Testingtesting

salt78

Just because it's there doesn't mean I have to read it.

georgia_bride09

I'm down with a FFT.

They (the entire knot population) always use "mean" as a generic way to describe us, but I haven't seen any specific examples. Saying that FFF is mean is also not specific enough for me. They knew the board culture when they were here, and I bet about 99% of them participated in said culture before suddenly getting the ickies and then claiming to be above it all.

If I'm mean, at least I own up to it and am not a two-faced ninny about it.  

FutureMrsTR

I like the word "ninny", GA.  Thanks for bringing it here today.

pinkpinot

One day I logged in TK as per usual and someone linked a thread to SB so I popped over there to read it (it was a ridiculous troll or something) and I noticed a ton of screen names I recognized posting over there AND M&M was the moderator (I wondered where she went) so I was like oh, wow how did people know to start posting over here?  It was weird.  I kept thinking: oh so this is where all the action is (E was pretty slow)  Then I thought that maybe it was an invite thing (lame, I know it's a public message board) but I just figured if the screen names over there wanted me to post they probably would have told me or asked me to join them on SB.  I don't think I'm the only one that feels this way or feels like they 'missed' something because I've seen it lightly discussed here.  So that is why I think, (some) E people feel unwelcome on SB.  There was a reason a collective group decided to post over there and if you weren't "invited" or asked or whatever it is because you weren't wanted.  Now I know that is probably not entirely true but a bunch of people don't just start randomly posting on an otherwise dead board so it wasn't just a coincidence. 

laladypoet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:ab123cf0-5390-4c54-b5bb-44aa9caf2ecc">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Testingtesting : But the thing is, we are only "mean" when A) someone asks an etiquette question and gets and answer they don't want and is a twit about it, B) when someone uses bad grammar (at least, I'm mean because GOD how hard it is to use punctuations!), or C)when someone starts MUD.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]
speak for yourself. I am mean when I ask a question and people aren't on my side.

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:0235a7f8-3504-43df-b943-eb2ec4280864">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Testingtesting : speak for yourself. I am mean when I ask a question and people aren't on my side.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>My parents warned me to look out for people like you.</div>

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:bfb83673-f79f-4d0d-bcc0-51513cdfa838">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE] There was a reason a collective group decided to post over there and if you weren't "invited" or asked or whatever it is because you weren't wanted. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

In the very beginning, the week it happened, yes I think that was exactly the case.  Eventually, unknowing people started posting there and oblivious people from here went over there too and then it evolved into its own board distinct and unrelated to E which is where it is now.

P&E was always known across the land as "mean" and E is too.  It has always been that way since I started posting here way too long ago.

georgia_bride09

I do what I can, TR! I ran through a litany of words before settling on ninny.

pink, I totally get what you're saying. Several people also initially talked about hating E, and how they were glad to be on another board, even though they could have left at any time. AND they did a shitload of knottie polls that were ridonk. But we're the instigators.

laurenclaire1386

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:bfb83673-f79f-4d0d-bcc0-51513cdfa838">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]One day I logged in TK as per usual and someone linked a thread to SB so I popped over there to read it (it was a ridiculous troll or something) and I noticed a ton of screen names I recognized posting over there AND M&M was the moderator (I wondered where she went) so I was like oh, wow how did people know to start posting over here?  It was weird.  I kept thinking: oh so this is where all the action is (E was pretty slow)  Then I thought that maybe it was an invite thing (lame, I know it's a public message board) but I just figured if the screen names over there wanted me to post they probably would have told me or asked me to join them on SB.  I don't think I'm the only one that feels this way or feels like they 'missed' something because I've seen it lightly discussed here.  So that is why I think, (some) E people feel unwelcome on SB.  There was a reason a collective group decided to post over there and if you weren't "invited" or asked or whatever it is because you weren't wanted.  Now I know that is probably not entirely true but a <strong>bunch of people don't just start randomly posting on an otherwise dead board so it wasn't just a coincidence. </strong>
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]
SB was abandoned by its former owners, so crazy started running rampant. Some people, myself included, tried to curb the crazy sometimes by reading and replying to posts over there, but it was an abondoned board, so there wasn't a group of regular posters. Then Meg became mod, and more and more people started posting over there. It certainly wasn't an invitation thing, and as PP have pointed out, anyone can post over there any time. Shortly after the move, people on E noticed some regs weren't around and then found them on SB. People made snippy comments, there was some butthurt, I think. Some people moved exclusively to SB. Some stayed on E. Some (me) were Swiss about the whole thing and posted on both. I don't think anyone was ever out to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings or exclude anyone.

Did you like that history lesson? It sucked. TJ's was so much better.

kikibaby

I can be kinda mean. 

Stackeye210

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:a28c9f8a-94a0-4aaf-90d5-f489755571e7">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]Salt, I feel like I haven't seen you post this much in forever, and it warms my little dead heart to see your picture keep popping up.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Ditto this!

laurenclaire1386

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:0eef20af-9b09-4beb-bd0c-fc2de368b448">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]LC, the part you're missing is that M&M became Mod because they had decided to move over there.  I maintain that the core group that made the move decided to do so together, and it wasn't just because M&M became Mod.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]
Well, that's fair. That's not the way I perceived it, but I also wasn't one of those people who was "invited" or made a conscious effort to distance myself from E.

danieliza1127

I also probably know stuff you don't know.  Not to be weird about it, but I'm just sayin'.

salt78

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:a28c9f8a-94a0-4aaf-90d5-f489755571e7">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]Salt, I feel like I haven't seen you post this much in forever, and it warms my little dead heart to see your picture keep popping up.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

<div>That is because you haven't. :) Work has been crazy and then the whole call-out thing happened, so I backed away from the situation because it made me feel sick. </div><div>
</div><div>But then I guess no one would have known about that because I didn't make a post announcing it or anything. </div><div>
</div><div>Now that's gone and work is calm, here I am!</div>

Celles

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:4ac986f4-5570-476f-8d86-2b56500c400a">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Testingtesting :
P&E was always known across the land as "mean" and E is too.  It has always been that way since I started posting here way too long ago.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

<p>Someone I knew from another community warned me that E was "mean" before I even started lurking here.  It turned out she was (is?) a reg on this board, and very well liked. 

But y'know...  that hasn't been my experience.  At all.  I received some great advice in response to my first few posts, and many people were welcoming after I decided to stick around.  Sure, you tend to get overlooked when you're new, but that makes sense: people aren't going to be in a hurry to reach out to you until they know you're not just passing by.  I don't think the "mean girls" rep is warranted (unless you're exceptionally dumb or annoying, I suppose).</p>

vallyhoo

let's be realistic for a moment, if I started posting exclusively on ceremony ideas tomorrow, would my friends follow me? (well georgia would because I would make her) but anyone else? no freaking way. There are many people who consider this board their home board, and for multiple people to abandon a board, that drew a line in the sand. whether people want to call it a boardwar or not, whatever it was, it clearly meant that there would be friendships that dwindled.

laurenclaire1386

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:30369319-966e-4a78-80c5-c39e8ee3e748">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]I also probably know stuff you don't know.  Not to be weird about it, but I'm just sayin'.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]
I don't think you're being weird :) And I'm entirely sure you privy to much more information about both boards than I am.

salt78

I had heard this board was a bunch of biotches too. I have never been flamed here, but I've also never to my knowledge asked a really stupid question. 

I enjoy when Celles posts, especially now that she has Cheese Cat in her sig.

georgia_bride09

[QUOTE]let's be realistic for a moment, if I started posting exclusively on ceremony ideas tomorrow, would my friends follow me? (well georgia would because I would make her) but anyone else? no freaking way. There are many people who consider this board their home board, and for multiple people to abandon a board, that drew a line in the sand. whether people want to call it a boardwar or not, whatever it was, it clearly meant that there would be friendships that dwindled.
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

I'll follow you anywhere (forcibly- <font color="#c0c0c0">somebody help me</font>), but I would hope it'd be to a more happenin' place than Ceremony Ideas. How about Gothic Weddings or Moms and Maids? I've been to neither board, I'm just assewming they're happenin'. 

Celles

Alas, cheese cat is not a palindrome. 

FutureMrsTR

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:30369319-966e-4a78-80c5-c39e8ee3e748">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE]I also probably know stuff you don't know.  Not to be weird about it, but I'm just sayin'.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

And if you told us, you'd have to kill us? :)

vallyhoo

hey georgia is the nest blocked for you? there's some happenin' places over yonder.

kikibaby

I imagine SB & E standing on both sides of a dodge ball court whenever we discuss these things. 

I really think we'd all feel better if we just threw some balls at one another's faces. 

georgia_bride09

And I think the non-group that non-migrated to SB had already decided who their friends were and that was just their way of breaking up with people who wouldn't fit the non-migratory SB mold. Does that even make sense? I've been multi-tasking ALOT today.



My brain is a little scrambly.

kikibaby

Re: The Nest.  For real, if you all ever get bored, go read Married Life.  Those biitches are hilarious.

Celles

Surely she has some leeway now that the orange bar is no longer hovering above her head like a pixilated guillotine?  

Then again, she could still be banned. 

salt78

Hahahaha Kiki said balls. 

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_testingtesting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1f467e8f-92f1-4163-a5df-0becc7d4ef12Post:0250c8e6-ff83-4e15-a980-223a239e98ae">Re: Testingtesting</a>:
[QUOTE] I've been multi-tasking ALOT today.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

What have you been making him do?

vallyhoo

they're just not that into us

georgia_bride09

I sporadically lurk awl ova TN awl day!