FFF

mseale

aww, thanks y'all... I'll try and have more patience.

cfibelkorn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : People that act like that are the kind of people that show up to a wedding without a gift!
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

EXACTLY!!! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-yell.gif" border="0" alt="Yell" title="Yell" />

bridgetlb

michelle.... i tried to look at your pics, but after i put in the username and password, it asked me to give them MORE info to log in.... so, i didn't see them

beecjena08

In reponce to:

2. I'm disappointed that most people didn't look/comment on my wedding pictures that I posted yesterday.  I know there were a lot, but you could have skimmed them.
Posted by mseale

So sorry I didn't get a chance to look at them. I will do that today. I know how that can feel.

bridgetlb

ok, michelle

i put in fake info and was able to view them

NICE!!! did you guys do a reveal?

rcpm44

Alright, here's another one.

When I hear brides on my club board talk about how they want kids right away I judge them. In fact I judge anyone who says they want kids right away.  I just don't understand this kind of thinking. Never have I said anything, but there is alot of TTC talk on my board and it's been bothering me.

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]Alright, here's another one. When I hear brides on my club board talk about how they want kids right away I judge them. In fact I judge anyone who says they want kids right away.  I just don't understand this kind of thinking. Never have I said anything, but there is alot of TTC talk on my board and it's been bothering me.
Posted by rcpm44[/QUOTE]

I completely agree... and I already have one.  And while I don't regret her ONE BIT, my advice to new brides/younger women... WAIT.  Enjoy the things that you love to do... enjoy eachother... make your big purchases.... and then have kids (if you want them).

mseale

We did have a reveal  It was supposed to be outside at the church, but it was so dang hot, and the hotel lobby was so gorgeous that we did it there.  It was perfect!  I'm still not sure if it was the right decision, but I wasn't nervous at all for the ceremony (it was a LONG aisle) because I got to see him first and didn't have that to think about as well. 

Wow, that was a run-on, but I don't feel like changing it. 

beecjena08

I totally agree with you bsn1752 , while I also have a kid, I think waiting is good. Enjoy each other first.

SoonToBeMrsHoz

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[QUOTE]Alright, here's another one. When I hear brides on my club board talk about how they want kids right away I judge them. In fact I judge anyone who says they want kids right away.  I just don't understand this kind of thinking. Never have I said anything, but there is alot of TTC talk on my board and it's been bothering me.
Posted by rcpm44[/QUOTE]

I guess it all depends on where you in life... Some people have been with the FI/DH for years before they get married and are in that stage of life to TTC. I agree that ideally you want to have "us" time with your partner before you have kids, but I think it's all relative to the scenario. I agree with you if you are just out of college in your early 20s and getting married and wanting to have kids right away, I would say enjoy your life a little bit before thinking of kids.

But in our case, we are both 31 and ready for that next stage of life, and plan to TTC in 2011. And we know sadly based on what has happened to a lot of our friends, just because you TTC doesn't mean you will be successful and it took take years in some cases, so again I think it's relative to the stage of life you and your partner are but definitely take "some" time to enjoy just being a couple.

bridgetlb

well, you looked beautiful!!!! and so did your bridesmaids. I really liked your dress as well.

honestly for the most part, i see the girls on here picking dresses that look good on them!!! everytime i say "wow, you look good in your dress..." i feel like i'm giving a line, but it is true!!!

nickandmerritt

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[QUOTE]michelle.... i tried to look at your pics, but after i put in the username and password, it asked me to give them MORE info to log in.... so, i didn't see them :(
Posted by bridgetlb[/QUOTE]

ditto.

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]We did have a reveal  It was supposed to be outside at the church, but it was so dang hot, and the hotel lobby was so gorgeous that we did it there.  It was perfect!  <strong>I'm still not sure if it was the right decision</strong>, but I wasn't nervous at all for the ceremony (it was a LONG aisle) because I got to see him first and didn't have that to think about as well.  Wow, that was a run-on, but I don't feel like changing it.  :)
Posted by mseale[/QUOTE]

See!!  I thought about this reveal thing ALOT and I am not doing one.  I've always thought of that *moment*... you know, when you're walking down the aisle and you see eachother for the first time.  I just can't bear to part with it.

cfibelkorn

We are not doing a reveal either...say what you will but I believe it will take away from that "moment". My FI is totally against it anyways....he wants to see me for the first time as i walk down the aisle too

rcpm44

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I guess it all depends on where you in life... Some people have been with the FI/DH for years before they get married and are in that stage of life to TTC. I agree that ideally you want to have "us" time with your partner before you have kids, but I think it's all relative to the scenario. I agree with you if you are just out of college in your early 20s and getting married and wanting to have kids right away, I would say enjoy your life a little bit before thinking of kids. But in our case, we are both 31 and ready for that next stage of life, and plan to TTC in 2011. And we know sadly based on what has happened to a lot of our friends, just because you TTC doesn't mean you will be successful and it took take years in some cases, so again I think it's relative to the stage of life you and your partner are but definitely take "some" time to enjoy just being a couple.
Posted by SoonToBeMrsHoz[/QUOTE]

I get the different stages in life. FI and I will be 26 and 30 but there will be no TTC talk any sooner than 5 years!

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]We are not doing a reveal either...say what you will but I believe it will take away from that "moment". My FI is totally against it anyways....he wants to see me for the first time as i walk down the aisle too
Posted by cfibelkorn[/QUOTE]

I think it takes away too.... that's just my .02.

And my FI laughed when I suggested it... he's not traditional about a lot of thing, but that, he is dead set on not doing.

cfibelkorn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I think it takes away too.... that's just my .02. And my FI laughed when I suggested it... <strong>he's not traditional about a lot of thing, but that, he is dead set on not doing.</strong>
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

My FI exactly!

BanannaP

FI and I will be 29 and 36, respectively, by the end of this year. We won't be TTC right away, but if our employment situation was settled, we'd be trying within six months of the wedding. As it stands, I'm hoping to start trying in the next year. We've had plenty of time for just "us" and it could possibly take us 3 or 4 years to conceive. And, we feel emotionally ready. If we're ready, and we've been together for so many years, why wait?

danac2010

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[QUOTE]FI and I will be 29 and 36, respectively, by the end of this year. We won't be TTC right away, but if our employment situation was settled, we'd be trying within six months of the wedding. As it stands, I'm hoping to start trying in the next year. We've had plenty of time for just "us" and it could possibly take us 3 or 4 years to conceive. And, we feel emotionally ready.<strong> If we're ready, and we've been together for so many years, why wait?
</strong>Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]

This!  We aren't going to wait too long after the wedding.  I don't want to start right after because we aren't going on our HM until Spring and I don't want to miss out on that because I'm pregnant.  I think we are going to start in late spring or summer of next year.  We are ready emotionally, financially, and so we don't see why we need to wait years.  Plus FI wants another one before he turns 35 and he'll be 34 in Feb so not a lot of time!

knottie2733fe6844e988e4

I flame that I am not going to be able to go to the G2G... I'll be going to Chicago for work!

I am excited though!

mseale

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : See!!  I thought about this reveal thing ALOT and I am not doing one.  I've always thought of that *moment*... you know, when you're walking down the aisle and you see eachother for the first time.  I just can't bear to part with it.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

I had always thought about that moment too... but I will have to say, everything from the ceremony on that day was a big old blurr.... I remember seeing him as he got off the elevator, and spending some time with him.  I do not remember much about the ceremony. 

Apparently our priest said some funny things during the mass ("1+1 does not = 2, it equals 1, but a greater 1", and later he was fumbling for words so he says "Good times")  I remember NONE of this.  People keep commenting about it afterwards, and I am clueless.

So I am glad that we did it, because I remember that time very well.  I still wonder if I lost that 'moment', but it doesn't bother me.

mseale

Oh, and as for TTC right after marriage, it is different in every situation.  If you've already been living together, built your life together and are ready to move on to that stage in life, you may be getting married just to have your union sealed and then TTC. 

DH wanted to have kids right away, but we hadn't lived together prior to getting married.  I felt very strongly that we needed to wait for a year or so to get the living situation iorned out, travel a bit more, and enjoy both of our siblings weddings (w/in the next year).  Luckily, he agreed. 

If you are straight out of college, I think you are missing out on a lot if you have kids right away.  But, it is a personal choice and to each her, or his, own.

NMac2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I completely agree... and I already have one.  And while I don't regret her ONE BIT, my advice to new brides/younger women... WAIT.  Enjoy the things that you love to do... enjoy eachother... make your big purchases.... and then have kids (if you want them).
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

Agree, totally. I don't think you have to be right out of college to still need/want time to yourselves, either.

I've been out of college for years now, so has DH. But, we still have so much that we want to do, sans children. Travel, spend money, sleep, spoil each other and give all our attention to one another, and not someone else. You know, all the things you can't do once you have kids. haha..kidding. Kinda.

I think it is different for everyone. I work with a girl who just got married in April, but they're already talking about TTC because of her age. Can't say that would make me want to TTC so early on in the marriage, just because of my age, but to each their own. I think regardless of whether you're 25, or 35, if you have children so soon after getting married, one day, you'll look back and wish you would have had a little more time with your husband. But...I could be wrong. I've just heard people tell me that they wished they had waited. Yes, even people who had been together years prior to marriage.

ETA: Plus, even though people say "nothing changes once you get married, it's just a piece of paper", I don't believe that. I think marriage adds a new dynamic to the relationship. I feel different now that we're married, a good different of course. And I am loving this newlywed stage and want to enjoy it for as long as possible, just the two of us.

fallbride1109

Ugh, this drives me crazy so I have to say it.

You have the "MOMENT" no matter WHEN you do it.  Whether it's before the ceremony or walking down the aisle.  I understanding wanting to wait until you walk down the aisle which is fine, but it's not like people that do a reveal don't have the same magic moment where your FI sees you for the first time.  It's just at a different time.

Tiffany618

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[QUOTE]Ugh, this drives me crazy so I have to say it. You have the "MOMENT" no matter WHEN you do it.  Whether it's before the ceremony or walking down the aisle.  I understanding wanting to wait until you walk down the aisle which is fine, but it's not like people that do a reveal don't have the same magic moment where your FI sees you for the first time.  It's just at a different time.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

I agree.   You have the exact same "moment" with the nervousness and everything, it is just in private where you can hug/kiss/love.. whatever.  

I don't think one is better than the other... it's personal preference.  For me, I didn't want to share my moment with 100 people staring at me.  LOL.

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]Ugh, this drives me crazy so I have to say it. You have the "MOMENT" no matter WHEN you do it.  Whether it's before the ceremony or walking down the aisle.  I understanding wanting to wait until you walk down the aisle which is fine, but it's not like people that do a reveal don't have the same magic moment where your FI sees you for the first time.  It's just at a different time.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]

I'm not discounting ANYONE'S moment at all... I'm saying that for me, that's not the moment that I want.  It doesn't make either side of the arguement wrong, it just makes our opinions/wants different.

Tiffany618

ANOTHER couple on my month (nest) board is getting a divorce.  Good grief, I knew divorce rates were high but that makes 3 or 4 couples now.

I didn't chat on their much though because a lot of them seemed really, really not mature... plus everything over there was puppies and rainbows.  A girl would post something positively awful (in my opinion, of course) and everyone would gush over it... it was bad.

BanannaP

I ventured over to my month board once or twice when I was 10-12 months out from the wedding, and they were all sending out save the dates already. I mean, I feel like I've pretty well stayed on top of planning, but they were ridiculously ahead of the game. So I stopped going over there.

NMac2010

I agree that the whole "moment" thing is special no matter what.

But, I will say that we waited until I walked down the aisle, and then after the ceremony, when we made our exit from the chapel, DH and I rushed into the Brides suite to sneak some alone time in before pictures and that was probably the best time of the entire evening because it was the first time we were alone all day, and we had just become husband and wife. So we still got our "alone time" to hug/kiss/love on each other, but it was just after we had our "moment" during the ceremony when he saw me for the first time.

Also, some of the best pictures IMO, were from those 5-10 minutes in that room alone after the ceremony. How much more exciting and emotional does it get-you just got married and you're sneaking off to be alone for a few minutes. It was wonderful.

bsn1752

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[QUOTE]I agree that the whole "moment" thing is special no matter what. But, I will say that we waited until I walked down the aisle, and then after the ceremony, when we made our exit from the chapel, DH and I rushed into the Brides suite to sneak some alone time in before pictures and that was probably the best time of the entire evening because it was the first time we were alone all day, and we had just become husband and wife. So we still got our "alone time" to hug/kiss/love on each other, but it was just after we had our "moment" during the ceremony when he saw me for the first time. Also, some of the best pictures IMO, were from those 5-10 minutes in that room alone after the ceremony. How much more exciting and emotional does it get-you just got married and you're sneaking off to be alone for a few minutes. It was wonderful.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

This gave me goosebumps.