Confessions?

pumpkinpumpkin

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[QUOTE]Coffer, aren't you a lawyer?  Can't a lawyer afford braces?  My sister was a waitress and paid for her own braces....
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

Wait. Coffer is a lawyer? If so...when exactly do you work? I mean, I'm on here all the time too, but 99% of my job requires computers and internet. You wouldn't think the same with being a lawyer...

Kati0105

The teeth thing is something that I have thought about. Like people who consider the height of their potential offspring.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure those people could also be classified as shallow.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Man, I don't even work with that dude and I'm glad he's gone. I'd be having a friggin party!
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I will as soon as I get over the fact that I'll now be working all day on Christmas, New Year's Eve, and New Year's Day instead of getting those 3 days of desperately needed vacation.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]My confession is lame compared to these. I need to think of a better one. But until I do, I confess that I won a 4GB MP3 player at the holiday lunch today, which is better than the one I bought for Chloe from Santa. I should give her the better one (although, she speicifically said a touch screen MP3 player, and this one is not) and return the one I got her, but I'm going to keep it for myself. I gave my Nano to Manda a couple of years ago and have been without one. It was free, and I deserve it. But I feel awful. Maybe I'll give Manda the free one and take my Nano back, but I really want to keep this one. It's lame, I told you. But I feel like crap if I keep it and pouty if I don't.
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

<div>Keep it. You deserve it. Congratulations!</div>

crfische

People think about the fucking HEIGHT OF THEIR OFFSRPING!? I want to meet these people.

buttaflai

[QUOTE]Amoro- It has nothing to do with vanity issues.  My H. has been through a ton of surgeries due to the cleft lip.  Plus its was (and sometimes is) an emotional toll on him a good part of his life.  I don't want my child to go through any of that.  You can give me side eye all you want.
Posted by cmhershey[/QUOTE]

So you should avoid having kids due to the potential of passing on a physical/emotional toll on their lives? I can think of PLENTY of issues that cause tolls on <em>everyone's</em> lives, but it won't prevent me from having kids.<strong> THAT'S LIFE</strong>. i.e. racism, poverty, kids being cruel in general, prejudice............... here's my side eye.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : At least he was able to have access to health care to have it taken care of, unlike thousands of kids throughout the world.  Perhaps he should think of the physical and emotional toll on them instead of pouting about how he's been "adversely" affected. 
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

So because other people in the world's lives suck, we can't have problems?  I know that my life is cake compared to a lot of the world, but I still get pissed/upset about things from time to time.  Overall I'm grateful for what I have, but I have my moments.

pinkpinot

TR: welcome to real world! I know quite a few people who sound like your FI's sister.  I'm sure you'll meet others that are just the same.  Who cares.  It's her life, if she wants to be a mess and his parents don't care, that is their problem, not yours.  Be happy it isn't you.

jens_a_ten

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[QUOTE]People think about the fucking HEIGHT OF THEIR OFFSRPING!? I want to meet these people.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

pumpkinpumpkin

I also had to have my jaw broken and re-set. I survived.

Amoro, thanks. I don't feel like I haven't been around. Even though I know I haven't been on as much.

bbyckes

People don't think of what their kids might look like prior to them being born?  isn't it natural to wonder what color eyes they'll have or the color of their hair or whose side of the family they'll take after?  I think I've had conversations with pregnant women who ask or wonder about these things all the time.

kikibaby

I fell in love with FI long before I knew about his family health history (it's not really a first date topic).  It probably won't stop us from having children, but I will have a little something in the back of my mind, that's all. 

And yeah, I've never even WONDERED about the height of our children.  I'm talking purely health, nothing cosmetic (except possibly the obesity, but that is preventable- clearly).

georgia_bride09

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : At least he was able to have access to health care to have it taken care of, unlike thousands of kids throughout the world.  Perhaps he should think of the physical and emotional toll on them instead of pouting about how he's been "adversely" affected. 
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Seriously? So the same could be said for you when you bitch about an alarm in your building going off. At least you have shelter. I mean, come on. Saying hershey's fiance has no right to feel like his cleft palate has affected him because of third world children is beyond ridiculous.

Nebb

Ive honestly never thought of how my future kids will look other than when I merged a picture of my husband and I in some program and the results were horrific. That was a scary baby.

bbyckes

Women who get artifically inseminated and not with their husband's sperm, definitely do go through a list of what they want in a potential child and what they don't want.  There are individuals who would pay big money to be able to genetically engineer their child.  So yeah, obviously there are people out there who think of these things.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : So because other people in the world's lives suck, we can't have problems?  I know that my life is cake compared to a lot of the world, but I still get pissed/upset about things from time to time.  Overall I'm grateful for what I have, but I have my moments.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Christ on a stick TR.  If you're going to claim cleft pallette emotional abuse, in a land where getting the surgery is not only fairly routine and at least accessible for you, I'm sure as fuuck going to give you the side eye for being completely obtuse.

ExpatPumpkin

I don't want to have kids with my DH because he's Mexican !!!

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]Ive honestly never thought of how my future kids will look other than when I merged a picture of my husband and I in some program and the results were horrific. That was a scary baby.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

hahaha I did that with an ex once and my mom actually shuddered when I showed her the photo!  It was awful.

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]I don't want to have kids with my DH because he's Mexican !!!
Posted by ExpatPumpkin[/QUOTE]

GASP!  lol

jens_a_ten

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[QUOTE]People don't think of what their kids might look like prior to them being born?  isn't it natural to wonder what color eyes they'll have or the color of their hair or whose side of the family they'll take after?  I think I've had conversations with pregnant women who ask or wonder about these things all the time.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

That's completely different. Anytime I'm thinking about what our kids will look like, it's more sentimental like "I hope the kid has Heith's cute cute smile" or something like that. Not "Oh god, we both have big noses and had bad skin as teenagers.. we'd better not have kids...plus, WHAT IF THEY TURN OUT SHORT!?"

crfische

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[QUOTE]People don't think of what their kids might look like prior to them being born?  isn't it natural to wonder what color eyes they'll have or the color of their hair or whose side of the family they'll take after?  I think I've had conversations with pregnant women who ask or wonder about these things all the time.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

I can honestly say that I've never thought about ANY of those things in regard to any future children. Juding my child or hoping for things that they MIGHT be before they are even conceived seems awfully odd to me.

Unless there's some weird health thing to consider like the Little People show when they were trying to have a baby, I suppose.

They'd just be...ya know. OUR child. Tall short, big ears, brown eyes, down syndrome, I don't freakin' care. They'd be ours and Iwed love 'em to pieces, by god.

salt78

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[QUOTE]People don't think of what their kids might look like prior to them being born?  isn't it natural to wonder what color eyes they'll have or the color of their hair or whose side of the family they'll take after?  I think I've had conversations with pregnant women who ask or wonder about these things all the time.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

Sure I think of all those things, but the fact that our kid will probably have to *gasp* have braces doesn't mean that I would consider not pro-creating with FI.

Although the fact that they would need braces would really be my fault anyway.

Mrs_AF

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Reason number 3210948989......
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Dude, we get it. You think she's dumb.

wadingmoose

Um, no.  I've never wondered what my future children would look like.  Even when exH and I were trying to have kids, none of that ever crossed my mind.  Nor did health history, etc. 

The point was to have children.  Not custom pick a child from a list of qualities and traits that were desireable to me.  Based on natural selection, I (technically) should have done that through the courting process...  You know, picked a mate with genetic qualities suitable for reproduction?   If that were your goal and all...

cmhershey

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[QUOTE]Cleft pallette is fixable. 
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

I know that.  It doesn't mean that I want my future kid to go through it that's all.  It does sound vain writing it down now that I see it.

Stackeye210

My personal beliefs are if you try to avoid something, or play with mother nature it comes back and bites you in the a$$.  You just gotta be thankful for what you get. 

God is teaching you to love unconditionally when you have a child. 

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : Dude, we get it. You think she's dumb.
Posted by Mrs_AF[/QUOTE]

Yup, and that would be why we moved on from it almost 2 pages ago.  Thanks for bringing it back up though.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]Women who get artifically inseminated and not with their husband's sperm, definitely do go through a list of what they want in a potential child and what they don't want.  There are individuals who would pay big money to be able to genetically engineer their child.  So yeah, obviously there are people out there who think of these things.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]

A woman also went through plastic surgery to make herself look like a cat.

This does not mean that this behaviour is enviable or one that society should move towards.  You HAVE to know that.  Throwing this out there is a pretty obvious strawman.

eastunder1

I'm 23% less intelligent now than I was when I entered this thread. 

Mrs_AF

Well you probably would have anyway with whatever she said next, so I was just helping you out!