they're silly. Everyone comes back eventually. I didn't know if I was leaving for good or not. I didn't know how I'd feel about posting on forums again, or if I could really offer advice and support to other women if I felt like I couldn't be honest about my own experiences. I apologize for not being around. I don't think I will be around in any regular way ever again. But my time posting and reading things here kept me relatively sane through my wedding planning (and I now know I was never meant to plan a wedding- ugh!). I made some wonderful, life-long friends, too. It's just that opening myself up to a group of people when anyone in the world can read what I've written... that's just more open than I ever want to be again. Being that honest to (essentially) the world just gives others too much power to hurt me.
I don't generally give many people that kind of power. Too many are careless with other people's feelings. So, I really do wish you all the very best. And I won't say goodbye, since I'm sure I'll pop back in now and then.
I spent hours giggling over your posts when I first found the knot (I had a terrible job- and when I was bored, I started reading the posts from 2 years ago).
Thanks for the many many laughs!!
I'm glad to know life is treating you well!
ETA: And I'm sorry to hear that you got burned at some point (I must have missed the post). I'm glad you found good friends out of the group- I too hope to find some life long friends here at NEY. I guess I'm in the new generation of the NEY. We don't seem to have too much drama anymore- and it doesn't appear that people get hurt often. I'm happy here. Thanks for establishing a good culture at NEY.
Take care of yourself! And I hope you can get to the OG NEY G2G!
[QUOTE]I have a blog now. I am sure I will continue to pop in NEY every once in a while, but you can find me at <a href="http://withywindle.wordpress.com/" rel='nofollow'>http://withywindle.wordpress.com/</a>
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
<div>LOVE your blog. I think I might have to make the cinnamon peach ice cream ASAP. </div><div>
</div><div>And it sucks that you got burned, Jeana. Sounds like someone behaved like an @ss! </div>
[QUOTE] Did you have BSC moments when you first came to NEY? No I didn't. I also wasnt flamed because Oceana vouched about how cool I was LOL [/QUOTE]
You make it sound like you were joining the Mafia. LOL
[QUOTE]I knew Oceana first, then met Ana, Mutley, Hetshup, Button, and Paint And I've google+ chatted with Jeana, Sapphire, Paige, and Acro I cant wait for the OG GTG in 2012! [/QUOTE]
Um, you forgot to mention I'm your sisterwife. I'm horribly, horribly offended. :(
[QUOTE] What was your most favorite part of your wedding (other than marrying your H)? The "I'm on a Boat" sing along, the Hora where I was almost decapitated by a chandelier, Oceana doing shots with my family. Every momement was memerable though :)
Posted by rickylee244[/QUOTE]
OH MY GOD, the "I'm On a Boat" singalong...it was just as epic as it sounds, believe me. And you were almost taken out by a chandelier. I remember leaning over to DH and going, "should we, you know, stand behind her somewhere? You know, just in case they crack her head against the ceiling and she falls into a coma?!?"
"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons
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