Male annoyances

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE] The only thing that drives me insane is that his version of "cleaning the kitchen" is putting everything in the sink, not even rinsing it.  I've gotten him to at least put things in the dishwasher, but then he doesn't wash the pots and pans used.  So I end up cleaning it anyways after him.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

This.  H does this all the time.  Or, he'll put his empty ice cream bowl with some water in it and say that "it needs to soak".  Um, no.  The only stuff that ever needs to soak are things that have cheese or something cooked onto them.  And even then, you at least have to add some friggin' soap!

emilyinchile

I really hate that when H gets frustrated with video games, he yells. I know he's not angry with me, but hearing angry swearing coming from the living room at high volume just bugs me. It's only a game, chill the eff out.

Luckily since Sony apparently is a total shambles, he hasn't been able to play Call of Duty online for weeks.

Habs2Hart

it bugs me when I ask Fl if he's talked to so and so about such and such and he will pull out his phone right then and there and call.  He's always on his bloody cell and it drives me batty.  I know he's a super crazy busy guy, but I don't like driving in the car with you when you're on the phone. the. whole. time.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]I really hate that when H gets frustrated with video games, he yells. I know he's not angry with me, but hearing angry swearing coming from the living room at high volume just bugs me. It's only a game, chill the eff out. Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Nice to know I'm not the only one with this problem :).

lyndausvi

My DH never cleans the kitchen.. I blame his mom and work.  His mom always did the cleaning  and  he has a staff at work to do them.  I just do not think it's in his radar.

ahhhitsshannyn

I prefer to clean myself. H has a special way to do it. When he does clean I love it, but I have to be out of the house or else it just drives me mad to watch him clean. It will easily take him the entire day to clean the kitchen, since he stops a hundred times to watch TV or play games. Then he will make lunch and dirty it again

But I have a weird thing that if I am on a cleaning rampage, I need to be alone. Even if he is in his office I ask him to go somewhere. I do not know why, it is so weird.

annakb8

I also just can't watch FI cook. At all. Everything about the way he does it drives me insane. This is all totally irrational but I can't help it.

Tonight is "Robbie's specialty night" for dinner and I swear I'm going to have to leave the apartment.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Emily  - why do you not like naps?  I think they are under-rated.    I love naps.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

<div>Obvs I'm not Emily, but my problem with them is that he "needs" them everyday, but he only needs them because he is losing sleep at night because of them.  I love a good nap once in a while, but when you need to take one everyday there is something wrong with your sleep schedule.</div>

Stackeye210

Mr Stacks friend calls him at like 10 on weeknights.  Like dude, every single time you call he says he's in bed about to go to sleep, but yet you talk his ear off for like 10 minutes.  Just b/c your girlfriend works at a bar every night doesn't mean Mr Stack is your entertainment. 

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Emily  - why do you not like naps?  I think they are under-rated.    I love naps.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Personally, I don't like them because they make me groggy no matter how long I sleep, so for me they're just not a good option.

In general - and I realize this is insane because why do I care how someone else sleeps - I just feel like grown adults should be able to make it through an entire day without sleeping. Obviously there are special circumstances, but I feel like frequent napping is either laziness or a lack of being able to properly put yourself to bed for a decent amount of sleep.

sarah0725

Ooh, and we always joke around that whenever I talk, all he hears is Charlie Brown's teacher's voice. Sometimes I'll ask him about something 7 or 8 times, and he just will not answer at all because he's playing on the internet or something, so I'll give up and go away in a huff, and a little while later he'll come to talk to me and be all cute and hopping around and unable to understand why I'm in a temper.

annakb8

Shan, I like to clean alone too. I hate if someone else is around not cleaning, and if they are also cleaning they are probably just getting in my way.

sarabellam

We just bought a Soda Stream a couple of months ago, to indulge in my obsession for fizzy water and his insatiable thirst for soda. He will drink it, rinse out the bottle, and leave the empty bottle sitting by the sink. Um, honey, there is no soda fairie who comes and refills the bottles while we sleep. You empty it, YOU REFILL IT!

baystateapple

Same, Lynda.  My MIL did everything -- cooking, cleaning, laundry.  When H lived at home all he had to do was take out the trash and clean the litterbox.

I gave up on having him do the laundry because it takes him literally a week to do it.  I'm not exaggerating.  The clothes will stay in the washing machine for two days until he needs a shirt, and then he realizes they smell funky and he runs the wash again.  Then he throws them in the dryer, but he stuffs like two loads in at once so it takes like 3 cycles to dry them.  Then he takes clothes out as he needs them, and they sit in the dryer until I'm ready to do my own laundry.

So screw it.  I just do all the laundry now. 

Beachy730

Man, where is scottswife today?  Isn't this like her dream thread?

ahhhitsshannyn

Haha em, every night for 8 weeks H has come home and the first thing I hear is "DAMMIT STILL NO PLAYSTATION STORE!!!!!"

adamar15

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[QUOTE]Man, where is scottswife today?  Isn't this like her dream thread?
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

:: snort ::

mica178

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[QUOTE]Ooh, and we always joke around that <strong>whenever I talk, all he hears is Charlie Brown's teacher's voice</strong>. Sometimes I'll ask him about something 7 or 8 times, and he just will not answer at all because he's playing on the internet or something, so I'll give up and go away in a huff, and a little while later he'll come to talk to me and be all cute and hopping around and unable to understand why I'm in a temper.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

I feel that way too.  I've actually tried to imitate a trumpet a couple times when I realized that I was essentially talking to a brick wall.  H doesn't notice enough to recognize that I stopped gabbing and started saying "Woh wah woah wah wah." 

Stackeye210

She'd probably come in and talk about how perfect her husband is and how he never annoys her.  It'd be so backwards.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Man, where is scottswife today?  Isn't this like her dream thread?
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Hahaha.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]We just bought a Soda Stream a couple of months ago, to indulge in my obsession for fizzy water and his insatiable thirst for soda. He will drink it, rinse out the bottle, and leave the empty bottle sitting by the sink. Um, honey, there is no soda fairie who comes and refills the bottles while we sleep. You empty it, YOU REFILL IT!
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

OMG, we got one of these for the wedding (wasn't on our registry, but it's not half bad).  H told me today "I think we just need to buy canned soda again to bring with our lunches."  Why?  Because he won't refill his <a href="mailto:d@mn">d@mn</a> bottle himself.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]Same, Lynda.  My MIL did everything -- cooking, cleaning, laundry.  When H lived at home all he had to do was take out the trash and clean the litterbox. I gave up on having him do the laundry because it takes him literally a week to do it.  I'm not exaggerating.  The clothes will stay in the washing machine for two days until he needs a shirt, and then he realizes they smell funky and he runs the wash again.  Then he throws them in the dryer, but he stuffs like two loads in at once so it takes like 3 cycles to dry them.  Then he takes clothes out as he needs them, and they sit in the dryer until I'm ready to do my own laundry. So screw it.  I just do all the laundry now. 
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>DH's definition of 'doing laundry' is stuff everything regardless of color or material in the washer and turn it on.  That's it.  Just one load in the washer.  It never makes it to the dryer, let alone folded or put away.  If there is more clothes than one load they just sit there. </div><div>
</div><div>It drives me nuts.  

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Stackeye210

I'm waiting for the newb to come up in here and talk about how ungrateful we are. 

emilyinchile

Shan, H said the other day "I wonder if Sony will compensate us for this. They should give us all a free game download or something." I at first thought he meant the fact that hackers have his personal info since yeah, that's a screw up on Sony's part. No, he meant the online stuff being down. Honey, since you don't pay anything for it, they probably won't compensate you.

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[QUOTE]I also just can't watch FI cook. At all. Everything about the way he does it drives me insane. This is all totally irrational but I can't help it. Tonight is "Robbie's specialty night" for dinner and I swear I'm going to have to leave the apartment.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

I'm this way with the way he puts away dishes. I don't say anything because hell, I don't want to put them away myself. But I'm thinking, "why are you putting that there? When have we EVER put that there? Why is the glass upside down? Why is the fork backwards?" Yes, I'm a total nag in my head.

Stacks, one of H's friends isn't allowed to sleep over at his girlfriend's house (some weird custody thing with her ex) so he always calls as he's leaving her place and wants to hang out. No. H will even say something like, no man, I'm going to watch a movie with Sesh and spend time with her, and friend will say, 'I'll just start a fire and drink a few beers, then head out.' Dude. Go to your own hosue and drink beer.

Habs2Hart

okay, what is a soda stream?

ahhhitsshannyn

Yes laundry- I was getting ready last night and 3 minutes before we had to leave H asked me to start a load since he needed clothes for the morning. I told him I do not have time so he can start one. He does not know how to work it. So I run over, put the soap in, put the cycle on, and tell him he just has to load it and push play. When we are leaving I notice he only has like 5 items in there and changed the setting. I had to stop, turn it back to warm, and fill it up with clothes. It is such a waste to run it with such a small load especially when there is a mountain of laundry sitting right there.

Haha DNB- scottswife

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Also, I love naps. I'd take them every day if I could, but then I wouldn't sleep at night. We have the best nap couch.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Oh gosh bay, my H is the same way. The other day we were making tacos, so I was just going to warm the tortillas and use the same pan to fry them. H takes out another pan and pours a shit-ton of oil in it. I said "oh okay I was just going to use this one to do that" and then he continues to pour oil into the other one. So now I have two oily ass pots when I should have just had 1. It also takes him about 2 hours to do dishes. I swear he is like a 6 year old doing dishes. He stares vacantly at the TV and sponges the same dish for like 30 minutes. Sometimes I go and turn the TV off to get him to snap out of it. He has such a short attention span for cleaning, but for video games, he could play all day. I do not get it.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Dishes is one of the jobs Oliver does pretty exclusively (I cook pretty exclusively and I THINK I'm good about not creating unecessary messes). He also take FOREVER. And you can't even see the TV from the kitchen. He's started doing dishes more often (read - once or twice a day) so he can stay on top of it, thankfully. But, like, he'll want to do them in the morning when I'm trying to get my lunch and coffee together or he'll ask if I need him to clean the pots right when I'm going to make dinner. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /> I think he's better at doing them right after dinner now, though. It's a very recent development.

doctabroccoli

Habs -
http://www.sodastreamusa.com/