Male annoyances

JanoBean75

Our kitchen rule is who ever cooks doesn't have to clean. But I usually clean as I go because our kitchen has only about 2 feet of usable counter space. So I'll use a bowl for one thing, clean it, use it again for another, etc. So H has barely anything to clean. But when he cooks, he uses three bowls for every one I use and doesn't clean as he goes.

He'll also leave empty cans and bottles on the counter instead of putting them in the recycling.

With most things I try to clean as I go because I hate cleaning. But in other areas, I am the one that makes clutter. I'll clear off a table in the living room only to fill up my craft room table with the same stuff. Drives H crazy, so I guess we're even.

annakb8

I'm this way with the way he puts away dishes. I don't say anything because hell, I don't want to put them away myself. But I'm thinking, "why are you putting that there? When have we EVER put that there? Why is the glass upside down? Why is the fork backwards?" Yes, I'm a total nag in my head.

TK won't let me quote but yes, this too. FI is great about dealing with the dishes after I cook most nights, but the boy can't load a dishwasher to save his life. And he can't remember where anything goes. Mind you, our kitchen is probably smaller than most people's closets. There isn't that much stuff to remember.

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:a3f75237-d3c1-4e51-9ef9-f2c550fa66cc">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : I feel that way too.  I've actually tried to imitate a trumpet a couple times when I realized that I was essentially talking to a brick wall.  H doesn't notice enough to recognize that I stopped gabbing and started saying "Woh wah woah wah wah." 
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Usually Charlie does notice when I start to say weird stuff, so I'll give him that. Usually I'll say something like, ".... and then I think I'll run out in the street wearing nothing but my underpants on my head." And then he pays attention. I've also tried to get him to agree to let me keep a goat in the bathtub on many occasions when I thought he wasn't paying attention, but that hasn't worked yet.

mica178

H doesn't do the dishes.  He won't even load them into the dishwasher.  Or even just rinse them when he leaves them in the sink.  Oh, and dirty laundry is left anywhere but the hamper.  And don't get me started with the wet towels.  Those are left on the bed or draped over my laptop, or anywhere but the rack.

I married a 37 year old who seems to be treating our home like an 18 year old just starting college.  He's excited about not having to do chores and being able to leave the place a constant disaster zone. 

It's a good think I love him so much.  On paper he looks like a disaster.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:b6daf190-1858-48a6-939b-0d70ce173a72">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : Personally, I don't like them because they make me groggy no matter how long I sleep, so for me they're just not a good option. In general - and I realize this is insane because why do I care how someone else sleeps - I just feel like grown adults should be able to make it through an entire day without sleeping. Obviously there are special circumstances, but I feel like frequent napping is either laziness or a lack of being able to properly put yourself to bed for a decent amount of sleep.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

I agree with this totally. They make me groggy. I have to take out my contacts. It's too much work. There's 23532523 other things I could be doing during that time which are actually productive. I fuucking hate naps!

baystateapple

Yeah I feel like a total nag.  But I know if H were to talk about things that annoy him about me, the list would be long and distinguished.

Habs2Hart

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:fd277bbb-2ac5-4a9c-aeec-60d3e8d3a779">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]Habs - <a href="http://www.sodastreamusa.com/" rel='nofollow'>http://www.sodastreamusa.com/</a>
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

Interesting... this concept is completely new to me. 

Beachy730

I definitely feel like Charlie Brown's teacher sometimes too.  Usually once I realize that he is isn't paying attention I'll say something like "okay I'm running to Coach, I'll just put my new purse on the debit card."  That usually gets him to pay attention.  

doctabroccoli

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:7f67f906-e676-449d-8aba-4e1ebce8cbda">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Male annoyances : Interesting... this concept is completely new to me. 
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

I knew nothing about it until we received it as a wedding gift from some friends who own one and live in Manhattan (and presumably have to walk to and from the grocery store).

ahhhitsshannyn

Em- my H seems to think they will be getting 2 free full games when the PS network is back up. I am not sure where he heard this from but he is sure of it. You might not want to tell your H, he will probably just get more impatient

sarabellam

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:006d154d-6830-405a-ace0-6f99dae14acc">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]okay, what is a soda stream?
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

It's basically a CO2 canister that you use to carbonate water. They also sell different flavored syrups like cola, lemon-lime, orange, ginger ale, etc. <a href="http://www.sodastreamusa.com/">http://www.sodastreamusa.com/</a> Love mine, but they don't refill themselves.

emilyinchile

Omg Mery yes, the contacts. Except that my contact solution is the kind that fizzes due to a chemical reaction (the little bubbles clean the lenses extra well), so I have to leave my contacts in their case for at least 6 hours so the reaction can finish unless I want to put straight hydrogen peroxide in my eye. So I just leave my contacts in, and then my eyes and head hurt, and it's all just horrible. Naps are so awful.

sarah0725

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:4a21215a-1b4f-455a-8d83-bb82c33b8ac3">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]H doesn't do the dishes.  He won't even load them into the dishwasher.  Or even just rinse them when he leaves them in the sink.  Oh, and dirty laundry is left anywhere but the hamper.  And don't get me started with the wet towels.  Those are left on the bed or draped over my laptop, or anywhere but the rack. I married a 37 year old who seems to be treating our home like an 18 year old just starting college.  He's excited about not having to do chores and being able to leave the place a constant disaster zone.  It's a good think I love him so much.  On paper he looks like a disaster.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

Ohhhhh wet towels. His towels never make it back into the bathroom, and often end up on upholstered things, which then get wet and it drives me nuts. And then he'll come out of the shower and realize he has no towels and stand there and whimper until I find him one.

Seriously, he's a puppy, in a lot of ways.

emilyinchile

Shan, if that's true, H will be SO EXCITED. Definitely not telling him though. Wouldn't want to crush his little hopes if it doesn't work out.

annakb8

Does Soda Stream soda taste the same? Does anyone use it to make Diet Coke?

JanoBean75

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:fd277bbb-2ac5-4a9c-aeec-60d3e8d3a779">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]Habs - <a href="http://www.sodastreamusa.com/" rel='nofollow'>http://www.sodastreamusa.com/</a>
Posted by doctabroccoli[/QUOTE]

We got the Penguin as a wedding gift. H loves seltzer water, so this helps his insatiable thirst for it. But he won't use it. He says it tastes better when I do it and he doesn't want to break it.

Meg1036

Oh!  My FI is also super-annoyed at the Playstation network.

Me?  I've been kind of relieved its down.  He claims Playstation (specifically Call of Duty) helps him relax, but when he's yelling/cursing and the screen, it doesn't seem that relaxing to me.

Beachy730

Em- I used to use that stuff but even if I let it sit for 8 hours it still burned my eyes.  It's weird to me that for years, like 8 years probably, I NEVER took out my contacts.  I wore daily ones, but I would just always sleep in them, and only take them out if I got something on it, or when they needed to be changed.  I had no problems with them at all.  A few years ago I forced myself into getting into the habit of taking them out every night again, and now if I even sleep for like half an hour they are killing me, I can't see, and I instantly need to take them out.

DramaGeek

Ditto Emily on the yelling at COD.  I've been to yell back "it's just a game!"  The yelling, cursing, and calling everyone on his team morons and idiots just grates.

Right now my issue is that H is slacking on his household duties.  We both work, though I work a good 10-15 hours more than him each week.  I come home, make dinner, do the dishes, do laundry, and generally clean things up.  He comes home and does nothing.  It takes 3 days for him to unload the dishwasher.  I've been asking since Monday for him to sweep the dog hair up and it hasn't happened yet.  he was off yesterday; want to know what he did?  Mowed the lawn.  Yup, from the time I left the house at 7:30 am until I got home at 5, and then while I was out from 7-9, he did exactly one household chore.  He didn't do anymore after I got home at 9, either.

That and his disgustingly dirty feet with the crazy long toenails and the man is lucky I'm still letting him sleep in my bed.

ahhhitsshannyn

Docta and Sarab, I have a great love for soda and H and I have been eyeing this for a while. But, I am pretty picky about the way my diet soda tastes... do you guys like how the diet tastes? Is it comparable to any brand? Diet coke? Pepsi? Shasta? I am so interested.

ahhhitsshannyn

Man anna is too quick for me We need our diet coke.

Meg1036

I think it would be hilarious if all our FI/Hs played COD together.

I mean, maybe they do and we just don't know it.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I already have dry eyes, so if I leave my contacts in while I sleep, it makes me pretty miserable and I have to put my glasses on when I wake up anyway. I used to put my contacts in before I got in the shower because I'm really blind, but then I'd rub the water out of my eyes and that would dry them out too. I promise my optometrist I'm getting better! I'm SUPPOSED to take them out when I get home from work, really, but I normally wait until they start to bother me and/or when I get home from being out of the house - like if we go out to dinner or out with friends. I only wear my glasses when I'm reading in bed, before I go to sleep, really.

sarabellam

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:bf0c914b-b443-4034-8b26-8f047afb18da">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]FI is great about dealing with the dishes after I cook most nights, <strong>but the boy can't load a dishwasher to save his life.</strong> And he can't remember where anything goes. Mind you, our kitchen is probably smaller than most people's closets. There isn't that much stuff to remember.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Yes! OMG, this! My husband is the 2nd worst person I've ever seen load a dishwasher. The worst is is his stepmom, so I know where he gets it. It doesn't help matters that he has someone else cleaning up behind him in the kitchen at work. And why he cannot figure out where things go is beyond me. He's lived in this house for over 3 years (only about 6 months less than I have), he jolly well should remember where theshit goes.

baystateapple

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:1c67d952-dc67-4ef8-882d-98e7393bff0d">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely feel like Charlie Brown's teacher sometimes too.  Usually once I realize that he is isn't paying attention I'll say something like "okay I'm running to Coach, I'll just put my new purse on the debit card."  That usually gets him to pay attention.  
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

Haha, DNB!

I would do this but H would just be like "What's Coach?"  He never notices anything that I wear or carry. 

doctabroccoli

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:394b373a-6c87-4286-b203-a46dd3b3bb9b">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]Docta and Sarab, I have a great love for soda and H and I have been eyeing this for a while. But, I am pretty picky about the way my diet soda tastes... do you guys like how the diet tastes? Is it comparable to any brand? Diet coke? Pepsi? Shasta? I am so interested. :)
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

(And pretend I quoted Anna too)

It's......... okay.  You can definitely tell it's not Diet Coke or Diet Pepsi.  There are things you can do to tweak the taste (add more or less syrup or carbonation), but I'm still struggling with the fact that the taste is a little off.  Not bad, just...... erm..... generic I guess.  The Sprite mix is pretty good, though.  I'd say that one is the most spot on I've tasted yet.  The cream soda is disgusting.  They also have Diet Dr. Pete (Diet Dr. Pepper) that tastes okay....  again, slightly off.

Meg1036

I used to wear contacts a lot, with no problems. Took them out at night, but that was it.

Somehow (doctor said over-wearing + eye infection), my left eye became contact-lens intolerant.  I hated having to wear glasses all the time, so I got LASIK about 3 months later.  Best money I ever spent.  Seriously.

And I love naps.  And not dealing with contacts does make naps soooo much better.

sarabellam

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_male-annoyances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c82c3f7b-02f0-48bb-862f-02616814f295Post:4dee8dd7-e6f5-48e8-8331-e8bca0c2cc16">Re: Male annoyances</a>:
[QUOTE]Does Soda Stream soda taste the same? Does anyone use it to make Diet Coke?
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

They sell a diet cola syrup, but I haven't tried it. The cola doesn't taste like Coke, so I think it's a pretty safe bet that the Diet Coke isn't a match either.

mica178

come back and tell us how the Diet Coke on the Soda Stream tastes!  I'd love to reduce how much stuff I buy at the store.

ahhhitsshannyn

heh heh Diet Dr. Pete. I do not know why but this just made me laugh.