Black tie optional

jemmini6

This is just getting sad...

Habs2Hart

I like how they called us psychos on NJ.  Yup, that's us.  Because everyone outside of NJ doesn't know how to dress and they are all the crazy ones...

Meg1036

Meh, it was sort of a fun fieldtrip.

jemmini6

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:1ec83728-900d-4f41-bf61-db7aca08d02a">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]I like how they called us psychos on NJ.  Yup, that's us.  Because everyone outside of NJ doesn't know how to dress and they are all the crazy ones...
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

They really are giving Jersey a bad name, which is odd because all the people I know from New Jersey know how to treat people properly...

RamonaFlowers

I just wanted to step in and try to salvage the name of New Jersey. I live here, I was married here. I have been to many weddings here (And most of them, including my own, were formal affairs full open bar, 4-course sit down meal with dancing), and not once have I ever seen "black tie optional" on an invitation. I have seen "Black Tie" on an invitation once, because the venue the wedding was being held at had a strict dress code, and would not permit anybody that was under-dressed to enter.

Black tie "optional" is not real. Something is either a black tie event (In which case, putting "Black Tie" on the invitation is appropriate), or it isn't (In which case mentioning attire at all is not appropriate). If anybody asks what they should wear, just tell them that the guys will be in suits and the ladies will be in nice dresses. That's it. Anything more than that is rude, and most certainly implies that you think your guests are too ignorant to figure out how to dress themselves.

And if somebody does show up poorly dressed, they look bad. Not you. So not even remotely your problem. Get over it.

mkrupar

Man that cindy chick just doesn't get it. She keeps talking about "customs" and "traditions" of a NJ wedding. The topic is the etiquette of "black tie optional", not customs & traditions. Head meet desk.

Habs2Hart

Ramona - I knew rational and intelligent people lived in NJ.  You should tell them that.  They don't seem to agree with you! 

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:2bdbcfc5-63bd-4e9c-ba56-c8582c9e6129">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]Ramona - I knew rational and intelligent people lived in NJ.  You should tell them that.  They don't seem to agree with you! 
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

I'm scurred of the NJ board. I didn't hang out there when I was even planning my own wedding, lol.

I swear, there really are nice, polite and smart people from NJ. Between MTV and the NJ board I'm sure nobody here actually believes that anymore, but I swear it's true <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

specialk84

Mel is from NJ. I like Mel. I think I'll ask her if she does crazy stuff like this.

mkrupar

I know Ramona IRL. She's good people from NJ.

ggirl2001

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:9cdcf071-410a-4a25-800b-910f6e6d105b">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]Man that cindy chick just doesn't get it. She keeps talking about "customs" and "traditions" of a NJ wedding. The topic is the etiquette of "black tie optional", not customs & traditions. Head meet desk.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]



Our new jersey weddings totally different than the rest of the world?

Meg1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:f022dda4-046f-4cf7-9c87-dc7644536d3f">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional : Our new jersey weddings totally different than the rest of the world?
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

CLEARLY.

Habs2Hart

Apparently NJ is the center of the universe and EVERYONE ELSE IS WRONG.  ALWAYS. 

mkrupar

I am being such a bitch today. You'd think I'd want to punch kittens or something. I've got to move on. I think it's froyo time, yo.

Habs2Hart

Ya, I love how they are calling us rude when they were throwing out insults at our board for the first two pages before we showed up.  ummm... who put the huh in the what now?

RamonaFlowers

Oh, I have mad love for Mel. I know I don't post here often, but whenever I lurk and find Mel, she cracks me up while giving awesome advice. I would totally be down for having a g2g with her and forming the NJ Etiquette Brain Trust or something, lol

mkrupar

Oh man Mel. She is totally awesome IRL AND she's from Jersey.

RamonaFlowers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:f65806ff-4223-460f-9a4a-ed0e6884cc26">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]I know Ramona IRL. She's good people from NJ.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

MK, I love you more than I love bacon. For those of you playing at home, that's really saying something about my love <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

adamar15

Ha, they had their mod close the discussion.  That's pathetic.

Habs2Hart

They couldn't handle someone not validating their ideas on the NJ board, so it got shut down.  For realz?  Grow some ballz ladies. 

jemmini6

Ha ha ha, wow.  So mature...note to self, if you don't agree with New Jersey, they will shut it down.  Klassy.

mkgrover

I wish people would realize that when they come here and their ideas aren't validated by both regs and those of us with low post counts, it's not E being a big bunch of meanie-heads, but that the idea is probably not a good one in the first place.  

But I guess that would be me wishing people used common sense, and I think we all know how uncommon it truly is.

jcg98

Yes, I closed the thread.  Not because I was asked to, but because I am traveling today and I could tell tempers were flaring.  Just doing my job.  

KellyBrian2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:80f06597-8aaf-4dfe-aee8-83b679ca4dd6">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, I closed the thread.  Not because I was asked to, but because I am traveling today and I could tell tempers were flaring.  Just doing my job.  
Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]

So, will any of your NJ board members be getting a reminder of what is and is not appropriate in terms of calling members of other boards "bitches", "psychos", and the like? When you get back from your travels, of course...

Just curious. Because it seems the tempers flared on the NJ side well before they did anywhere else.

jcg98

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_black-tie-optional-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bccd5533-37bd-4ff9-842f-6beb78fc4666Post:09c441e5-505e-4088-8f46-6fbe5e381ba6">Re: Black tie optional</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Black tie optional : So, will any of your NJ board members be getting a reminder of what is and is not appropriate in terms of calling members of other boards "bitches", "psychos", and the like? When you get back from your travels, of course... Just curious. Because it seems the tempers flared on the NJ side well before they did anywhere else.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

<div>I was referring to tempers on all sides.  And I will of course send warnings as needed.  As I'm sure your mods will if needed.  </div>

sparent2010

I prefer the term muff cabbage personally

mica178

I like Ramona's advice.

OP -- I really don't need to repeat what's already been said.  The board has given you advice, and you have decided not to take it.  Let's all stop arguing now.

Mrs.B6302007

The Great and Powerful Oz, I mean mod, has spoken!

=-D