Sunday Evening

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : Haha, right? We both fell in love with the campuses of Ole Miss & Clemson though. Even just from photos/video online. I'm more partial to Clemson for some reason. Although really, any of the 3 would be ok. Except LSU means I'd have to take the LA bar exam which is lame because LA has their own set of laws special to them.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

FI said some of the law schools down there offer a completely different curriculum for the civil law rather than the common law that everywhere else teaches.

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : Exactly... and honestly, I can't handle it. I don't do distance well. I don't even know that I'd be okay with what Musu and Loopy do, with the not seeing their Hs for days or weeks at a time. I also don't want to move away from the Philadelphia area. It's going to be a looooong 4 years for me if it ends up happening. Our deal is that he would do it for one commitment, 4 years and then we'd come home.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>We are both pretty independent people.  The lifestyle we've signed up for isn't for everyone.  We are keeping our eyes on the long term prize though - our goal was to get us out to CO (accomplished) and H will put in a few years in the field and then he should be able to move into the office and have a normal schedule.  And the $$$ they pay for the inconvenience of being gone all the time will allow us to get financially ahead for the first time in our lives.</div>

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : This doesn't surprise me.  H and I have always said that LA has it's own thing going on...in so many ways.  Not like anywhere else in the country.  They really know how to have a good time though so it's making our time here much more bearable.
Posted by tracym77[/QUOTE]

Yeah their code is different because it is much more based on the european-like civil law and not common law like the rest of the states. They are just weird. A classmate in one of my lecture this semester is from LA and will frequently comment on how LA is different than whatever rule we're studying.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : FI said some of the law schools down there offer a completely different curriculum for the civil law rather than the common law that everywhere else teaches.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I believe it, since a majority of the students probably are native to LA and would stay there for practice. I don't know why you would go to school there if you didn't plan on living there since the differences are enough that it would be frustrating to go elsewhere.

tracym77

Yeah, one of Project Manager's fiancee is a lawyer downtown. She and my H were discussing this at a baseball game the other week.  Well, I was there too but a lot of it just went over my head! Ha.

Loopyseven

If you stayed up north for a year after you graduate MuSu would you take a bar up there, and then take another one wherever you move to?  Wouldn't it be easier to just go right away and only take one bar wherever he goes to school?

angelstar975

Taking more than 1 bar exam sounds nightmarish... although FI is taking both the NJ and PA bar exams... they're offered on consecutive days and I guess pretty much everyone does it.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]If you stayed up north for a year after you graduate MuSu would you take a bar up there, and then take another one wherever you move to?  Wouldn't it be easier to just go right away and only take one bar wherever he goes to school?
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it would be much easier to just move right away... but I guess it depends on if J gets a good job or not after he graduates in December. If I take a bar exam here, and the move within a year of taking it, I don't have to take it again, in MOST states. Its once you get in that 2-5 year range that they make you take it again (like Andy had to do).

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Taking more than 1 bar exam sounds nightmarish... although FI is taking both the NJ and PA bar exams... they're offered on consecutive days and I guess pretty much everyone does it.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow - that sounds so stressful. Taking the bar exam two days straight??? Eesh. </div>

musicalsunlight

The bar exam is 2 consecutive days here. Apparently 2 consecutive days of awfulness.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : We are both pretty independent people.  The lifestyle we've signed up for isn't for everyone.  We are keeping our eyes on the long term prize though - our goal was to get us out to CO (accomplished) and H will put in a few years in the field and then he should be able to move into the office and have a normal schedule.  And the $$$ they pay for the inconvenience of being gone all the time will allow us to get financially ahead for the first time in our lives.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

It's good that you guys both agree that it's worth it and that it will benefit you in the long run. With the JAG situation, I feel like I'd be going along because my options would be either go, or leave him... and I won't feel like it's for the best at all... I mean, unless he literally couldn't get a law job here, but I doubt that will happen.

musicalsunlight

I can't believe your wedding is 8 months away Angel. That means my anniversary is like 8 months away and wtf I don't think I actually had a wedding yet, I am in denial. hah.

angelstar975

Haha 8 months seems sooooo far away to me! I have so much to do. I've basically done nothing besides book the venue, church, photographer and buy a dress. And my mom bought her dress.

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : It's good that you guys both agree that it's worth it and that it will benefit you in the long run. With the JAG situation, I feel like I'd be going along because my options would be either go, or leave him... and I won't feel like it's for the best at all... I mean, unless he literally couldn't get a law job here, but I doubt that will happen.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah - it's not a situation that will work if both partners aren't in agreement to make it work.</div>

Loopyseven

Well, it's bedtime for this girl.  TTYL!

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]Haha 8 months seems sooooo far away to me! I have so much to do. I've basically done nothing besides book the venue, church, photographer and buy a dress. And my mom bought her dress.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Well 8 months is a long time. I got a lot of stuff booked over the summer and early fall last year before my wedding. I don't even think I booked my photographer until July which seemed really late. You'll get it all in, for sure!

I also didn't book a videographer until like December 21st (my wedding was Jan 6th!)! The benefits of having a Jan wedding paid off there since it was so last minute but of course he was available!

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : Yeah - it's not a situation that will work if both partners aren't in agreement to make it work.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

It's just really hard to have a serious discussion about it when it's so hypothetical. He needs to get something on his records changed from when he was in the Navy to even be able to apply, so he petitioned for that and we've been waiting to hear back since December... the petition took almost a year to even finish and I don't think he'll hear anything for another month or two. Then he has to apply, and the application process takes a few months. Then he would have to be accepted, which is no easy feat and then he has to make it through OCS, which I think has a 60% failure rate. So there are so many factors working against him right now, that it's more likely that he'll find a law job here first, but if that doesn't happen, we'll sit down and really talk it out and decide what's best.

pokepoke27

Bye Loopy!

Angel - the time will go by before you know it! 

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : Well 8 months is a long time. I got a lot of stuff booked over the summer and early fall last year before my wedding. I don't even think I booked my photographer until July which seemed really late. You'll get it all in, for sure! I also didn't book a videographer until like December 21st (my wedding was Jan 6th!)! The benefits of having a Jan wedding paid off there since it was so last minute but of course he was available!
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

I actually may end up doing the same thing. A videographer isn't currently in the budget, but we may add it later if we have money leftover.

musicalsunlight

Good night loopy!

Yeesh, Angel, that IS a lot of stuff to crawl through. I'd imagine that he'd have to REALLY want to do it.

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sunday Evening : I actually may end up doing the same thing. A videographer isn't currently in the budget, but we may add it later if we have money leftover.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

It is a good last minute add in, if you can afford it! I'm guessing you will have some good videographers available around your date too since it is in such a "dead time". I loved being able to see my highlight video while on the HM from my iPhone. :)

tracym77

Good night, Loopy.

angelstar975

Unfortunately for me, he does REALLY want it. It's a dream of his to be an officer in the military. If it weren't for me, he'd make a career of it, but for me, he'd come home after his commitment was up and hopefully get into a firm. If he could get into a firm initially, he'd skip the military just because it wouldn't make sense to do something that pays so much less, but I think it would be hard for him to give up that dream.

angelstar975

Yeah, I would really love to have video of everything, since I feel like there are things that pictures just can't capture, so hopefully we'll come in under budget! FI's brother owns a production company so I asked him to find out if they could help us out with a good deal, but I don't think he's asked.

pokepoke27

Angel - it sounds like his dream of a life with you trumps his dream of being an officer : )

I really hope he gets into a firm asap! Fortunately for me I haven't had to deal with anything like that. FI is just as sick of the long distance shiz as I am. 

musicalsunlight

There are definitely moments that I didn't see/notice that were caught on film. Because I'm an AW, here is the highlight reel:

http://vimeo.com/34799741

tracym77

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[QUOTE]<strong>Unfortunately for me, he does REALLY want it.</strong> It's a dream of his to be an officer in the military. If it weren't for me, he'd make a career of it, but for me, he'd come home after his commitment was up and hopefully get into a firm. If he could get into a firm initially, he'd skip the military just because it wouldn't make sense to do something that pays so much less, but I think it would be hard for him to give up that dream.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

I feel ya and it's definitely tough.  I never ever imagined we'd uproot our lives like we did but it was H's dream.  He would not have gone through with it if I really didn't want to go but I couldn't see keeping him from his achieving this goal of his.  I felt like it would've been with me forever...all the what-ifs and wondering if he secretly resented me.

But I love him and helping him reach his dream became a dream of mine.  If that makes sense.  I know it might sound lame and maybe old-fashioned to some.  But it's true.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]<strong>Angel - it sounds like his dream of a life with you trumps his dream of being an officer : </strong>) I really hope he gets into a firm asap! Fortunately for me I haven't had to deal with anything like that. FI is just as sick of the long distance shiz as I am. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

I sure hope so :)

pokepoke27

That's beautiful MuSu!!!!

musicalsunlight

Thanks poke, I seriously couldn't praise the videographer enough. He did such a great job and I barely ever noticed him being there, which is a GOOD thing in those situations.