Male annoyances

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Ditto Emily on the yelling at COD.  I've been to yell back "it's just a game!"  The yelling, cursing, and calling everyone on his team morons and idiots just grates. Right now my issue is that H is slacking on his household duties.  We both work, though I work a good 10-15 hours more than him each week.  I come home, make dinner, do the dishes, do laundry, and generally clean things up.  He comes home and does nothing.  It takes 3 days for him to unload the dishwasher.  I've been asking since Monday for him to sweep the dog hair up and it hasn't happened yet. <strong> he was off yesterday; want to know what he did?  Mowed the lawn.  Yup, from the time I left the house at 7:30 am until I got home at 5, and then while I was out from 7-9, he did exactly one household chore. </strong> He didn't do anymore after I got home at 9, either. That and his disgustingly dirty feet with the crazy long toenails and the man is lucky I'm still letting him sleep in my bed.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

I was studying hardcore one weekend - at the library all day Saturday, planning on it on Sunday - and he told me he would stay home on Saturday and clean the house. Then he was going to go kayaking on Sunday. So while I was gone on Saturday what did he do? Clean the bathroom? Clean out the fridge? Wash the towels? Sweep the floors? Oh no. He washed a few plates, did 1 regular load of laundry (just washed, didn't fold) and put away the case of beer he bought (without wiping out the fridge). Um, I could have done that WHILE I was cooking dinner. What did you do with the other 7.5 hours you were home?

The thing was, I offered to meet him at a bar we love on my way home from the library for happy hour and we got home late. The next day I FLIPPED and told him I never would have gone out had I known the house was still a disaster. He canceled his kayaking plans and stayed home and actually cleaned the house.

He'll be home tomorrow and I'm considering asking him to do things, since we'll be gone all weekend, but I think I'll just do them myself tonight.

sarabellam

And I have to say that I'm glad my husband doesn't leave wet towels anywhere and is pretty good about doing laundry without too much prompting from me. He takes very little initiative about cleaning up, but will do it when prompted. I guess I'll keep him.

ahhhitsshannyn

We buy an insane amount of soda. Well honestly, its mostly me, but still. When we were looking into the soda stream and the penguin thing we were worried about the cost of the CO2 cans. Do they last a long time? Is it worth the investment? Sorry so many questions I just never heard of anyone having it I just saw it on TV.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Yeah, at least H hangs up his wet towel... better than me, even. I usually leave it over the closet door after I'm done getting dressed. Sometimes I forget it and have to yell at him to bring it to me.

And we don't have a dishwasher. :-( But I think having one would improve Oliver's life 110%.

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]We buy an insane amount of soda. Well honestly, its mostly me, but still. When we were looking into the soda stream and the penguin thing we were worried about the cost of the CO2 cans. Do they last a long time? Is it worth the investment? Sorry so many questions I just never heard of anyone having it I just saw it on TV. :)
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

We have the Pure.  It takes the cans that carbonate 60L of soda.  It's $25 for a brand new canister and $15 to swap an empty for a full.

adamar15

Mery, I'm with you on the no dishwasher front.  I can't decide if I actually want one or not.  Somehow washing dishes is therapeutic for me.  H definitely hates doing them, though, and he's had to pick up the slack since I started school. 

Beachy730

Yeah I really can't complain much about H's cleaning habits.  He actually is pretty good about cleaning everything, except the kitchen.  And he is much better about doing laundry than I am.  However we both are slacking in the folding and putting away laundry area.  We will usually go a month, have loads and loads of clean laundry piled up in the laundry room, and finally take an hour or 2 to fold and put it all away.  In them meantime we just rummage through the pile to get out what we need.

sarabellam

If you buy an insane amount of soda, then it will most likely save you  big money. We bought ours in late February and just had to buy a new canister (for $15) last week. So yeah, I really love mine.

missy68

Yikes. I think I'm everyone's husband.......

John is bad when he calls from work and I ask him how his day is going to tell me. Actually tell me. In detail. And at that point, HE sounds like Charlie Brown's teacher. About 5 minutes later, he'll say, "you've stopped listening, haven't you?" So I'll tell him I just don't understand leaf springs and body carriage cracks and blah blah blah. So he's getting better about "good/bad day, busy, 4 PMs, 3 broken trucks fixed, etc., 2 sent over to Chad for body work, etc." THAT I understand.

Neither of us are good at general housecleaning. Well, we just don't like it. He does 95% of the laundry, I do 90% of the dishes, and he - now- mows in the spring. I'll share mowing in the summer.

ahhhitsshannyn

Wow 60L of soda for $25 + the flavors.. that sounds like a great deal. Maybe we can look into this again Thanks so much for the information!!

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : Personally, I don't like them because they make me groggy no matter how long I sleep, so for me they're just not a good option. In general - and I realize this is insane because why do I care how someone else sleeps - I just feel like grown adults should be able to make it through an entire day without sleeping. Obviously there are special circumstances, but I feel like frequent napping is either laziness or a lack of being able to properly put yourself to bed for a decent amount of sleep.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]
I'm late, but it could also be caused by a vitamin deficiency. DNB you should have your hubby get tested :)

doctabroccoli

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[QUOTE]Wow 60L of soda for $25 + the flavors.. that sounds like a great deal. Maybe we can look into this again :) Thanks so much for the information!!
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

Yeah, the flavors are only about $4.99-$6.99 each for 50 8-oz. servings.  We're still deciding, though, if we're gonna use it for all of our soda or just for everything that's not Coke or Diet coke.  I must say it is nice to be able to offer guests any flavor of soda they want without having a giant stockpile or 12-packs or 2-liters.

ahhhitsshannyn

DNB we are the same way with folding & putting away. Were terrible and at least 80% of it goes from on top of the washer, to our bodies, then to the basket. A lot of them have not seen hangers in ages. Ooops.

But I will say, all in all H is great, I like to call him quirky I am definitely the tool in our relationship

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : Yeah, the flavors are only about $4.99-$6.99 each for 50 8-oz. servings.  We're still deciding, though, if we're gonna use it for all of our soda or just for everything that's not Coke or Diet coke. <strong> I must say it is nice to be able to offer guests any flavor of soda they want without having a giant stockpile or 12-packs or 2-liters.
</strong>Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, I did not even think of that! I always feel bad for my friends since all I ever have is diet and they all hate it.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : I'm late, but it could also be caused by a vitamin deficiency. DNB you should have your hubby get tested :)
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>The thing is, he is completely fine if he doesn't take a nap.  He just think thinks he needs one.  But if we haave stuff to do or running around to do, he is completely fine. </div>

DramaGeek

I'm the one who needs to nap in our house.  The thing is, I can't get to sleep until midnight or 1 am whether I have a nap or not.  I figure a nap from 5-7 or so and then going to sleep around midnight is better than no nap and going to sleep around midnight.

sarabellam

I wish I had time for naps. How do you people find the time to nap?

booboo1978

Jumping in late....
To be honest, FI has gotten TONS better over the years we've been together.  My major annoyances now are 1.) how can you fall asleep immediately after dinner and not clear the dishes off the table AFTER YOU'VE HAD A DAY OFF???? I understand if we've both worked, we're both tired, but he's off 4 days a week if no overtime or details.  I fail to understand how he can be that tired that he must sleep right after a meal.  2.) Why, when guys wash their hands, must the bathroom look like a monsoon blew thru? EVERYTHING is wet!!! I don't get it.  3.) When he cleans (and he does clean now!) he does a fabulous job.  The place sparkles.  Until you look in trash cans. Overflowing trash.....I don't get it.  I just throw the trash out myself. I can't gripe at that to him if he just spent hours making the place look fantastic.  I just don't understand how he can know to move the sofa to vaccum behind it but not take out trash. 

DNAtime

I am also late but I have many things really.

Like PPs, I feel that FI NEVER remembers anything I say.  I told him that I think he is not listening to me.  He says he listens he just forgets.

Slightly related: My FI is partly deaf in one hear, so when I talk to him from another room or not right next to him. Half the time he can't hear me.  So we have talked about how it helps if he responds so that I know he heard me.  But he never does, and then when I repeat myself or speak louder, he will say "I heard you already!"  But how the hell am I supposed to know whether he can hear me or not.

Also he refuses to upgrade from the manual push mower but won't mow the lawn regularly and it takes 3 hours from him to mow the stupid lawn, the whole afternoon down the drain.

Natrasha

My FI is really crappy at doing dishes. He doesn't use hot enough water, so when I go to put away dishes, it feels like half of them are greasy and the other half still have junk crusted on them. I try to chill out and remind myself for every one dish I have to rewash, there were 5 that I didn't have to wash in the first place. But it still drives me crazy!

We both dislike cleaning, but the difference is I love a clean house, and that's motivation enough. It's not that FI likes a dirty house, but he has ZERO motivation to clean or do any type of chores. There aren't many things that are "his job", so it extra annoys me when he complains about a rip in the garbage bag- when he should have taken out the garbage 3 days ago.

He does do laundry though (washing and drying, not folding), so I don't have to go in our creepy basement. He gets bonus points for that