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  • It is a woman Rachers.  :)

    lbarr - I've been there.  You're not a horrible person. 
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    [QUOTE]I had a total freak out yesterday afternoon. I went shopping for a dress to wear to that wedding in may and everything looked like a shapeless sack on me. It depresses me more that I can say that despite counting my calories, weighing all of my food and working out 46 times a week since jan/feb, I've not lost more than a pound or two and it always shows up again seems to when I work out more too, but my measurements aren't vastly different. I'm still the same size I was when I decided months ago I didn't want to be this size. I don't want to go to the wedding anymore cause I'm so embarassed by how I look but I know I can't bail cause of that : I came home and cried yesterday I was so upset over it.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
    I hate clothes shopping too, for similar reasons. Also, looking in the mirror makes me never want to have another kid. But I will, and I will rebound again, because its worth it in the end, but the vain part of me wants no part of it ever again. 
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  • I confess that I'm very disappointed at how dysfunctional DH's family is, especially because it won't ever get any better.  There are very few pleasant GTGs, and very few people I even want to be around.  I was hoping for so much more.  I'm actually much closer with exH's family, and it makes me sad.

    I'm also half wishing I had opted for severance instead of going with the company that bought us.  It's probably better long-term to stay, but the tension is high and morale is low around here.  I'm losing some of my work buddies, and it might not be enjoyable anymore.
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  • I'm sorry, Nebb :( That's rough.  When is your specialist appointment?
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  • Thanks Sesh.

    DJ - that's not an easy relationship to be in.  I get it that it's all NRE right now, but reality will intrude sooner rather than later.  My son was in rehab for 2+ years and just finished!  His fiancee went through it all with him - pre-addiction, the addiction, and the rehab.  The clinic did have counseling for family and SOs.
  • I confess that my eating habits have been crap since the first week of April.  I've either skipped meals or eaten take-out almost every night since then.  H and I went to the grocery store last night after realizing that we had NOTHING in the house, and what we did have was spoiled or moldy.  It was pathetic.  I haven't felt like cooking or even eating much, but that really needs to stop.  We sort of had a reality check yesterday when we realized that we had let so much go in the way of our kitchen.  At least our pets have been eating well.
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    [QUOTE]I confess that I'm very disappointed at how dysfunctional DH's family is, especially because it won't ever get any better.  There are very few pleasant GTGs, and very few people I even want to be around.  I was hoping for so much more.  I'm actually much closer with exH's family, and it makes me sad. I'm also half wishing I had opted for severance instead of going with the company that bought us.  <strong>It's probably better long-term to stay, but the tension is high and morale is low around here.  I'm losing some of my work buddies, and it might not be enjoyable anymore.</strong>
    Posted by LesPaul[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I completely understand. I've already decided if my favorite co-worker and office mate quits, I'm going with her. That might be flammable, but she's a great friend. I can't imagine not having her here. 

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Sesh, if you can fake it well enough for 2 class sessions, I think you will build a rapport with your students. I see your teaching style to be more of a conversational one, rather than a lecture, so I think that you will get more comfortable with each other as the class progresses. 
    Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

    I don't like lectures, so it will be more conversational (especially with peer reviews). I think part of my worry is that I look like I'm in high school, and when I dress "professional," I look like I'm just playing dress up.

    I mean, I know my shiit, but I also know people don't take me seriously. When I went to get my faculty ID yesterday, the guy freaking questioned me if I actually got my paperwork from the English department and argued that I needed a student ID.

    And it's 3-hour classes! Holy Hera, that's a long time. But if there's one thing I love to talk about, it's writing, so I'll probably find <em>something</em> to talk about.
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    [QUOTE]I confess that my eating habits have been crap since the first week of April.  I've either skipped meals or eaten take-out almost every night since then.  H and I went to the grocery store last night after realizing that we had NOTHING in the house, and what we did have was spoiled or moldy.  It was pathetic.  I haven't felt like cooking or even eating much, but that really needs to stop.  We sort of had a reality check yesterday when we realized that we had let so much go in the way of our kitchen.  At least our pets have been eating well.
    Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

    Bay you've been under a ridiculous amount of stress lately, though. That will kill your appetite and when you do eat, you don't want anything healthy.
    I really hope things get better for you.
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    [QUOTE]I also confess that I have a split end picking problem.  Curse the person who introduced me to picking them back in HS!  
    Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

    <div>Mine is nail biting.  It's really bad. I've tried everything I can think of and nothing stops me from doing it.  The problem is that a lot of times I don't even realize I'm doing it until H smacks my hand away from my mouth.  </div><div>
    </div><div>We watched part of My Strange Addition (I think? Or some similar show) the other day and there was a lady addicted to her finger and toe nails.  She had over 15 feet of nails between her hands and feet.  It was insane.  H looked and me and said "maybe biting isn't so bad after all". Ha. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Joy, you could just quit and become a professional science blogger. Like a female, modern Bill Nye. I think that would be FUN!
    Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

    That would be so fun!  I actually want to go into publishing and be an editor at a journal.  In my world, you need reqs from everyone you've worked for.  I want to tell my boss I'm leaving so I can hit up contacts, but I can't say it until just the right time otherwise it's "Just keep paying me, okay?  I'm totally leaving at some point, but I'll let you know when.  You just pay me until then."  It's farking awkward.

    And I'm miserable.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I don't like lectures, so it will be more conversational (especially with peer reviews). I think part of my worry is that I look like I'm in high school, and when I dress "professional," I look like I'm just playing dress up. I mean, I know my shiit, but I also know people don't take me seriously. When I went to get my faculty ID yesterday, the guy freaking questioned me if I actually got my paperwork from the English department and argued that I needed a student ID. And it's 3-hour classes! Holy Hera, that's a long time. But if there's one thing I love to talk about, it's writing, so I'll probably find something to talk about.
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
    My sister has a similar issue. She's barely 5ft. But her students respect her because of her knowledge.<div>And aren't writers supposed to be free spirited and hippy dippy anyway? Our English professors never really dress up. </div>
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    My specialist appointment isnt until May 16th, the wedding is on the 19th :( so that wont help me for that. I dont even know what the first appointment will do, to be honest. I feel really really hopeless. Like everyone in the world is normal and Im the only person who is stuck being a fatass. Its ballsack TRYING to lose weight for so long, and nothing happening.
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    [QUOTE]We watched part of My Strange Addition (I think? Or some similar show) the other day and there was a lady addicted to her finger and toe nails.  She had over 15 feet of nails between her hands and feet.  It was insane.  H looked and me and said "maybe biting isn't so bad after all". Ha. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    How does she clean herself?  I'm baffled.  I watched that episode.  Most of them are okay, but the man who had a sexual relationship with his car was too much for me.
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    [QUOTE]  Yes, I'm a horrible person, I know.  
    Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

    No, you're not, Ibarr.
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  • I called in sick today when it probably wasn't warranted. The last few nights I've had some insomnia, so I do actually feel like crap--but I'll feel like crap whether I am working or not, so there really isn't a reason that I shouldn't go in to work.

    But I had some major problems with insominia about a year ago (I was sleeping approximately 3-5 hours, every night, for more than two months) and I have never felt worse physically than I did during that time; there is almost no responsibility that I wouldn't shirk to ensure that I don't ever have to feel like that again.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Mine is nail biting.  It's really bad. I've tried everything I can think of and nothing stops me from doing it.  The problem is that a lot of times I don't even realize I'm doing it until H smacks my hand away from my mouth.   We watched part of My Strange Addition (I think? Or some similar show) the other day and there was a lady addicted to her finger and toe nails.  <strong>She had over 15 feet of nails between her hands and feet.</strong>  It was insane.  H looked and me and said "maybe biting isn't so bad after all". Ha. 
    Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]

    <div>OH my Lord!  That is gross.</div><div>
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    </div><div>Also, now looking back at that not being happy about someone getting engaged I feel like a deuche.  That was just mean.</div>
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    Sesh, I think your students will respect you because they'll enjoy your teaching. You seem like you would be a really fun teacher. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Bay you've been under a ridiculous amount of stress lately, though. That will kill your appetite and when you do eat, you don't want anything healthy. I really hope things get better for you.
    Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]
    Thanks, BJ.  Honestly things are getting better mentally.  And I am totally sick of pizza and Chinese.  So there's that.

    I was planning on making homemade mac and cheese tonight, but I think my mom needs me to go with her to pick up my sister's car (my sister had a seizure the other day at a friend's house and had to leave her car there), and then I'll probably get roped into staying at their house for dinner...and they always get takeout on Friday nights.
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  • Reils- I'm sorry you feel that way! I don't know what it would be like to move to an area where FI knew everyone and I didn't. Hope things get better.

    Lbarr-I feel like that all the time. Then I'm irrationally upset when someone is OMG excited for me about things. It's ok.
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    [QUOTE]I also confess that I'm only going to my RFL event tonight because I signed up for it.  I know it's a good cause, but I was so into it last year because we just lost my grandfather and I wanted to honor him.
    Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

    As a huge supporter and participant in RFL events, I can tell you that you're still awesome for going. I also lost my grandfather to cancer and I know the feeilng you're going through. Once you're there, you may get back some of the passion you had for the event last year. You may not. Either way, I think you rock.

    I confess that I was really hoping the system wouldn't come back up today and we'd be able to go home. I have 0 motivation.
  • Sesh, I've always found that my favorite professors are the ones who are there to make sure we learn something and aren't crazy up tight about grades and lectures.  Converstaional teaching with something you're passionate about will be great.  My sociology teacher intrigued me because she was so passionate and we spent every class period having conversations about it.  YOu'll do great!
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    [QUOTE]Reils- I'm sorry you feel that way! I don't know what it would be like to move to an area where FI knew everyone and I didn't. Hope things get better. <strong>Lbarr-I feel like that all the time. Then I'm irrationally upset when someone is OMG excited for me about things. It's ok.</strong>
    Posted by jennamarie10[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah. I think FI's family was pretty excited.  I didn't realize I would be walking into a full house of them all a week or so after we got engaged and I immediately froze so I think that set the tone for everything to be weird.  Also, FI's sister had a baby right around that time so it was all emotional and weird and I was like "get me outta here!"</div><div>
    </div><div>Rachers, that's how I feel.  We will be stuck.  It's a horrible, horrible thing to think and at least I can acknowledge that.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : As a huge supporter and participant in RFL events, I can tell you that you're still awesome for going. I also lost my grandfather to cancer and I know the feeilng you're going through. Once you're there, you may get back some of the passion you had for the event last year. You may not. Either way, I think you rock. I confess that I was really hoping the system wouldn't come back up today and we'd be able to go home. I have 0 motivation.
    Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

    I kind of have been thinking that.  Last year I was the captain of the team and really involved so that helped too. This year I am just a team member and I've been so focused on other things to really pay attention.  Thanks, and you rock too! :)
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    [QUOTE]Lbarr - I'm having a similar issue with a friend of ours. They are about to get engaged and I'm dreading it. Dreading having her in my life forever. And this really makes me an asshole.<strong> He was supposed to propose to her last weekend, but she got too drunk and threw up.</strong> So he didn't. And I was glad.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    NICE.  I kind of find that hilarious.

    My boss is having me do her expense reports again because the girl that replaced me apparently can't hack it.  It makes me feel superior, which makes me feel like an asshole.
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  • Rach! I am so proud of you. That is quite the accomplishment. Keep it up.


    Sesh- a little teacher to teacher advice. When I first started teaching I dressed nice, more for me as a "look the part, feel the part" thing. (I started teaching at 22.) Also, fake it 'til you make it.

     I say stupid crap in front of my kids all the time. IMO the best move is don't let it bother you, KEEP GOING and pretend like it didn't happen.

    Like PPs said the most important quality in a good teacher is knowledge and passion for their content. I know you have that.
  • arwo- I think insomnia is a good reason to call in sick. I have never had it as bad as you are talking about, but even just a few nights of not getting enough sleep SUCKS. I mean, if you are feeling shitty and not capable of doing much work, what good is it anyways to go in?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : My sister has a similar issue. She's barely 5ft. But her students respect her because of her knowledge. And aren't writers supposed to be free spirited and hippy dippy anyway? Our English professors never really dress up. 
    Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

    You calling me a hippy? :) But yeah, I do need to buy professional clothes since my regular wear is pretty casual and not well put together. But I hate most grown-up stuff so I do tend to go for the free-spirited garments, if you can consider them that. And thanks, ranchers!

    Nebb, I hope you get some definitive answers from your specialist. I don't like you being upset.

    Arwo, the only thing that helps me sleep when my insomnia is bad is melatonin.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I kind of have been thinking that.  Last year I was the captain of the team and really involved so that helped too. This year I am just a team member and I've been so focused on other things to really pay attention.  Thanks, and you rock too! :)
    Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

    Pssh. I've always been "just" a team member. You still do a lot! I must know now, are you one of the people that stays up all night for it? I always have and hope I always will be able to. It's so much fun.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : You calling me a hippy? :) But yeah, I do need to buy professional clothes since my regular wear is pretty casual and not well put together. But I hate most grown-up stuff so I do tend to go for the free-spirited garments, if you can consider them that. And thanks, ranchers! Nebb, I hope you get some definitive answers from your specialist. I don't like you being upset. <strong>Arwo, the only thing that helps me sleep when my insomnia is bad is melatonin.</strong>
    Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto. My H is on graveyard shift and he has taken melatonin before to get his sleep schedule aligned. </div>
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