Morning!

Loopyseven

Thunder is scary.  I'd sleep under the bed too.

J&K10910

Ha, Loopy, it scared us as it was, so I'd imagine it was pretty terrifying for her.  She's currently sleeping under a blanket on the couch, and as far as we know, it's the first she's slept since we got up this morning.

pokepoke27

Aww J - I hope box kitty gets better. She might still be freaked out about last night. 

Loopy - I know that in an ideal world I would like to be a SAHM until my kids are both (ideal number for me) in school, then I would get a part time job so I can still keep up with housework. 

Lynda - I'm sorry to hear about that. I hate hearing about parents that dont' put their kids right at the top of their priorities.

Loopyseven

Poke - we don't want our kids in daycare full time.  But we're okay with part time.  Financially, I don't HAVE to work.  But I like working, and with H gone so much it will guarantee me adult interaction on a regular basis.  So if I can make the part time thing work with our life, I think I'd like to do that.  But as my bff told me the other day, everything changes once the baby is born. She had every intention of going back to work after she had her baby, and she said as soon as they were home from the hospital she knew she didn't want to.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]Hey J! Poor Box Kitty... I hope they can get her sorted out. ETA - <strong>At least you won't have another house guest, Lynda.</strong> It is nice that he took in the boys though... it's so sad to me when people can't get it together enough to care for their children.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]


True that.   I'm over house guests.


It really is, I think they always knew they would get a call some day.   the BIL live right next door to the baby mama and her new BF.   Apparently the BF was abusive (not sure if it was towards the kids, the mom or both?).    CPS said that since BIL lived right next door (shared a common wall) he had to have known about the abuse and did nothing to protect his kids. 

Bro suggested that BIL come by a little more often his response was "let me check with my lawyer.  I'm not sure if it's better for me to be visiting them or looking for a job?".  WTF response is that?  Fairly sure he is not looking for a job 24/7.    The mom demanded 2 days a week with the boys (both parents have supervised visits).   She left early the first day, no showed the 2nd day.        Awesome "parents"  I tell you.

Loopyseven

Wow Lynda - that's so sad for those kids.  It's awesome that their uncle (and aunt - I assume) have stepped up to take responsibility.  Hopefully they can be a stabilizing influence for them.

angelstar975

Ideally, I don't want to put my kids in daycare at all. I hope to be home with them until they're school aged, but if that's not possible, I'd like to get a nanny. Ideally, I'd actually like to work part time, like 2 or 3 days a week, even while they're young so that I can have some adult interaction and then have a nanny come on those days. I know some people say they're basically working to pay for childcare and that's pointless, but I know the hourly salary of one of the moms I work for and it's way more than what she pays me an hour, so I'd love to find a situation like that.

pokepoke27

Lynda - that's awful. I'm sorry your H is going through this with his family. It sounds super sucky.

Loopy - I hear you on the adult interaction thing. My aunt said she thought she'd want the adult interaction but once the baby actually came she didn't miss it as much as she thought it would. She says it's nice to go out with adults and leave the kids with a sitter, but she's okay with it being an occasional thing. Her H doesn't go OOT all the time like yours does though, so she does at least spend time with him every day. 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Ideally, I don't want to put my kids in daycare at all. I hope to be home with them until they're school aged, but if that's not possible, I'd like to get a nanny. Ideally, I'd actually like to work part time, like 2 or 3 days a week, even while they're young so that I can have some adult interaction and then have a nanny come on those days. I know some people say they're basically working to pay for childcare and that's pointless, but I know the hourly salary of one of the moms I work for and it's way more than what she pays me an hour, so I'd love to find a situation like that.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

Is this something you'd do with just one child?  Why would you go this route?  I'm just curious!

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : Is this something you'd do with just one child?  Why would you go this route?  I'm just curious!
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

Do you mean why would I choose a nanny vs daycare? I'm just not a daycare fan. I like the idea of my child being home in his or her own environment, getting individual care from a nanny. The fact that that's what I currently do for a living probably makes me bias towards it. Plus, kids constantly get sick at day care. If I have friends with children around the same age, my child will interact with other kids that way, or we'd join a play group or something. I just don't want to put my infant in day care. With an older child, it wouldn't matter as much, but by the time my child is old enough that I wouldn't mind, I'd probably have another child so I'd want to stick with the nanny.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : Do you mean why would I choose a nanny vs daycare? I'm just not a daycare fan. I like the idea of my child being home in his or her own environment, getting individual care from a nanny. The fact that that's what I currently do for a living probably makes me bias towards it. Plus, kids constantly get sick at day care. If I have friends with children around the same age, my child will interact with other kids that way, or we'd join a play group or something. I just don't want to put my infant in day care. With an older child, it wouldn't matter as much, but by the time my child is old enough that I wouldn't mind, I'd probably have another child so I'd want to stick with the nanny.
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

That makes sense--especially when they're an infant.

I'm a big fan of day cares for socialization and immune system building when they're a little older, but yeah, I don't see a ton of benefits for infants in day care vs a nanny. 

LeiselEB

Hey everyone!

Lynda, I feel so sad for those kids. It's great that they're able to stay with family. My neighbor was recently given custody of his grandkids. His daughter, their mom, was given the opportunity to have her kids back if she agreed to not have contact her abusive boyfriend (this man also beat her kids) anymore. She chose the boyfriend over her kids. Some people are just unbelievable. 

I'm being super lazy today, until I go to a cookout with FI's family later this afternoon. My bachelorette party was Friday night, and I'm still catching up on my sleep from that. 

Loopyseven

Yeah - we may look into doing a nanny situation instead of day care.  I'd probably prefer that anyway, but I'm not even sure how to go about finding a nanny or what to look for in training/background/etc.

specialk84

My brother and I had a combination of daycare and nannies. I don't want to start a mommy war, but I don't get why so many people are anti-daycare. (I'm not accusing anyone here of being so--it's just something I've heard a lot of with my ILs and other people.)

Daycare teaches vital social skills and exposes kids to a bunch of germs. To some people, that's a downside. To me, it's an upside.

Then again, my uterus is closed for business.

PetalPockets2012

We just got back from seeing The Avengers and eating at Olive Garden. Yum.

I have been so lazy this weekend and I think I'm going to continue that for the rest of today.

specialk84

J (or anyone else whose physical activity consists of more than grocery shopping), have you ever used Body Glide for chafing issues? Does it work? 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]My brother and I had a combination of daycare and nannies. I don't want to start a mommy war, but I don't get why so many people are anti-daycare. (I'm not accusing anyone here of being so--it's just something I've heard a lot of with my ILs and other people.) Daycare teaches vital social skills and exposes kids to a bunch of germs. To some people, that's a downside. To me, it's an upside. Then again, my uterus is closed for business.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

You're in my brain, stealin' my thoughts.

pokepoke27

Loopy - try care.com when the time comes. I've heard great things about it.

Petal - that sounds like a fantastic day! I want Olive Garden.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]Yeah - we may look into doing a nanny situation instead of day care.  I'd probably prefer that anyway, but I'm not even sure how to go about finding a nanny or what to look for in training/background/etc.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

I find all my jobs on care.com or sittercity.com. Most nannies on there, myself included, run a background check on themselves for parents to see. You can also specify whether you want them to be CPR/First Aid certified, experienced with multiples or special needs, etc. I've obviously never done it from the mom side, but I hear it's really easy.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]J (or anyone else whose physical activity consists of more than grocery shopping), have you ever used Body Glide for chafing issues? Does it work? 
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I fuckingggggg love that stuff.  You can use vaseline too, but vaseline will grease stain your clothes.  Body Glide does not, which I appreciate.

Loopyseven

I would love soup/salad from Olive Garden right now.  Sounds so yummy.  Actually I may call the Champps by my apartment and get a to go order of soup/salad for dinner tonight .

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]My brother and I had a combination of daycare and nannies. I don't want to start a mommy war, but I don't get why so many people are anti-daycare. (I'm not accusing anyone here of being so--it's just something I've heard a lot of with my ILs and other people.) Daycare teaches vital social skills and exposes kids to a bunch of germs. To some people, that's a downside. To me, it's an upside. Then again, my uterus is closed for business.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I think my dislike of daycare comes from what I've heard about some of the daycares around here. My best friend worked for one and she said she would have NEVER sent her children to it, for various reasons. I'm sure there are wondeful daycares out there, but there's just something about knowing my kids are at home safe with someone I trust that makes me feel good. Or will make me feel good, when I have children and a nanny and all that. Again, my nanning background has a lot to do with my feelings.

PetalPockets2012

I know some people who are against daycare due to the larger child to adult ratio especially with children under 2. Another concern is that there are  more caregivers working with your child and the turnover rate can be high.

I'm not against daycare and I don't claim to be knowledgeable at all. I'm just brining up some of the things my friends have said. I know that home daycares are becoming more popular choices around here.

pokepoke27

I don't think I'm going to send my kids to daycare, but I am a fan of Pre-K.

J&K10910

Are there people that are AGAINST pre-school, Poke?  I mean, aside from like, people that plan to homeschool and such?  That's weird to me.

specialk84

Excellent, J. I'm going to buy some today. During the summer, I wear skirts and dresses almost exclusively, since my thighs keep trying to eat my shorts. However, there's a chafing issue. Amazon said it helps with bra chafing, too, which will be nice.

I need to buy a new black dress today, too. The two I have make me look pregnant, and since we'll be meeting up with my entire extended family next week, I prefer to keep the "OMG, when are you due?" comments to a minimum.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]Are there people that are AGAINST pre-school, Poke?  I mean, aside from like, people that plan to homeschool and such?  That's weird to me.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, there are. Some people seem to think they can teach their kid everything at home, then send it off to kindergarten, where the kid will have no clue how to interact with other kids. Lots of people also think pre-k is a waste of money.</div>

LeiselEB

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : Yes, there are. Some people seem to think they can teach their kid everything at home, then send it off to kindergarten, where the kid will have no clue how to interact with other kids. Lots of people also think pre-k is a waste of money.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>A lot of people in my metro area are this way. I don't really understand why you wouldn't send your kid to pre K, especially if the alternative would be day care, ya know?</div>

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Morning! : Yes, there are. Some people seem to think they can teach their kid everything at home, then send it off to kindergarten, where the kid will have no clue how to interact with other kids. Lots of people also think pre-k is a waste of money.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, a lot of people don't think that Pre-K actually teaches their kids anything important enough to pay for. </div>

J&K10910

I learned a lot in preschool.

I learned not to bite other children, I learned how to sing Baby Beluga, I learned how to finger paint all over the table....

Hmmmm.