AYG/TK confessions/I Judge

Celles

FWIW, Dot, I've enjoyed a lot of the discussions that your posts have sparked.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Also, I think most annoying AW newbs/trolls are ReneeJacob on the simple fact that she always used the board as her personal LoveLine, a never-ending supply relationship drama and medical advice. Now every time some one annoys me in the same way, I think "Renee? Is that youuuu?"
Posted by reddy123[/QUOTE]

This would be way cooler if you said that you wear your tin foil hat while thinking this.

Blueyed228

But OBX- that is the type of stuff I am talking about.  You are right, I didnt see anything, but Im not here all the time and dont read every post in every thread.

I guess i just assume that people know that if I dont like you, you will not have to go around wondering.  You will know.

maratea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Agreed. And I'm just going to say it.  I feel ignored on this board a lot, like no one really responds to my posts on certain things.  I don't know if it was b/c of my rocky start or certain posters don't care for me, but nonetheless I still feel ignored.  For example, I complimented Blue the other day and didn't get a word back.  Granted, she may have missed the post altogether or maybe Blue just doesn't care for me, which is ok too, but it still bothered me a tad.  I confess that I don't always speak my mind and cautiously review my posts before actually posting them.  I have the exact personality of AATB...very quick and cunning and sometimes want to say "hey you beautiful hoars" and just be my hilarious self...but fear it would come across the wrong way.  I am sooo much more funnier IRL. 
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]
I think there are lots of people who are still new-ish posters that feel like this. And I'm sure even some regs do (I know I feel ignored sometimes). But I don't think most people ignore others on purpose, for the most part. I read most of your posts, even if I don't respond to them.

reddy123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Drama/Drama/Crabs
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

<div>This is how I read it. Or even better; Therapist/Therapist/Doctor.</div>

Nebb

ive been here forever (as my sad pathetic post count shows) and i get ignored all the time. sadly lately it seems like if you arent posting about personal issues you get ignored, and i rarely post stuff like that, so its never group therapy enough for a response.

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : <strong>Agreed. And I'm just going to say it.  I feel ignored on this board a lot, like no one really responds to my posts on certain things.  I don't know if it was b/c of my rocky start or certain posters don't care for me, but nonetheless I still feel ignored.</strong>  For example, I complimented Blue the other day and didn't get a word back.  Granted, she may have missed the post altogether or maybe Blue just doesn't care for me, which is ok too, but it still bothered me a tad.  I confess that I don't always speak my mind and cautiously review my posts before actually posting them.  I have the exact personality of AATB...very quick and cunning and sometimes want to say "hey you beautiful hoars" and just be my hilarious self...but fear it would come across the wrong way.  I am sooo much more funnier IRL. 
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

This is what sparked me thinking that people didn't like me in the least here. 90% of the time when I am commenting in a thread no one responds to what I have said seems as though people just looked past it and/or don't care.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Drama/Drama/Crabs
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]


Hahahaha

undyingmizery

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[QUOTE]ive been here forever (as my sad pathetic post count shows) and i get ignored all the time. <strong>sadly lately it seems like if you arent posting about personal issues you get ignored,</strong> and i rarely post stuff like that, so its never group therapy enough for a response.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

This exactly. Agree 100%

allisong23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : I can relate to this. I have a degree in psychology and I'm a damned good listener IRL, but online?  Not so much.  There's only so much you can say if you aren't religious enough to sincerely offer up "thoughts and prayers," and "vibes" is so overused that it's basically meaningless.  It's not that I don't care.  It's just that I often don't know what to say that hasn't already been said. 
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

I am with you on this, 100%.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Ok how DOES one become a reg a not a newb?  I mean if you have over 3000 posts and you are hear and participate a lot, how are you not a reg?  Is there a secret handshake or hazing that has to occur?  Why are people so anxious/scared of calling themselves a reg?  I am not trying to attack you I just really want to know...what makes a reg?  Anyone?  Anyone?  Bueller?
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

I think you become a reg when you stop worrying about if you are a reg.

SEWF

I think it goes back to a fear of being rejected, for me. I mean, I'd like to send pm's to a lot of the posters like Blue and Reddy and Nates and a bunch of other people, but I guess it's that I don't want to have anyone say, "No, I don't like you," even if that's true (and I'm fine if that's the case, I just don't want to actually KNOW that people don't like me, especially if I really like them). It's kind of hard to explain.

Wrkn925

OBX, I think everyone feels ignored here sometimes.

The way I think about it, I read a lot and don't respond. I figure other people do the same.  I'll see someone's post and nod my head in agreement, but not tell them I feel the same way.  Unless someone pops in and goes, "OMG, you're an idiot.  That's stupid. I wish you'd go play in traffic." , then I just think my message is being read and not really enough to comment on. 

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Ok how DOES one become a reg a not a newb?  I mean if you have over 3000 posts and you are hear and participate a lot, how are you not a reg?  Is there a secret handshake or hazing that has to occur?  Why are people so anxious/scared of calling themselves a reg?  I am not trying to attack you I just really want to know...what makes a reg?  Anyone?  Anyone?  Bueller?
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

Do you have a sex swing?

Blueyed228

SEWF- I am always accepting PM's.

As long as you are not calling me a douche.  You can save that for the boards.

[Deleted User]

OBX, everyone feels ignored at some point. Not a big deal, no one will respond to you every single time. Especially if they are like me, and don't always go back to a thread after a few posts.

I don't care if people post a lot of downers or uppers, really. I just ignore what I don't feel like reading at the moment. But I can honestly say I don't hate anyone here, so at least there is no one I feel like avoiding on a regular basis.

OBX2011

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[QUOTE]But OBX- that is the type of stuff I am talking about.  You are right, I didnt see anything, but Im not here all the time and dont read every post in every thread. I guess i just assume that people know that if I dont like you, you will not have to go around wondering.  You will know.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

I also realize what I said earlier is a double-edged sword.  On one hand I sometimes feel ignored or left out but on the flip-side I also need to realize I haven't been around nearly as long as most of you have and it takes time to get to know certain posters, their style, tones, opinions, etc.  For example, AATB is a riot and I she always has something funny to say.  Blue, you stand your ground no matter the issue and I know that even though you may not agree with someone, at least you will debate it with them before just writing them off. 

I know it will take time and that's cool.




**patience my young grasshopper**

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]I think it goes back to a fear of being rejected, for me. I mean, I'd like to send pm's to a lot of the posters like Blue and Reddy and Nates and a bunch of other people, but I guess it's that I don't want to have anyone say, "No, I don't like you," even if that's true (and I'm fine if that's the case, I just don't want to actually KNOW that people don't like me, especially if I really like them). It's kind of hard to explain.
Posted by SEWF[/QUOTE]

I truly hope you don't think we don't like you.  I like you, a lot!

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Who doesn't? 
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]


Now that's what I'm talking about ;P

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : I also realize what I said earlier is a double-edged sword.  On one hand I sometimes feel ignored or left out but on the flip-side I also need to realize I haven't been around nearly as long as most of you have and it takes time to get to know certain posters, their style, tones, opinions, etc.  For example, AATB is a riot and I she always has something funny to say.  Blue, you stand your ground no matter the issue and I know that even though you may not agree with someone, at least you will debate it with them before just writing them off.  I know it will take time and that's cool. **patience my young grasshopper**
Posted by OBX2011[/QUOTE]

I'm glad you stuck around, grasshopper.  Or maybe you're still a larvae or something.  :)  I kid.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Who doesn't? 
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]
my mom, hopefully. *shudder*

reddy123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Ok how DOES one become a reg a not a newb?  I mean if you have over 3000 posts and you are hear and participate a lot, how are you not a reg?  Is there a secret handshake or hazing that has to occur?  Why are people so anxious/scared of calling themselves a reg?  I am not trying to attack you I just really want to know...what makes a reg?  Anyone?  Anyone?  Bueller?
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

<div>Ugh. I'm just rolling my eyes. Dot. C'mon. How long have you been around? You know this. We know your SN, we respond to your posts. You wouldn't accept an FB friend if we sent it..... what badge are you looking for? It doesn't really exist. If you've been around a few months, you're prob a reg. If you've been around a year or more, and remember Bbycakes and Amoro and P2, then you are really a reg.</div><div>
</div><div>All of this newb insecurity is lame to read even though I remember it myself. Just keep posting. Everyone is ignored their first few months. Patience is key. *shrug*</div>

maratea

Sex swing? Pssh, I have a sex playground. Ask Jen.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : my mom, hopefully. *shudder*
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]


Holy shiit! Hahaha. My brain just can't even fathom going there.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AYG/TK confessions/I Judge : Ok so I've never been worried about it but some people who have been around for a long time are.  Or at least whenever discussing regs and newbs people seem reluctant to call themselves regs.  Why is that? 
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

Im not sure.  I dont think you can be here for a month or 2 and all of sudden expect to be accepted in like those of us who have been around for years.  Especially since there is a big turn around rate.  But I would call you a reg of sorts.  You did go away for awhile, and that may have made people a little leary of you (thinking you may be an AE/Troll). 

We have also had some nutjobs over the last few months who were welcomed in right away and went BSC, so its only normal for people to be a little hesitant.

JenGin74

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[QUOTE]Sex swing? Pssh, I have a sex playground. Ask Jen. :)
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]


Rawr  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

allisong23

My sympathy and empathy for people posting sad stories pretty much disappeared after the whole KateC fiasco, where she made up a story about her FI being tragically killed. I cried when  read that post. It was awful. And then to find out she is a pathological liar who had made up a previous dead FI for attention? Who the fuucky does that?

Unless I know you, I have a real hard time getting it up for your sad story.

SEWF

Blue- YGPM

Celles

I have laughed out loud (for real, not just a token "lol!") at posts I haven't actually responded to -- like Koda's excellent synopsis of ReneeJacob's post history.

Just because people don't respond to your post or thread doesn't mean that they aren't reading it and incorporating it into their overall opinion of you as a person and a poster.  Granted, it took me a long time to realize this myself: I felt ignored for ages, too, and cried about it in more than one TK confessions thread.  

Everyone feels ignored or overlooked from time to time. It doesn't mean you are ignored, though.

jaycee7389

personally, idc if anyone really likes me because i enjoy posting on here and enjoy reading what everyone has to say. i'm not going to pretend to be something i'm not just so people will talk to me. and i'm an newb so no one probably gives a fvck anyways. i have been trying to respond to different people lately though so i can learn who everyone is

just my two cents..