RSVP'd with additional guests - how to handle

rseam1

i have that same problem i made it very clear invites were for listed people only and every time i try to cut the list 3 more get added originally wedding was 35 now up to 45 and growing helpppppp!

lindi927

If you are invited to a wedding you know some one at the wedding. It's a place to meet people. don't be rude

KariA2011

I can definitely see allowing single guests to invite a plus one - I can understand how it might be awkward or uncomfortable to attend a wedding solo - but the problem arises when a couple (i.e. a "Mr. & Mrs.") decide to tack on an extra or 2 (or 8, as I've been reading!), whether those extras are children, adult children, or whomever.  It's inappropriate, presumptuous, and incredibly rude.  Weddings are EXPENSIVE, and I think it's very wrong to assume that the bride/groom/parents can afford to accomodate extras on top of those who were actually invited.

Barbara L

I posted 2 replies to this problem in August.  My daughter, who got married on 8/20 had the same problem.  Some family member wanted to bring a 12 yr old to the wedding, who, by the way, was not on the invitaion.  After trying to contact them for 2 months by phone, they never answered the phone, we finally made a visit to the grandmother and told her that the boy was not invitied.  They came to the wedding, without the son, but did not acknowlege either myself or my daughter until they were leaving the wedding.   My other daughter is getting married next year and we are hoping to avoid this problem again.  Good luck to  everyone who has had this problem. I agree guests can be very rude when it comes to weddings and we had one.  To the brides who are still in this sitution, good luck.  Hope its gets resloved  before the wedding.