Garter: What Happens?

BangBangs39

Liatris2010 said:

Because when you were given honest opinions you took it so well.

Honest opinions by strangers who don't actually know the people involved isn't really as effective as the people who know you and your group.  Also - bitchy comments are not the same as honest opinions.  If you say "Hey you know I don't think you should do this because some people may feel awkward or uncomfortable" that's one thing, totally different to say something snarky like "Your wedding will be classless, like a frat party, only strippers will enjoy that etc" and essentially insult every member of my family, FI's family, and our friends.  BIG DIFFERENCE

BangBangs39

zobird said:

Okay, if you're so hell-bent on having a garter reappropriation ceremony, do us a favor and take a video so we can help you analyze the poor souls' body language and we can figure out together how much they actually enjoyed it. And we can empathize with them and help you draft some apology notes.

We aren't paying for a videographer - but if someone happens to video tape it and all those who are visual in it sign a release to be shown online, then I will.

southernbelle0915

I could use a NATTY LIGHT from that cash bar... Honestly, I think MeganBangBang is more worried about standing up for herself and justifying how awesome performing soft core porn in front of her family will be. And further, how excited her guests will be (SHE doesn't consider them in a relationship, so who cares!!) to perform the same. 

Honestly, tacky will be tacky. I have some ideas that are on par with your plan MeganBangBang.... When in Rome!!!

$2/min - you and the WP.. free!!:

cake ideas:

bridesmaid's outfits:

BangBangs39

Peledreamsofrain said:

Eh, it was mildly entertaining for a while, but you lack creativity. Boring troll grows tiresome.

So because I had a point to go back towards every point you made, none of which were invalid (meaning my points) I'm a troll... Oooh I see, more 5th grade.

PrettyGirlLost

BangBangs39 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Are you have an open bar or cash bar, because I need a drink. . .

Sorry - cash for strangers.

At least you are inviting strangers to your wedding.  So many brides fight the advice here of inviting everyone's SO with the cries of "But I don't want strangers at MYYYYYYY wedding!"

I always come prepared though.  I'm always packing a flask for cash bar/dry receptions.  If anyone goes reaching or looking up my dress, that's what they'll find.

AllieBear725

southernbelle0915 said:

I could use a NATTY LIGHT from that cash bar... Honestly, I think MeganBangBang is more worried about standing up for herself and justifying how awesome performing soft core porn in front of her family will be. And further, how excited her guests will be (SHE doesn't consider them in a relationship, so who cares!!) to perform the same. 

Honestly, tacky will be tacky. I have some ideas that are on par with your plan MeganBangBang.... When in Rome!!!

$2/min - you and the WP.. free!!:

cake ideas:

bridesmaid's outfits:

Oh my gawwwwwwwwwwwwwd!! 

Peledreamsofrain

Post removed due to GBCK

BangBangs39

southernbelle0915 said:

I could use a NATTY LIGHT from that cash bar... Honestly, I think MeganBangBang is more worried about standing up for herself and justifying how awesome performing soft core porn in front of her family will be. And further, how excited her guests will be (SHE doesn't consider them in a relationship, so who cares!!) to perform the same. 

 

Honestly, tacky will be tacky. I have some ideas that are on par with your plan MeganBangBang.... When in Rome!!!

You obviously don't actually know what soft core porn is/haven't actually read all the posts.  I don't recall saying people would be dry humping each other while moaning. Furthermore, I merely reply to comments made.  You make a comment, I reply.  I don't need to "defend anything... my family is not worried about it... they think its hilarious which is exactly how its supposed to be taken.  Think of my comments as more of an explanation/response. 

Read back - I said I don't consider someone in a committed relationship to be SINGLE... please read before attempting to insult.

I'd rather be tacky than have a telephone pole jammed where the sun don't shine

Lastly for the pictures, Do you have any idea how hard it is to do a keg stand in regular clothes?  Especially if you've already been drinking? Very, attempting in a wedding dress is a definite no-go.  I like the cake I think its funny. Lastly, neither I or anyone close to me has ever been to/worked at hooters so that really wouldn't make sense... A for effort though. 

I believe I've asked it before and may or may not have gotten a response - why because YOU don't like something can't I?  Why because something makes YOU uncomfortable should it make ME?  Why do you feel the need where if someone disagrees with you and provides reasonable back up - do YOU feel its ok to attempt to insult that person?  Are you that needy for attention and to be right that you can't accept that most things in life are not one size fits all?

PrettyGirlLost

Liatris2010 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

BangBangs39 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Are you have an open bar or cash bar, because I need a drink. . .

Sorry - cash for strangers.

At least you are inviting strangers to your wedding.  So many brides fight the advice here of inviting everyone's SO with the cries of "But I don't want strangers at MYYYYYYY wedding!"

I always come prepared though.  I'm always packing a flask for cash bar/dry receptions.  If anyone goes reaching or looking up my dress, that's what they'll find.

Do you mind if I stick my head up your dress?

Liatris2010 - Honey, do you enjoy good Scotch?

MuppetFan

BangBangs39 said:

Liatris2010 said:

You know those aren't the only two possibilities right? I take issue with certain things, but that doesn't mean I blab about it to other people. I can find something tasteless without telling the offending party OR any of our mutual acquaintances my feelings.

If you take issue with something and don't say anything about it - its your own fault for not having the balls to speak up.

MuppetFan said:

Rule of thumb, if you have to ask people whether they think something is tacky or not, it probably is. People often do not tell the truth when faced with awkward questions. Positive responses could mean they are dying to see this display you've planned.....-or- it could mean that your guests are more polite than you are.

I did not ask if it was tacky, I asked what they thought of the idea.  Also - lying to someone's face about how you feel about something doesn't make you polite.  You along with others have expressed opposition to an online stranger - if a friend/family member asked you about it, you'd lie and tell them you were OK with it?  And that makes you a more polite person?

In some cases....yes.  It's not like you're asking them if they are okay with Burger King as a stop on a road trip when you sound excited about eating a Big Mac. I fucking hate BK but I'd just be like "that's fine" and hope McDonald's comes up first. It's a small concession to be nice

When I'm at a table and someone asks me what I think of Dollar Dances and Garter Tosses. I tell them. If someone says, "Well we love it and we're doing it for our wedding!!!!" I just nod and think "How tactacular for you!!!"...and side eye the hell of it when it happens. No concession on my part...it's not my train wreck.

I have to bring food to a pot luck wedding in a few weeks. My fiance is the best man. The groom is our best man. Politically, I have little choice but to smile and tell them what I will bring. If I declined and told them how rude and tacky they were being, my fiance would lose his best friend. I make the concession, deal with it...and just wait for the wedding to be over.

When the same couple asks for us to host a Jack and Jill fundraiser and/or party where guests can choose a present printed on an index card off a tree to buy the bride and groom... I say, "You mean like for poor people at Christmas? And decline to host said event." I don't tell them how rude they are being. I just choose to have no part in it.

When same couple retracts their invite to us for the RD party, we say "Ok that's fine, no problem".  Really, we all just realized that we were wrong when we thought they couldn't get any cheaper and couldn't care about us any less.

With the exception of the first example (where I'm just being nice and too bad for me for not speaking up), all of these are a poor reflection on the bride and groom's part, NOT MINE. Through this wedding and all the stuff they are doing, they are losing friendships and relationships with family members. It's a consequence of their actions.

edited for clarity

AllieBear725

Your lack of punctuation just confused the shit out of me.

manateehugger

Liatris2010 said:

Wait for it Pele, she hasn't called us boring or told us she feels sorry for our husbands yet!

Well we aren't rowdy enough to keep up with her super awesome sexual Inneuendo friends though...

BangBangs39

Peledreamsofrain said:

Golly bajabbers woman, step up the energy here. Chop chop, I'm so uninspired I'm practically asleep! Go on, try harder to be offensive. May I recommend a slur, maybe an aspersion upon my ancestry? I need quality trolling here, not this repetitive drek. You're not literally stirring a pot ypu know.

How the hell would I know what your ancestry is - and why would I insult it?  Are you OK upstairs?

Liatris2010 said:

Wait for it Pele, she hasn't called us boring or told us she feels sorry for our husbands yet!

Again, why on earth would I do that?  Are you all really that childish that you go around throwing out 10 year old insults/comebacks?  You can't accept being told the truth so you resort to childish behavior?  I'm honestly almost at a loss for words at the insanity shown because of a difference in opinions.

ETA: Point & Case: the previous 4-5 posts while I was typing this one

PrettyGirlLost

Liatris2010 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Liatris2010 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

BangBangs39 said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Are you have an open bar or cash bar, because I need a drink. . .

Sorry - cash for strangers.

At least you are inviting strangers to your wedding.  So many brides fight the advice here of inviting everyone's SO with the cries of "But I don't want strangers at MYYYYYYY wedding!"

I always come prepared though.  I'm always packing a flask for cash bar/dry receptions.  If anyone goes reaching or looking up my dress, that's what they'll find.

Do you mind if I stick my head up your dress?

Honey, do you enjoy good Scotch?

I'm willing to develop a taste!

Good on ya!

PrettyGirlLost

BangBangs39 said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

Golly bajabbers woman, step up the energy here. Chop chop, I'm so uninspired I'm practically asleep! Go on, try harder to be offensive. May I recommend a slur, maybe an aspersion upon my ancestry? I need quality trolling here, not this repetitive drek. You're not literally stirring a pot ypu know.

How the hell would I know what your ancestry is - and why would I insult it?  Are you OK upstairs?

Liatris2010 said:

Wait for it Pele, she hasn't called us boring or told us she feels sorry for our husbands yet!

Again, why on earth would I do that?  Are you all really that childish that you go around throwing out 10 year old insults/comebacks?  You can't accept being told the truth so you resort to childish behavior?  I'm honestly almost at a loss for words at the insanity shown because of a difference in opinions.

Are 10 year olds in 5th grade?

manateehugger

BangBangs39 said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

Golly bajabbers woman, step up the energy here. Chop chop, I'm so uninspired I'm practically asleep! Go on, try harder to be offensive.

May I recommend a slur, maybe an aspersion upon my ancestry? I need quality trolling here, not this repetitive drek. You're not literally stirring a pot ypu know.

How the hell would I know what your ancestry is - and why would I insult it?  Are you OK upstairs?

Liatris2010 said:

Wait for it Pele, she hasn't called us boring or told us she feels sorry for our husbands yet!

Again, why on earth would I do that?  Are you all really that childish that you go around throwing out 10 year old insults/comebacks?  You can't accept being told the truth so you resort to childish behavior?  I'm honestly almost at a loss for words at the insanity shown because of a difference in opinions.



What "truths" have you told? Do tell us, oh wise one.

AllieBear725

My fucking post editor is fucked up again, so I can't post a "why so serious" gif. FML

manateehugger

BangBangs39 said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

Golly bajabbers woman, step up the energy here. Chop chop, I'm so uninspired I'm practically asleep! Go on, try harder to be offensive.

May I recommend a slur, maybe an aspersion upon my ancestry? I need quality trolling here, not this repetitive drek. You're not literally stirring a pot ypu know.

How the hell would I know what your ancestry is - and why would I insult it?  Are you OK upstairs?

Liatris2010 said:

Wait for it Pele, she hasn't called us boring or told us she feels sorry for our husbands yet!

Again, why on earth would I do that?  Are you all really that childish that you go around throwing out 10 year old insults/comebacks?  You can't accept being told the truth so you resort to childish behavior?  I'm honestly almost at a loss for words at the insanity shown because of a difference in opinions.

ETA: Point & Case: the previous 4-5 posts while I was typing this one

Point & case - tee hee!

AddieCake

AllieBear725

I can't stop laughing at that.

PrettyGirlLost

AllieBear725 said:

My fucking post editor is fucked up again, so I can't post a "why so serious" gif. FML

I got you.

harper0813

DJ: "Aaaall right, lets get all the single women on the dance floor! [Beyonce: all the single ladies, all the single ladies, all the single ladies...] The bride is about to toss the bouquet! Single women, out to the dance floor! Now, let's have a show of hands: how many of you are in committed relationships? One, two, three... Okay, the four of you, SIT DOWN. That's right. Get off the dance floor. You're as good as married. The bride doesn't want you here. If you want to participate, you better go break up with your boyfriend."

TKzilla

Repeatedly referring to other posters as immature and/or insane is insulting and ableist.

PrettyGirlLost

@zobird I'd actually prefer that to having the Bride and/or the WP members trying to pull me onto the dance floor, in front of my FI, because I was "single."  True story.  Happened so often, by my friends and his friends, that we both started going to the bar/bathroom during this time.

BangBangs, I'm glad you consider ppl with BFs not single!

PrettyGirlLost

CourtaniaLynn said:

Repeatedly referring to other posters as immature and/or insane is insulting and ableist.

Ok you got me there. . . I need a dictionary, huh?

Peledreamsofrain

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MuppetFan

Hmm. I thought my examples were helpful. Oh well.

manateehugger

Peledreamsofrain said:

The TRUTH!!! Shhhh everyone! Gather round and the wise ancient one, possesor of the only correct mind in the universe, shall enlighten us aaaaaall!

Wise one, please tell us, what be the answer to poverty? Disease? Be it inquiring with one's wedding guests?

Ive been asking!!! She won't tell us!!! Apparently her secrets to making her guests uncomfortable must remain hers alone.

PrettyGirlLost

I know what's going on here, Ladies. . . we all have PMS.

BangBangs39

@PDKH - Truth#1 - that I've discussed with my family & friends

Truth#2 - I don't find the version of garter to be awkward/tacky/classless

Truth#3 - That its meant to be funny

Truth#4 - My friends/family are "impolite" enough to tell me what they really think

@Liatris2010 - I wasn't referencing your comments.