FFF

Mrs_AF

I kind of hope Brie gets a book deal. I like her blog.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:b081ae35-d5ef-4ef0-9833-9f70cfa16477">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I forget who it is, but the girl whose FI is making her move a year before she finishes her Phd, yeah, her FI is a douche. And this is coming from the lady who has 'the worst husband eva!!!!' When H and I started dating, I told him that I didn't want to get serious if he wouldnt be willing to move for me if I needed to move for school. We could have bought a house a year before we did, but we didnt know where I would go to grad school, so we rented instead. I would NOT leave a PhD program to follow a man.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Uh ya, jessjo, this would be me.

You can flame me all you want, but get your facts strait first. He's not making me move before I finish my PhD. He got a job. We're moving. Everyone and their brother suggests I stay behind a year and finish it--including him. I'd much rather move. Who the eff cares if I get a PhD or not? Sure, it'd be nice, but it's not the end all be all to my world. I'm 24--I have a master's, and would have a PhD by 26. That's earlier than some people finish their undergrad--so if I want to stay and finish, or if I want to move, I will. No one makes me do anything.

The only douche I see is you.

wadingmoose

I never jumped on the "I love TJ train."  If she posted recently about the stupid on P&E, I'm not really surprised because that's always been a common theme with her, you know, when she wasn't whoring out her blog or giving away free presents.  (Love me, dammit, LOVE ME!)

I don't see how someone creating a troll AE pretending to be a porn star is remotely close to someone claiming to be an escort.  That doesn't compute.  FWIW, I judged the V6 persona for what she claimed to do too.  Only she didn't claim to do it while thinking herself superior to the rest of the forum.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

This applies to JessJo and PinkPinot: Just because someone makes a choice that's different from the choice you would make, does not make it wrong.

alixzafiris

Don't mind Jessjo Rach, she is to facts as oil is to water. Being a lunatic doens't help any either...

Nebb

There goes moose being logical again!

wadingmoose

And, OMG Fishy.  You LIKED TJ?  Sorry, we cannot be friends anymore because you won't support me in my dislike of her.

Good DAY.

alixzafiris

What Nebb said. You're gonna blind us with your logic Moose. I suggest you cease and dessist. Now.

wadingmoose

Thanky Nebb.  I really only ever post hear so I can hear that.  After page one, I thought I might have to find a new home to validate me.

Nebb

We need to get a plaque made for you, commemorating your logic.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:72c18577-aae1-4932-8852-4f8ba32ebde9">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Don't mind Jessjo Rach, she is to facts as oil is to water. Being a lunatic doens't help any either...
Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

I know, but fair is fair. I wanted to let her know how douchey I thought she was. BIG GIANT BAG OF DOUCHE.

crfische

I tried to tell her, Rach.

MOOSE. SCREW YOU. Two words for you. hrparker.

Make that one word.

jessjo04

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:877f8cd1-cddd-4d2b-bb55-811c9e518d54">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I moved for my husband and then a year after that he moved with me back to my city.  God, we're such a bunch of douches, the two of us.  How dare we allow each other to move for each other in order to be together and have our relationship grow the way we want it to?
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

I didn't say moving makes you a douche. I moved in with DH, we moved together twice. I'm saying that I find it douche-like to ask someone to drop out of their PhD program to further their own career. What does her FI do?

Nebb

Im pretty certain rach just said her FI did NOT ask her to move, or "make" her move. She is moving because she chose to do it.

salt78

That's exactly what she needs. A Logic Police badge like Heels' Chit Chat police badge.

Alix - In her planning bio she mentioned wanting to theme her wedding "7 Deadly Sins" and the dresses were all skanktastic and then her bridesmaid dresses were all schoolmarmish.

kikibaby

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:56f20278-d6a6-44f1-b84d-f596cb27a309">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didn't say moving makes you a douche. I moved in with DH, we moved together twice. I'm saying that I find it douche-like to ask someone to drop out of their PhD program to further their own career. What does her FI do?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Jess- He DID NOT ask her to move or drop out of her program.  He is recommending she stay and finish.  She WANTS to move.  All on her big girl own she is making that decision.

wadingmoose

HrParker, schmaycharparker.   

Kidding.  Hey, it's snowing here.  Is it snowing there?  We've actually got snowfall warnings.  I think I might drag out the tree and put it up.  Hohoho.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:56f20278-d6a6-44f1-b84d-f596cb27a309">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didn't say moving makes you a douche. I moved in with DH, we moved together twice. I'm saying that I find it douche-like to ask someone to drop out of their PhD program to further their own career. What does her FI do?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

He is a professor. We've wanted out of here for a while--but the job market isn't the best--so when he was actually offered a job we took it. <strong>He did not ask me to drop out of my PhD.

And you're still a douche.
</strong>

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:7af57350-a64e-4173-8354-2e89e64f70c7">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't see how someone creating a troll AE pretending to be a porn star is remotely close to someone claiming to be an escort. 
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I meant that if you are going to judge someone for being an escort, being a porn star is just about the same thing. If V6 had been real and really a porn star, it would be hypocritical to love her for it and then bash someone else for being an escort.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:56f20278-d6a6-44f1-b84d-f596cb27a309">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I didn't say moving makes you a douche. I moved in with DH, we moved together twice. I'm saying that I find it douche-like to ask someone to drop out of their PhD program to further their own career. What does her FI do?
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

Well, I assume he makes money. I'm sure Rach will come answer, but I think he teaches.

And you care why? If someone leaves school  to follow someone to another state, what is it to you? If you don't consider his job "good enough" for her to relocate with him, who gives a crap?

eastunder1

Yeah, but does Rach's Fi put up Christmas lights?  We'll settle this "Is he a douche" thing right here and now. 

jessjo04

A PhD is a big accomplshment, its not something that most people consider a "eh, guess I'll do it til something else happens". DH would never put me in the position to choose between him and an education.

crfische

It IS snowing. And it's 13degrees. And quit calling me a ho.

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:d69aaa69-a584-445a-8201-314fe1a0659b">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]HrParker, schmaycharparker.  ;)
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

It took me nearly a minute to figure out how to pronouce that word. It made me giggle.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:c7337423-78b5-4313-a083-7a8407fc8b46">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, but does Rach's Fi put up Christmas lights?  We'll settle this "Is he a douche" thing right here and now. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

He's Jewish.

salt78

Shiit my FI didn't put up the Christmas lights. Does that make him a douche? Now I'm worried.

alixzafiris

Oooh yeah! I remember now! That was tacktastic. Bahahahaha.

Oh, and Jessjo dearest, did you manage to figure out where my "lovefests" were? No? Huh,..

Nebb

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:bb0730fe-8b5c-47bd-bef0-72feb5f3d87d">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]A PhD is a big accomplshment, its not something that most people consider a "eh, guess I'll do it til something else happens". DH would never put me in the position to choose between him and an education.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]
No he would just make you feel bad and trivialize your feelings.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:bb0730fe-8b5c-47bd-bef0-72feb5f3d87d">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]A PhD is a big accomplshment, its not something that most people consider a "eh, guess I'll do it til something else happens". DH would never put me in the position to choose between him and an education.
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

I am well aware it is a big accomplishment--but, as I've mentioned many times here, the program is less than stellar--and it was, at this point, a means to an end. I enjoy learning, so I've stayed...but I am willing to give it up.

And even if my FI asked me to move and give up my PhD, how is that any different that you telling your FI that there was not point in getting serious with you if he wasn't willing to move for your grad school? <strong>POT</strong> meet <strong>KETTLE</strong>.

beatlesgirl25

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-12?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1b7acf15-53c8-4a70-832a-4932971d1512Post:7542eefd-aa68-477e-89a7-e72cda694229">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : It took me nearly a minute to figure out how to pronouce that word. It made me giggle.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

And "schoolmarmish" made me giggle. You just don't hear that term much anymore.