KPP's?

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : Yeah, I mean, partially I don't want to be flamed, but also, I just never feel good after I participate.  I flamed Matt's Penguin a few weeks ago for copying my blog, and even though my feelings are true and valid and whatnot, I still feel bad about it because I'm sure she wasn't malicious about it.  It just bugged me.  I usually just stay out of it.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I hate FFF and I am so happy that I am not stuck infront of a computer anymore so the temptation is not there to look at it. I looked through a few of them last Friday and, as Brie said, felt terrible after reading some of them. I really feel that saying things that you know are going to hurt someone is just nasty and this is not the place for that. IMO If we were to pass one another on the street or I was to hold a door open for you, you would not know who I was or think anything about the incident. But the opinions that people create on here about other people are so one sided. I know that many people are friends, and I think that that is great, but to find enemies on a board like this, makes me SMH.

*jumping off of soapbox*

Nebb

I truly believe that no one is 100% happy with their body, whether theyre overweight or skinny. If they were, plastic surgery wouldnt be so popular. Some people are just more open about it or obvious with their displeasure, than others.

kikibaby

I'm definitely not even going to say how much I've gained, but- I feel like I'm always going to be mad at myself for getting married at my heaviest weight ever.  I see everyone's pictures where they look so beautiful, and I just wish I looked that way in my pictures.  (But I did have a great wedding- it's just the pics)

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]I've gained about 40 pounds in the past two years, and one of the reasons I haven't started wedding dress shopping yet is because I still want to believe I'll be able to get rid of it before I buy a dress. It makes me pretty miserable most of the time.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]


Every bit of this I agree with. I've gained 60 pounds since I started college and 20 in just the past year. I was ok with my weight up until my senior year when it got to the point of not feeling attractive anymore. However, I took some medicine last year that made me gain 20 pounds in about 6 months and now I feel horrible about myself. I'd LOVE to be a size 12 again. I keep telling myself that I can do it and when I imagine my wedding day, I imagine it with my skinny self. I don't even want to get e-pics taken before I lose weight because I hate seeing myself in pictures. I don't know what happened to my athletic body.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]Like politics and religion, for me, weight is a topic that is off limits. You know, unless it's a support group for people dealing with/recoving from body dismorphic disorders.
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

<div>I vote for an Amen.</div>

maratea

Here's mine:

arbolita

But the opinions that people create on here about other people are so one sided.

They might not be based on who you are as a person, but they are based about how you present yourself online and info you provide about yourself, both of which are things you have control over. 

parker624

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[QUOTE]I'm definitely not even going to say how much I've gained, but- I feel like I'm always going to be mad at myself for getting married at my heaviest weight ever.  I see everyone's pictures where they look so beautiful, and I just wish I looked that way in my pictures.  (But I did have a great wedding- it's just the pics)
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I feel this way 100%.  I have exactly 1 month until the wedding.  I thought I would be able to get to a normal weight, and instead I've only lost 3 lbs and am still teetering at my heaviest.  So I'll just have to suck it up and be a fat bride.  At least my dress fits.

salt78

I'm all for cosmetic procedures as long as it's not extreme and makes you look like a totally different person a la Heidi Montag. 

Some people just need to do a little something to feel better about themselves. And that's ok. My mother had a face lift and it improved her confidence so much. I got Botox before my wedding and love it. 

I almost got a nose job because my nose is pretty terrible, but I didn't go through with it. 

Brie2010

Re: weight.  I gained a ton of weight after meeting Tim--I have no idea how much, but probably at least 30-40 pounds.  Then I lost 50 pounds and was finally at a healthy BMI, but I had to make myself miserable to maintain it.  I gained back 10 pounds, and yeah, sometimes that disappoints me a little because now I'm technically 5 pounds overweight...but I am in better shape than probably 80% of the general population, have curves, and still eat pizza and cheeseburgers and ice cream, and I'm HAPPY.  And you can't put a number on that.

Everyone in this thread needs to click this link, now.  And then I challenge you to do it, right now, in your office or on your home mirror or whatever.  Life's too damn short to not love yourself, or at least try to.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : I feel this way 100%.  I have exactly 1 month until the wedding.  I thought I would be able to get to a normal weight, and instead I've only lost 3 lbs and am still teetering at my heaviest.  So I'll just have to suck it up and be a fat bride.  At least my dress fits.
Posted by parker624[/QUOTE]

I feel you.  I have four months and four days, and I've only lost 5 lbs.  But I've come to realize that the things that really bother me the most about my body -- like my jawline and my shoulders -- aren't things that I can change.  Frustrating, but not worth getting upset about.  My body is mine, and FI loves it the way it is.

Birdie1483

I also hate FFF. It reminds me of the cheesy story lines you see about sorority hazing in Lifetime movies. It only happens on Lifetime and online. I hope real people aren't that mean.

MISSCOURTNEY20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : I feel this way 100%.  I have exactly 1 month until the wedding.  I thought I would be able to get to a normal weight, and instead I've only lost 3 lbs and am still teetering at my heaviest.  So I'll just have to suck it up and be a fat bride.  At least my dress fits.
Posted by parker624[/QUOTE]

Don't do this to yourself. You will be beautiful on the outside. Now love yourself on the inside and have a great time. You don't want your disappointment with your weight to show in your pictures.

crfische

Maratea, that's horrible! And scary.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]Re: weight.  I gained a ton of weight after meeting Tim--I have no idea how much, but probably at least 30-40 pounds.  Then I lost 50 pounds and was finally at a healthy BMI, but I had to make myself miserable to maintain it.  I gained back 10 pounds, and yeah, sometimes that disappoints me a little because now I'm technically 5 pounds overweight...but I am in better shape than probably 80% of the general population, have curves, and still eat pizza and cheeseburgers and ice cream, and I'm HAPPY.  And you can't put a number on that. Everyone in this thread needs to click this link , now.  And then I challenge you to do it, right now, in your office or on your home mirror or whatever.  <strong>Life's too damn short to not love yourself, or at least try to</strong>.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Well hot damn, Brie, I think I just fell in love with you.

</div>

arbolita

I plan on having plastic surgery within the next few years.  I've talked before about how I had two hip surgeries when I was in middle school, and over the past 12 years I've had large pockets of scar tissue build up in that area.  It pretty significantly changes the shape of my hips, and I think it's part of the reason I have a really distorted body image. 

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]Re: weight.  I gained a ton of weight after meeting Tim--I have no idea how much, but probably at least 30-40 pounds.  Then I lost 50 pounds and was finally at a healthy BMI, but I had to make myself miserable to maintain it.  I gained back 10 pounds, and yeah, sometimes that disappoints me a little because now I'm technically 5 pounds overweight...but I am in better shape than probably 80% of the general population, have curves, and still eat pizza and cheeseburgers and ice cream, and I'm HAPPY.  And you can't put a number on that. Everyone in this thread needs to click this link , now.  And then I challenge you to do it, right now, in your office or on your home mirror or whatever.  Life's too damn short to not love yourself, or at least try to.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

Brie, this made me tear up. Thanks. :)

kikibaby

It's easy for me to love myself when it's just me and the people who love me.  I know that H and my family don't judge my weight (although my mom wants me to be 'healthier').  But I also know that other people (who shouldn't matter) DO judge my weight all the time. 

Anytime someone around here wants to insult me, that's what they go to.  And in real life- I've heard the comments made about me either behind my back or to my face by drunk dudes at bars.  It's hard to love the way I look in the face of those things.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]I'm definitely not even going to say how much I've gained, but- I feel like I'm always going to be mad at myself for getting married at my heaviest weight ever.  I see everyone's pictures where they look so beautiful, and I just wish I looked that way in my pictures.  (But I did have a great wedding- it's just the pics)
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

Awww, Kiki, my best friend has a very similar story to yours.  She had lost a bunch of weight, but then gained it back plus lots more and got married at her heaviest ever.  She looked so beautiful, as did you.  Just look at your smile and know how happy you were on that day (and will be for the rest of your life with your hubby).

Thanks, Brie, for posting Operation Beautiful. 

emilyinchile

Oooh Salt, you inspired me to do a KPP (but no picture, sorry guys).

I am already starting to see expression lines on my face and have heard that Botox works best if you start in your 20s to prevent lines from ever forming. I'd try it, even though I'm scared of needles, but I know H would be really against it, and I kind of judge myself for even wanting a cosmetic procedure that's so totally unnecessary.

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]I truly believe that no one is 100% happy with their body, whether theyre overweight or skinny. If they were, plastic surgery wouldnt be so popular. Some people are just more open about it or obvious with their displeasure, than others.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I agree with this entirely. Very, very true.

This is one of mine, for the record:


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FutureMrsTR

The only plastic surgery (so far) that I have considered (wished for) is a boob job.  When I tried on that miraculous push up bra and saw how I would look with small C-cup boobs, I almost cried.  It's sad, but having these tiny little almost A cups is the only thing I really hate about my body.  So when I'm done having kids...maybe.

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : Awww, Kiki, my best friend has a very similar story to yours.  She had lost a bunch of weight, but then gained it back plus lots more and got married at her heaviest ever.  She looked so beautiful, as did you.  Just look at your smile and know how happy you were on that day (and will be for the rest of your life with your hubby). Thanks, Brie, for posting Operation Beautiful. 
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]

This is me. In the 2007-2008 school year, I started seeing a nutritionist and exercised a lot. The weight just fell off, and I was so happy, and felt so great. But then I fell off the wagon, and tried to get back several times, and here I am with all the weight back, plus an extra fifteen. And it doesn't help that FI is getting fitter and fitter all the time. I don't like the way I look standing next to him.

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kpps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bc654db-814b-4f87-ba37-2f0f428636bcPost:c2225c2c-3859-4770-9a6d-9d821273021e">Re: KPP's?</a>:
[QUOTE]And in real life- I've heard the comments made about me either behind my back or to my face by drunk dudes at bars.  
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

<div>And then the drunk dudes probably black out and take home some filthy slut from the bar, and wake up in a pool of their own urine with a nasty case of gonorrhea. At least that's what I hope happens to them.</div>

danieliza1127

No picture for me either but why oh why do I pick girls that are SO needy as my close friends?  I just spent hours on IM with a friend counseling her and going in these viscous circles with all of her negative self-talk but she could never do the same for me.  I would never confide in her with my serious issues, which I'm actually having now, but she would never know.  Ugh.  It's really exhausting and it's a pattern that I've had over and over since high school. 

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]It's easy for me to love myself when it's just me and the people who love me.  I know that H and my family don't judge my weight (although my mom wants me to be 'healthier').  But I also know that other people (who shouldn't matter) DO judge my weight all the time.  Anytime someone around here wants to insult me, that's what they go to.  And in real life- I've heard the comments made about me either behind my back or to my face by drunk dudes at bars.  It's hard to love the way I look in the face of those things.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

At some point, you just have to realize that you'll never please everyone.  People still make comments about my weight because I'm not stick-thin, but I don't give a rat's ass because, frankly, they don't matter.  I get mean comments on my blog every once in awhile asking why I'm giving fitness advice when I look the way I do.  But then, when I was stick thin, people made comments about me not having any boobs anymore, or being weak, or looking too skinny.  You just can't win with 100% of the general population, EVER, so...stop trying.  Focus on those who love you for who you are and fuuck all the rest of 'em.

FWIW, I think you're pretty fantastic and I very much liked your wedding pictures!

salt78

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[QUOTE]Oooh Salt, you inspired me to do a KPP (but no picture, sorry guys). I am already starting to see expression lines on my face and have heard that Botox works best if you start in your 20s to prevent lines from ever forming. I'd try it, even though I'm scared of needles, but I know H would be really against it, and I kind of judge myself for even wanting a cosmetic procedure that's so totally unnecessary.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

<div>I would never try to persuade anyone by saying OMG it's the best thing ever and they should go do it (even though I think it's the best thing ever), but I will tell you that the needles are super tiny and don't hurt a bit.</div>

Birdie1483

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[QUOTE]I plan on having plastic surgery within the next few years.  I've talked before about how I had two hip surgeries when I was in middle school, and over the past 12 years I've had large pockets of scar tissue build up in that area.  It pretty significantly changes the shape of my hips, and I think it's part of the reason I have a really distorted body image. 
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]


In my mind I see this as being different than having your boobs done or having a face lift just because you don't like the body you were born with. Both of those are fine to people who want to do that in my opinion, I could care less and have no judgement, but having something like scar tissue removed is different because it's something you weren't born with. I see this along the same lines as having your nose redone because you've been hit in the face with a volleyball repeatedly. I wouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed to tell people you were having a medical procedure that would correct scarring from previous medical issues.

MattsPenguin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : This is me. In the 2007-2008 school year, I started seeing a nutritionist and exercised a lot. The weight just fell off, and I was so happy, and felt so great. But then I fell off the wagon, and tried to get back several times, and here I am with all the weight back, plus an extra fifteen. And it doesn't help that FI is getting fitter and fitter all the time. I don't like the way I look standing next to him.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

Yup, done it, too.

Don't you hate men and their ability to just get fit!?!

Sarah, you look so happy with FI, too!  I love your smile!

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPP's? : And then the drunk dudes probably black out and take home some filthy slut from the bar, and wake up in a pool of their own urine with a nasty case of gonorrhea. At least that's what I hope happens to them.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

<div>My standard response to any weight comments that get thrown at me is "I can gain or lose weight any time I like, but you'll always be an asshole."</div>