Confessions?

footballwife77

I confess that i'm a lurker. I also confess that I'm an accountant and our office administrative assistant is a complete anal office supply nazi vaginaface.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Confessions? : late to post as usual but at this my heart goes out to you Nebb.  It's difficult, I know, especially if you're putting in the work.  Just want to encourage you not to give up and even though it might not make a difference in time for the wedding, it will pay off, I swear.  Have you considered muscle-confusion? if not, it's a workout that uses a different muscle group each time and isn't intended to repeat that same group for about 3 days.   The other thing is that (excuse if it sounds like I'm talking to you like you've never heard this before, sometimes it helps to have a reminder) you could be at a plateau. Just before a loss, my body would fight (hard) to hold its status - biologically your system cannot tell the difference between dieting and circumstantial starvation, so upon deprivation, it protects itself in case you actually are starving.   Try changing your exercise routine, try increasing your water and try (this one's toughest) thinking about anything except your weight for a few days.  when you let go, often your body will too.  HTH.
Posted by sultryzulu[/QUOTE]
<p>No, I appreciate it. Without knowing all the info its hard to know what to suggest. I usually do my workouts saturday chest and back/sunday legs/monday arms and shoulders/tuesday legs and butt/wednesday thursday cardio. I drink anywhere from 2-4L of water a day too. Ive essentially been trying to lose since September when I went back on birth control (long story short, I went off, gained 30lbs, found out I had pcos and that was probably why, so I went back on the pill), Im down about 10lbs from my highest, but I lost that last year. I havnt really lost anything in the past few months despite changing my diet or workout routine, so now Ive pushed my doctor into sending me to an endocrinologist.</p><p>Thanks :)</p>

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]So Wednesday night was my first military wives meeting. I was pretty pumped to go and meet new people. There were only about 15 people there but not once person was welcoming. No one introduced themselves to me and when I would introduce myself to them, they'd smile and go back to talking to their friends. I felt like the new kid in middle school. I've never met a group of people so unwelcoming.  The confession is that I cried the whole way home and for about a half an hour after I got back. I've been strong about this move and not getting a job up until that night and the flood gates opened. 
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
I'm so sorry! I hope my cousin's wife wasn't one of them, but I don't really think that is her scene. 

LetsHikeToday

jcb- Thanks. :-) I'm usually outgoing but they were having none of it. It was so strange. They also didn't care about my first name, they just cared about my last name because, I'm assuming, they wanted to remember if their husbands had said anything about my husband. It was so weird. 

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I have the same problem, but it's in the 3am hour! I start to get scared that I have a ghost or something. Confession/ PS I creeped on your pinterest board and the <strong>momento mori (spelling?) photos may be contributing to my problem.</strong>
Posted by Matty143[/QUOTE]
lol sorry, I always worry about that bored freaking people out.

Matty143

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[QUOTE]So Wednesday night was my first military wives meeting. I was pretty pumped to go and meet new people. There were only about 15 people there but not once person was welcoming. No one introduced themselves to me and when I would introduce myself to them, they'd smile and go back to talking to their friends. I felt like the new kid in middle school. I've never met a group of people so unwelcoming.  The confession is that<span style="font-weight:bold;"> I cried the whole way home and for about a half an hour after I got back</span>. I've been strong about this move and not getting a job up <strong>until that night and the flood gates opened. </strong>
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

: (  That's awful they treated you that way. I'm sorry. 

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I'm so sorry! I hope my cousin's wife wasn't one of them, but I don't really think that is her scene. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]
They aren't on the same boat or in the same division or anything. :-)

ErinG93

Hike, that makes me sad for you. Moving is hard enough, hopefully they will warm up to you quickly.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]I don't want to scare you Nebbs but before I was diagnosed with diabetes and my thyroid issue I was peeing non stop. I counted how many times I went. It was ridiculous. If it is a constant issue I 'd let the specialist you are seeing know. Are you seeing an endocrinologist?
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]
Thats where I am going yes. My doctor says I dont have diabetes, but who knwos what he is right about. I like to think I keep drinking too late and then I have to keep getting up, even a tiny amount annoys me so I get up rather than let it get worse.

Matty143

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : lol sorry, I always worry about that bored freaking people out.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

: ) No worries, I actually have a weird interest in them.
 I think the first time I ever saw one of those was in that movie The Others. Remember that? With Nicole Kidman?
Anyways, when I saw that on your board I was like "Dont do it!" but I had to.
I also really liked your collection of historic royal portraits.

LetsHikeToday

The bright side is that two of them, who weren't at the meeting, are so nice and check in on me a lot.

PLUS, there were only maybe 1/6th of the wives there. Maybe it was just the bad batch?

LP11509

Hugs to you, LTH.  It's hard making friends in a new place when you're not working or in school or something.  I really admire you for holding up so well under the circumstances, especially with a baby on the way. 

Edit: oops, LHT, not LTH. 

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : They aren't on the same boat or in the same division or anything. :-)
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
Then maybe she would be a good person to hang out with. I really don't think she gives a crap about rank and stuff anyway. <div>
</div><div>Either way, I'm really sorry you were treated that way. That has to suck. </div>

LetsHikeToday

Thanks guys, I appreciate it and I appreciate having friends here. It makes it easier.

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Thats where I am going yes. My doctor says I dont have diabetes, but who knwos what he is right about. I like to think I keep drinking too late and then I have to keep getting up, even a tiny amount annoys me so I get up rather than let it get worse.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I sure hope he is right about the diabetes. I wouldn't want anyone to have to deal with it. It sucks. It seems like symptoms of hypothyroidism. I currently have the opposite but my endo thinks that I am starting to turn into hypo. It is weird.

[Deleted User]

I'll be friends with you, hike, as long as you don't drag me to a meeting with the catty bitches. We should go to the zoo. It's fun there.

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]I'll be friends with you, hike, as long as you don't drag me to a meeting with the catty bitches. We should go to the zoo. It's fun there.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
Yes! I love the zoo. I know we'll be friends and do lunch/shopping and stuff, I was just disappointed.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I sure hope he is right about the diabetes. I wouldn't want anyone to have to deal with it. It sucks. It seems like symptoms of hypothyroidism. I currently have the opposite but my endo thinks that I am starting to turn into hypo. It is weird.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]
I hope yours gets sorted and you dont. Its so frustrating to be so out of control of what your body is doing.

DodgersBride

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I hope yours gets sorted and you dont. Its so frustrating to be so out of control of what your body is doing.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Thank you! I still have another year or so. We have been lowering my medication for the past year. It was really bad and I was taking almost 3 tablets a day to bring it down. Then out of no where it became too much. I am now down to 1 tablet a day. I'll have to have labs in a month or so then we'll see what happens. We like to avoid surgery since either way I'd end up having to take medication for it.

reils

That sucks Hike, I am sorry you had to go through that. Making friends as an adult sucks. H and I just moved and we're self employed, so I don't even have the option of making work friends here.  I hope you meet some nicer people soon! 

semplesarah

I confess that I am freaked out about my FI new job. It is a great job and pays more, but he is always gone now and it is taking a while to adjust. Just when I get used to him being out of town he comes home and its a whole other adjustment! I am always glad when he comes home though, its like a big reunion every couple of weeks!

Nebb

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Thank you! I still have another year or so. We have been lowering my medication for the past year. <strong>It was really bad and I was taking almost 3 tablets a day to bring it down. Then out of no where it became too much.</strong> I am now down to 1 tablet a day. I'll have to have labs in a month or so then we'll see what happens. We like to avoid surgery since either way I'd end up having to take medication for it.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]
That is just so bizarre!! 

texasgurly13

I confess that the apartment looks the exact same (cleanliness wise) as it did when FI left on Monday.  He's coming back today.  I've been working everyday straight for the since last Thursday and when I'm not working, I don't have the energy to do anything.  I had every intention of cleaning while he was gone, but my body is exhausted.  I'm gonna finally do something about it today because it needs to be done.

semplesarah

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[QUOTE]I confess that the apartment looks the exact same (cleanliness wise) as it did when FI left on Monday.  He's coming back today.  I've been working everyday straight for the since last Thursday and when I'm not working, I don't have the energy to do anything.  I had every intention of cleaning while he was gone, but my body is exhausted.  I'm gonna finally do something about it today because it needs to be done.
Posted by texasgurly13[/QUOTE]

I hear ya! I think our guys understand. Work, home, and wedding is hard to balance. It will get done when you get to it!

calixtine

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[QUOTE]Thanks sesh, I dont much like it either. Im really tired of feeling this way.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I had to leave and now I'm trying to catch back up so sorry if this has already been discussed.

Nebb, I just want you to know that you are not the only one who feels like this and struggles with it.  I feel like this ALL THE TIME.  I feel like I'm working so hard at the gym and watching what I eat and then I'll lose and pound and gain it right back.  I hope knowing that you are not alone at least helps a little.  I'm thinking good thoughts about your visit with the specialist and I hope it helps you.

kroot87

I'm way late for this, but AATB - I loved Eternal Sunshine. It's one of my absolute favorites. FI watched it with me once, and he hated it. He told me he didn't "get" it.

allisong23

I seem to haave a lot of pent up confessions.

Nebb & Sarah, I am so with you with the weight issue. I know I am eating less than 2000 calories a day, I am breastfeeding, and I am trying to be as active as i can with a baby (no gym visits, but I have been trying to get out for 45 min - 1 hour walks with him). But i am still gaining weight. When I was trying to find something to wear out to dinner for my birthday, all I could fit into was maternity dresses. I feel like my hips just grew with the baby and never came back. I am so depressed about being so big.

If my uncle died today, i would be so happy. He moved into our family summer property and stopped working 20 years ago. He spends all his money on Coors Light 30 packs and does nothing to contribute to the upkeep. He stays in one house during teh winter and moves to the other in the summer and he leaves behind a pigsty. We have had to replace the toilet seat every summer because it is so disgusting from him and he NEER cleans it. We spend an entire weekend cleaning the house to make it livable while he sits on his ass. It makes me so angry, and we have to be careful wha we say so rhey don't block us access from the property.

I feel like I have become distant from my BF because of her boyfriend. I have talked about her before - he cheated on her with a mutual friend, he has hit her, emptied her savings, etc. None of her friends or family can stand him, and she is too scared to leave him. She has been avoiding me, and I just can't pretend to like the guy who beat up my best friend. So I don't know what to do. She knows I am there for her, but I won't pretend it is okay.

I like being a SAHM, and I don't want to go back to work. I hope when it is time for K to start school, H will be making enough money so I don't have to.

ETA Sorry this was so long!

puresugaar

I confess that I'm getting increasingly frustrated with 2 of my 5 BMs.  I decided on my BP over a month ago and have informed 3 of the girls that I would like them to be my BMs, but the last 2 have been too busy to even meet up just so that I can tell them that I wan them in my freaking wedding!  Ugh, it makes me second guess my decision if they can't even pull it together to have a quick lunch just so I can ask them in person.  *end rant*

puresugaar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Why can't you just call them and ask  them?
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

<div>I can and might just end up doing that, but since both of these girls live very close to me I was trying to make it more personal and ask them in person.</div>

allisong23

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : First, your uncle sounds disgusting.  I mean, I don't mean to wail on your family but, really, ffs, you have to replace the toilet seat every year?   On the above, I can absolutely commiserate.  I have a friend whose BF has strung her along for 11 years.  She wants (well used to want) to get married and have kids.  He pays zero in rent and he spends from Friday after work until Monday morning at his parent's house during hunting season.  She absolutely enables him so it's not like she's innocent in the whole fiasco.  But crap, I just want to shake her and tell her to dump the loser and get on with her life.  I won't do that, though, b/c I don't want to make her feel any suckier than she already does. /end rant
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

It makes me so sad that some women don't think they can live without a man, even if that main is a POS.

Yeah, my uncle is vile. It is easier to replace the seat than clean it. *gag* I despise him.