AEs posting stuff

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]Well, I'm sorry for any trouble this post may have stirred up. And Rach, I've talked about it... Talked about it with FI, my therapist, my best friend... I really needed some unbiased opinions and ideas. As stupid as it sounds, I hadn't even thought to just skip it and do a recording, since all of our other music is live. So, I got help, and I got it in a way that made me feel comfortable, which I appreciate. I hadn't realized that this would annoy people. I know y'all aren't just talking about me, but it's clear that my post was fuel for the fire.
Posted by regbutnot[/QUOTE]


Please don't feel that way, Reg.  I know you got some good advice and I hope it works out for you. I'm glad you posted, even if it did stir up a side discussion about all of this.

I think it's completely separate from your question and if you got what you needed then it was worth it, no?

AmoroAgain

Learned your lesson about creating annoying, indulgently argumentative posts?  One can only hope.  But I'm sure that you'll decide it's somehow OUR sheep mentality that causes us to not understand YOU.

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I am sorry you feel that way; and have learned my lesson. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]


What lesson?  That if you disagree, people here won't change their minds and that they'll back up what they say/think?

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I am sorry you feel that way; and have learned my lesson. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]

if the lesson you think you've learned is not to disagree with the regs, come on.  Other people here did disagree.  J&K disagreed with me, fine.  I disagreed with her, we came to resolution.  You just seem to be going round and round and round and it seems like you aren't even reading our responses, just coming up with new "okay but what about this?"  It's frustrating.

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : if the lesson you think you've learned is not to disagree with the regs, come on.  Other people here did disagree.  J&K disagreed with me, fine.  I disagreed with her, we came to resolution.  You just seem to be going round and round and round and it seems like you aren't even reading our responses, just coming up with new "okay but what about this?"  It's frustrating.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]


And here we go jumping to conclusions again.  I am sorry I wasnt more descriptive in my "I learned my lesson" statement.

What I was attempting to say is I understand what you are all saying, therefore was backing out of the thread so it did not seem like I was arguing just to argue, and I understand what you are saying that it reads like I was talking in circles.  Sheesh. 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : And here we go jumping to conclusions again.  I am sorry I wasnt more descriptive in my "I learned my lesson" statement. What I was attempting to say is I understand what you are all saying, therefore was backing out of the thread so it did not seem like I was arguing just to argue, and I understand what you are saying that it reads like I was talking in circles.  Sheesh. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]


That isn't how it came across at all.  "I learned my lesson" is rather passive agressive.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : That isn't how it came across at all.  "I learned my lesson" is rather passive agressive.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

Word. When you're new and arguing, explanation is best.

laladypoet

gaga oooh la la.
that's all I got.

wadingmoose

PS.  I'm not trying to attack you here.  I think we're getting off on the wrong foot and I'm not sure how to stop that.

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : That isn't how it came across at all.  "I learned my lesson" is rather passive agressive.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]


Point taken. 

elmulvey

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[QUOTE]PS.  I'm not trying to attack you here.  I think we're getting off on the wrong foot and I'm not sure how to stop that.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]


Attacked is how I feel and I am not sure how to fix it either.  But thanks for this. 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : Attacked is how I feel and I am not sure how to fix it either.  But thanks for this. 
Posted by elmulvey[/QUOTE]


Yeah.  I figured.  Sorry about that.  I'm gonna go over there now and stop arguing about things.

For now.

In this thread.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : I can respect you for that, but I can also respect other people for seeing what you went through and deciding they'd rather not.  Know what I mean?
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
See what I went through first hand, seeing what Jess and Whit went through all---no doubt, I totally get why someone would want to "remove" their identity. I just can't help but think that it removes a certain something from an AE's post when their identity is removed (and I get that that's the point)--the personal aspect of it is no longer there. <div>
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wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : See what I went through first hand, seeing what Jess and Whit went through all---no doubt, I totally get why someone would want to "remove" their identity. I just can't help but think that it removes a certain something from an AE's post when their identity is removed (and I get that that's the point)--the personal aspect of it is no longer there. 
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]


It does.  And my advice will typically reflect that and not be as extensive.  I'll also be less likely to follow up on it.  Or reallly care the next day.

So, you know, I care about ya.  That's why I harass you.  It's love.

mandysmear

My cat's breath smells like cat food.

kikibaby

EVERYBODY CALM DOWN!

You're welcome, fishypants.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : It does.  And my advice will typically reflect that and not be as extensive.  I'll also be less likely to follow up on it.  Or reallly care the next day. So, you know, I care about ya.  That's why I harass you. <strong> It's love.</strong>
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]
That explains the warm and tingly feeling I have right now....right? No? Oh god.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]My cat's breath smells like cat food.
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]
That sounds bad...you might wanna get kitty checked out.

wadingmoose

mandysmear

I'll make an AE and come in asking about my pet problems. 

wadingmoose

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[QUOTE]I'll make an AE and come in asking about my pet problems. 
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]


Nah, we already heard enough about your messed up family problems.  ;)

mandysmear

WHATEVER MOOSE.

wadingmoose

NOT THE PINK!

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: AEs posting stuff : MUD = made up drama.  And yeah kinda everybody has an AE but if you also have a bio and talk about your life people can get to know the "real" you.   And then people meet in real life ("IRL") sometimes and then become friends.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]
Ahh thanks!

mandysmear

Bahaha.  Knew that'd shut you up.

PINK.

wadingmoose

mandysmear