Deleted thread?

texagj

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : Lol...how's the popcorn...I just now got through reading all of this diatribe!
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

::looksatbottomofbowl:: its all gone :(

And on that note..work is ust about done for me so i am out! See ya tomorrow ladies! Much love!!

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]This thread is only the 2nd time I've heard of TJ's departure. You know who I miss? Moose. Where the eff is that chick? You know somebody who was cool way back in the day? a_schaal. I wonder what she's up to.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]
I miss Brie too.

salt78

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[QUOTE]Does it look like a GBCK?  I'll be back in a few days when people stop talking about Heels.  I think it's stupid and a waste of reading time.  I could care less who is where.
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

<div>Stacks - YGPM in a sec.</div>

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : Except for the 'loudn' part, exactly ;)
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

*facepalm*

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : There is loudn and quieter.  Guess which one most people do?
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Again, I think it's in the eye of the beholder. If you already think someone is a dramatic AW, then even disappearing suddenly would probably be seen as lame. If you love the person, you'll probably be puzzled, talk about it, and miss the crap out of them.

And I'd think the overall level of noise of a GBCK is attributable to how much other people keep talking about it.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : But that's what I'm saying. It's still talked about regardless. That's the point I was trying to make. There's no quiet way to disappear from this place.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

I think there are plenty of people who just stop posting eventually. Not like, go from being super active to just not posting at all, but who just slowly disappear from this palce. Like Vogt, AlmondWhittle, Colleen. No one talks about them unless it's, "Oh hey! I haven't seen them lately. Wow, I wish they would come back."

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : Stacks - YGPM in a sec.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

ZOMG, are you revealing your real identity?!

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : But that's what I'm saying. It's still talked about regardless. That's the point I was trying to make. There's no quiet way to disappear from this place.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]


There's no SILENT way, I'll give you that (assuming you're a reg).  But there's quiet.  Colleen hasn't been around in ages.  And sometimes somebody mentions that.  But it's not a drama-filled post.  Just reminiscing.  That's the same as TJ, really.  bbyckes, not so much.  Or MrsE. 

Celles

Who wants to leave quietly, though?  What if one day, you just stopped posting...  and no one noticed? 



It'd be better to post a hugely dramatic farewell -- so people feel obligated to respond with sympathy and well-wishes -- than to fade quietly into obscurity, right?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Hey, do you guys remember Sooles? She was cool. And MissSarah.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : Again, I think it's in the eye of the beholder. If you already think someone is a dramatic AW, then even disappearing suddenly would probably be seen as lame. If you love the person, you'll probably be puzzled, talk about it, and miss the crap out of them. And I'd think the overall level of noise of a GBCK is attributable to how much other people keep talking about it.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
there's people who don't like me. when I don't post much, I don't see them saying "lala is gone, how dramatic."

AmoroAgain

Once again, people seeing what they want to see Beatles.  You want to believe that there IS no quiet way, and you'll argue that to the grave.  But you know, there are a lot of people who disappear every day.  Plenty of people who never even mention it. 

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]Hey, do you guys remember Sooles? She was cool. And MissSarah.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

<div>I loved Sooles! And we were date twins. :-)</div>

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : I think there are plenty of people who just stop posting eventually. Not like, go from being super active to just not posting at all, but who just slowly disappear from this palce. Like Vogt, AlmondWhittle, Colleen. No one talks about them unless it's, "Oh hey! I haven't seen them lately. Wow, I wish they would come back."
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

That's true, Mery. But I don't think that's what we're talking about here. We're talking about active posters who <em>did</em> abrupty quit posting.  Like TJ, Heels, Capri. I wouldn't consider Vogt and those folks to have GBCKed. They just tapered off their posting, but some come back once in awhile. I saw Almond post here today.

mandysmear

Whoa wait.  TJ left forever?

georgia_bride09

Capri is still posting all over TK and TN.

laladypoet

I have a hard time believing that an active poster who suddenly stops posting would be called "dramatic." I'm not talking about this heels situation, I'm arguing your point, beatles. I just don't see it.

mandysmear

Has this been confirmed by her?

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : That's true, Mery. But I don't think that's what we're talking about here. We're talking about active posters who did abrupty quit posting.  Like TJ, Heels, Capri. I wouldn't consider Vogt and those folks to have GBCKed. They just tapered off their posting, but some come back once in awhile. I saw Almond post here today.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Let's be fair here though, Heels can't be lumped into the "posters who did abruptly quit posting" pile. She quit posting... with one name... she didn't quit posting altogether.

salt78

When I GBCK, I'm going to run through my AW thread naked with my hair on fire. It's the only way.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Once again, people seeing what they want to see Beatles.  You want to believe that there IS no quiet way, and you'll argue that to the grave.  But you know, there are a lot of people who disappear every day.  Plenty of people who never even mention it. 
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Okay, I feel like I'm getting stuck in some weirdly specific and off-track argument here. I'm not trying to make blanket statements here about the nature of people coming and going, even though it may sound like I am.

I agree with you that people are seeing what they want to see. And I believe that because the people speaking negatively about it have some beef with Heels, then her leaving the knot is going to to be a BFD to them. If they were one of the people  who had posted in her "report the callouts/say goodbye" thread weeks ago, then they would just mention her once in awhile and reminisce, like Squirrly said. I think that's the difference here. I'm not sure why I even tried to argue that here.

laladypoet

and even if she did abruptly quit posting altogether, who would honestly say she was being "dramatic"? maybe a small fraction of people. but GBCK's in general are considered dramatic by most posters.

mandysmear

Yeah.  It was quite funny actually.  I get a huge kick out her "good bye everyone! i can't be here anymore, KPScallouts ruined it for me" to her, "okay hi, i'm back.  here's my e-mail address." to "hi, my name is somethingtodowithaccounting... let me PM you my REAL identity."

it's so laughable, it's not even funny.  it kind of makes me sad though cause heels used to be very sane and very awesome. 

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]Has this been confirmed by her?
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

<div>mandy, she referenced the call outs in her personal blog a few weeks ago and said that the related board (that's us) was something she would no longer be participating in</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : I loved Sooles! And we were date twins. :-)
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I loved her reception dress.

And yes, Beatles, but if TK holds no interest for you anymore or you talk with everyone you want to talk to outside of the boards and figure there's no reason to stick around here, a gradual tapering-off of posting is for sure the least dramatic way to exit.

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]When I GBCK, I'm going to run through my AW thread naked with my hair on fire. It's the only way.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

If you're naked, you'll have to vajazzle.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : Okay, I feel like I'm getting stuck in some weirdly specific and off-track argument here. I'm not trying to make blanket statements here about the nature of people coming and going, even though it may sound like I am. I agree with you that people are seeing what they want to see. <strong>And I believe that because the people speaking negatively about it have some beef with Heels,</strong> then her leaving the knot is going to to be a BFD to them. If they were one of the people  who had posted in her "report the callouts/say goodbye" thread weeks ago, then they would just mention her once in awhile and reminisce, like Squirrly said. I think that's the difference here. I'm not sure why I even tried to argue that here.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
I have zero personal problem with Heels. She was never anything but nice to me. But that doesn't mean I'm not gonna call 'em like I see 'em. My opinion has no basis in any disagreement or ill will I've ever had toward Heels/MFJ, because I've never harbored any ill will against her.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]I have a hard time believing that an active poster who suddenly stops posting would be called "dramatic." I'm not talking about this heels situation, I'm arguing your point, beatles. I just don't see it.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I didn't elaborate very well, sorry. I think if it's in the context of crazy drama and infighting (like with the callout site), then it would be noticed more and thought to "mean" something. And like I said in my previous post, if it IS a controversial poster like Heels, then yeah it would be seen as dramatic. That's my opinion, anyway. I appreciate you wanting to argue this with me outside of the Heels situation.

salt78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Deleted thread? : If you're naked, you'll have to vajazzle.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

<div>I just bought a new soldering iron yesterday actually.</div>

mandysmear

oh man.  that sucks.  TJ is a pretty cool chick.  but, no one should be here if they're not happy.