AEs posting stuff

TheCranberry

Thanks, crfische.  I thought it meant Anonymous E-something. 

elmulvey

That sounds way more rude than I intended...its a genuine question.  Can you explain why it matters? 

pumpkinpumpkin

:whispers: Keeks, it sounded kinda minor to me too.

AmoroAgain

Reg, NO ONE is talking about you on this.  You just happened to be the most recent person to do this.  The one earlier was reallly stupid about the career decision.  Not necessary.  Are you getting the brunt because you did it to? Sort of, but you have to separate yourself and your situation from the stiuation of being bombarded with AE's aplenty, possibly using this to actually do bad things, or make up situations.  We all want to help, but we can only give so much before it's all used up, and I'd hate that leeway for AE's discussing personal and real problems, gets eaten up by people acting like asshats for "fun".  Can you understand that?  I know you're in a very deep and personal situation, and I understand that, I feel for you, and hope that you figured out how to work on your problem.  But please understand, that there are people who have and will, use the situation to make crap up and cause us to stop believeing those who actually DO need help.

danieliza1127

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_aes-posting-stuff?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8dcc1004-da1f-44f4-8a54-a5799f7f606fPost:39034fbe-ef12-4ca0-8496-f12e27f7f5d1">Re: AEs posting stuff</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, can you answer me this...Why does it matter to you?  I am trying to figure out why it matters what screen name anyone posts anything under; whether a regular or not?
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

Well because if you post as yourself, odds are we know enough about you to offer better advice.  Also if you post as an AE, you lose a little credibility because it would easy for people to be snarky or think it's made up or that you're a troll, especially when the board is as dead as it has been.  If you post as yourself, you will probably get more sympathy, more advice from people who might decide to actually participate in the thread rather than just pass by because they don't know who you are.  Those are a few reasons.  It's also annoying when it's the 3rd time in 2 days.

Of course there are also reasons why you might not want to post as yourself, I get that.

J&K10910

Ah, yes, I see now that I did clearly misunderstand.

elmulvey

Why does it matter if its minor or major (in YOUR opinion).  I mean obviously to the OPs they are major issues; but regardless of how you feel about the issue, I still dont understand what is wrong with posting under a different name?

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]Why does it matter if its minor or major (in YOUR opinion).  I mean obviously to the OPs they are major issues; but regardless of how you feel about the issue, I still dont understand what is wrong with posting under a different name?
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

Amoro and I both have just given you good reasons why.

regbutnot

Amoro, I completely understand and respect where you're coming from. I take no issue with that. What I do take issue with is people saying that this is a minor issue for me. Judging by pumpkin's comment, yes, it was directed towards me. I understand that not all comments were, but that one was.

georgia_bride09

I wonder if some of these really aren't even regs, they just don't want to post with their already anonymous sn. If I did it, I wouldn't be all, I'm a reg BUT.... I can't make decisions by myself.

Too cliche.

RachNRich

Well shits....I shoulda made an AE for all of my relationship drama. Owning up to my own problems is overrated. 

JessAndTrav

Regbutnot, I agree that your issue IS a senstive issue, however, if you're truly a reg here, then you shouldn't be getting upset, because you should know how things around here go.

FWIW, I think you should stand your ground and tell whoever that you don't want him to sing at your wedding.

wadingmoose

Also, I think as a mod of the board, Dani is concerned about people using AE's to stir trouble in the form of a question that is too sensitve to post as a real ID. 

Remember when MrsE posted as majikglass and had everyone believing she was thrown through a coffee table?  Yeah.  You give good advice and worry about someone only to find out it's all fake and someone's having a good laugh at your expense. 

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Well because if you post as yourself, odds are we know enough about you to offer better advice.  Also if you post as an AE, you lose a little credibility because it would easy for people to be snarky or think it's made up or that you're a troll, especially when the board is as dead as it has been.  If you post as yourself, you will probably get more sympathy, more advice from people who might decide to actually participate in the thread rather than just pass by because they don't know who you are.  Those are a few reasons.  It's also annoying when it's the 3rd time in 2 days. Of course there are also reasons why you might not want to post as yourself, I get that.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]


Ok, I see what you are saying; but in the instances that this is occuring, for whatever reason, the OP do not want you to know its them.  Either they dont want you to judge them, or they dont want you to bring it up more than it needs to be, or whatever the reason is, they have a reason.  My guess is as regular posters they are aware they may lose some credibility, but if keeping themselves a secret is THAT important to them that they actually went and created an AE, why cant it just be what it is, and either you can choose to give advice or not?  I guess I dont see the annoying part of this.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Ok, I see what you are saying; but in the instances that this is occuring, for whatever reason, the OP do not want you to know its them.  Either they dont want you to judge them, or they dont want you to bring it up more than it needs to be, or whatever the reason is, they have a reason.  My guess is as regular posters they are aware they may lose some credibility, but if keeping themselves a secret is THAT important to them that they actually went and created an AE, why cant it just be what it is, and either you can choose to give advice or not?  I guess I dont see the annoying part of this.
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

Well that's fine, but if you read what Amoro and Moose are saying, the odds are that the AE won't get good advice.  People don't give as much to an AE as they do to someone they know and care about, because we've all been tricked in the past.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]Also, I think as a mod of the board, Dani is concerned about people using AE's to stir trouble in the form of a question that is too sensitve to post as a real ID.  Remember when MrsE posted as majikglass and had everyone believing she was thrown through a coffee table?  Yeah.  You give good advice and worry about someone only to find out it's all fake and someone's having a good laugh at your expense. 
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
YES.  I wanted to punch her in the babymaker. 

elmulvey

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_aes-posting-stuff?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8dcc1004-da1f-44f4-8a54-a5799f7f606fPost:86994e2b-c9d0-4200-9a26-ab0d91b8812d">Re: AEs posting stuff</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, I think as a mod of the board, Dani is concerned about people using AE's to stir trouble in the form of a question that is too sensitve to post as a real ID.  Remember when MrsE posted as majikglass and had everyone believing she was thrown through a coffee table?  Yeah.  Y<strong>ou give good advice and worry about someone only to find out it's all fake and someone's having a good laugh at your expense. </strong>
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]


And I understand that...but dont you think you are taking that chance every day by coming on to these boards and giving advice to anyone?  I understand you probably have some friends on here, that you know and trust, and what have you, but I mean how well do you REALLY know all the regs on this board that you are positive they arent making some stuff up for no good reason? 

georgia_bride09

Everyone knows we're all dirty old men sitting in basements wankin' and whatnot.

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Well that's fine, but if you read what Amoro and Moose are saying, the odds are that <strong>the AE won't get good advice.</strong>  People don't give as much to an AE as they do to someone they know and care about, because we've all been tricked in the past.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

I guess my point is just if these people are regular posters, as they claim they are, they should know that this may happen. 

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Ok, I see what you are saying; but in the instances that this is occuring, for whatever reason, the OP do not want you to know its them.  Either they dont want you to judge them, or they dont want you to bring it up more than it needs to be, or whatever the reason is, they have a reason.  My guess is as regular posters they are aware they may lose some credibility, but if keeping themselves a secret is THAT important to them that they actually went and created an AE, why cant it just be what it is, and either you can choose to give advice or not?  I guess I dont see the annoying part of this.
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

I think the danger is if this practice becomes habit it could be abused.  If I want to tell somebody they are fat or start shiit I could easily make up an AE and then I wouldn't be held accountable.  Stick around here for a bit and you'll see how you can actually form relationships with the lovely ladies here.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I think the danger is if this practice becomes habit it could be abused.  If I want to tell somebody they are fat or start shiit I could easily make up an AE and then I wouldn't be held accountable.  Stick around here for a bit and you'll see how you can actually form relationships with the lovely ladies here.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

But people already do this anyway. 

kikibaby

Oh for goodness sake, I said "IF 3 people a day are going to post about minor issues..."  THIS DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN YOU.  It's called a hypothetical situation.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : And I understand that...but dont you think you are taking that chance every day by coming on to these boards and giving advice to anyone?  I understand you probably have some friends on here, that you know and trust, and what have you, but I mean how well do you REALLY know all the regs on this board that you are positive they arent making some stuff up for no good reason? 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

Oh FFS Elm.  You aren't really understanding what's being said here.  At all.  Time creates trust, therefore creates understanding of person.  If I came on and said that my cousin had abused me, but my mom didn't know, there would be a GIANT response, because I know a looot of people here.  Are they sure that I'm not lying? No, but they do know that it's not my habit to make something like that up, and are more apt to believe me.

Everyone lies about their life sometimes, but it's not like you sit around wondering who lied to you about what all day long, is it?  Well, I don't sit here and think, "Dani's lying about living in Indiana."  But because I've "known" her for so long, and she's able to answer things about Indiana... I kinda assume she's telling the truth, because there's a basis of trust that has been built.  Jesus.  Do you really need things spelled out to you like this in every day life?

crfische

There's a big part of me that thinks that if they are regular posters, they'd be close enough to ONE of us to have a private conversation with someone off the boards. But I might be jumping to conclusions.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : And I understand that...but dont you think you are taking that chance every day by coming on to these boards and giving advice to anyone?  I understand you probably have some friends on here, that you know and trust, and what have you, but I mean how well do you REALLY know all the regs on this board that you are positive they arent making some stuff up for no good reason? 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

Because participating and building "relationships" here takes some element of trust and time spent.  I don't know everything about anyone here, but I also don't know everything about anyone in my real life.

I take the regs at face value.  It's a lot to come here, spend a couple years discussing weddings, life and goofy stuff just to post some lies about your personal life.

crfische

Moose. You're lying. I've seen you peer into the depths of my soul.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I guess my point is just if these people are regular posters, as they claim they are, they should know that this may happen. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]


Your point seems to be a moving target.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I guess my point is just if these people are regular posters, as they claim they are, they should know that this may happen. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]


So.  Why does this matter so much to YOU?

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I think the danger is if this practice becomes habit it could be abused.  If I want to tell somebody they are fat or start shiit I could easily make up an AE and then I wouldn't be held accountable.  Stick around here for a bit and you'll see how you can actually form relationships with the lovely ladies here.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]


I totally believe you; I really do.  But, I think that this being a public forum, and people being people, this is going to happen regardless. 
I just understand that what may be important to me may not be to you, and if its important enough to me to go create an AE and ask a serious question, I would want my "friends" on here to understand that and actually give me advice rather than a hard time, 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Oh FFS Elm.  You aren't really understanding what's being said here.  At all.  Time creates trust, therefore creates understanding of person.  If I came on and said that my cousin had abused me, but my mom didn't know, there would be a GIANT response, because I know a looot of people here.  Are they sure that I'm not lying? No, but they do know that it's not my habit to make something like that up, and are more apt to believe me. Everyone lies about their life sometimes, but it's not like you sit around wondering who lied to you about what all day long, is it?  Well, I don't sit here and think, "Dani's lying about living in Indiana."  But because I've "known" her for so long, and she's able to answer things about Indiana... I kinda assume she's telling the truth, because there's a basis of trust that has been built.  Jesus.  Do you really need things spelled out to you like this in every day life?
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]


Oh.  I was supposed to lie about stuff?