Anyone else staying in tonight?

Loopyseven

Sorry to hear that Snail.  Can you work with your seamstress to modify your dress into something you love more than like?  Can you add some flowers that you absolutely love to your floral order?  Get at least one layer of the cake in the flavor of your choosing?

Beachy730

What's the price difference Snail between the 2?  What about doing a smaller tier cake for display and sheet cakes in the back to cut and serve?  A lot of wedding have both and nobody ever knows because you only see the tiered one.  We had to have both at our wedding for the size and nobody knew.  

Also, there are companys where you can rent a fake tiered cake thats really pretty and they just put one real layer on it that you can cut.  

However, I agree, get your fucking tiered cake.  

strlzfan11

Snail I know some bakeries/cateres will create a mock cake with many tiers to get that effect, but in reality it's only one cutable tier and then have extra sheet cakes in the back for the guests.

strlzfan11

Night Edie!

MyUserName1

Snail, you should prepare a speech.  That always helps me if I'm nervous about insisting on something.  Something along the lines of "Honey, I understand that you want ______ instead of a tiered cake.  However, I really have my heart set on a beautiful wedding cake and I feel like I've given in to your preference on every other decision.  Can't we please have the cake that I want?"  He'd better melt at that.

angelstar975

Seriously, get that cake. Come hell or high water, you need to have that cake. Don't take no for an answer.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Snail, you should prepare a speech.  That always helps me if I'm nervous about insisting on something.  Something along the lines of "Honey, I understand that you want ______ instead of a tiered cake.  However, I really have my heart set on a beautiful wedding cake and I feel like I've given in to your preference on every other decision.  Can't we please have the cake that I want?"  He'd better melt at that.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>If not, then he deserves a good junk punch.  And while he's keeled over in pain, call and make a deposit on the tiered cake that you love.</div>

wrigleyville

Snail - tell him that if you don't get your pretty, sparkly cake, I will cut him with LDY's bedazzled biiitch cutter.

Or, remind him that he's gotten his way this whole time, and now it's your turn. If he kvetches, call him a groomzilla.

MyUserName1

You've got us all het up over this cake now.

Cake!

Cake!

Cake!

(You've got to imagine a crowd, rhythmically chanting that)

Loopyseven

Sorry - posted about cake flavors while you were posting about tier vs sheet.  If you want tier, get tiers.  THe suggestions for fake tiers is a good one.

ThankfulSnail

I had a really long post typed out to Beachy's first thing, and then my wireless router failed and I had to fix it, and then I came back and there's a zillion more things I want to say. SO I didn't run away, bear with me, I'm just going to be typing for a minute.....

strlzfan11

Speaking of zillas, I had a dream the other night that my younger sister got married again (as in to a different guy) and I swear she was more of a bridezilla in the dream than she was for her actual wedding.  When I woke up I remembered it was her actual anniversary, which most likely explained the weird dream.

wrigleyville

CAKE OR DEATH

Beachy730

I think this conversation needs to happen right now Snail, while you have all of our encouragement in your head.  Fvck, read right from the screen if you have to. 

J&K10910

Can you guys swing any extra for the tier cake AND a late night snack?  Would you really be able to provide a late night snack of substance on what you'd save going with a sheet cake over a layer cake anyway?

angelstar975

I honestly don't think you should have to settle for fake tiers. You deserve to actually have the cake you want.

strlzfan11

Are enough people going to still be at your reception that late to justify ordering the late night snack?

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]I honestly don't think you should have to settle for fake tiers. You deserve to actually have the cake you want.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree completely.</div><div>
</div><div>I want snail to have the prettiest goddamn real cake there ever was. She deserves it.</div>

Loopyseven

Cake is worth fighting for

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]Cake is worth fighting for :)
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

<div>Truth.</div><div>
</div><div>I was drunkenly telling H about this conversation and he stopped playing Diablo and looked me in the eye and said "Cake is important."</div>

strlzfan11

I agree.  The cake is worth fighting for.

ThankfulSnail

Ok, SO I don't want to be argumentative, and one tier would be good, but one of the reasons I want the multi-tier is so we can do the thing where you save the top for your 1st anniversary... I KNOW I KNOW it tastes awful and that's so much money but I just think that's so special. 

My FI isn't a bad person or a meanie or anything, he just is not a typical guy and has had dreams about his wedding for almost as long as I have, so he is opinionated.. and I'm a lot more likely to back down than he is. He doesn't take advantage of me or anything like that- I doubt he has any idea, and he'd be crushed if he knew I felt this way, which I don't want him to because it won't solve anything but make him sad and get me a cake, which is not as important as a happy FI.

My dress I was unhappy about basically the next day, moreso after it came in and I tried it on, and discovered they didn't write down what petticoat I tried it on with at my first appointment, and didn't offer to let me try it on with any, so now I have to try and figure it out by myself. I think with the one I'm going to order I'm going to get the pouf I always dreamed of (god that looks so stupid but it's true) but there's nothing to be done for the short train, whcih is not what I wanted. I wish I would have looked around more. The BM/FG dresses I'm not as unhappy with, I just feel like I could have found something better if I wasn't in such a hurry to get OUT of there due to some BM/FMIL drama.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone else staying in tonight? : Truth. I was drunkenly telling H about this conversation and <strong>he stopped playing Diablo</strong> and looked me in the eye and said "Cake is important."
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
My FI wouldn't stop playing Diablo even if the apartment were on fire. He'd simply carry the laptop outside and use my phone as a wireless hot spot. :-P

ThankfulSnail

OH DEAR GOD MY INTERNET JUST DIED AGAIN FOR A MINUTE AND I THOUGHT I LOST THAT WHOLE EFFING POST FOR THE SECOND TIME.

I NEED TO SMOKE NOW BEFORE SOMEONE GETS HURT, TEMPORARY P&R, SEE YOU IN LIKE 10 MINUTES

Beachy730

Glad I already forced the dogs outside because it's pouring like crazy right now and they would have no part of it.

J&K10910

Dude, Snail.  Stop and listen to yourself. 

Tell your FI how you feel.  You don't have to be an ass about it, but he should know that the cake is important to you.  You just said if he knew how you felt, you could have your cake.  Which yes, isn't as important in the long run as your FI being happy, but not having a late night snack is something he will GET OVER.  You are disappointed about the whole wedding, let him be disappointed about the late night snack if that's how he'll feel.

And they didn't offer to let you try on the dress with petticoats?  Why didn't you ask, you goon?  Go back, and ask to try it on with petticoats so you can figure out what you should have.  Be assertive.  You're being too passive for your own good here.

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]Ok, SO I don't want to be argumentative, and one tier would be good, but one of the reasons I want the multi-tier is so we can do the thing where you save the top for your 1st anniversary... I KNOW I KNOW<strong> it tastes awful </strong>and that's so much money but I just think that's so special.  My FI isn't a bad person or a meanie or anything, he just is not a typical guy and has had dreams about his wedding for almost as long as I have, so he is opinionated.. and I'm a lot more likely to back down than he is. He doesn't take advantage of me or anything like that- I doubt he has any idea, and he'd be crushed if he knew I felt this way, which I don't want him to because it won't solve anything but make him sad and get me a cake, which is not as important as a happy FI. My dress I was unhappy about basically the next day, moreso after it came in and I tried it on, and discovered they didn't write down what petticoat I tried it on with at my first appointment, and didn't offer to let me try it on with any, so now I have to try and figure it out by myself. I think with the one I'm going to order I'm going to get the pouf I always dreamed of (god that looks so stupid but it's true) but there's nothing to be done for the short train, whcih is not what I wanted. I wish I would have looked around more. The BM/FG dresses I'm not as unhappy with, I just feel like I could have found something better if I wasn't in such a hurry to get OUT of there due to some BM/FMIL drama.
Posted by ThankfulSnail[/QUOTE]

<div>My 1 year old cupcake from the bottom of my freezer was actually still quite tasty. :).</div><div>
</div><div>Have you told him that you want to save the top tier to be all sentimental/romantic on your first anniversary?  I think that's an adorably sentimental reason to have a tiered cake.  </div><div>
</div><div>Can you post a picture or a link to your dress?  Does it have a lot of detail on it or could they add a lace overlay to the skirt that would hang longer than the dress in the back to make the train longer?  I've seen pictures with a sheer train that's a little longer than the rest of the dress and I've always though that was pretty.  </div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]Ok, SO I don't want to be argumentative, and one tier would be good, but one of the reasons I want the multi-tier is so we can do the thing where you save the top for your 1st anniversary... I KNOW I KNOW it tastes awful and that's so much money but I just think that's so special.  My FI isn't a bad person or a meanie or anything, he just is not a typical guy and has had dreams about his wedding for almost as long as I have, so he is opinionated.. and I'm a lot more likely to back down than he is. He doesn't take advantage of me or anything like that- I doubt he has any idea, and he'd be crushed if he knew I felt this way, which I don't want him to because it won't solve anything but make him sad and get me a cake, which is not as important as a happy FI. My dress I was unhappy about basically the next day, moreso after it came in and I tried it on, and discovered they didn't write down what petticoat I tried it on with at my first appointment, and didn't offer to let me try it on with any, so now I have to try and figure it out by myself. I think with the one I'm going to order I'm going to get the pouf I always dreamed of (god that looks so stupid but it's true) but there's nothing to be done for the short train, whcih is not what I wanted. I wish I would have looked around more. The BM/FG dresses I'm not as unhappy with, I just feel like I could have found something better if I wasn't in such a hurry to get OUT of there due to some BM/FMIL drama.
Posted by ThankfulSnail[/QUOTE]<div>
1) It won't taste awful if you save it right.  Put it in the fridge for a couple of hours (to set the frosting) then wrap it in saran wrap.  Then put it in a plastic bag and suck out all the air when sealing it.  Then put it in a tupperware.  Next year, unwrap it and let it defrost in the fridge first, then the counter and it should taste good.<div>
</div><div>2) I didn't think your FI was a diiick or anything, mine was very decisive and opinionated with the wedding as well. And I'd much rather that than he not care at all.</div><div>
</div><div>3) it's not stupid to dream of pouf- lots of ladies do. You'll find a giant goddamn petticoat that will give you plenty of poufyness.</div><div>
</div><div>4) Did you want a long train? Is it just the train you aren't happy with?</div><div>
</div><div>5) My bridesmaids were a complete pain in the asssss.  I feel your pain.</div></div>

strlzfan11

Alright ladies, I'm checking out for the night.

Snail, be assertive.  You deserve to have the things you want for your wedding just as much as he does. 

Night everyone!

tracym77

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[QUOTE]When I was a kid, we learned about earthquakes and had a homework assignment that was about the earthquake plan each kid's family had.  I had to make something up because my mother said: "We don't have one.  We'll be fine."
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

That's funny, Mica. And so us. We never had an earthquake plan or kit in all my 30+ years in SoCal. 

What did you put in your hurricane kit? I was just thinking that we need to make one. My coworkers were freaking me out the other day talking about the upcoming season. Apparently a good portion of the city was without power for several days a few years ago and the office was closed for an entire week. I can't even imagine.