Confessions?

crfische

East, you better hope your future non-offspring will be able to calculate shiit that fast or they are going to be doomed for ever no matter how tall you want them to be.

goheels05

I'm terrified that we are going to have ugly children because Wes and I are just so damn good looking, and everyone says that two good looking people always have ugly babies.  I'm thinking about just doing artificial insemination and calling it a day.

pinkpinot

Fishy your husband should reconsider having children with you considering all the alcohol you drink.  Just sayin' :-)

vallyhoo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : A woman also went through plastic surgery to make herself look like a cat. This does not mean that this behaviour is enviable or one that society should move towards.  You HAVE to know that.  Throwing this out there is a pretty obvious strawman.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

I thought the 'people worry about the height of their future offspring' was the strawman. Oh-well.

salt78

I hope East considers that her future offspring may look like bunnies in winter gear.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]My personal beliefs are if you try to avoid something, or play with mother nature it comes back and bites you in the a$$.  You just gotta be thankful for what you get.  God is teaching you to love unconditionally when you have a child. 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

thumbs up.

salt78

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[QUOTE]everyone says that two good looking people always have ugly babies.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

LIVING PROOF: Bruce Willis and Demi Moore

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]My worries are that all of FI's grandparents were dead by 65, most from cancer.  There's not a ton of scientific proof that cancer is genetic, but it sure seems to run in families.  There's also heart disease, high blood pressure, obesity, sleep apnea... the list goes on. 
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

My mom's parents died at the ages of 54 and 64. My mom is now 55. She's fine, but I worry. Also, FI's grandma is still alive at 99. Her husband died 34 years ago. I worry my bad genes will mean I'll have to leave FI alone for that long, and it makes me sad.

Cleft palate - they can actually do surgeries in utero now. It's much more advanced than when we were born.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]I hope East considers that her future offspring may look like bunnies in winter gear.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

uh-oh - rabbit teeth.  East you better not do it! 

Kati0105

everyone says that two good looking people always have ugly babies.

Very true, look at Brangelina's kids and Halle Berry's daughter.  Oh wait...

salt78

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : uh-oh - rabbit teeth.  East you better not do it! 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]

Ohshit. They  might have to have BRACES! THE HORROR.

Kati0105

Fishy your husband should reconsider having children with you considering all the alcohol you drink.  Just sayin' :-)

Maybe Fischy will give birth to a giant margarita.  That will be a glorious day.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I thought the 'people worry about the height of their future offspring' was the strawman. Oh-well.
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

It was.  I probably should've called it then, but trying to defend that position even further just pushed me over the edge.  Particularly from a lawyer.  I thought they would be well versed in avoiding those common pitfalls.

vallyhoo

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : It was.  I probably should've called it then, but trying to defend that position even further just pushed me over the edge.  Particularly from a lawyer.  I thought they would be well versed in avoiding those common pitfalls.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Nah, you gotta be careful when you call things I understand. Like red flags and such. People get uppity.

wadingmoose

Ooooooh, yeah, noooo red flags.  Nope.  Nuh uh.

At least not to a regular.  You know, newbs are good for red flags. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]People think about the fucking HEIGHT OF THEIR OFFSRPING!? I want to meet these people.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

I can't say I don't HOPE that any potential offspring will inherit my FI's eyes or my mother's hair but... it's not something I stress over or considering not having kids over.

BecW2be

I thought of another one. It's bratty.

My sister and my best friend and I are inseparable. We haven't really done anything in the past few years without each other. Best friend got laid off, and sister works her own schedule (which is slow this time of year b/c she lives in a resort mtn. town), and lately they've been spending days and days together. I'm really starting to feel left out. They aren't intentionally excluding me, but being the only one who can't whisk away for 3 days during the week to shop and relax and have girls' nights SUCKS.

To make matters worse, I have twice asked best friend to come stay with me during the week to hang out and she's already planned something with my sister. I feel like a four year old saying "But she was my sister and you were my friend first!" but I feel like saying it.

mwhitson14

As much as everyone is all, "go to grad school!" I don't want to. It's almost $600 per credit hour, and the program is 40 credit hours. That's more debt leaving grad school than I'll have in my entire 5 years of school. And when I told my mom last night, she pitched a huge fit and said FI is "dragging me down." Um, ok mom. Also, my brother didn't come to my college graduation because it was "too early" (it was at 11). And several of my friends said that was really awful, but honestly I didn't care. I never see him, we never talk, he's not a part of my life at all.

georgia_bride09

Bec, I feel you. In college I lived with one best friend and next door to another. Since I had to travel an hour to work and another hour back home, they got closer because they were together more. I felt left out a lot. Luckily, they're both Type A's and decided they didn't like hanging out as much as they thought they did after a while!!

It really sounds like (from everything you've said about them) that you could totally be like, "Stop leaving me out!!" and they would at least try to include you more, or at least do things when you can do them.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]TR: welcome to real world! I know quite a few people who sound like your FI's sister.  I'm sure you'll meet others that are just the same.  Who cares.  It's her life, if she wants to be a mess and his parents don't care, that is their problem, not yours.  Be happy it isn't you.
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

Oh, I know.  I didn't say I was proud of feeling this way, haha.  But isn't that what a Confessions thread is for?  Confessing things you're not exactly proud of.

BecW2be

It honestly didn't bother me that much until last night when best friend called and asked if she could come hang out. I was REALLY excited, until she added, "Sister is coming back from the boat [at the coast] and taking me up to the mtns. for a few days. Can I leave my car at your house until Wednesday?"

Wednesday I've invited both of them to my house for our Xmas mini-party. My house is the halfway point, so I just felt like a fucking parking spot for her. And, why bother coming to my house Wednesday when you've spent the past two days together? I'll just see friend last night and sister at Mom's on Xmas and be done.

I know I'm getting the side eye for being such a beebee, but God it's pissing me off.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]We've gotten several holiday cards from H's family addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Hlastname, or worse, H and Beatlesgirl Hlastname. FI's mom addressed our card to FI and Kati FILastName, despite the fact that we won't be getting married for another 3 months.  I definitely did a double take but also thought it was pretty cute.  I'm taking his name though, so the situation is different.
Posted by Kati0105[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I could see that as your FI's mom trying to be cute, especially since you are taking his name. Still, she should technically call you by your rightful name no matter what you're doing with it or how close to the wedding you are.

I'm just irritated at H's family because it's our <em>family</em>. I totally expect to be called (assumptively) Mrs. Hlastname at random events, parent-teacher conferences, or the cable guy for the rest of my life, but our family should know better. Also, just got the mail and my very own grandma just sent me a Christmas card addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Hlastname! I don't get this.

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I'm a little put off that all of a sudden people like OMG I LOVE BEN FOLDS when they didn't even know who he was two weeks ago. The SAME PEOPLE who asked me who he was when I went to see him in concert a couple of months ago are the people who have him all over their facebook status. And it's stupid that it irks me, but it does.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p>I'm late to this, but I don't know how people <em>don't </em>know who he is. Ben Folds Five was massive over here when they were releasing albums, I had figured it would have been the same in the states?</p>

ThePinkSuperhero

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[QUOTE]I don't want to have kids with my DH because he's Mexican !!!
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha.  My FI is Mexican AND short.  Think of how messed up our children will be!!!1  That said, he has very nice teeth and has never had braces, so maybe it'll all balance out.

lilgina64

Bens Fold Five was a big deal when i was a teenager. so I'm a little shocked no one knows who he is... apparently they lived under a rock?

pumpkinpumpkin

I'd never heard of Ben Folds before this thread.

jessjo04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? :   I'm late to this, but I don't know how people don't  know who he is. Ben Folds Five was massive over here when they were releasing albums, I had figured it would have been the same in the states?
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I thought he/they were very popular here too. Maybe a lot of people slept through the 90s? I love the song 'brick', even though it is one of the most depressing songs ever.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I hate the song "Brick," but that was their one big hit in the States.

From what I hear, Australians love The Church, too, but they had 1 hit here circa 1986 (Under the Milky Way, which IS a good song).

thesuninherhead

Again I'm late (just finished reading the rest of this thread), but personally, I'd rather worry about doing a good job as a parent than worry about my child's looks. 

 

ac, I can imagine that it would be rather daunting for you- you know, I actually read a good book on parenting the other day, called the 700 habits of highly ineffective parents... It's an Australian book so I don't know if you can find it over there, but essentially what it is saying is that the main part of being a good parent is not worrying about being a good parent, and just making sensible decisions and doing your best. There was a lot more to it than that, obviously, but it was somewhat reassuring. Maybe you need to seek out some books like that instead? So many people have raised children to be functional members of society- clearly it's not impossible to do! In any case, I hope you and your H have since discussed things and he realises that the way to support you through your concerns is not to suggest that you don't have to go through it.

polichik

I'm also surprised that there are people who don't know Ben Folds. BFF was big during my college years (all the way back yonder to 2004-2008, ha).

I confess that I really, really, REALLY hate all the stupid arguing that goes on around here lately. It used to be funny or clever, and now it's just bitchy, mean, and really f*ing annoying. I can't believe how much time people waste tearing each other down.  It's just so immature, and it surprises me that people honestly have nothing better to do with their time.

Whew. I feel better now, and will be resuming my usually sunny self.