It's Friday!

midgetthemighty

Special, the world needs more doctors like that.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]Angel, my mom has never gone quite that far but I started moving some of my stuff to FI's apartment almost a year ago because it was things like DVDs and such that I didn't need at home. Might as well, right? Well when I did that she got all pissy, tried to say they were hers (I left all of hers, dad's and brothers thankyouverymuch) and questioned why I was moving stuff already. I was planning on moving one of my bookcases and some things over right after but I let her get the better of me and stopped. With the new apartment that's 5 minutes away, I've been moving stuff over there every time I go over. I officially do not care anymore what she thinks about the whole situation.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Mine's the same way, I started moving things to Fi's house around the first of the year, I got all these questions, and now i've been moving big stuff like my winter clothes and she just cries and says she cannot believe i'm leaving her. I am kind of relieved it's 40 min away, now she cannot just pop in whenever she feels like it...which would probably be often.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Friday! : Mine actually suggested it to me. I hadn't even heard of them until he said something.  While we were discussing permament methods, I asked if there would be any problem with me having permanent procedures done when I'm 32. I read some horror stories on here about doctors refusing to do anything permanent if you haven't had a kid yet or are under 40 or something. He just kind of looked at me weird and said something like, "You're an adult. You can make decisions for yourself. Why would I deny you a valid medical treatment?" I love that man.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]
That's great!

MattsPenguin

I moved out at 18 to go to school, and despite stints back during breaks, haven't lived at home since. 

My mom was just discussing with me last night the pitfalls of living near your parents (or inlaws).  We might be moving to the same town as DH's family, and she was nervous for me.  I told her that we were already discussing how to live our own lives and not be sucked into seeing them all the time.   Right now she lives 1.5 hrs away from us, and I think she really likes it.  It's a good distance.  She's going to be sad when we move away (and take the puppy).

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Angel, my mom has never gone quite that far but I started moving some of my stuff to FI's apartment almost a year ago because it was things like DVDs and such that I didn't need at home. Might as well, right? Well when I did that she got all pissy, tried to say they were hers (I left all of hers, dad's and brothers thankyouverymuch) and questioned why I was moving stuff already. I was planning on moving one of my bookcases and some things over right after but I let her get the better of me and stopped. With the new apartment that's 5 minutes away, I've been moving stuff over there every time I go over. I officially do not care anymore what she thinks about the whole situation.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

That's a good idea to move stuff over a little bit at a time.. way less overwhelming than having to move everything at once. FI's mom was saying to me that she'd like him to be in an apartment by December, but she's "sure I'll want to live at home until the wedding." AKA, that's what she wants me to do because she's religous. I may do it though, just so I can also move stuff in little by little over the course of a month.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]Luckily my sister is having a baby so that takes care of my parents for a while.  Actually, they would never be pushy about grandkids.  They are GREAT about lettings us live our own lives and as long as we are being smart about our decisions they don't care. No hurry.  My MIL would like both us and BIL/SIL to pop out kids right now.  Not going to happen. I told her the more she brings it up the longer she waits. Every time she brings it up, I remind her of that.
Posted by Beaniebeach[/QUOTE]

That's a great rule, I will have to start doing that, because FMIL doesn't see the FSIL kids all that much so she wants me and FI to rectify that ASAP, i'm like "yeah no you're waiting about 5 years."

Ali092011

I moved out really gradually. I just started keeping more and more stuff at FI's and spending less and less time at home until FI was ready to move into a bigger place, and we made it official that we were living together.

My mom always makes comments that she wouldn't mind if my sister and I lived with her forever, but I know we would get sick of each other.

I thought having two grandsons from my sister would calm her baby fever, but she wants me to get pregnant like, on our honeymoon. No thanks.

baystateapple

My mom has a box of baby clothes she's been buying since H and I started dating. 

I think she's more upset that H didn't knock me up before we started having problems, than she is about things coming apart.  Crazy, I tell you.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Friday! : Mine's the same way, I started moving things to Fi's house around the first of the year, I got all these questions, and now i've been moving big stuff like my winter clothes and she just cries and says she cannot believe i'm leaving her. I am kind of relieved it's 40 min away, <strong>now she cannot just pop in whenever she feels like it...which would probably be often.
</strong>Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

And this is why neither one of our parents are getting a key to our apartment. Ever.

Thanks Rachers. It felt kinda good to get that out. I was thinking last night about how prior to this whole wedding thing, I was out a lot during the week anyway and it was no problem. Now that I'll be moving out, it's like everything I do is questioned under the guise of missing spending time with me. Changing years-long habits is not easy. When I am home, no one ever wants to do anything but watch TV and fall asleep on the couch. I'm confused.

MyUserName1

I hope FI and I are the first of his siblings to have kids.  Then the balance of power will finally shift in our favor.  The number of bluffs I can call with a darling baby in my arms-  I get tingly just thinking about it.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]My mom has a box of baby clothes she's been buying since H and I started dating.  I think she's more upset that H didn't knock me up before we started having problems, than she is about things coming apart.  Crazy, I tell you.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

Wow that is crazy. I don't think FMIL has gotten that bad...though I wouldn't put it past her.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]I hope FI and I are the first of his siblings to have kids.  Then the balance of power will finally shift in our favor.  The number of bluffs I can call with a darling baby in my arms-  I get tingly just thinking about it.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Haha, I love you.

Bay, that is sad. Your mom is acting a wee bit crazy.

kcscejal

I guess I really lucked out with my mom.  I'm sure she misses me, but she never freaked out about me moving away.  It's part of growing up, and I'm she didn't hold me back from dong that.  We're moving closer, but we'll still be about 45 minutes away and with med school I'll be so ridiculously busy that I won't really see my family very much.  I think my parents are proud that I grew up into a successful and independent person.  That was alway stressed as important and something to be valued in our house.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Friday! : And this is why neither one of our parents are getting a key to our apartment. Ever. Thanks Rachers. It felt kinda good to get that out. I was thinking last night about how prior to this whole wedding thing, I was out a lot during the week anyway and it was no problem. Now that I'll be moving out, it's like everything I do is questioned under the guise of missing spending time with me. Changing years-long habits is not easy. When I am home, no one ever wants to do anything but watch TV and fall asleep on the couch. I'm confused.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Good Rule Midge! FI gave a spare key to both his mom and mine! I was like WTF?!

I know my mom is the same way, we don't hang out, I watch tv in my room and she watches her shows in the living room...so not sure what the difference is. I have asked to go places with me and she's like, "No I don't wanna."

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I hope FI and I are the first of his siblings to have kids.  Then the balance of power will finally shift in our favor.  The number of bluffs I can call with a darling baby in my arms-  I get tingly just thinking about it.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Haha yes! FSIL gets away with murder because she's got the grandkids.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I guess I really lucked out with my mom.  I'm sure she misses me, but she never freaked out about me moving away.  It's part of growing up, and I'm she didn't hold me back from dong that.  We're moving closer, but we'll still be about 45 minutes away and with med school I'll be so ridiculously busy that I won't really see my family very much.  I think my parents are proud that I grew up into a successful and independent person.  That was alway stressed as important and something to be valued in our house.
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]

Yeah, that's really nice. It times like this I hate being an only child on her side. If I had a younger sibling she probably wouldn't be as crazy...maybe.

midgetthemighty

Rachers - That's a possibility. I still find it annoying, which is probably more my problem than theirs. It's sad, but I've pretty much reached the point where I'm just done living there and everything about it pisses me off.

fluttaby32

Hi all!

Muni- I hope this doesnt creep you out because Ive only talked with you once or twice, but I had my first TK dream last night and all I remember is you hosted a press conference to announce you were on your second screen name and announced who you were before and everyone was shocked. I must have been reading a thread you were in before I fell asleep.

baystateapple

Yeah, I know it's sad.  I do worry a lot that I'm never going to have kids, because I want them so badly, but talking to Mom makes me a million times more nervous about it, because she's so fixated on having grandchildren.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: It's Friday! : Haha yes! FSIL gets away with murder because she's got the grandkids.
Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

That's my plan. 

muah-ha ha.

Currently FSIL gets away with murder just because. And I'm competitive, so i've got to best her in the getting-away-with-murder department.

MyUserName1

LOL flutta.  I hope I was dressed as Hipster Ariel in my press conference.

I give all of my press conferences dressed as hipster princesses or Rose Tyler.

specialk84

I see my parents at least twice a week. I have a four-hour break between my classes on Monday and Wednesday, so I go hang out at their house. I usually end up either taking a nap, helping them with something, or just running errands for my mom. They insist on feeding me lunch, so that's nice.

fluttaby32

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[QUOTE]LOL flutta.  I hope I was dressed as Hipster Ariel in my press conference. I give all of my press conferences dressed as hipster princesses or Rose Tyler.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

Ha! You were not. You didnt look like you at all though, but I think you did have that t-shirt on ;) I was watching the press conference on TV

adamar15

I think I've talked enough about my MIL driving me nuts about kids.  She's going to get an earful if she starts nagging again when we're prepping for the baby shower. 

I'm pretty nervous about moving back to my mom's house.  We have to stay in the actual house for a while because it'll take some time to turn the garage into an apartment.

Ali092011

I feel like my sister gets away with more because she has the grandkids, too. It doesn't bother me too much though.

This is totally unrelated, but for anyone who has ordered from etsy before, how long does it usually take to get stuff? I ordered a personalized address stamp over two weeks ago, and I know it's handmade and personalized, but I was kinda hoping it would be here yesterday. I know it depends on the seller and the product, but is two weeks a general rule you think?

RupertPenny

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[QUOTE]I guess I really lucked out with my mom.  I'm sure she misses me, but she never freaked out about me moving away.  It's part of growing up, and I'm she didn't hold me back from dong that.  We're moving closer, but we'll still be about 45 minutes away and with med school I'll be so ridiculously busy that I won't really see my family very much.  I think my parents are proud that I grew up into a successful and independent person.  That was alway stressed as important and something to be valued in our house.
Posted by kcscejal[/QUOTE]

<div>This is how my parents are too thankfully. </div><div>
</div><div>Also, I highly recommend you all go back in time and get your mom to have another kid while you're in high school. She has been so busy with my brother in the last 10 years she barely ever has time to bother me. </div>

specialk84

Mari, how old are you and your FI?

fluttaby32

Ali, I think it depends solely on the seller & product. Ive had all kinds of different timelines with etsy. You can message the seller and ask before purchasing though.

midgetthemighty

Ali, every seller is different. I would just send a follow-up e-mail/message to them about it. Or you can check the status of it on Etsy to see if the seller has marked it shipped.

MyUserName1

i don't think there is a general rule with etsy.  I bought FI's ring on there and it came in within the week.  that was amazing.