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specialk84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well, excuse me. Seeing as she's the least sensitive person in history, I assumed that included her skin!  :P
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]



Ooh. Good one! I did a chuckle-snort.

mica178

They set up over 50 adoptions on Wednesday (it was this huge adoption event), so there's a backlog for the spay/neuter service.  They prioritized the animals that were overcrowded, and kittens were deprioritized.  

Special -- keep the area clean, and you can take some Tylenol if it gets a little reddish.

Oh, also, they make liquid bandages.  You could try those instead of the traditional bandages.

pokepoke27

Aww, that's a shame. It's good so many got adopted though. I can't wait to see pictures of them.

My friend just texted me. Apparently she wants to get her tubes tied and is looking into it. Dude, you're 21 years old. I respect that you don't want kids right now, but you don't think that over the course of your life that you might change your mind? I guess I just feel like that's a really big thing to do at a such a young age. 

specialk84

I wish I had gotten my tubes tied at 21. It'll get done when I'm 32 instead. Thanks, Mica!

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Aww, that's a shame. It's good so many got adopted though. I can't wait to see pictures of them. My friend just texted me. Apparently she wants to get her tubes tied and is looking into it. Dude, you're 21 years old. I respect that you don't want kids right now, but you don't think that over the course of your life that you might change your mind? I guess I just feel like that's a really big thing to do at a such a young age. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

If you say that to her, I will fully support her if she kicks you in the kneecap.  FYI.

So...I'm pretty sure that my cat does things just to make me angry.  I came home to chewed open, partially empty packets of wet food all over the floor (14 on the floor, 6 in various stages of being eaten, 1 of which had been dragged into the carpeted living room and distributed over the carpet as it was consumed).  She had to have jumped up on the counter, opened the cabinet, climbed into the cabinet, pushed them out, dragged them around, and chewed them open.  Her plate of wet food that I gave her this morning?  Which, coincidentally enough, is the same flavor of the bag she brought into the living room to dine on on the comfort of the carpet?  BARELY EVEN TOUCHED. 

So I open the cabinet to put the un-ruined bags of food back, and there she is, curled up on the top shelf where the bag full of food packets have been.  She lifts her head up, blinks sleepily at me, meows, and then puts her head back down and flicks her tail over her face.  I just stood there and stared at her.

pokepoke27

Edie - I have no idea.

Special - I get not wanting to have kids. I really do. But I just feel like there is so much time for her to change her mind down the road, and I would hate to think that she will regret her decision down the line. I just feel like there are so many other less permanent options she could use in the meantime, you know? 

pokepoke27

J - I would never tell someone what to do with their reproductive system. But I can still think it, and say it here : p

And I know that you're annoyed at your kitty, but that made me laugh. 

rsanna

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : If you say that to her, I will fully support her if she kicks you in the kneecap.  FYI. So...I'm pretty sure that my cat does things just to make me angry.  I came home to chewed open, partially empty packets of wet food all over the floor (14 on the floor, 6 in various stages of being eaten, 1 of which had been dragged into the carpeted living room and distributed over the carpet as it was consumed).  She had to have jumped up on the counter, opened the cabinet, climbed into the cabinet, pushed them out, dragged them around, and chewed them open.  Her plate of wet food that I gave her this morning?  Which, coincidentally enough, is the same flavor of the bag she brought into the living room to dine on on the comfort of the carpet?  BARELY EVEN TOUCHED.  So I open the cabinet to put the un-ruined bags of food back, and there she is, curled up on the top shelf where the bag full of food packets have been.  She lifts her head up, blinks sleepily at me, meows, and then puts her head back down and flicks her tail over her face.  I just stood there and stared at her.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

That is the most adorable and irritating thing in the world.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Edie - I have no idea. Special - I get not wanting to have kids. I really do. But I just feel like there is so much time for her to change her mind down the road, and I would hate to think that she will regret her decision down the line. <strong>I just feel like there are so many other less permanent options she could use in the meantime, you know? </strong>
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Like what?  Hormonal birth control?  Fairly high screw up rate, and a lot of people don't get along with hormones.  Condoms?  They can break.  People can be allergic to latex, and the alternatives are not as effective.  IUD?  I'm having a hard enough time getting a doctor to give me one and I'm 26.  And they don't work for everyone either.  Perhaps she's exhausted her options.

Lizzieyounce

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : If you say that to her, I will fully support her if she kicks you in the kneecap.  FYI. So...I'm pretty sure that my cat does things just to make me angry.  I came home to chewed open, partially empty packets of wet food all over the floor (14 on the floor, 6 in various stages of being eaten, 1 of which had been dragged into the carpeted living room and distributed over the carpet as it was consumed).  She had to have jumped up on the counter, opened the cabinet, climbed into the cabinet, pushed them out, dragged them around, and chewed them open.  Her plate of wet food that I gave her this morning?  Which, coincidentally enough, is the same flavor of the bag she brought into the living room to dine on on the comfort of the carpet?  BARELY EVEN TOUCHED.  So I open the cabinet to put the un-ruined bags of food back, and there she is, curled up on the top shelf where the bag full of food packets have been.  She lifts her head up, blinks sleepily at me, meows, and then puts her head back down and flicks her tail over her face.  I just stood there and stared at her.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know that you're annoyed at the kitty, but this is a cute story.  Cats are awesome.

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pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Like what?  Hormonal birth control?  Fairly high screw up rate, and a lot of people don't get along with hormones.  Condoms?  They can break.  People can be allergic to latex, and the alternatives are not as effective.  IUD?  I'm having a hard enough time getting a doctor to give me one and I'm 26.  And they don't work for everyone either.  Perhaps she's exhausted her options.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>She's never been on birth control before - she's only ever used condoms. From what she's told me in her texts, she is sick of using condoms so wants to get her tubes tied instead. </div>

J&K10910

You can think whatever you want, Poke, but as someone who doesn't want kids, I will tell you the whole "Don't you think you might change your mind?" line/attitude that we get is one of the most fuuuucking annoying things ever in the world.  I've known since I was old enough to understand what having kids meant (so around 10 or so?) that I don't want kids.  When people tell me I'll change my mind (I know you didn't tell her that, and your statement was "might" not "will" but bear with me while I go off on my tangent) I want to beat them with my shoe.  Especially when it's accompanied by a knowing smile and nod and tone of condescension.  Fuuuucking screw you, asshole (the person saying that to me, not you).

mica178

Aw, Box Kitty.  It's always cuter when someone else's pet does stuff like this.

rsanna

Eh, I will probably get flamed for this but I don't care.  I agree with J, and I am about your friend's age, poke.  FI hates condoms and they stress him about because of the possibility of screw up, which then stresses me out. I'm currently on birth control, but I don't like the side effects and I don't like the hormone aspect of it.  So that basically rules about everything.  So FI and I have been talking seriously about getting my tubes tied or him having a vasectomy, because neither of us wants kids, and if we do want kids we both want to adopt.  Obviously this is a still in discussion mode, but your reaction is the exact reason FI is leery about it. His exact words being: "If I get a vasectomy, my family will literally come and attack me."  An exaggeration, but still.

ETA: Also, exactly what J said.

J&K10910

Poke, I'll also say there's a huge difference between saying "I want to get my tubes tied" and actually seeking out a doctor and getting it done.

I say I want to get my tubes tied on a monthly basis.  I've never actually considered doing it right now.  In the future, yes.  RIght now, no?  But I still say it all the damn time.


Box Kitty is damn lucky she's so cute.  That's what she is.

specialk84

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J&K10910

Poke, I don't mean to attack you on this, either.  Really.  It's just a huge, huge pet peeve for many people who don't want kids, and a lot of people who do want or have kids have no idea.  So...I'm helpful?  Ha.

J&K10910

She's still in the cabinet, sleeping away happily.  Meanwhile, my ass scrubbed the damn carpet and threw away almost $10 worth of cat food. 

specialk84

The only reason mine aren't tied yet is I just got a new IUD. I already paid for that motherfuckerr, and it's doing a good job.

MyUserName1

awww, asshole cat.. but she's pretty.

I'm straight drunk, y'all. I just went and had three beers on an empty stomach and one of them was 11%.  whee. I got a card in the mail from the Make A Wish volunteer thanking me for being Ariel for a sick little girl's party recently and got all teary and schitt.

Girlie1030

BTW, you can find doctor to do just about any procedure.  My sister found one that gave her a full hysterectomy at 23 years old. 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]BTW, you can find doctor to do just about any procedure.  My sister found one that gave her a full hysterectomy at 23 years old. 
Posted by Girlie1030[/QUOTE]

yeah.  That doesn't mean they're reputable.

ErinG93

I really don't give a flying fuuuck about any of my friend's lady bits.

Guys. I have another hour and half at work before I can get my Friday on!

J&K10910

I just realized I have my volunteer job tomorrow morning.  Fuuuuck.  That's a good way to ruin my Saturday sleeping in.

pokepoke27

She has also said she never wants to get married, and is now complaining that her BF won't propose to her. As far as I know she hasn't looked into any alternatives to just using condoms. You ladies were probably way more mature at 21 than she is. 

I know it's probably more of a "I'm gonna do it, but not REALLY do it" kind of like what J said. I guess I just don't get where the rush is in her specific case. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]awww, asshole cat.. but she's pretty. I'm straight drunk, y'all. I just went and had three beers on an empty stomach and one of them was 11%.  whee. I got a card in the mail from the Make A Wish volunteer thanking me for being Ariel for a sick little girl's party recently and got all teary and schitt.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>Aw, that's so sweet. </div><div>
</div><div>And I tried a beer that I really liked the other day. I can't remember the brand but it was a Blackberry Lager. </div>

rsanna

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[QUOTE]She has also said <strong>she never wants to get married, and is now complaining that her BF won't propose to her</strong>. As far as I know she hasn't looked into any alternatives to just using condoms. You ladies were probably way more mature at 21 than she is.  I know it's probably more of a "I'm gonna do it, but not REALLY do it" kind of like what J said. I guess I just don't get where the rush is in her specific case. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Is that a typo, or is that really how she thinks?  Because I don't understand.  But considering the situation, I can understand why you can think she is rushing and stuff.

Girlie1030

Didn't say they were J.  In fact, I'd assume they aren't. 

J&K10910

But...there could be reasons she's never tried hormonal BC.  A lot of people can't take it because of medical issues/family history/personal habits, etc.  You just don't know for sure. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Is that a typo, or is that really how she thinks?  Because I don't understand.  But considering the situation, I can understand why you can think she is rushing and stuff.
Posted by rsanna[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No, not a typo. She and her BF have been together for about a year and a half. Two years ago she said to me that she never wants to get married because she "doesn't see the point". 

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