Dear SB,

MeaghanandMichael

Yeah, I was not flamming people for not knowing all the ins and outs of every thing. That is unrealistic. But I think it is fair to tell people to hold their horses/slow their roll every now and then and pay attention to older board dynamics.

TheCranberry

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:02fd253d-6f36-4def-b23e-2470613af4c4">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : Well that's kind of the point I'm trying to make.  I'm not scared of people calling me mean, but clearly some people are.  Especially when 90% of the crap that gets called "mean" here really isn't.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

I see your point, but I don't know how to solve that.  I think it's hypocritical to want to call someone out on their posts but not want to get called out on your own.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:f85fb7f1-5570-4817-aab1-a1673674cc60">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]Let's see.... I've been called "just nice -that's the best I can say," stupid, weird, bitchy, what else? Accused of photoshopping a wedding photo - it all goes away.
Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

I've been called pointless :) And I don't give a flying rat's ass.

beatlesgirl25

Nebb, that's kind of scary sounding. I say if it's keeping you up at night, you need to go to the doctor, no matter how many days it has or hasn't been. Is the pancreas near the appendix? I feel like I should know this.

And East, I agree with your points and I am also highly amused at the number of pages we've spent negotiating this instead of just doing it. But I feel like some of us flew into the thread with the flaming spirit, and then we got crickets, so a gentler approach that involves the consent of others may be in order.

Starmusica

I haven't been called anything here but I am pretty sure MissC insinuated I should watch my weight on FB last night. To answer her... I had a larger piece of pie with a little more ice cream because f*ck that.

dmiller9274

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:22d60edf-5c2d-44d0-8c75-bb914256bcc5">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I was not flamming people for not knowing all the ins and outs of every thing. That is unrealistic. <strong>But I think it is fair to tell people to hold their horses/slow their roll every now and then and pay attention to older board dynamics</strong>.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

<div>agreed</div>

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:da60f713-cdfd-43bb-b4b6-f8629dc17821">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't been called anything here but I am pretty sure MissC insinuated I should watch my weight on FB last night. To answer her... I had a larger piece of pie with a little more ice cream because f*ck that.
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

Dude. No one stands between me and dessert. Good for you.

Nebb

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:2ca5355b-ed11-4526-81b3-6c0fd4e4e7c2">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]Nebb, that's kind of scary sounding. I say if it's keeping you up at night, you need to go to the doctor, no matter how many days it has or hasn't been. Is the pancreas near the appendix? I feel like I should know this. And East, I agree with your points and I am also highly amused at the number of pages we've spent negotiating this instead of just doing it. But I feel like some of us flew into the thread with the flaming spirit, and then we got crickets, so a gentler approach that involves the consent of others may be in order. ;)
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
This is TMI but it only really hurts when use the bathroom, which is freaking me out. It hurts right now, but its a dull ache as opposed to a pain. I actually dont even know if my pancreas is all the way down where this pain is, but ive decided its my pancreas.

Starmusica

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:25a8ba29-d862-498b-b85c-76112124ebc0">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : This is TMI but it only really hurts when use the bathroom, which is freaking me out. It hurts right now, but its a dull ache as opposed to a pain. I actually dont even know if my pancreas is all the way down where this pain is, but ive decided its my pancreas.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>
</div><div>this is also WAY WAY too much TMI but if its hurting in the bathroom its entirely possible its a blockage or a semi-blockage. Its all quality over quantity with that stuff....</div>

mrscarter052011

Nebb,
 Maybe gall stones or a kidney stone?  Can you call the Dr's office and just talk to a nurse or leave a message for a dr?  That way they can tell you symptoms that would warrant a visit to the ER (in case it is your appendix)?

AllAboutTheBenjamin

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:25a8ba29-d862-498b-b85c-76112124ebc0">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : This is TMI but it only really hurts when use the bathroom, which is freaking me out. It hurts right now, but its a dull ache as opposed to a pain. I actually dont even know if my pancreas is all the way down where this pain is, but ive decided its my pancreas.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]


I want you to go to the doctor :(

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:2eb7d9a5-10a1-4933-ac0c-2ab876b98b42">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : J&K- I can see Crans point to an extent.  I think E's FFF shows us that its really only for the established regs and if newbs etc try to flame, the regs join together to defend each other.  I would hate to see that happen around here if we chose to do it.  I would hope that even if we see our friends get flamed, we could let it happen if it is deserved instead of shooting it down because we dont want to see our friends get called out.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

But here's the thing--you're not disagreeing with me.  This is exactly what I'm saying.  We shouldn't be afraid to call out other regs.  Newbs shouldn't be afraid to call out regs.  Regs should take feedback from newbs (aside from the OMG YOU GUYS SUCK I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBANDS! stuff) as unbiased things to consider.  And for christ's sake, let's not be mean to newbs just for the sake of being mean to newbs.

kpwedkk

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:fb81cc58-bdd5-4aa9-a0d7-11399f3a4894">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : case in point... read through a thread before posting so you know exactly which way the wind is blowing (i.e. no puppies and rainbows here)
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

I was responding to the original post...  Can't people be happy in this world?

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:da60f713-cdfd-43bb-b4b6-f8629dc17821">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't been called anything here but I am pretty sure MissC insinuated I should watch my weight on FB last night. To answer her... I had a larger piece of pie with a little more ice cream because f*ck that.
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

I offered to help you finish that pie...sadly, I couldn't make it.

Nebb, any chance it's your appendix? My best friend had pain in the lower stomach area, and I seem to remember it hurting when she went to the bathroom. After a few days she was really sick with flu-like symptoms and had to have it removed.

mrscarter052011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:fb81cc58-bdd5-4aa9-a0d7-11399f3a4894">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : case in point... read through a thread before posting so you know exactly which way the wind is blowing (i.e. no puppies and rainbows here)
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

Weren't you campaigning earlier for a nicer board?  Maybe she did read all the posts and wanted to bring us back to the the OP and say I enjoy the fact that we can all come together here and discuss.

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:9c0e8e7b-b82d-49b9-81e1-9655e0c2dc60">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE] I don't get the nostalgia for the old SB at all. I think that we can be a community of naturally sarcastic people who just get each other, and that's plenty. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]
I think you're confused as to what we mean when we say we want it to go back to the way it was.  We don't want the SB of yore (pre format change) we want the SB that we've come to know and love since this particular group took it over, which would be exactly what you're describing with the naturally sarcastic people who get each other.  It's just gotten to be so P&R it's like a club board in my mind.  It seems to me that people are only willing to speak their mind, and bring out their sarcasm, when a newb is the target, which is not how it should be.

mehgank

I know I'm late coming into this discussion, but that's because I'm slammed at work. FWIW, I did read every page in an attempt to get caught up.

I do remember the old TK setup, and I didn't thinkt here was anything really wrong with it, other than that it was slow, but I attributed that to me not being tech-savvy enough to make it go faster LOL. I do remember that after they made the switch, I completely hated TK TV and wanted it to go away forever. I figured out how to open boards without it, but still, it's kind of a PITA.

I remember the boardwar vaguely. I wasn't really involved, I was more of an innocent bystander. It wasn't my fight to fight.

Around the time it happened, I had lurked for a few months on SB, posted the 'typical' newbie post in a thread similar to this one, and got properly flamed for it, which I took in stride. Looking back now, I realize the error of my ways. I only lurked until recently, when I started to notice a lot of the regs on here were regs on the other boards I frequent, so I re-introduced myself a couple weeks ago.

Starmusica

beatles - yeaaa that would piss me off. That happens on my club board ALL THE TIME.

anna.oskar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:34ef04f6-0131-477f-a2fa-e40a17d888c2">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : Anna please reconsider!  I need the laughs. 
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]

I've been informed that I type/speak before thinking and should keep my thoughts to myself.  i figure there might be something to that.

JenGin74

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:eab65f8e-d81f-4ba9-ba20-375371322be5">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : I think you're confused as to what we mean when we say we want it to go back to the way it was.  We don't want the SB of yore (pre format change) we want the SB that we've come to know and love since this particular group took it over, which would be exactly what you're describing with the naturally sarcastic people who get each other.  It's just gotten to be so P&R it's like a club board in my mind.  It seems to me that people are only willing to speak their mind, and bring out their sarcasm, when a newb is the target, which is not how it should be.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

You said it so much better than me.

I think as a group, we're all solid enough to criticize each other without things getting out of hand.

mehgank

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:5da6b4e4-f779-47f1-a28b-3e638c5e92de">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : I read this as "Oprah ate it" and was really confused.
Posted by marriedfilingjointly[/QUOTE]

I thought that too!

beatlesgirl25

You know, I think it's funny how much we argued in this thread about disagreeing, and the right/refusal to do so. It's very meta.

Blueyed228

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:eab65f8e-d81f-4ba9-ba20-375371322be5">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : I think you're confused as to what we mean when we say we want it to go back to the way it was.  We don't want the SB of yore (pre format change) we want the SB that we've come to know and love since this particular group took it over, which would be exactly what you're describing with the naturally sarcastic people who get each other.  It's just gotten to be so P&R it's like a club board in my mind.  It seems to me that people are only willing to speak their mind, and bring out their sarcasm, when a newb is the target, which is not how it should be.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

I completely agree.  I feel like I log on sometimes (which i dont do as much since my wedding is in 33 days) and dont know wtf is going on or who is who.  The flow of the board is so different now that I feel like my brand of sarcasm is just looked at as mean so I dont bother.

kpwedkk

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:8d1def55-1cc9-44a6-9d2f-4c07e37e9ecd">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : I was just guilty of this like two posts up. I missed a response and asked the same thing. lol.  Kp- theres nothing wrong with being nice. Your comment was just ironic considering what this ENTIRE THREAD has been about.
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

Gee thanks...

Fine, I have another one -
Dear SB... or TK for that matter, why is this site so slow ?

Thanks,
Mrs K

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:23f9308a-f511-40ec-a039-f3f02fe15a93">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : Just checking.  Are you really being biitchy or are you just trying to stir up some crap as MANY of the previous posts suggested is what is missing around here?  Not sure if you are calling me out for being late to the game here or what so I will hold back my comments until I clarify.  That of course being sarcastic yet respectful of my fellow SB regs. 
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]

Just checking, didn't people here not like you before you popped into this post?

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:23f9308a-f511-40ec-a039-f3f02fe15a93">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : Just checking.  Are you really being biitchy or are you just trying to stir up some crap as MANY of the previous posts suggested is what is missing around here?  Not sure if you are calling me out for being late to the game here or what so I will hold back my comments until I clarify.  That of course being sarcastic yet respectful of my fellow SB regs. 
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]

Uh, I think her point was that it sounded like you were saying reading every page was so boring that you fell asleep.  And no one is suggesting stirring up crap, FFS.  I feel like I'm banging my head against the wall, for real.

MISSCOURTNEY20

I think the biggest problem with waiting until a specific time to tell people that they were dumb for saying whatever, is that emotions get all in the way. People have said something on Monday and then it gets thrown in their face on Friday. Feelings get hurt and people can't get over it.

For example, OWN said that I irritated her when I posted, when I was a newb during a FFF. I had no idea what I had done or said or what the helll FFF even meant.  I could not get over that. I was stunned and always felt that she was "out to get me" or show how irritating I was to her. Months later, she made a really nice comment about me never being able to take a bad picture and I was super surprised. I thought that she just hated me and it was personal. I found that that was not the case.

I say all that to say, FFF gets out of hand sometimes and if we can just be honest in the  OP thread, I think it will be much better for the board as a whole.

SarahPLiz

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:1e32c055-e870-49cb-b267-bcb041e93b43">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : You said it so much better than me. I think as a group, we're all solid enough to criticize each other without things getting out of hand.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

<div>But do we need to decide who we are as a group, or should we all just be ourselves and let the chips fall where they may. What makes us great is a group is our individuality, not our party line, if we even have one. I feel that some of this thread was us trying to agree on what our collective board personality would be, and I just don't see the need for that. </div>

betrothed123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:eaae40e5-d40b-48e4-a739-19b901eb60d6">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : Just checking, didn't people here not like you before you popped into this post?
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
I think you're thinking of when she went over to CC and posted in a thread that we all gave terrible advice on a certain topic.

MeaghanandMichael

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_dear-sb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:edbc1d88-c919-4622-b922-affe6c5e5ff0Post:351c4423-6db6-4285-ae87-8e71c50dd8de">Re: Dear SB,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dear SB, : But do we need to decide who we are as a group, or should we all just be ourselves and let the chips fall where they may. What makes us great is a group is our individuality, not our party line, if we even have one. I feel that some of this thread was us trying to agree on what our collective board personality would be, and I just don't see the need for that. 
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

Very nice.

And yeah B, you are right. Mica knows it too.