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Re: What's the rudest thing you've seen

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    arae81 said:

    Rudest thing at a wedding thus far? Returning the RSVP, taking time off from work, booking a hotel room, renting a car and driving six hours one way... Just to arrive and have no where to sit at the reception, standing room only. People who hadn't RSVP'd were sitting down to an elegant meal, and we couldn't even get a cup of punch because they were out. Needless to say, I wasn't very happy with the way we were treated.

    We attended a different wedding, a twelve-hour drive away, that involved a constantly crying toddler. We couldn't hear a single word of the vows, and the parent had not the respect to remove the child from the room. Upon arrival back at our hotel room, completely exhausted, what do we hear? The same child, screaming and crying again... They were staying there too, and on the same floor!

    We've also been ignored when it came to Thank You's for the gifts we gave. My rule of thumb for my own wedding was to send out Thank You's to those who either sent gifts OR attended. After all of the rudeness, I've decided to no longer attend weddings unless they're local. Having been a bride myself now, with a DIY wedding and many obstacles to overcome, I have to say... There is NO excuse for rudeness, for being inconsiderate of your guests. If it stresses you out that much, then perhaps a smaller affair - or even eloping - would be better suited to you.

    Seriously? That's awful! Just out of curiosity, was there any explanation for that?
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    arae81arae81 member
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    Nope, none... No Thank You card for the gift or traveling, nothing. For both weddings mentioned, we invited both couples to our own event. One declined and didn't send a thing. The other - twelve hours away - sent a gift AND showed up!

    As I recently told someone: If you want to know who truly respects you, send them an invite to your wedding. Their response speaks loudly.

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    The rudest thing I've seen, I was involved in at my brother's wedding at the end of May. Brief Background: I have two older half sibs from my Dad's first marriage. There's a big age gap (approx 15-18 years) but the three of us kids tend to get along pretty well. Bro and I are as close as we can get all things considered. But when Dad and their mom split, it was pretty nasty. I guess Bro had told some friends about it in HS, and/or they observed some of Dad getting super pissed at ex wife and bro when bro got into major trouble in college (ie, drugs). One of these guys came up to me and started agressively asking if I found it crazy/weird/strange that my parents had been together longer than bro and sis's parents. He also implied there was something mentally wrong with my mom for being with my dad so long (and I admit, Dad can be an extreme, obnoxious, PITA a-hole at times, but he's still my Dad!) or something similar.

    I was good. It was my brother's wedding. I'm the sister of the groom, and this guy was a drunken jerk. I nearly gave him a new nose job with my fist, but held it in and smiled saying "sometimes it works for some people, other times, it doesn't." Before turning back to bro's best friend (who was looking at this guy in shock) and complimenting him on the speech he made.

    I later told Bro what had happened- he was pissed, he and my mom have a really good relationship, but the fact that I handled it (and the fact that they have a photo of the jerk's wife passed out completely drunk and face down on a couch) made him calm down. If FI had been right there, he probably would have escorted drunk jerk out and proceeded to beat the tar out of him. Here's hoping no one acts like such a jerk at my wedding!

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    arae81 said:

    Nope, none... No Thank You card for the gift or traveling, nothing. For both weddings mentioned, we invited both couples to our own event. One declined and didn't send a thing. The other - twelve hours away - sent a gift AND showed up!

    As I recently told someone: If you want to know who truly respects you, send them an invite to your wedding. Their response speaks loudly.

    Totally.
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    arae81arae81 member
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    Congrats on your recent "Meddie"! Beautiful pic :D
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    Muchas gracias!  It was a great day!  There are pics on a post in NEY if you want to see them.  :)
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    Radley, what a beautiful dress! I haven't shopped yet so sorry if this is a stupid question, but do you mind me asking if your dress came with the lace sleeves or if it was something you had added? It seems so hard to find one with sleeves. Congrats! 

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    radleybooradleyboo member
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    edited July 2013
    @boston2823-you have PM.  :)
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    Sooooo someone went back and flagged me for a post from several weeks ago which in no way violated TOS. How much longer before the flagging system is fixed?
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    You now have as many flags as I do, thug. 


    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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