Evening!

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]I shoud add that we're 90% sure this girl faked a pregnancy in the beginning of my relationship with FI to try to make him come back to her. So I'm justified in being worried about what she's capable of.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>See - why is this a thing? This has happened to two people that I know. And it happened to my grandfather back in the day. I'm actually glad about that because that led to them being married which led to my father being born which led to me being born....so I guess I can't complain about that ONE situation.</div>

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]My FI is actually ON TK.  But he hasn't been on much lately.  He was a bit of a reg on one of the boards for a time though.  
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

OMG IS HE VEGASGROOM! haha. ;)

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : Funny you say that (I haven't read any further). Drinking rum and diets, talking about buying a hot tub (our bathtub is terribly uncomfortable for bubble baths). And, having a bit of a meltdown about missing my mom. No one wants to hear about that though.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

<div>I want to hear about it if you want to talk about it <3</div>

StephBeanWed61502

Angel, ex-g/f sounds scary.

Also, has faking a pregnancy ever worked for anyone in the history of ever?  Like, is there some couple out there that's been married for 50 years, and they're 75 years old now, and they're sitting there saying "Gee whilickers, I'm so glad Bernice faked that pregnancy 50 years ago or we never would've found each other!"?

MyUserName1

Sorry you're having a rough night, Daff.  Hope the wine helps.

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]I shoud add that we're 90% sure this girl faked a pregnancy in the beginning of my relationship with FI to try to make him come back to her. So I'm justified in being worried about what she's capable of.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Ugh I hate it when girls do this. It's truly crazy, </div>

Nickivegan

Daff, my grandpa got FB recently, and he just posted about "visiting the love of my life Ann tomorrow, on the two year anniversary of her passing." God Damn it, I thought I could deal with this and I can't. So I could go halvsies on a bottle of wine with you.

angelstar975

Haha sorry Eagles, I did catch it. But you're adorable and I will not use your pinterest account to stalk you down and kill you.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : OMG IS HE VEGASGROOM! haha. ;)
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>LOL.  you caught me.  :P</div>

StephBeanWed61502

And Daff, ditto everyone else - I'm sorry you're having a rough night.  :-(  Hope tomorrow is better.

ETA: And Nicki too.  That's sad.

strlzfan11

Daff, I'm really sorry you're having a "missing your mom" meltdown. *HUGS*

MyUserName1

Wait, what, Chrissy?  

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Angel, ex-g/f sounds scary. Also, has faking a pregnancy ever worked for anyone in the history of ever?  Like, is there some couple out there that's been married for 50 years, and they're 75 years old now, and they're sitting there saying "Gee whilickers, I'm so glad Bernice faked that pregnancy 50 years ago or we never would've found each other!"?
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

<div>My grandfather was with my biological grandmother for......I don't actually know how long. I think around 10 years. My father is their youngest child and he was 5 when they split up. But she had some kind of mental issues. She actually died because she couldn't afford some kind of medical treatment and she thought ODing outside of a hospital would get her into the hospital and treated. They didn't find her in time : /</div>

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Angel, ex-g/f sounds scary. Also, has faking a pregnancy ever worked for anyone in the history of ever?  Like, is there some couple out there that's been married for 50 years, and they're 75 years old now, and they're sitting there saying "Gee whilickers, I'm so glad Bernice faked that pregnancy 50 years ago or we never would've found each other!"?
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

She actually did it to him <strong>four </strong>times... pretty much anytime it looked like he was going to break up with her. Then she'd "miscarry" right around the time she should start showing. Honestly, I think my FI is a little dense to have not caught on to the fact that she was lying about it earlier. I mean, for all I know, the first 3 could have been real, but nothing added up about the 4th one.

musicalsunlight

That would actually be hilarious if he was vegasgroom. i think he was married eons ago though.


My first GTG meant meeting Fishy, Nuggs, Andy & Steph at a dueling piano bar in downtown minneapolis. I'm damn lucky they weren't creepers. haha.

StephBeanWed61502

Yeesh Poke, that's awful.  Psych issues are hard for everyone involved.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : I want to hear about it if you want to talk about it <3
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]
Y'all tell me to knock it of if it's too much. I just...I miss her. I need her here to tell her about the mundane nonsense. Understand that my mom was my best friend. Ever, in life. And I need to tell her things, and bounce things off her, and just have a good laugh about the stupidity of the world. But she's NOT HERE. And she's not here because she refused to quit smoking despite all my begging so I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY WITH HER FOR LEAVING ME. She always said that her kids were the best thing that ever happened to her, and she loved us so much, and she was such a great mom. But goddammit I need her and she's not here because she chose an addiction over us. I'm so angry. But I miss her and I need her.

/end superpersonal rant

MyUserName1

um, yeah Eagles.  You posted it in here and I was all "I'm gonna be a creepy stalker and FOLLOW HER RIGHT NOW," you know, like one does.

strlzfan11

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[QUOTE]That would actually be hilarious if he was vegasgroom. i think he was married eons ago though. My first GTG meant meeting Fishy, Nuggs, Andy & Steph at a dueling piano bar in downtown minneapolis. I'm damn lucky they weren't creepers. haha.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Was that the night after buffet-gate?

My first (and only) GTG was in January when I met ggirl2001.  She works in the same SC town I moved away from so we met up for brunch when I went to visit over New Years.

PetalPockets2012

I'm sorry Daff. I can't begin to imagine how difficult it is for you without her.

StephBeanWed61502

::hugs:: Daff.  

ETA: And also everything MuSu said that I couldn't find the words for myself.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : Y'all tell me to knock it of if it's too much. I just...I miss her. I need her here to tell her about the mundane nonsense. Understand that my mom was my best friend. Ever, in life. And I need to tell her things, and bounce things off her, and just have a good laugh about the stupidity of the world. But she's NOT HERE. And she's not here because she refused to quit smoking despite all my begging so I AM SO FUCKING ANGRY WITH HER FOR LEAVING ME. She always said that her kids were the best thing that ever happened to her, and she loved us so much, and she was such a great mom. But goddammit I need her and she's not here because she chose an addiction over us. I'm so angry. But I miss her and I need her. /end superpersonal rant
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]


Daff. My heart hurts for you. :( I haven't lost my mom, but the way you describe yours, sounds exactly like the relationship I have with mine. So I can imagine that I would feel in such an exact way in your situation. I have nothing really helpful to say because I haven't been there, but man. I do know how that kind of relationship feels, and I wish you didn't have to hurt like this. :( <3

MyUserName1

Oh!  Your words make SO.MUCH.MORE sense now, Chrissy.  Yeah, my parents are pretty darn cute.  My mom is pretty much the nicest person on the planet. (God only knows where I came from)

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : <strong> Was that the night after buffet-gate</strong>? My first (and only) GTG was in January when I met ggirl2001.  She works in the same SC town I moved away from so we met up for brunch when I went to visit over New Years.
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

Yup. The same night after it happened. Fishy joked she had to get Andy all drunk just to console her afterward. ;) It was a freaking blast though. Fishy got up on the pianos and was sung to by the piano dude.

strlzfan11

Daff, have you considered journalling about it, but formatting it so that it looks like you're writing her a letter?

PetalPockets2012

How did I miss the pinterest link? I need people to follow. I'm slow.

ThankfulSnail

Daff, my mom passed away 5 years ago. I still have days when I'm so angry like that, but for different reasons. It feels sometimes like she abandoned me because she didn't want to fight anymore and that just hurts SO FUCKING BAD- like I wasn't important enough. While the situation might not be the same, I think I know exactly what you mean. I'm so, so sorry you're going through this.

angelstar975

Daff, I'm sorry you're having a rough night and I don't blame you for being angry at her for leaving. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do when I lose my mom. I'm sorry you lost yours so early

Nickivegan

Oh, Daff. That is breaking my heart, but yet what you said is also helpful. It's nice to know I am not the only grown woman suddenly through loss. Like weekly, I get sad and ugly cry sometimes, too. My grandma knew the answer to EVERYTHING. So I catch myself wanting to call her ALL THE TIME.

MyUserName1

Also, Daff, I'm so sorry you're missing your mom so much.  And being angry with someone who's gone is so hard.  I feel the same way about my grandmama.  I miss her so much and i blame her for not quitting smoking before she got cancer again.  And then i feel guilty for being angry.  

ETA: and Nicki too...sorry i missed your post, the convo is flying so fast tonight tipsy me can't keep up