Morning!

pokepoke27

It's nice out here, but I am not in the mood to be outside. I've got such a mix of emotions it's almost hard to function haha. FI will be here on the 27th which 7 days away. I'm excited about seeing him and anxious about the possibility of him not being let it, as well as nervous about everything for the wedding coming together. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Poke, I just saw your ticker...2 weeks! Are you ready or freaking out?
Posted by tracym77[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm freaking out. I feel like nothing has been done. Everything important has been done. I don't know why I feel this way - but I'm a natural worrier. It's funny though because I was kind of thinking "Hey, this wedding planning stuff is a breeze. Why does everyone stress out?" But then, when the wedding day was actually in my sight, I started to freak haha. </div>

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Morning!: I'm going to be blunt here and say I think this is really weird. I'm friends with knotties but we're friends because we interacted on the boards enough to share real names, phone numbers, etc. so fb friending was a natural progression. If someone on here asked to be my fb friend and I only interacted with them a few times on the board or sparingly enough that I dont know their real name I would likely decline.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

Fair enough. I personally think fb friending would come before exchanging numbers because my FB is less personal to me than my phone number, but that's just me. Maybe other people feel differently, in which case, they're free to decline my request.

ETA - And I don't just friend any Knottie I recognize... if we barely interact, I don't friend them. But again, anyone who thinks it's weird doesn't have to accept. That's the beauty of the decline button.

lyndausvi

One bonus of working is DH is helping with the cleaning.  Friday  he mopped and vacuumed while I was at work.    He still doesn't do dishes.  Even though we have a dishwasher.  Which by-the-way I don't use often, but it's still there.  Actually I don't think he will ever do dishes 

angelstar975

Lynda, that's awesome... I hope FI helps with the cleaning when we move in together.

pokepoke27

I'm lucky enough that the jobs FI hates I don't mind and visa versa. I hate cleaning the bathroom, vaccuming, carpet cleaning, and taking out the trash. He hates laundry, dishes, dusting, and general kitchen cleaning. 

tracym77

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Morning! : Fair enough. I personally think fb friending would come before exchanging numbers because my FB is less personal to me than my phone number, but that's just me. Maybe other people feel differently, in which case, they're free to decline my request. ETA - And I don't just friend any Knottie I recognize... if we barely interact, I don't friend them. But again, anyone who thinks it's weird doesn't have to accept. That's the beauty of the decline button.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

This is exactly how I feel about it. Especially the phone number thing.

pokepoke27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_morning-73?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6bf591df-fc92-4ae4-8e3c-212c5bed5a61Post:826a3a78-4712-442d-aca2-3edc5f582ed4">Re: Morning!</a>:
[QUOTE]H only helps with the cleaning if I specifically ask him to do something. But that makes me feel like I'm giving him "chores" to do so I rarely ask. We just recently started doing our own laundry because it was driving me up the wall to always have laundry going. H hates to put clean laundry away so we have a new rule, if his clean laundry sits out for 48 hours without him putting it away and I decide to put it away (I hate seeing it in the basket), then I get a massage. This allows him adequate time to get it done on his own AND I get something for putting it away in the end :)
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

<div>I actually don't mind putting his laundry away. He's more than happy to just chuck it all in a drawer. I actually keep it organized. </div>

tracym77

Hi Lynda!

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]H only helps with the cleaning if I specifically ask him to do something. But that makes me feel like I'm giving him "chores" to do so I rarely ask. We just recently started doing our own laundry because it was driving me up the wall to always have laundry going. H hates to put clean laundry away so we have a new rule, <strong>if his clean laundry sits out for 48 hours without him putting it away and I decide to put it away (I hate seeing it in the basket), then I get a massage.</strong> This allows him adequate time to get it done on his own AND I get something for putting it away in the end :)
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

I love this idea. I am certain FI's laundry will always sit in the basket for days, so if we could come up with a system like that, I'd love it. Of course, he hates the way I fold clothes so probably after a time or two of me putting his clothes away, he'd probably just do it himself to avoid my folding.

pokepoke27

I'm fb friends with 3 knotties - although I wouldn't mind friending more. And I've given my phone number out to one. 

Loopyseven

Hi hi!  I went to the farmers market this morning.  Otherwise I have no plans for the day.  I should take the dog for a walk, but we'll see.

Poke -is there a specific reason you think your FI won't be let in, or is it just "one of the things that could go wrong" at this point?

I usually recognize people on FB cause they have similar or the same wedding pictures in their profile as they have in their sigs or avatars on here.  I don't usually friend request anyone though, I let them come to me .

tracym77

All this chore talk is reminding me that we have a crap ton of laundry  to do. And we never did get around to getting an electric dryer (ours gas one is sitting outside) so that means a trip to the laundromat.  Last week's trip was ummm, interesting.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Hi hi!  I went to the farmers market this morning.  Otherwise I have no plans for the day.  I should take the dog for a walk, but we'll see. Poke -is there a specific reason you think your FI won't be let in, or is it just "one of the things that could go wrong" at this point? <strong>I usually recognize people on FB cause they have similar or the same wedding pictures in their profile as they have in their sigs or avatars on here.</strong>  I don't usually friend request anyone though, I let them come to me :).
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

This too.

angelstar975

There's no way I'm going to do 95% of the housework... I hate to cook and clean. The only thing I really don't mind is laundry. FI likes to cook. So we'll have food and clean clothes... we'll see how we do with a clean house. I'm sure we'll be able to handle an apartment, but as soon as we move into a house, I'm getting a cleaning lady. I don't care what I have to sacrifice to be able to afford it... including food

pokepoke27

Loopy - he's been threatened before. When he first started visiting me he was in university and didn't have a job. He lived at home and had his business - although at that point it was just one of those "on the side" things that didn't make much, he never expected it to grow the way it has. Anyways, that wasn't officially declared at the time so in the eyes of the US government he had no job. No job, no bills, no car....no ties to the UK. There was a period of time that he was actually coming over here very frequently, and that's what made them pull him aside and question him. He was told that they could send him home based on their suspicions alone - they didn't need "proof" that he was planning to come in illegally. He'd NEVER over stayed, but they still had an issue with it. He's been here twice since that incident and it's been about a year between each visit (I've been over there in that time).

I'm slightly concerned that since he was just here in Feb that they'll give him trouble again. However, now his business is declared and he's renting a flat and just got a new car we are confident that if there is a problem we have enough proof that he's going back to the UK.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Loopy - he's been threatened before. When he first started visiting me he was in university and didn't have a job. He lived at home and had his business - although at that point it was just one of those "on the side" things that didn't make much, he never expected it to grow the way it has. Anyways, that wasn't officially declared at the time so in the eyes of the US government he had no job. No job, no bills, no car....no ties to the UK. There was a period of time that he was actually coming over here very frequently, and that's what made them pull him aside and question him. He was told that they could send him home based on their suspicions alone - they didn't need "proof" that he was planning to come in illegally. He'd NEVER over stayed, but they still had an issue with it. He's been here twice since that incident and it's been about a year between each visit (I've been over there in that time). I'm slightly concerned that since he was just here in Feb that they'll give him trouble again. However, now his business is declared and<strong> he's renting a flat</strong> and just got a new car we are confident that if there is a problem we have enough proof that he's going back to the UK.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

I can't get over this, haha. It makes me want to read my Sophie Kinsella books.

lyndausvi

DH only likes to mop, vacuum and dust.  And only on his own time, not if I ask.

I blame not doing the dishes on his job.

He doesn't hate laundry, but I seem to get to it first.  He hates to put clothes away. It drives me crazy.  Except for dry cleaning.  He does take care of those without any prompting. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : I can't get over this, haha. It makes me want to read my Sophie Kinsella books.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha, I often find myself switching between American and British terms. </div>

Loopyseven

H cleaned the whole apartment before he left.  i've trashed it since he left LOL.  Not really, but the clutter has gotten bad cause I have half unpacked a box of paperwork but haven't gotten it organized and put away properly yet.  I usually do the laundry - and most of the indoor chores.  H is a better cook than me, but I hope he'll do more of the cooking when he's home now that he'll be completely not working when he's home.

pokepoke27

Loopy - will you be a SAHM? Or will you keep your part time job?

angelstar975

Loopy, I don't think clutter from trying to unpack counts as a real mess, so you're okay

lyndausvi

Ugh.. For some reason I can't remember that I'm having dinner with my brother tonight.     

Just now I started thinking what I should get at the store for dinner and then I remember we are taking him to DH's (he has never been to one of DH's restaurants).   I've done that a lot in the last few days.  I keep wanting to plan dinner tonight only to remember there is already a plan.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Ugh.. For some reason I can't remember that I'm having dinner with my brother tonight.      Just now I started thinking what I should get at the store for dinner and then I remember we are taking him to DH's (he has never been to one of DH's restaurants).   I've done that a lot in the last few days.  I keep wanting to plan dinner tonight only to remember there is already a plan.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

I do that too, sometimes. That's why I put all my plans in the calendar on my iPhone and check it at least once or twice daily.

J&K10910

Heyyyy, it's not morning anymore--you guys have been all sorts of confusing with the chat threads this weekend

My visit canceled at my volunteer job, so I'm home already, and I'm pretty happy about that.  Box Kitty is super twitchy again today.  She's been twitching off and on for most of the day and it's been pretty bad.  It's making me anxious and I'm pretty sure we're going to make an appointment with the neurologist this week.  I wish I could make it stop, she seems pretty distressed.

Loopyseven

Poke - that's still up for debate/discussion.  Depends on daycare costs for part time vs my pay, and how flexible my job will be about allowing time off when I want and flexing my schedule when I need to.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : I do that too, sometimes. That's why I put all my plans in the calendar on my iPhone and check it at least once or twice daily.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]


I think it's more that I'm not really fond of this brother. 

He is coming in from AZ on business.  So it's not a really a social visit like the rest of our guests.  He is staying somewhere else also.

Although I have to give him some props.  He took in his wife's nephews.  His BIL and the baby mama (not together anymore) have temporarily lost custody of the boys.   Baby mama also lost custody of a 9 month old, is supposedly is pregnant again AND been tested postitive for drugs.   Real winners it tell you.

Loopyseven

Oh... poor box kitty.  Is she on meds that you can try adjusting dosage or anything?  Or do you think it could just still be reactions to the big move.

angelstar975

Hey J! Poor Box Kitty... I hope they can get her sorted out.

ETA - At least you won't have another house guest, Lynda. It is nice that he took in the boys though... it's so sad to me when people can't get it together enough to care for their children.

J&K10910

Loops, she's not on meds yet.  We wanted to try to manage it without meds, and we were doing ok, but now it's been getting worse.  The twitching attacks aren't as frequent, but they're getting more intense, so it's probably time.  I think what set it off this time was the thunderstorm last night.  A gigantic clap of thunder woke us all up and she flew off the bed and slept under it for the rest of the night, so it obviously freaked her out.