Confessions?

bbyckes

I cannot win for losing.  ::picturing the smile::

sarahmk5

I realllllly wanted the Sims 3 for Christmas this year (stupid, I know).  FI knew this, but when his mom asked him where she should get me a gift card to, Macy's or Best Buy, he said Macy's.  And now no one got me either game itself or the means for me to get it for Christmas.  I feel like such a petulant child for pouting, because my parents are so generous, and his mom got me a HUGE gift card, which was so nice of her, but still.  Plus, I'm pissed at FI because he told his mom the EXACT OPPOSITE of what he knew I wanted, but I can't tell him that because I'd seem even more spoiled.

Wow, that felt good.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]I really wish that we'd get a blizzard here so I don't have to go home for Christmas. 
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I'm glad we're getting a blizzard so we don't have to go to the in-laws house for Christmas.  I ike them but i hate the two hour drive each way and DH doesn't care whether we go or not except he gets guilted into it.  18 inches of snow starting tomorrow night, has never sounded so sweet.

ac_in_dc

I read a baby book over the weekend about infant care called "from birth to reality" and it freaked me the fuuck out. I had a meltdown on DH last night, telling him how nervous I was about taking care of a newborn and giving up my job.

Instead of being reassuring like he usually is, he got really quiet and worried and told me that I could always give the kid away like he was given away (he's adopted). Ugh.

cmhershey

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[QUOTE]I confess that while I love my DH I don't want to have biological children with him because his genes bring a high risk of autism with them. 
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I feel the same way.  My husband was born with cleft lip and palette.  I'm so worried about this being passed onto our kids, and having them go through the same thing he did.

Confession- I have no Christmas sprit.  At.all.  I'm usually all excited for the holidays.  This year not so much.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]I confess that I'm really glad jerkface coworker is gone.  He came in today, just long enough to say "I'm done," and left.  I'm annoyed that he gave us a week and a half notice, and then came in the next day just to say he's not sticking it out, but I'm so happy he's gone.  No more day dreaming of pushing him in front of swiftly moving busses :)  I also hope that him cutting his time here short screws him over in the way of severance.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>Was this the coworker who cries when asked to do his work? Or was that someone else's coworker?</div>

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]I got two christmas cards in the mail today from family members... addressed to Mr and Mrs WRONG LAST NAME. I know full well they received the christmas card we just sent them that plainly has our correct name on it. How the hell hard is it to not imagine extra letters in peoples names. I want to call them and tell them they were wrong, but I feel like that would come off as a lecture.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

That's ridiculous. I would think anyone close enough to send you a Christmas card would at least know your last name!

We've gotten several holiday cards from H's family addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Hlastname, or worse, H and Beatlesgirl Hlastname. H swears he informed his family of my <strong>not</strong> taking their name, and all of our correspondences to his family since the wedding have been from us with our correct names. But I feel like a brat for complaining, especially when said holiday cards have checks and/or presents with them.

AmoroAgain

I'm not afraid to have kids with my H even though his genetic pool is probably fuucked 12 ways from Saturday having been born during the Vietnam War (in Vietnam!) and getting exposed to all kinds of whacky shiit.  Oh!  And we have NO idea what his family history is because he was dropped off at an orphanage when he was a couple of days old.  His mom was probably a hooker ffs. 

Frankly, this is the most ridicullous schit I've ever heard.  The ONLY one of these reasons that gets a pass from me is the autism.  Cleft pallete, TEETH and other non-issues... y'all get the massive side eye from me.

Nebb

We sent my IL's their christmas card with their gift in it (gift card) over a week ago. I sent cards to people in the US at the same time and they have all notified me they have recieved them. We havnt recieved a thank you from his parents, any indication from his parents that they have recieved it, nor have we recieved a card OR a gift from them. I wouldnt be surprised if they dont bother achnowledging it at all and dont give us a gift because it has 2 days left to get here and theyve known for a while we werent coming up there for christmas.

My IL's piss me off something fierce sometimes.

pinkpinot

I don't mean for this to sound rude but why would some of you marry a man you were afraid to have kids with? I'm just curious because I have never thought about the aforementioned issues. 

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Was this the coworker who cries when asked to do his work? Or was that someone else's coworker?
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

That would be the one.

Stackeye210

Wow.  People don't stress on cosmetic things.  I had a kid with Mr Stack KNOWING that she'd be born with 6 fingers and maybe 6 toes.  But kids are blessings in any form. 

jessjo04

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[QUOTE]Confession: FI gave me a birthday gift last week that had ZERO thought put into and had my wrong age in the card. My feelings are really hurt. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-frown.gif" border="0" alt="Frown" title="Frown" /> Wrong age? Hope you made him feel sufficiently guilty, that stinks.

Kati0105

We've gotten several holiday cards from H's family addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Hlastname, or worse, H and Beatlesgirl Hlastname.

FI's mom addressed our card to FI and Kati FILastName, despite the fact that we won't be getting married for another 3 months.  I definitely did a double take but also thought it was pretty cute.  I'm taking his name though, so the situation is different.

kikibaby

That's f'ing ridiculous to be worried about bad teeth.  Ever heard of a dentist?  Sweet lord.

My worries are that all of FI's grandparents were dead by 65, most from cancer.  There's not a ton of scientific proof that cancer is genetic, but it sure seems to run in families.  There's also heart disease, high blood pressure, obesity, sleep apnea... the list goes on. 

cmhershey

Amoro- It has nothing to do with vanity issues.  My H. has been through a ton of surgeries due to the cleft lip.  Plus its was (and sometimes is) an emotional toll on him a good part of his life.  I don't want my child to go through any of that.  You can give me side eye all you want.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]I don't mean for this to sound rude but why would some of you marry a man you were afraid to have kids with? I'm just curious because I have never thought about the aforementioned issues. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

<div>We have both always been very ambivalent about whether we would even have children at all, so it's certainly not a major issue in our marriage.  When we go into "will we/won't we" debate mode (which happens a lot) the whole autism thing comes up often and I feel shiitty that it's one of my top reason's in the "no kids" column.</div>

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : That would be the one.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>Man, I don't even work with that dude and I'm glad he's gone. I'd be having a friggin party!</div>

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]I cannot win for losing.  ::picturing the smile::
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

This reminds me of plugging your ears and yelling "lalalalalalalalalalalalalalal" when you hear something you don't like.

jessjo04

My confession- DH and I are regifting a gift card from our wedding and giving it to my mom for Christmas. We will probably tell her though, because she knows we are out of money and she didnt want us to get her anything, and its a store she loves.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]I don't mean for this to sound rude but why would some of you marry a man you were afraid to have kids with? I'm just curious because I have never thought about the aforementioned issues. 
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

I agree.

bbyckes

The teeth thing is something that I have thought about. Like people who consider the height of their potential offspring.  It wouldn't prevent me from having a child with him.  We don't even know if we want to have another child.  The teeth would involved surgery to correct as well.

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]Amoro- It has nothing to do with vanity issues.  My H. has been through a ton of surgeries due to the cleft lip.  Plus its was (and sometimes is) an emotional toll on him a good part of his life.  I don't want my child to go through any of that.  You can give me side eye all you want.
Posted by cmhershey[/QUOTE]

Worrying about bad teeth = vain. Worrying about a cleft lip =/= vain, at all. Braces are a lot easier to handle than surgery after surgery. I had TERRIBLE teeth as a child, TERRIBLE. I wore braces for 8 years. I'm fine, I look normal.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]Amoro- It has nothing to do with vanity issues.  My H. has been through a ton of surgeries due to the cleft lip.  Plus its was (and sometimes is) an emotional toll on him a good part of his life.  I don't want my child to go through any of that.  You can give me side eye all you want.
Posted by cmhershey[/QUOTE]

At least he was able to have access to health care to have it taken care of, unlike thousands of kids throughout the world.  Perhaps he should think of the physical and emotional toll on them instead of pouting about how he's been "adversely" affected. 

mandysmear

Coffer, aren't you a lawyer?  Can't a lawyer afford braces?  My sister was a waitress and paid for her own braces....

FutureMrsTR

I know I've brought this up before, but I confess that I am getting more and more fed up with FI's sister.  She's a spoiled brat who keeps fuucking up her life and then just moving back in with mommy and daddy (and bringing along her 46" TV she bought with money earned from illegal means) and having them clean up her debt.  She's manipulative and selfish and no one in her family (including FI) will sit her down and tell her the truth - that her life is sucky because she makes horrible decisions.  These things didn't just happen to her, but that's what she seems to think.  And there are no consequences so why shouldn't she keep acting this way?  It just kills me because I'm working at a job I absolutely hate so that I can support myself and she does this shiit.

AmoroAgain

Cleft pallette is fixable. 

P2, I've missed you.  That's my other confession.  It's so nice to have you back around!

jens_a_ten

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[QUOTE]I read a baby book over the weekend about infant care called "from birth to reality" and it freaked me the fuuck out. I had a meltdown on DH last night, telling him how nervous I was about taking care of a newborn and giving up my job. Instead of being reassuring like he usually is, he got really quiet and worried and told me that I could always give the kid away like he was given away (he's adopted). Ugh.
Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

Are you serious? That's a real dicck move on his part.

[QUOTE] I don't mean for this to sound rude but why would some of you marry a man you were afraid to have kids with? I'm just curious because I have never thought about the aforementioned issues. [/QUOTE]

Not everyone's sole purpose for marriage is to pop out kids-- and therefore not wanting to have kids with them wouldn't be a deciding factor in getting married or not. 

BecW2be

My confession is lame compared to these. I need to think of a better one. But until I do, I confess that I won a 4GB MP3 player at the holiday lunch today, which is better than the one I bought for Chloe from Santa. I should give her the better one (although, she speicifically said a touch screen MP3 player, and this one is not) and return the one I got her, but I'm going to keep it for myself. I gave my Nano to Manda a couple of years ago and have been without one. It was free, and I deserve it. But I feel awful. Maybe I'll give Manda the free one and take my Nano back, but I really want to keep this one.

It's lame, I told you. But I feel like crap if I keep it and pouty if I don't.

bbyckes

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[QUOTE]Coffer, aren't you a lawyer?  Can't a lawyer afford braces?  My sister was a waitress and paid for her own braces....
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

Not yet.  But yeah, I paid for my own braces when I was a server too.  But, it's a little more complicated than just braces.