Pretty sure this weekend is it

CT324

All I have to say is I am loving these cat fights meow!

Danielle284

Thanks to all of you ladies who gave me great advie.  I hope your day turns out lovely and all that you want it be.

future-mrs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:018a0ddb-fb69-4efe-a099-66afa9a0989f">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : Mostly, I agree with you.  But #4?  Is it 1950 again?  It's not your place to have a say in your own future?
Posted by Ana_2985[/QUOTE]

In some situations (ok, mostly today) engagment/marriages are discussed and whatnot.  That was my own situation.  But if it's on the boyfriend, then I believe a girl should let him do it in his own time.    If he wants to do it on his own, let him.  If a girl pushes and pushes and he's not quite ready...eh, to each their own. 

CT324

Don't let these girls get to you.  Some do have good advice and some think that they are psychiatrists.  So pay attention to the wise ones and forget the ones that are mean or make unnecessary comments.   

future-mrs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:911cb3a4-65ad-48b8-8e4a-1fe7a0708cf4">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't let these girls get to you.  Some do have good advice and some think that they are psychiatrists.  So pay attention to the wise ones and forget the ones that are mean or make unnecessary comments.   
Posted by CT324[/QUOTE]


Well, don't you just have all of us pegged?  Funny thing is, the ones that you think are "mean" probably know the most and give some of the best advice.  Just because you don't like the way it's delivered...doesn't mean it's not really good advice.

dwest2201

I'm late as usual (damn work!) and I just scanned the thread...  but really Olive Garden might not be uber fancy, but it's "nice" enough... jeez people.  FI and I don't love OG so we don't go there, but most of our dates end up at local places that are about the same price range.

I'm curious as to why people felt the need to rip on her saying they were going there in the first place?  Is it because she thinks he might pop the question there?  FI proposed next to my dads camper while I was holding 2 Busch Lights... the place does not matter! 

OP, I'm sorry to hear about your situation with your BF and his child from a previous relationship.  I have a 3 1/2 year old from a previous marriage we settled on 50/50 shared parenting and so far it has worked well... hopefully your BF will be able to get his child or at least a working arrangement with the ex.  The only other advice I have for you is to take what you get on these boards with a grain of salt... not everyone is nice, but not everyone is rude either!

Oh and try not to worry about if the proposal is coming this weekend, this month or even this year... get it out of your mind and focus on your relationship as it is and the rest of the important things in your lives.  It will happen in due time... and definitely don't plan it yet, for your own sanity's sake!  GL!

CT324

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:7dee096d-f953-4995-8afa-c582e33f5ec7">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : Well, don't you just have all of us pegged?  Funny thing is, the ones that you think are "mean" probably know the most and give some of the best advice.  Just because you don't like the way it's delivered...doesn't mean it's not really good advice.
Posted by future-mrs[/QUOTE]

I was referring to the comments about the Olive Garden they were unnecessary. 

breezerb

I live in Ottawa where we don't have Olive Gardens... Boo!  Is it like East Side Marios? Then again, we do have maple syrup, beaver tails and poutine! 

Okay off topic I know...

Danielle (if you are still on here):

Best Advice - I hope that he proposes because I know that is what you are hoping for but just remember to breathe and enjoy the night.  You never know when something little (even a bad case of nerves) might cause him to postpone the proposal and you don't want that to ruin a wonderful night with your man - ring or no ring. But good luck.

People here are quite friendly once you get to know them and we all have great advice to share. 

But please if you stay on here in the future, long drawn out posts with no punctuation irk people not because we don't want to help, but because they are distracting from the real question. They are genuinely almost impossible to read and decipher. 

But I am wishing you all the best - good luck and enjoy the Olive Garden because I as a Canadian cannot... and I'm sure it is a lovely place!

breezerb

Future-Mrs - I really like your cake. It is beautiful and more than likely delicious!

dwest2201

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : <strong>Well, don't you just have all of us pegged?  </strong>Funny thing is, the ones that you think are "mean" probably know the most and give some of the best advice.  Just because you don't like the way it's delivered...doesn't mean it's not really good advice.
Posted by future-mrs[/QUOTE]

Do you have a guilty conscience?  CT said some and did not mention names at all yet you responded with this... ?

Reading comprehension fail.

By the way, I didn't think that your advice was overly mean.  The meanest comments were regarding OG.

CT324

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:4fbed7b4-29b7-4ce5-98d7-2bede8100598">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : Do you have a guilty conscience?  CT said some and did not mention names at all yet you responded with this... ? Reading comprehension fail. By the way, I didn't think that your advice was overly mean.  The meanest comments were regarding OG.
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

Thank you! 

Danielle284

To the poster that replied about his daugther there will not be any settling with them.  Two weeks ago she got pulled over for a dui with makia in the car.  They brought her to him.  When she was released on bail the court said she had to go back to her.  Alan went to the police to file child endangerment.  He supports her finacially cause she refuses to work.  So she packed up there daughter rented a uhaul and left.  Once she is found she has a warrant out for her arrest and he gets full custody.

finallytime37

I always enjoy when things like this get blown out of proportion....

Danielle - if you are still hanging around (I hope you are) everyone means well...whether or not it comes across that way is negotiable.  Be patient for the proposal, don't expect it...you'll emotionally exhaust yourself that way...I'm in the same boat, he's literally going to propose any day now...I push the thoughts out of my mind and just enjoy the time you have with him.  It's hard to figure out tone and attitude when it's text. 

Stick with the knot and see if you can find a community you mesh with.  There are local boards, month boards, all sorts - if you're looking for advice...don't give up!

Take Care.

GreenPepperBurger

Are we still talking about this? I apologized for the OG comment - the utter disregard for puncuation that the OP had and then said, "a nice restaurant like Olive Garden" made me assume that she was very young (like, in her teens). But now that we've learned that her BF has a daughter who was caught with a DUI reveals that they are a lot older.

I don't know which is scarier.

sapphirebaby926

What is with the ridiculous Olive Garden hate? Just because it's not your cup of tea doesn't mean it's not special for someone else. Jeebus.

Anyway OP - try to relax and not think about if he's going to propose or not this weekend because if he doesn't you'll find yourself disappointed. Just go and enjoy a nice dinner and evening with your BF and put a proposal as far from your mind as you can.

catemeg

Wow, Danielle, that sounds stressful!  Anytime a child is involved in a situation like that, it's tough.

I do think everyone was a bit judgemental on the Olive Garden. Sure, for most of us it would be a casual inexpensive restaurant, but it's sort of rude to jump all over someone because they think of that as a nice restaurant.  And to say that if that's all they can afford they shouldn't get married.  So you have to be in a certain economic bracket to get married?  Sure, people shouldn't be eyebrows deep in debt, but no one said you had to be able to afford dinner at the French Laundry to propose.  Perhaps it's their favorite restaurant, or where they went on their first date.  That's just a silly thing to jump all over.

Danielle, what most posters waiting on a ring are told is that this is a great exciting time, and enjoy it because it only happens once!  Don't get your hopes up, but just enjoy your time with your boyfriend, and focus on getting that little girl back safely from her mother.  Hopefully with a warrant and DUI it should be pretty easy for your boyfriend to get full custody unless he's got his own issues.  Good luck!

desertsun

CT clearly was not just talking about the OG comments.

And I don't see how it's helpful to say things like that about people on the board without naming names. How is the OP, who is new, supposed to know who she should and shouldn't listen to? <---- sarcasm

Who is CT to judge that and to judge who does or doesn't give good advice?

Different strokes for different folks. This is why it's good to have a variety of viewpoints on the board. So that people we don't know can get a lot of advice with different perspectives, and they can choose what works for them.

Ignoring certain posters negates the whole purpose of presenting your situation for advice to a message board, IMO.

Ana_2985

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:69dba4c2-6a7c-4570-918c-b4c01fc14125">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : In some situations (ok, mostly today) engagment/marriages are discussed and whatnot.  That was my own situation.  But if it's on the boyfriend, then I believe a girl should let him do it in his own time.    If he wants to do it on his own, let him.  If a girl pushes and pushes and he's not quite ready...eh, to each their own. 
Posted by future-mrs[/QUOTE]

Yes definitely.  I agree with you when you put it like this.  I just didn't really notice the OP pushing her BF.  It sounded like he was making the moves.

GreenPep - I think it was very kind of you to apologize, but other people made similar comments and said nothing.  Maybe people are referring to them?

GreenPepperBurger

Maybe, but I don't really care if people were referring to me - this is a message board and if we don't post our true opinions, then who will? I only apologized because, looking back, I felt that I was in the wrong. It's not my place to judge where people like to go and spend their money.

Danielle284

And no we are not young.  Im 26 he is 27.  In my backround i have dealt with neglect and abuse as a kid.  I was seperated from siblings i dont do well with conflict so i avoid it.  I went through numerous treatments as a kid just to be able to get up to my devlopmental state.  So it may be childish to some of you to not want to stick around but im doing whats best for me, my son and soon to be family.  I never once said i was pushing him or have even brought it up to him.  He asked me to show him rings.  I was just pointing out all the hints he had been dropping and was wondering if that just meant it was getting close.

CT324

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:65cf0551-11c6-467c-877b-658b9b5c3473">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]CT clearly was not just talking about the OG comments. And I don't see how it's helpful to say things like that about people on the board without naming names. How is the OP, who is new, supposed to know who she should and shouldn't listen to? <---- sarcasm Who is CT to judge that and to judge who does or doesn't give good advice? Different strokes for different folks. This is why it's good to have a variety of viewpoints on the board. So that people we don't know can get a lot of advice with different perspectives, and they can choose what works for them. Ignoring certain posters negates the whole purpose of presenting your situation for advice to a message board, IMO.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

do you see me naming any names on here no!  because for the most part I do think everyone has good advice there are a select few here and there that I dont agree with and everyone is entitled to their own opinions. 

And yes I was only referring to the OG comments.

Ana_2985

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:4fbed7b4-29b7-4ce5-98d7-2bede8100598">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : Do you have a guilty conscience?  CT said some and did not mention names at all yet you responded with this... ? Reading comprehension fail. By the way, I didn't think that your advice was overly mean.  The meanest comments were regarding OG.
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

How was that a reading comprehension fail?  CT suggested that people fall into one of two categories however I know that I fall into neither one.

Use of "reading comprehension fail" fail.

dwest2201

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:65cf0551-11c6-467c-877b-658b9b5c3473">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>CT clearly was not just talking about the OG comments</strong>. And I don't see how it's helpful to say things like that about people on the board without naming names. How is the OP, who is new, supposed to know who she should and shouldn't listen to? <---- sarcasm <strong>Who is CT to judge that and to judge who does or doesn't give good advice?</strong> Different strokes for different folks. This is why it's good to have a variety of viewpoints on the board. So that people we don't know can get a lot of advice with different perspectives, and they can choose what works for them. Ignoring certain posters negates the whole purpose of presenting your situation for advice to a message board, IMO.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]


And you know what CT was referring to because you are a mind reader?

Who is anyone to judge who gives good advice?  Read it all take away what you wish... that is the beauty of the forum, isn't it?

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:911cb3a4-65ad-48b8-8e4a-1fe7a0708cf4">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't let these girls get to you.  <strong>Some do have good advice and some think that they are psychiatrists.</strong>  So pay attention to the wise ones and forget the ones that are mean or make unnecessary comments.   
Posted by CT324[/QUOTE]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:0c00aeca-a113-475d-9a7f-793fd83cfb30">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : do you see me naming any names on here no!  because for the most part I do think everyone has good advice there are a select few here and there that I dont agree with and everyone is entitled to their own opinions.  And <strong>yes I was only referring to the OG comments.</strong>
Posted by CT324[/QUOTE]

I failed to see the connection between advice and people thinking they're psychiatrists and the comments made about the OG. Perhaps because I didn't see the OG comments as "advice." 

And I don't see the point in telling someone to ignore some posters without saying who to ignore.

dwest2201

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:e9bf772d-72a5-4f8c-9c7a-d785f3a65bf3">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : How was that a reading comprehension fail?  CT suggested that people fall into one of two categories however I know that I fall into neither one. Use of "reading comprehension fail" fail.
Posted by Ana_2985[/QUOTE]


No, she said some fit here and some fit here.  She did not say those were the only two types at all; that was assumed. 

Danielle284

I have said what i had to.  I appreciate the advice, and the apologies.  Im no longer gonna be in this conversation.  If you ladies wish to still argue with each other than by all means that is your choice.

dwest2201

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : I failed to see the connection between advice and people thinking they're psychiatrists and the comments made about the OG. Perhaps because I didn't see the OG comments as "advice."  And<strong> I don't see the point in telling someone to ignore some posters without saying who to ignore.</strong>
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]



I never said I aggreed with people "thinking they're psychiatrists" or that anyone here fits into that category... just saying people are taking comments to personally.

I think ithe "ignore" was more of an... if a certain post bothers you or comes across rudely to you don't let it ruffle your feathers... it's the internet and just some strangers opinion so let it roll off.

CT324

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:9bd7a066-a6cd-4da3-933d-3bdbae1e917c">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it : I never said I aggreed with people "thinking they're psychiatrists" or that anyone here fits into that category... just saying people are taking comments to personally. I think ithe "ignore" was more of an... if a certain post bothers you or comes across rudely to you don't let it ruffle your feathers... it's the internet and just some strangers opinion so let it roll off.
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

Lol but you on the other hand may be able to read my mind.  Well spoken and that is exactly what I meant!  Some things seem to be easy to take the wrong way through text.  Sorry ladies I will be more careful next time.

Its officially my weekend now have a great weekend and Ill talk to you ladies on Monday!

ekathleen684

SOOO-- What is everyone favorite Never Ending Pasta Bowl combination?? Or are you a soup and salad gal? I always eat t0o much and get sick, never fails.

I like the five cheese marinara with orecchiette.


Some strategy if needed: http://www.punny.org/money/more-buffet-strategies-olive-gardens-never-ending-pasta-bowl/

(My lame attempt at bean dip)

lindsayrae1986

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_pretty-sure-this-weekend?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dffb126d-7dcf-4df9-ad58-a69e25d4f68cPost:16b5240d-c9bb-41ab-92d7-b72b39c8de39">Re: Pretty sure this weekend is it</a>:
[QUOTE]SOOO-- What is everyone favorite Never Ending Pasta Bowl combination?? Or are you a soup and salad gal? I always eat t0o much and get sick, never fails. I like the five cheese marinara with orecchiette. (My lame attempt at bean dip)
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

capellini pomodoro.  i don't get to OG enough, we tend to go to zio's or a family-owned place called bella vista when we do eat out.  but i love the salad and breadsticks at OG!