unpopular opinions

salt78

I judge people that have those metal scrotums hanging from their truck bumpers and especially when it's a company truck like the one I saw the other day. There's no way I would call them for any of my drywall needs after seeing that. How unprofessional.

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE] Like seriously, how important are you that you ahve to make a quick get away?
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I do it ALL THE TIME unless I'm getting groceries and need to get into the trunk. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />

It's 99% because people drive like crazies around here and if you get wedged in between an suv and a minivan or something and try to back out, people will not stop for you if they see you backing out into the lane in the lot, they'll just keep the fuuck on going and play chicken with you. So if you back in, you can see where people are and then just go.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : It's all fun and games until someone feels like they're the ones being judged. 
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]
word. although LVB is taking it well.

I really don't like it when normally judgmental posters suddenly change their tune and act like they're suddenly above it. get off your high horse so someone can breastfeed it.

Moneypenny424

If extended breastfeeding and keep kids quiet in nice restaurants where they are too young (or not well behaved enough) to be, I"m all for it .

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I do it ALL THE TIME unless I'm getting groceries and need to get into the trunk. It's 99% because people drive like crazies around here and if you get wedged in between an suv and a minivan or something and try to back out, people will not stop for you if they see you backing out into the lane in the lot, they'll just keep the fuuck on going and play chicken with you. So if you back in, you can see where people are and then just go.
Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]
Sounds like y'all have worse drivers than we do in the south ;)

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]I judge people that have those metal scrotums hanging from their truck bumpers and especially when it's a company truck like the one I saw the other day. There's no way I would call them for any of my drywall needs after seeing that. How unprofessional.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed. Those things are vile. </div>

kikibaby

I agree about the circular argument, LVB.  I don't care if you judge it, I guess I was just saying I don't personally judge because I don't really give a shiit.  So, yeah.

xyrius

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : It's all fun and games until someone feels like they're the ones being judged. 
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

Yep.  :(

and mery, here's another link: <a href="http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/pubs/infant-nourrisson/nut_infant_nourrisson_term_3-eng.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/fn-an/pubs/infant-nourrisson/nut_infant_nourrisson_term_3-eng.php</a> from health canada - there used to be another one - but anyways they pretty much recommend 2 and beyond as well

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]I BACK INTO PARKING SPOTS. STOP JUDGING MEEEEEEEEEEE!!! But I really do. Especially at sporting events. It just seems smart to me.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

At sporting events, absolutely.  It's hard enough to jump out into the fray, let alone have enough time or room to do it backward.  But at the grocery store?  I need to get into my trunk so I never back in.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : word. although LVB is taking it well. I really don't like it when normally judgmental posters suddenly change their tune and act like they're suddenly above it. get off your high horse so someone can breastfeed it.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
LMFAO!

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : Sounds like y'all have worse drivers than we do in the south ;)
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Ask Mandy. Toronto drivers are asssholes. No joke. We drive like we are the most important schit around.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]AP was never an option Mr Stack and I considered with Jocelyn.  I've never even researched it to be honest so I only know about the little parts that have been talked about here.  I would never consider feeding Jocelyn in my bed, or laying in my bed for any reason.  That was one of the first rules we made when we brought her home, absolutely no co-sleeping.  We also made sure to lay her down half asleep and not fully asleep so that she'd learn early on to fall asleep in her bed.  We have never had any bedtime issues with her and I believe it's because of this.  I think bottom line with any parenting is consistency and allowing them to grow up! 
Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]
I also feel like co-sleeping (not when they're babies, but if you are letting your 5 and 3 year old sleep with you and your H), you can't be taking care of your marriage. sorry. I'd actually be interested to see the divorce rates of attachment parents.

I also think that at some point, AP becomes more about fulfilling the mom's need to keep her child a baby than the child's needs. in a lot of cases. not all.

crfische

Well DUH. At golf courses and grocery stores it would be irresponsible to not have your trunk readily accessible.

xyrius

*steps off her high horse and breastfeeds it until it's 5 years old and going to home-school"

laladypoet

I hear home-schoolers back into parking spaces, so be careful!

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions : I also feel like co-sleeping (not when they're babies, but if you are letting your 5 and 3 year old sleep with you and your H), you can't be taking care of your marriage. sorry. I'd actually be interested to see the divorce rates of attachment parents. I also think that at some point, AP becomes more about fulfilling the mom's need to keep her child a baby than the child's needs. in a lot of cases. not all.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]
Agreed with EVERYTHING you just said. I don't have a problem with Johhny coming into our bed when it's storming or he had a nightmare, but he's not sleeping with us on the regular.

And for some mom's, I think ALL ap is about their needs, and not the childs. I won't lie, baby wearing is going to be for ME. It's just easier than handling a heavy stroller everywhere I go. Now when they start fighting it on the regular, it obviously means they don't want to do it anymore. So something has to change. I just think everything has to adapt to your child and your situation, no manual is going to be exactly right 100% of the time.

xyrius

i got to go work now   but thanks for keeping me entertained for the better part of the afternoon ladies! 

cengle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions :II also think that at some point, AP becomes more about fulfilling the mom's need to keep her child a baby than the child's needs. in a lot of cases. not all.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

*nods*

From the little I know, I can get behind some of the principles for babies (like not letting them cry it out or picking them up when they want to be picked up, etc.), like LVB said earlier, but once the kids get older, it just seems...odd...to me.  Kids grow up and get older; I think not accepting that is unhealthy for everyone involved.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]I hear home-schoolers back into parking spaces, so be careful!
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

<div>Heeey! My husband was home schooled! And... well, he's a terrible driver. So... oh. Nevermind.</div>

laladypoet

I have a friend who was homeschooled. then she went to college. she didn't go crazy or anything but she did get a tattoo and go to third base, which is a HUGE no-no in her family. her family still talks about her "wild days."

Celles

My mom co-slept with my little brother (her biological child) but not me (her adopted child).  She also chewed his food for him until he was three or four like some kind of mama wolf.  I always assumed it was a cultural thing (she's a first generation immigrant from rural Thailand; her home village is straight out of National Geographic), but -- in hindsight -- she could have just been insane.  I'm pretty sure she's bi-polar, although she has never been officially diagnosed.

Reading about extreme AP now, my mom did all of those things with my brother -- including refusing to force him to go to school until he was "ready," a full two years after he should have started!  He turned into a self-entitled spoiled monster who still lives at home at 23 and has never sampled college or been gainfully employed. 

My purely anecdotal evidence prejudices me against AP, so my unpopular opinion is that I am totally on board with Lala's pronouncement of "crazycakes" for the AP extremists (although nothing Xyrius has said she does with her daughter seems all that extreme to me). 


It took me so long to write this that I'm probably three pages behind a discussion about rainbow cake. 

laladypoet

I hear futuremrs came up with attachment parenting.

louisvillebride21

Um eww about chewing food. I don't think that's AP, I think that's certifiable. Could be wrong abotu that though.

Rosie109

My junior year of college we lived in an apartment complex with this family that refused to pull into parking spots, so they always backed into spots.. Which in itself is annoying but not really that funny. The funny part was  how BAD they were at it, and how they neeeever corrected themselves. Our porch looked out onto the parking lot and it felt like they always came home when we were smoking on the porch, so it was always a show. I am talking way over the line somewhat diagonal NOT GONNA FIX IT parking.

laladypoet

celles...whoa.

Celles

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[QUOTE]Um eww about chewing food. I don't think that's AP, I think that's certifiable. Could be wrong abotu that though.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I don't think you're wrong.  :(

I love my mom, but she's all kinds of crazy. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: unpopular opinions :<strong> I also feel like co-sleeping (not when they're babies, but if you are letting your 5 and 3 year old sleep with you and your H), you can't be taking care of your marriage. sorry.</strong> I'd actually be interested to see the divorce rates of attachment parents. I also think that at some point, AP becomes more about fulfilling the mom's need to keep her child a baby than the child's needs. in a lot of cases. not all.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

This is EXACTLY the argument my mother uses about cosleeping. She worked in early childhood education for a long time. I mean, she would never tell someone that to their face, but privately, that was completely what she believed. I never once slept in my parents' bed.

squirrly

I back into parking spaces in the garage, because trying to back out in there is dangerous. 

I judge anybody who follows every tenant of a parenting method just because it's part of the method.  I think you should pick and choose what fits your life style and your child. 

My unpopular opinion?  The idea that newbs can't give good advice on here is crap.  It doesn't take 300 posts to have a functional brain.  There are certainly a lot of people who post 12 times with really dumb ideas and disappear, but all the regs were new once too. 

And also - I'm not a fan of fat free/zero calorie/diet food.  Eat real food.  In moderate amounts.  And exercise.  Fat isn't bad for you.  Copious amounts of it are.  Everybody needs some! 

kikibaby

Is it an unpopular opinion that I'm irritated that future-mrs is posting all over the damn place but not responding to the allegations against her? 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

We have to back into our parking spaces at home, but that's just so we can actually pull out of them in the morning when all the other cars are still there. Otherwise I'd spend 10 minutes making a 21-point turn.